How to make my live-in boy friend contribute more?
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why do you bother that much about his ego if you are already having a hard time surviving?
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
like that good. i like to befwen this type of people. when he gets married - i do his job do his wife for him
then end up in in the wanbao amongst all the strange cases?lol -
Your bf is a bloody leech and he can't look himself in the mirror long enough to realise that.
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Originally posted by Sinjennks:
I have a live-in boy friend for more than 2 years. I used to pay for everything in the household and i owned the apartment. Last year, i decided to quit my job and take a breather for two years or so. I will be surviving on my own savings. The issue is that my boy friend doesn’t contribute to the household other than paying the utilities bill. I pay for the mortagage loan naturally as it is my property, i also pay for the groceries, food, cable tv etc. Now that i am not working, i really hope that he will start contributing more. Well, i hinted once, he felt “hurt” that i implied that he was “leeching” on me, which i had never meant that in anyway. He is the ego type of man. After that incident, he still does not initiate to contribute more. As i have been cooking at home at least three times a week, i am actually spending more because he always likes expensive steamed fish. Recently, i hinted to him again that eating at home is healthier but it can also be more expensive. Then he suggested that we go his mom’s pl every sat for dinner and he will pay her extra for the meal on top of his monthly $1k allowance. I am very disappointed that he feels necessary to pay his mom for 1 meal but never thought of contibuting to our meals! Sometimes, he even makes me pay for his shopping!
Is it too much to ask him to contribute more and ow not to make him feel that i am too calculative. But i really need to be careful with my spending and hope that he can help out.
If he dun paid for his dinner or shopping, you can just walk off, why bother, those cashier tends to go after guys more than us, if he cannot paid, let the police handle him, omg, you are pampering and nurturing a male chauvanist here. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
If he dun paid for his dinner or shopping, you can just walk off, why bother, those cashier tends to go after guys more than us, if he cannot paid, let the police handle him, omg, you are pampering and nurturing a male chauvanist here.Aiyo Sista angel, u don't know the tricks guy use meh? When bill come, they get stomach ache, got to go pee, left his wallet in car or at home... On the phone with mother/father/grandmother.... Same old same old tricks many generations already...
She is mothering that guy... Also known as sugar mama-ing. Very common nowadays lah.
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My grandma said, this time of guy are known as eat soft rice guy, worst kind of guy around, but somehow most are handsome and romantic, but then, how long can you be handsome and romantic, by 30s, all become troublesome and problematic
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Originally posted by angel7030:
My grandma said, this time of guy are known as eat soft rice guy, worst kind of guy around, but somehow most are handsome and romantic, but then, how long can you be handsome and romantic, by 30s, all become troublesome and problematic
But they are very smart wor... They know how to make use of women to further their ambitions. The women support them, start business, get higher education, investments.
By the time he go bald, he is a rich guy already. Then go after young chicks and dump the old hag lor.....
So many cases already, but some women still willingly give on wor... Tpower of magic wand... Buyers beware!
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Those guys are the sifu during our teen years. They were the epitome of manliness. The ultimate player. The man... who gets it all. lol
"How they do it?" - was always in the back of our minds.
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Well, I guess is more on the girls like TS stupidity and ignorances than the guys smartness, I take this time of guys as the most stupid and good for nothing, since coming out of a hole, then spent their whole life for holes. There is more to contribute to this world than just poking holes ya.
So girls out there in reading, must learn to be like Angels and Sista Jojo ya
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Those guys are the sifu during our teen years. They were the epitome of manliness. The ultimate player. The man... who gets it all. lol
"How they do it?" - was always in the back of our minds.
Frankly, these guys all end up with broken family, and once they hit their 30s or 40s, they could not bear the agony of aging with no more good looks, most go into deep depression and end up drinking and drinking. -
Originally posted by Sinjennks:
I have a live-in boy friend for more than 2 years. I used to pay for everything in the household and i owned the apartment. Last year, i decided to quit my job and take a breather for two years or so. I will be surviving on my own savings. The issue is that my boy friend doesn’t contribute to the household other than paying the utilities bill. I pay for the mortagage loan naturally as it is my property, i also pay for the groceries, food, cable tv etc. Now that i am not working, i really hope that he will start contributing more. Well, i hinted once, he felt “hurt” that i implied that he was “leeching” on me, which i had never meant that in anyway. He is the ego type of man. After that incident, he still does not initiate to contribute more. As i have been cooking at home at least three times a week, i am actually spending more because he always likes expensive steamed fish. Recently, i hinted to him again that eating at home is healthier but it can also be more expensive. Then he suggested that we go his mom’s pl every sat for dinner and he will pay her extra for the meal on top of his monthly $1k allowance. I am very disappointed that he feels necessary to pay his mom for 1 meal but never thought of contibuting to our meals! Sometimes, he even makes me pay for his shopping!
Is it too much to ask him to contribute more and ow not to make him feel that i am too calculative. But i really need to be careful with my spending and hope that he can help out.
Why woman are always suckers to this kind of boyfriend?
Haiz.
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Originally posted by speakoutfor:
Why woman are always suckers to this kind of boyfriend?
Haiz.
People like mah, why, you jealous ar? -
what does he work as? does he has a job? if he is, is he earning low income?
of course you have the right to ask him to pay for bills. if he doesnt, tell him so and if he felt hurt, tell him you felt pissed of him by not contributing.
if he is like this as bf, you may want to consider marrying this chap, as a hubby, you think he will contribute once you have a baby?
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Originally posted by angel7030:
People like mah, why, you jealous ar?
people like mah, why you also want arh, call me maybe
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Manipulate him with sex.
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
people like mah, why you also want arh, call me maybe
You??!! even if u r the last guy on this world, I wouldn't call you -
I will move in with you and take care of the Cable bill.
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waaaaa sour grapes
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these are additional expense, you should have included such expenses during your income tax declaration filing.