how to get rid of past BGR hurts
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Originally posted by speakoutfor:
She won't be the last person who is going to do this to you.
A lot of girls are like this.
If you are a player, you got to take it easy.
If you full of emo...go seek new girlfriend at your nearest dating agency. Emo people won't survive in social circles.
she will be the last one cause i've learnt my lesson.
i've too much into it and will nvr happen again.
too bad for thse gals in the future, if they were to blame, blame it on this b!tch
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Originally posted by speakoutfor:
hey you got your definition wrong.
Its not a break-up.
Its handling rejection.
rejection or breakup, i've put in too much and she lead me on.
it's not the status tht counts but how emotionally attached
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Originally posted by speakoutfor:
hey you got your definition wrong.
Its not a break-up.
Its handling rejection.
What ? U mean they weren't even a couple ?
Ok, this is getting really weird.
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Originally posted by redname:
assumptions again.
anyway, i do know tht wat i've mention is particularly not the best but i've tried so many methods to get over this and yet this hurt is still inside.
i figured out tht i just need to let her know tht i've been keeping it in me all this while and i really have to let it out to move on.
Yah u right. I was assuming this was a break up.. So it was just u taking her kindness and friendliness for affection ? Omg.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
What ? U mean they weren't even a couple ?
Ok, this is getting really weird.
Go read up TS previous posting entitled "Situation with a friend". 3rd page, thread locked.
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Originally posted by speakoutfor:
Go read up TS previous posting entitled "Situation with a friend". 3rd page, thread locked.
Wah.. All the postings, same girl ?
Haiz...
Got picture or not huh ? She must be one heck of a goddess for TS to be soo smitten.
But then girls who know they are attractive are hard to get lah. Their standard very high, or they tend to be somewhat of a narcissist.....
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Originally posted by redname:
but my problem now is the hurts tht i can't go past
If you can't identify the hurt, it will keep on affecting you.
Keep quiet and think, what is the hurt.
Most likely she humiliated you in someway, and you took it silently, becuse you don't want to rock the boat. Now there is no boat, and you want to blast out at her, becuse it is what yo wanted to do all along. This is what you can't let go, more realistically don't want to let go.
Revenge is not good, it hurts you greater than the other person. Just think about all your suffering until now, is it worth it.
OK you blast out at her, then what? You think you will be happy or at peace. No you will most probably be talking to yourself about all the things you want to say but did not say.
Just let it go, and stop the self torture.
Find out what is the hurt, and you will find it is nothing.
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Originally posted by redname:
she will be the last one cause i've learnt my lesson.
i've too much into it and will nvr happen again.
too bad for thse gals in the future, if they were to blame, blame it on this b!tch
Having said this, you should not close all doors to relationship. If you do, then you be alone for the rest of your life.
It is already tough with all these competition and low salary problems in spore. You effectively shut down any opportunity of you reaching out to the opposite sex.
I can imagine that you will complain all you want and that you want to be a single for the rest of your life. Then when you reach 51 and kanna heart attack and in hospital, lets see who is bothered to visit you at the hospital. Nobody - if only you have a family. I've seen this before. I have visited a friend at a hospital and found a 51 year old uncle sharing a ward with my friend, all alone - nobody visit him because he got no family.
Its hard but that's life. A lot of people learn from many many failures to be successful. Steve Jobs himself was kicked out of Apple, via a boardroom tucscle. But Steve Jobs worked hard and restarted his own tech co, Next. Many years later, the same board that sacked Steve Jobs was removed because Apple wasn't performing. The new Apple board decided to bring back Steve Jobs and buy his company Next, in exchange for controlling shares in Apple. And you see Apple today.
Gist of the story is - don't let some bad experience make you give up on girls. You are a guy - act like a guy. Guys like Gurls. You are not Gay. So you say this bad experience prevents you from finding gurls. Then be smart, find a way out. You are a singaporean right? You are trained to be resourcesful and intelligent (whether in school or NS) ? So put those skills into good use.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Wah.. All the postings, same girl ?
Haiz...
Got picture or not huh ? She must be one heck of a goddess for TS to be soo smitten.
But then girls who know they are attractive are hard to get lah. Their standard very high, or they tend to be somewhat of a narcissist.....
Yalor, like me, so many PMs, I also bochap.
Steve Jobs??? what does steve jobs got to do with BFGF here leh???
anyhow spew like this, how can. -
The number 1 - talkcocker of sgforum is asking me what steve jobs gotta do with this.
I think this fella should go get an IQ test and concentrate on what she does best or worst - running her ridiculous joo chiat bar where nobody wants to go and waste their money on her brainless statements.
Biz must be bad - she must be swatting flies.
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True mah, BGR is about emotion and Love, SJob is about career, technology and connecting peoples, mai TCSS lah.
Wah piang, when got SJ related to BGR, maybe some other job related lah, by definitely not SJob. Ahem
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Eh you think losing one's job got no emotion?
Stevejobs loss his job at apple but he came back to make apple company better.
So I am trying to tell TS not to give up hope and work harder, better himself.
People like you always work at a pub, dark dark, full of cigarette smoke and drunk with beer with pot belly. Some more no business because nobody want to go. No wonder you don't know anything about the real world.
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Work harder for what, like you and me, we work smart, shake legs drink martini with lime by the pool.
You must teach people to work smart, be cunning and clever, not work hard, work until go hospital, like this, work for what?
Between, my pub no smoking one ya. Ironically, the time I spend less here is because, I am busy collecting and counting money.
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hard and harder collect money shae sit - all these phraases and terms - haiz dirty girl,
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pull yourself together!!
Rejection doesnt mean the end of the world!~
You will find a better someone and if you are not ready dun get into another relationship because you are gonna hurt your next partner.