as humans beings we need to be happy! so its ok to have those thoughts...just not too much. If u want to overcome it....then just think of something embarassing
Being total in everything that u do - that includes what u mentioned. It is the lack of totality - the lack of presence, the lack of being present to what is - a hang-up!.
If not, one would merely look for substitutes and what is within one sex, anger and when it is not 'blessed' within it can never transform one. It is at most superficial and an exercise in futility. Change is cosmetic transformation is holistic.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:Being total in everything that u do - that includes what u mentioned. It is the lack of totality - the lack of presence, the lack of being present to what is - a hang-up!.
If not, one would merely look for substitutes and what is within one sex, anger and when it is not 'blessed' within it can never transform one. It is at most superficial and an exercise in futility. Change is cosmetic transformation is holistic.
Living life in totality, life to the fullest, is that what you mean?
Would you be kind enough to share with us by expanding on your outlook or application?
Or maybe put in context of holistic?
One simply is present to what is - that presupposes what is one being when one is with another or eg chatting, ..... most of us tend to be physically present only, cos the sense of 'I" / 'self' precludes totality. Being ABSENT to the 'I' or the 'self' - one is present to another or even present to what one does cos one is being present to one's "UN self" or 'no-self" . In other words what one is not is what one is. Thinking that i m clever does not make me clever. However if i m being clever now - that is what i am.
By 'I' n 'self' - is implied identifications with values, belifes, rituals, family, traditions, definitions of eg love, happiness n ....
Hence, the 'self' is no longer the 'self' but all these identifications (attachments to ..) that creates one's centre which is a weak foundation and one mistakenly assumes it to be one's self.
Remove all these - one collapses cos one's identity is lost. One's centre is gone. It was never real - it was an illusion. So many try to preserve this image(s) of what they think or what they were - however, it suffocates, it imprisons and later one tries to escape.
Pix this - if one is total in being ... or in doing something and after that one is not attached or identified with ... one is free. Inwardly one can be detached from anything. What happens to one is always external - work, family, friends and so on so forth. The reality though is that it is the inner process that makes for one's being joyful, sad, angry. How does one know - simply see whether if one is responding to what is at hand or one is reacting. Reacting is always from the past. Response is a here-now existential thing.
Also, many try to do first and then be ... eg happy, be joyful or .... hence the constant anxiety , the constant struggle. Being is primary, always. Doing is secondary.
Being - by that I mean what is one being now - eg being kind, being angry ..... it is an existential experience. there is no past/future in being.
Eg As i m writing to u now - m i being nasty, sarcastic .... or m i being . that is the essence of totality.
Living life to the fullest entails choices and choices divide. The only sin is that of or the lack of understanding n acceptance to what is within one. The only virtue there is that of understanding, accepting and within one be ... and do whatsoever comes or needs to be done is totality.
There are two banks to a river - one is the past(memories) and the other is the future( dreams/expectations). Many straddle or psychologically are mired in either one of the banks. They watch life and confuse and mistake or even assume that to be living or as presence/totality. If, on the other hand, one flows with the river and allow - one lives and is living. When one flows, one is being present (presupposing one is absent to the I/self) to the presence of ... and one is being total.
Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Drugs cannot affect such persons because what the person experience is an insight is the empty and self-liberating nature of all phenomena. There is absolutely no more clinging as a result
I also posted before (sidenote: interestingly at that time which is Nov 06 I did not have much powerful glimpses of nondual yet, so my knowledge was pretty intellectual, but even right now I merely have occasional glimpses so cannot speak about this topic of overcoming pain authoratatively):
Pain is different from suffering... but when the mind grasps on it... suffering comes. Pain can only be get rid off by physical means - healing, medicine, or anaesthetic, etc. Suffering due to pain should be liberated through dharma practise.
Only a person with certain of cultivation can withstand very extreme physical pain I guess... only when one completely fuse into the pure sensation of the pain and no one 'feeling' the pain, just the pure sensation as it is.. it is impermanent, ever changing, it is not self, there is no self experiencing pain.. in short even this pain is empty in nature.. but the sensation of pain is present, just that no one is suffering the pain... the pain itself 'pains'. Of course I am far from such... so am only deducing from knowledge and might be wrong.
My taiwanese teacher went for operation last time... doctors gave him two dose of anaesthetic. Usually one dose is enough to make a person completely unconscious... first dose doesnt work, he is still completely awake. Second dose still the same... the nurse ask whether should give another dose, the doctor say... nope, like that will kill him. Then my teacher said... go ahead with the procedures, no amount of anaesthetic can numb my senses/make me unconscious.
He observed the entire medical procedure and operation, very lucidly, very clearly, without any sound much less screaming and shouting at all, just calming watching it... The doctors are completely shocked and couldn't believe he could withstand this.
Another person I know with rather similar experience.... is the 16th Karmapa.
Sure, just like the person without brains which you described before. Come on lah, then bother to call such people human?
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Originally posted by An Eternal Now:Drugs cannot affect such persons because what the person experience is an insight is the empty and self-liberating nature of all phenomena. There is absolutely no more clinging as a result
I also posted before (sidenote: interestingly at that time which is Nov 06 I did not have much powerful glimpses of nondual yet, so my knowledge was pretty intellectual, but even right now I merely have occasional glimpses so cannot speak about this topic of overcoming pain authoratatively):
Pain is different from suffering... but when the mind grasps on it... suffering comes. Pain can only be get rid off by physical means - healing, medicine, or anaesthetic, etc. Suffering due to pain should be liberated through dharma practise.
