What is the best way?
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Hi all, i'm posting this post to get more ideas what is the best way to handle this situation.
My fiance share a room with his bro who is getting married. To cut the story short, his bro wife is a pr & currently renting a shared room.
Option 1 is for my fiance to shift out of the room & slp in tbe hall.
Option 2 is for his bro to shift out on their own.
Simple but!! Thing is tat their expenses will go up much higher! Not our problem.. Haha.. Sticky sticky thing is that.. Our new house might be coming in anytime from now.. Expected to be end of this yr to early next yr.
Our wedding plans will be end of next yr & regardless we wont be moving in till aftrer we married. Therefore in this yr if our house comes it will be left vacant.
Then it seems so selfish to let his bro rent a room outside whilst we leave our new home empty. my fiance of coz not v keen to have to slp in the hall for a year! also I'm not keen for him to shift in alone first then after our marriage then i move in.
It doesn sound right that here on one hand we have our own house left vacant yet his bro is renting a room out there
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would appreciate all your advice thanks!!! reali dunno wat to do now. coz right or left it all doesn seems right.
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I am going to require a good translator to understand this pile of words
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perhaps u can ask yr future sis in law to stay at the rented room even after they got married until yr flat is ready then u can rent a room to them and yr finace can stay in another room. this way yr fiance can keep an eye on them n at the same time make some passive income...u can move in end of next yr when u officially married to yr fiance.
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the best scenerio is let your fiance stay at the new home first. how come you not keen for him to move in before wedding?
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True also but for us, our Hmm not keen for him to move in first coz we much prefered to move in tog as a start of our new beginning. If he moves in first then that feeling doesn exist anymore..
Guess our only option is for him to slp in the hall!
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guess no win win scenerio. either sleep in hall or spend more money to rent room.
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ya..if for me ill spend more money to rent room. At least have privacy.
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it will be his bro who has to spend $ to rent the room. Not us. Only that if my fiance doesn't choose to slp in the hall for a yr. It makes him looks extremely selfish. lol.. No win win solution! suddenly this issue became our problem though we are not the cause of it. Makes us feel very low.. Lol..
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As a matter of fact, once you are in sleep at home, the entire world no longer exist. So, where you sleep and who you sleep with is not important. And if they could happily enjoying together, why can't you :)
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Ahkico,
The best way is to let his brother's wife continue the shared rental room outside until both of you move into your new home.
Do not be a sucker for his brother's problem.
His brother needs to resolve his own problem.
Stop wiping his ass for him.
The brother's wife can wait.. just because they are married does not mean they must share a single room. If the brother cannot tahan sleeping without his wife.. he can go find a home elsewhere.
There is really no need for you to bend over backwards just so that brother can hug his new PR wife to sleep at night.
Stay out of the problem.
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Hi gals & guys thanks a lot for all the advice given.. Feeling much bwtter now rather than guilty.. Will ask my fiance to stand firm on his stand. Wats more he is the elder bro too!
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Option 2. Its your own happiness.
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If I'm the father, I'll tell my son to annul the marriage to you.
this is a classic example of how women cause trouble for their husbands. you can always advocate your fiance to value kinship but you have the mentality to protect your rights even before the marriage has taken place.
and ahh... take a strong stand? asking a man to take a strong stand against his own brother? screw it , if I'm the father I'll insist the son divorce you.
FYI years ago, I actually slept in the hall for more than a year when my brother knew his then gf and current fiance.
what would happen if I were to tell my brother to fark off?
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Originally posted by Francesco Toldo:
the best scenerio is let your fiance stay at the new home first. how come you not keen for him to move in before wedding?
quite simply they want a perfect start to the marriage at all costs.
they can even let the brother stay there first but you know to avoid trouble best not to right?
riiiiiggghhtt of the bat I can already say your relationship with your brother in law is most likely crap.
for your fiance to even consider these things he's either ball-less around you or he has a shi.tty relationship with his brother too.
and once they finalise everything and move out , the already not good relationship between brothers will deteriorate to a point when you only meet each other during CNY or best if you don't meet. all with the blessings of you my dear.
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Originally posted by oldbreadstinks:
If I'm the father, I'll tell my son to annul the marriage to you.
this is a classic example of how women cause trouble for their husbands. you can always advocate your fiance to value kinship but you have the mentality to protect your rights even before the marriage has taken place.
and ahh... take a strong stand? asking a man to take a strong stand against his own brother? screw it , if I'm the father I'll insist the son divorce you.
FYI years ago, I actually slept in the hall for more than a year when my brother knew his then gf and current fiance.
what would happen if I were to tell my brother to fark off?
Yah lah yah lah... it's the women at fault again.
As if the shit from men don't stink.
Men do stupid things.. and the women hav to wipe their asses for them issit.
Your wife should have divorced you if you even have one.
What a fool you are.
If one of your son is doing stupid things like marrying a gal when he couldn't afford a place himself.. and your daughter in law has to bend over backwards for that stupid son of yours...
You should be giving your stupid son a lecture and knuckling his empty skull instead of making things difficult for the other son and his wife.
Teach your son how to be a better human being instead of blaming the daughter in law !
Stupid men like you can only raise stupid children. SMH
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both parties are in the wrong. simple :)
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first thing first, why is your fiance even staying with his bro? if fiance's bro own the flat or room, guess it is not bo-in-law problem, but should be ts problem and ts create all the trouble.