i have been dumped!! ARGggggg.......
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hey! you will!
like cereal says, be tough.. be strong...
i dunno.. for me, love ain't just about me, it's about her and us...
the moment she took the her away from the equation, the us disappeared... and therefore, can't force her to "love you"...
i hope you will be successful in your wooing of her.. but it may take time... it's your call... -
hope all the best in both of you all too...don ever ended like me.... now i know what are fren usually for....to hear me out. i may not know you both but in my heart you both are in my cat of fren. thanks once again... hope to hear from both of you around in sgforum.Originally posted by the Bear:hey! you will!
like cereal says, be tough.. be strong...
i dunno.. for me, love ain't just about me, it's about her and us...
the moment she took the her away from the equation, the us disappeared... and therefore, can't force her to "love you"...
i hope you will be successful in your wooing of her.. but it may take time... it's your call... -
it's a matter of philosophies and what a person is..
i believe that love is, and damn the consequences...
if i am to be the friend of the one i love, then so be it.. it will not stop me from loving her.. albeit it will be a lot of pain for me, it is what i am.. some will say it is self-destructive, but to deny it is to deny my own nature...
i will find my way, i hope you find yours tooOriginally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:hope all the best in both of you all too...don ever ended like me.... now i know what are fren usually for....to hear me out. i may not know you both but in my heart you both are in my cat of fren. thanks once again... hope to hear from both of you around in sgforum. -
i hope to hit my 100th post soon.. hee...
btw... im a dudette.. not a dude..
(in case honda haven't realise... )
i think in times of difficulties, it's always good to have someone around to hear me out. I must first be a listener with a heart.... then will i find someone who's a listener with a heart...
You will overcome this soon.. give yourself time.
Anytime for you and we're always around...
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[quote]Originally posted by ^cereal^:
[b]i hope to hit my 100th post soon.. hee...
btw... im a dudette.. not a dude.. (in case honda haven't realise... )
sori, abit.. dumb dumb that why been dump..hehehe.. thanks
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c'mon.. you're not dumb....
and i don't think people are dumped because they are slow.. just sometimes, the circumstances don't allow it.. like my own... no one dumped anyone, but we were a little bit dumb... and given another time and place, we would have a love and relationship which would have been looked upon as a beacon
you'll be fineOriginally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:sori, abit.. dumb dumb that why been dump..hehehe.. thanks -
11 lessons in life
1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, But what is more
painful is to love someone and never find the courage
to let that person know how you feel.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you,
only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a porch swing with,
never say a word, and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose it, but it's
also true that we don't know what we've been missing until it arrives
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
6. Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that
fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a
smile to make a dark day seem bright.
7. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you
want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the
things you want to do.
8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you,
it probably hurts the person too.
9. A careless word may kindle strife; a cruel word may wreck a life; a
timely word may level stress; a loving word may heal and bless.
10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything
they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you
were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
my fren knows that i am down they sented me this... i will share it with all! -
1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, But what is more
painful is to love someone and never find the courage
to let that person know how you feel.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you,
only to find out in the end that it was never meant to be and you just have to let go.
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
7. Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you
want to be, because you have only one life and one chance to do all the
things you want to do. try it! you will never know!beware
8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it hurts you,
it probably hurts the person too. For those who dump people
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with a tear. When you
were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die, you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying. this was true enough
these are meant for me.. i feel..hehehe -
I don't expect people to know my gender thru my nick.. besides i didn't make it known that I'm a gal...
sorry, no intention whatsoever to make you feel bad from what I said. I apologise...
as to your post on the 11 lessons in life... well, i will say, sometimes somehow or rather, we ourselves get entangled in the web of love and heartache unknowingly...
when the door of one closes, another opens to mark a new beginning....Originally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:
sori, abit.. dumb dumb that why been dump..hehehe.. thanks
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about this bit, ladies write a certain way
throughout my love/hate affair with the Internet for the past 10 years, sorta can "feel" it's a lady or a man writing... people pick it up tooOriginally posted by ^cereal^:I don't expect people to know my gender thru my nick.. besides i didn't make it known that I'm a gal... -
Cereal there is no need to apologise.i understand what you trying to say! btw,do you did that to any of yr ex before?Originally posted by ^cereal^:I don't expect people to know my gender thru my nick.. besides i didn't make it known that I'm a gal...