Only a person with certain of cultivation can withstand very extreme physical pain I guess... only when one completely fuse into the pure sensation of the pain and no one 'feeling' the pain, just the pure sensation as it is.. it is impermanent, ever changing, it is not self, there is no self experiencing pain.. in short even this pain is empty in nature.. but the sensation of pain is present, just that no one is suffering the pain... the pain itself 'pains'. Of course I am far from such... so am only deducing from knowledge and might be wrong.
My taiwanese teacher went for operation last time... doctors gave him two dose of anaesthetic. Usually one dose is enough to make a person completely unconscious... first dose doesnt work, he is still completely awake. Second dose still the same... the nurse ask whether should give another dose, the doctor say... nope, like that will kill him. Then my teacher said... go ahead with the procedures, no amount of anaesthetic can numb my senses/make me unconscious.
He observed the entire medical procedure and operation, very lucidly, very clearly, without any sound much less screaming and shouting at all, just calming watching it... The doctors are completely shocked and couldn't believe he could withstand this.
Another person I know with rather similar experience.... is the 16th Karmapa.
16th Karmapa was able to foretell the names of his next life's parents, the place he would be rebirth, the year he would be rebirth etc. He was indeed not a normal human, he was a living Buddha.
Originally posted by Dawnfirstlight:16th Karmapa was able to foretell the names of his next life's parents, the place he would be rebirth, the year he would be rebirth etc. He was indeed not a normal human, he was a living Buddha.
there can only be a Buddha ie Shakyamuni Buddha.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:One simply is present to what is - that presupposes what is one being when one is with another or eg chatting, ..... most of us tend to be physically present only, cos the sense of 'I" / 'self' precludes totality. Being ABSENT to the 'I' or the 'self' - one is present to another or even present to what one does cos one is being present to one's "UN self" or 'no-self" . In other words what one is not is what one is. Thinking that i m clever does not make me clever. However if i m being clever now - that is what i am.
By 'I' n 'self' - is implied identifications with values, belifes, rituals, family, traditions, definitions of eg love, happiness n ....
Hence, the 'self' is no longer the 'self' but all these identifications (attachments to ..) that creates one's centre which is a weak foundation and one mistakenly assumes it to be one's self.
Remove all these - one collapses cos one's identity is lost. One's centre is gone. It was never real - it was an illusion. So many try to preserve this image(s) of what they think or what they were - however, it suffocates, it imprisons and later one tries to escape.
Pix this - if one is total in being ... or in doing something and after that one is not attached or identified with ... one is free. Inwardly one can be detached from anything. What happens to one is always external - work, family, friends and so on so forth. The reality though is that it is the inner process that makes for one's being joyful, sad, angry. How does one know - simply see whether if one is responding to what is at hand or one is reacting. Reacting is always from the past. Response is a here-now existential thing.
Also, many try to do first and then be ... eg happy, be joyful or .... hence the constant anxiety , the constant struggle. Being is primary, always. Doing is secondary.
Being - by that I mean what is one being now - eg being kind, being angry ..... it is an existential experience. there is no past/future in being.
Eg As i m writing to u now - m i being nasty, sarcastic .... or m i being . that is the essence of totality.
Living life to the fullest entails choices and choices divide. The only sin is that of or the lack of understanding n acceptance to what is within one. The only virtue there is that of understanding, accepting and within one be ... and do whatsoever comes or needs to be done is totality.
There are two banks to a river - one is the past(memories) and the other is the future( dreams/expectations). Many straddle or psychologically are mired in either one of the banks. They watch life and confuse and mistake or even assume that to be living or as presence/totality. If, on the other hand, one flows with the river and allow - one lives and is living. When one flows, one is being present (presupposing one is absent to the I/self) to the presence of ... and one is being total.
The problem is from the moment we are born, we learn who" I" am in relation to , in reference to, later who or what is in relation or in reference to me or "I'.
The modern human has the longer growing up period as compared to animals, even if compared to primitive cultures. Takes a longer time of unlearning.
There are a few phases of a human, as a toddler, who relates with everything he sees or hear with his mouth. As a young kid, always asking a continuous why, testing the limits of authority by pushing it. The teenager, the transition of the kid to adult, awareness of one's own sexuality, looking at the opposite sex in different light, one's own impulses, awkwardness of fast growing body,social relationships and authority, finally as adult, with husband/wife, in laws, children.
Living in totality begins with awareness of, a shifting of perspective, so to speak. Until that happens, we will still go through motion of living.
Originally posted by Rooney9:there can only be a Buddha ie Shakyamuni Buddha.
In Tibetan Buddhism, if you see your teacher as a person, you will benefit from him as a person. If you see your Guru as a Bodhisattva, or Buddha, you will gain the benefits from a Bodhisattva or Buddha!
The term Living Buddha refers to reincarnated Tulkus, a honorific title given by chinese devotees in veneration.
Just like everybody(well almost!) calling a tibetan monk a Lama, which actually means teacher or guru!
When you put faith in your Lama, his is the embodiment of Buddha, Dharma and Sangha!