stress over pregnancy
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my life is such a shit, sometimes i wish i will jz end my life to solve everything. i am pregnant of 1-2 mths and worry of my mom finding out and disown me. the baby is belong to my ex who i dump cz he is unfaithful and we hv very complicated rs. he cheat on me with my bro's gf who is a big slut, of cz he don know it before but later found out. my parents are divorce and he is son of my father and remarried wife. the girl hv sex with my ex and my bro and i hear from him she is also pregnant and maybe hv some disease. will i or my bro get the disease if she hv it? i also worry to tell my mom cz my ex is not a same race as me as he is indian and my child will not look like me. the girl always take a lot of money from my ex and stay at his hse now ever since i dump him. i hv nobody to turn to and my mom will kill me if she know this. if i gone for abortions, do she need to sign?
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有一点乱.................
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Originally posted by FireIce:
有一点乱.................
refer to her case file last time at end of last year @
http://sgforums.com/forums/12/topics/416742
the story is like this...
last year when her mother said she don't approved of her bf, TS don't want to listen, don't care her own mother's views, die die follow that bf for "you jump, i jump" mentality.
so fast forward today, now she see lah..
in the end, she herself suffering for not listening to her mother in the 1st place...
so the morale of the story is, "oh my god! for god's sake, please listen hard to your parents for your own sake!" -
i know i am foolish to trust him but i am not ready to bring up a child by my own. my jobs do not give me much money at all. my mom only earn enoufh for feeding us and pay for our hse. i feel so trouble each day even as working at office and at night can't sleep. i cry to myself silently only.
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1. http://www.aware.org.sg/resources/information/abortion/2. http://sg.theasianparent.com/articles/abortion_in_singapore/
3. http://singapore.angloinfo.com.sg/countries/singapore/abortion.asp
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don;t better don;t
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Your ex is actually your half brother. That's incest. Inbreeding leads to a higher probability of congenital birth defects.
You may be infected with disease. Please go for blood test.
If you are indeed infected, your baby will be at risk too.
Transmission of HIV infection to your infant is almost completely preventable with medication. But, when the disease is passed on, the results are catastrophic -- the baby may develop HIV infection.
For your case.. a simple abortion is insufficient. You have a lot to deal with.
Please call the helplines for professional help.
Please talk to your mother, seek her forgiveness so that you may have inner peace.
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i am jz so scared of abortions. i feel guilty for the baby cz i can't bring him or her to live. my ex is not my bro at all, they are 2 diff person. my ex cheat on me with a girl. this girl was my bro's ex last time, i so hate her! really big slut. if i find out have a disease, what to do
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Originally posted by rykiel.annabel:
i am jz so scared of abortions. i feel guilty for the baby cz i can’t bring him or her to live. my ex is not my bro at all, they are 2 diff person. my ex cheat on me with a girl. this girl was my bro’s ex last time, i so hate her! really big slut. if i find out have a disease, what to do
Does not matter who this girl is. The fact is your bf cheated on you.
If you have a disease.. then please treat it as soon as possible.
Please refrain from promiscuous ways.
Your body is your own responsibility. NO guy out there will take care of it for you.
It is up to YOU to say NO to unprotected sex.
Please do not delay any longer.. go and see a doctor now.
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still got time to hate this and that. you have a very big problem cummin your way and you cum here post forum whine and grumble instead of seeking professional help family support. i will tell my sons and dotters not to even make acquitance with people like you, bad influence
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
still got time to hate this and that. you have a very big problem cummin your way and you cum here post forum whine and grumble instead of seeking professional help family support. i will tell my sons and dotters not to even make acquitance with people like you, bad influence
heyI know u!!u the guy who commented on japanese statues in japan! -
You need to go for abortion and a health checkup. Certain diesease can be cured if detected early, once pass a certain date, the disease will stay with you permanently, so it's advisable to go checkup for any sexual diesease asap. As for abortion, it's not painful. You will be sedated and put to sleep and the more painful portion is emotional/guilt etc... But for the sake of decision making, I think it's wise to abort so as not to complicate your life, your family life, the child's life. (For you, it will be hard for you to find a boyfriend next time with a child, most guys don't want such free gifts. For your family, it will be complicated how they think of you and that will make you feel bad every year whenever there is a gathering. For your child, when he grow up, he will ask how come he's different and where's his dad etc) So the wise decision is to go for abortion. And for your own sake, go get health checkup like I say, some diesease can be cured if detected early. Same like cancer, as long as it's contained in a part or haven't spread, it can still be cured. But once it spreads, it's too late. No point feeling depressed now, what's done cannot be undone. Look forward, you're at the lowest point of your life and no matter how dark it look, the days ahead will get brighter if you start making smarter decisions about your life.
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Originally posted by FireIce:
有一点乱.................
Yes a bit complicated.
But what to do.
You tell a person, don't go there, landmine, its dangerous, he goes there, gets the leg blown off. What do you do? You treat the person.
TS, That ex is no good, so don't marry him for the child's sake. He chase you for sex, and he got it, he's done with you. Thats not something new to you. Your mother told you so, and you know that from your surroundings.
Tell your mother, she won't kill you. Only her face would look like she want to kill you. She will help you. You are her daughter. That's the best way out. There is no easier or magical way out. You need her help and support. Otherwise you are on your own.
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Tell that ex to pay for the abortion. Destruction is the beginning of creation. Good that you are aware of current situation, now what's lacking is decision. You have less than one month.... to decide.