sorry, no intention whatsoever to make you feel bad from what I said. I apologise...
as to your post on the 11 lessons in life... well, i will say, sometimes somehow or rather, we ourselves get entangled in the web of love and heartache unknowingly...
when the door of one closes, another opens to mark a new beginning.... -
Originally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:Cereal there is no need to apologise.i understand what you trying to say! btw,do you did that to any of yr ex before?
do what? -
i mean dump them?
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Hard to believe but I got dumped... all the time...
But I strongly believe, what's yours is yours, what's not meant to be will never be...
if you truly love him/her, set him/her free... if he/she returns, he/she is yours to keep.
You don't have to possess him/her to show your love for him/her right?Originally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:i mean dump them? -
hmmm... sorri to hear that!. btw, yesterday i asked for out for a movie'tomb raider 2' as she told me that she wanted to watch before.after my course she waited for me out side the gate and i go fetch her up.. after which we went to her favourite handout move place.. she looked very sad...as i asked her she say she did not well in her theroy examation.. so she was showing me for result slip.. but that was average already.. den...after movies.... i sented her home.. and the road that i sent her home.. was as usual is only ... suddenly she wasked me to go straight and she wanted to use backdoor..instead of letting me sent her straight toward under her block... i was kind of sad... but... keep telll myself don think too much... but i still cant cope the feeling that i haVE still in my heart.after reaching home.. i msg her that i would love to see you smiling instead of had a glum face..as was just a comment.. after that she say.... thanks for complment. after that good night, hai... what can i do... i feel that very disoppointed.. and sad... to cope this feeling... feeling the most stress of my life.any advice?Originally posted by ^cereal^:Hard to believe but I got dumped... all the time...
But I strongly believe, what's yours is yours, what's not meant to be will never be...
if you truly love him/her, set him/her free... if he/she returns, he/she is yours to keep.
You don't have to possess him/her to show your love for him/her right? -
then take your time..if u rush, she'll feel even more pressurized.Originally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:i have know this girl through working place as we hit it out as a fren first... after a short period, i keep asking her out for date... all she agreed to it.. as we both hit it so prefectly just like couple as we had quite a few things are in common. so.............. after which... during one of the date after senting her home... reached home, i msg her to be my gf as i hinted her .... as she agreed but not nuch condfience in it as she has been dumped before...by her ex.. so as i also found out from her that she has a crush on me just as i do!!hai... so........prefect.but... after 11 days of been together,i have just love her as much as i love myself... but one day she told me that why am i treating her so nicely as she is not giving as much as i do...further den she feeling so..pressurized and seem that she could not get close to anyone at this moment... hai...after a few converstion we had den she say she prefer me to be his fren rather than bf as she feel much... better!so what should i do?feeling superb hurt..... as i like her alots... how do i get back her?please advice...
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sound true... den i have bear the pain.. so painly..., my heart keep cryin till now every now and den.. after i saw her.Originally posted by shutthehellup:then take your time..if u rush, she'll feel even more pressurized. -
well, let her think...u want her to cry or your heart to cry??Originally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:sound true... den i have bear the pain.. so painly..., my heart keep cryin till now every now and den.. after i saw her.
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Sorry for being late...
I guess there are many other priorities in life which you can devote your time in.
Life is not all about bgr and stuffs if you ask me. What I can advise you is to use your time wisely. Frankly speaking, much as I know it's going to be hurting bcoz you still feel for her and when you do get to see her, of coz you'll feel bitter due to the fact that you guys are not together. Why not you find things to do to keep yourself busy? Of coz bear in mind, you're not doing it so to avoid the problems but let time heal all pain/wounds. I know deep inside it's difficult to cease contact for the meantime but a temporary cease will definitely do good for your little fragile heart. Hibernate if you need do, give yourself a little break and when you return, you're a better and stronger man.
Maybe you can try to be around for her (I'm sure you don't mind that) and that friendship still exists (becoz without friendship, no point talking any further), you will not contact her unless really necessary so that you do not get stuck in the position of not knowing what else to do next. I think it will be next logical thing to do.
When you have a bad fall and bleeds as a result, how to make sure your wound heals? Of coz you apply medication and cover it with a plaster of some sort. (Not a good analogy I know, but it's the best I can think of at the moment... woke up at 6am today.. so kinda brain dead now) You let your wound heal by not constantly digging at it so that the recovery process is shorter and that you know in no time, you'll be up and about running.
Of coz whatever mentioned above may sound crappy to others but I feel, taking time off is not a bad thing to do, in order to heal oneself and prepare for the next longer run.
Nevertheless, it's you to help yourself and you to run your own life. You decide if you want the whole world smiles with you, or the whole world to cry with you... being negative or positive in your mindset plays an important factor.
I choose to live my life positively - everyday just couldn't get any better... becoz it's at its best.
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you are right... actually i am trying to make myself as busy as i could ,further more i am actually attend a course that my company send me to... as quite an interesting topic... but hard to concenatre also.hai, as we use to sms each other quite often when we used to br fren before we commit.As for now.. its sound so hard to find reason for me to sms her as to keep in contract.... afraid that she will find me very nuisanse and sometime... i feel that she has a bit of voiding me... hai...luckily din see her often..if not don know how face her. just like fren? or...ex gf???????????ahhhhhhhhhhhh.....Originally posted by ^cereal^:Sorry for being late...
I guess there are many other priorities in life which you can devote your time in.
Life is not all about bgr and stuffs if you ask me. What I can advise you is to use your time wisely. Frankly speaking, much as I know it's going to be hurting bcoz you still feel for her and when you do get to see her, of coz you'll feel bitter due to the fact that you guys are not together. Why not you find things to do to keep yourself busy? Of coz bear in mind, you're not doing it so to avoid the problems but let time heal all pain/wounds. I know deep inside it's difficult to cease contact for the meantime but a temporary cease will definitely do good for your little fragile heart. Hibernate if you need do, give yourself a little break and when you return, you're a better and stronger man.
Maybe you can try to be around for her (I'm sure you don't mind that) and that friendship still exists (becoz without friendship, no point talking any further), you will not contact her unless really necessary so that you do not get stuck in the position of not knowing what else to do next. I think it will be next logical thing to do.
When you have a bad fall and bleeds as a result, how to make sure your wound heals? Of coz you apply medication and cover it with a plaster of some sort. (Not a good analogy I know, but it's the best I can think of at the moment... woke up at 6am today.. so kinda brain dead now) You let your wound heal by not constantly digging at it so that the recovery process is shorter and that you know in no time, you'll be up and about running.
Of coz whatever mentioned above may sound crappy to others but I feel, taking time off is not a bad thing to do, in order to heal oneself and prepare for the next longer run.
Nevertheless, it's you to help yourself and you to run your own life. You decide if you want the whole world smiles with you, or the whole world to cry with you... being negative or positive in your mindset plays an important factor.
I choose to live my life positively - everyday just couldn't get any better... becoz it's at its best.
I hope you'll be well... best wishes to you.
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I know it's tough... when you walk down a road/visit a plc/hear a song/drink a beverage/eat a meal/etc etc.. things which you guys have done together basically will bring back memories. Everyone has their fair share of that as well. Taking a walk down memorylane is good, but getting stuck will leave you nowhere but standstill.
Women's instinct when intruded of their privacy is to avoid. Probably she feels you're being intrusive by getting close. What's more she'll repel from you if you advances any further. Think it through, will you rather maintain friendship r/s with her (though it's damn tough and it's not going to platonic) or do you want to risk it all by advancing and giving her more excuses to withdraw from you?