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want to have fun, dunno how to prevent pregnancy. hope you learn from this and avoid 2nd pregnancy like this. some people just dun learn their lesson and keep on getting pregnant.
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This forum is to when u need help, hope ppl can give advise, not some jackass who likes to said: why u like tat? U moron! Bla bla bla, ppl like rednano, if u have gd advise to give,pls give,if nt juz read and stfu, and stop acting a tough person behind of yr farking pc or laptop.
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Originally posted by Gu7777g:
This forum is to when u need help, hope ppl can give advise, not some jackass who likes to said: why u like tat? U moron! Bla bla bla, ppl like rednano, if u have gd advise to give,pls give,if nt juz read and stfu, and stop acting a tough person behind of yr farking pc or laptop.
i already offer her some help by providing the telephone hotlines and websites as mentioned above to give her very professional advices in this situation, if only should TS takes her own initiative to personally call the telephone hotlines herself when only she can help herself if she wants to.
huh, what talking you?
all the people here can see that you don't even offer any help, you just diam diam bochup read this forum thread without even bothering to provide some answer to TS at all... so aren't you a cockster? -
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Originally posted by mardiana90: As a girl, i do feel sorry for you but your situation is way too complicated. I hope youre not making this up... If what you said its true, consider the following
- Are you brave enough to have an abortion?
- Will the abortion solve all the issues youre facing now?
With that said, i dont think abortion is the only way out. In fact, if i were you, i would give birth the child and pull that d*ckhead into the court. Now theres DNA testing methods and the dad of the child can be found out easily. Once convicted, he will face multiple charge. As for your mother, i cant blame her. She will be angry and disappointed with you but thats how it is. You cant change that. If you insist in abortion pls do it soon since the fetus is 1-2 months old. How old are you? I dont think the hosp here allow girls to do abortion anyhow...
Abortion Information
1. http://www.aware.org.sg/resources/information/abortion/
2. http://sg.theasianparent.com/articles/abortion_in_singapore/
3. http://singapore.angloinfo.com.sg/countries/singapore/abortion.asp
If you have any questions about contraception, sexually transmitted infections, STI testing, pregnancy or abortion, the best thing you can do is speak with a doctor. If you don’t have a doctor then talk to the DSC Clinic or visit a local clinic.
Who can have an abortion?According to the Singapore Abortion Act law:
- there is no defined age limit for the abortion procedure
- there is no legal requirement for parental consent for minors
- abortion is prohibited after 24 weeks (6 months) of pregnancy unless the mother’s life is in danger
What is the process?
- Abortion patients must undergo compulsory counselling before the procedure. Girls below 16 years of age need to be counseled at the Health Promotion Board Counselling Centre (except for rape victims).
- This is followed by a mandatory waiting period of 48 hours before the procedure can be done.
- If you want an abortion and your doctor refuses on personal grounds, you have the right to seek a second opinion. See here for other providers.
- Patients will normally undergo post abortion counseling after the procedure and may be required to return a week later to check for any complications.
- Because of the risk of infection, some doctors may advise that you should not have sex for up to two weeks after your procedure.
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Originally posted by rykiel.annabel:
i know i am foolish to trust him but i am not ready to bring up a child by my own. my jobs do not give me much money at all. my mom only earn enoufh for feeding us and pay for our hse. i feel so trouble each day even as working at office and at night can’t sleep. i cry to myself silently only.
Yes you are a big foolish lady I ever read.Love your bf means must give sex to him?
That is what many girls out there do. Give sex to the guy if you truly loves him.
In the end? You pregnant how? The guys can say goodbye as he got nothing to loose. But you? How? Pregnant right? Go for abortion?
That is why many stupid ladies never take care of their body and vir.gin.
I tell you something for you and all the ladies now. We guys can have many se.x with ladies, but ladies once pregnant, we guys say good bye to you.
I hope you learnt your lesson very very well.
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U think, I thought, who confirm? most teenagers think they know it all anyway, but in truth, do they? Always remember protection, if the guy love you, he will agree unless he just want se.x
Enuff of the throwing rocks down well portion... rednano korkor got provide good links for TS to go read and find out more...
Though I suggest TS to let her mother know... It's her responsibility... TS made a mistake and now must learn to face it, not try to avoid letting TS mother know... Beside, TS mother will handle this matter better...
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abortion is a very painful process and what done has been done. Set urself a time for u to decide to keep or not to keep the baby. On the other hand its a must to have a clean bill of health and therefore u should do a proper checkup. All the best
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Three simple starightforward task to need to settle on.
1) Tell your ex. Ask if he's willing to take responsibility
2) If he says no, go for abortion ASAP. The longer you wait, the more developed the foetus it, and the more guilty you will feel.
3) Get yourself examined for STD.
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Originally posted by rykiel.annabel:
i know i am foolish to trust him but i am not ready to bring up a child by my own. my jobs do not give me much money at all. my mom only earn enoufh for feeding us and pay for our hse. i feel so trouble each day even as working at office and at night can’t sleep. i cry to myself silently only.
There are many STDs which have a high risk of transmission to the baby, leading to deformities or handicaps.
Rednano is right, the best place to go is the DSC clinic for STD screening. It is govt-linked and very affordable. Also the test results are anonymous. Block 31, Kelantan Lane
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aiyo, you go there test before, know the place so well, but then, hello, it had changed to block 30, not 31 ok, 31 under renovation. Dun ask her end up going with the construction ah neh again