I've been thru, I know. Trust me. Please do everything you can to make yourself feel better, becoz you have the power. We can only be your guiding light if you need one, you have to do the walking towards the light...Originally posted by hONdA_rIDeR:you are right... actually i am trying to make myself as busy as i could ,further more i am actually attend a course that my company send me to... as quite an interesting topic... but hard to concenatre also.hai, as we use to sms each other quite often when we used to br fren before we commit.As for now.. its sound so hard to find reason for me to sms her as to keep in contract.... afraid that she will find me very nuisanse and sometime... i feel that she has a bit of voiding me... hai...luckily din see her often..if not don know how face her. just like fren? or...ex gf???????????ahhhhhhhhhhhh..... -
Cool... yr right.. only.. i can help myself can over come this... but.. i find it so....... hard..hai!! don know why?... i had a two year relationship... also.. don have this feeling before,... maybe that was i dump people... now.. its my turn to have a feel of it.ha! do you think i should sms lesser ....or just carry on.. as a lady.. if you were her... what you will feel if i sms u.. asked you ... are you sick?... as i observe she is... but she told me she is not.!Originally posted by ^cereal^:I know it's tough... when you walk down a road/visit a plc/hear a song/drink a beverage/eat a meal/etc etc.. things which you guys have done together basically will bring back memories. Everyone has their fair share of that as well. Taking a walk down memorylane is good, but getting stuck will leave you nowhere but standstill.
Women's instinct when intruded of their privacy is to avoid. Probably she feels you're being intrusive by getting close. What's more she'll repel from you if you advances any further. Think it through, will you rather maintain friendship r/s with her (though it's damn tough and it's not going to platonic) or do you want to risk it all by advancing and giving her more excuses to withdraw from you?
I've been thru, I know. Trust me. Please do everything you can to make yourself feel better, becoz you have the power. We can only be your guiding light if you need one, you have to do the walking towards the light... -
I'm not exactly her, so I can't tell you exactly if what I'm feeling will be what she's feeling... but normally, the case will be probably she don't want too much of your concern for fear she gets indecisive again? It can also be that she feels life goes on for you and for her and that by being a little bit hardhearted towards you, it'll be easier for you to stop hanging around? Maybe a little time off, get your mind off from doing the usual routines of msging/calling her will do yourself fine...
Personally for me, I stick by the principles that even if we're no longer a couple, the basic and fundamental r/s is still back to friendship which is why I'm still friends with my exs and they know I wish them happiness in seeking for their right gal.They can be calling me up to tell me about their new love, abt their lives. This is what I'm grateful for. Maybe you can make yourself feel better, by telling yourself 'It's never my lost to lose her, it's hers for not appreciating me and knowing me.'
It works, I'm doing fine becoz psychologically, I have won myself over and mentality I'm working for the future, not the past.
Life just cant be any better, for it's already at its best.... That's my life...
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hmm....sometimes.. i could get over it... but when i have some free times... i am gone... again.. just like a soul...searching for body... feeling very helpless and so lame...i am actally working for furture too.. but still... needed more time to console myself to STOP.Originally posted by ^cereal^:I'm not exactly her, so I can't tell you exactly if what I'm feeling will be what she's feeling... but normally, the case will be probably she don't want too much of your concern for fear she gets indecisive again? It can also be that she feels life goes on for you and for her and that by being a little bit hardhearted towards you, it'll be easier for you to stop hanging around? Maybe a little time off, get your mind off from doing the usual routines of msging/calling her will do yourself fine...
Personally for me, I stick by the principles that even if we're no longer a couple, the basic and fundamental r/s is still back to friendship which is why I'm still friends with my exs and they know I wish them happiness in seeking for their right gal.They can be calling me up to tell me about their new love, abt their lives. This is what I'm grateful for. Maybe you can make yourself feel better, by telling yourself 'It's never my lost to lose her, it's hers for not appreciating me and knowing me.'
It works, I'm doing fine becoz psychologically, I have won myself over and mentality I'm working for the future, not the past.
Life just cant be any better, for it's already at its best.... That's my life...