i had this crush who rejected me. her reason is that we aren't even close enough lor, so let's just continue to be friends 1st.
I do know this is a direct rejection but i also believe tht nobody knows abt the future and no harm just being friends 1st.
it has been nearly 2 months that i last contacted her.
we did bump into each other twice and from her reaction, it does seem that she really meant what she said that she just wanna be friends and not the typical gal's reply to ask you to get the fark off their life.
now, my question is that how can i start this frenship thing all over again? there's akwardness when we spoke (expected lah), so I'm really clueless.
was thinking I'll start to have small chat on her facebook page, just comment something lame and see how she react. then after that just PM her to ask how is she lor
good, u oredi tot of wat to do
most imptly is u have to 整� your 感情 thoroughly then take the next step
Originally posted by FireIce:good, u oredi tot of wat to do
most imptly is u have to 整� your 感情 thoroughly then take the next step
as in move on and get over her 1st?
u wanna restart the frenship truly as frens or are u trying to create some oppo and hopefully she will accept u this time round
u have to be clear of ur intentions
Originally posted by FireIce:u wanna restart the frenship truly as frens or are u trying to create some oppo and hopefully she will accept u this time round
u have to be clear of ur intentions
to become truly as frens cause i'm really sick and tired of the heart breaks she gave me and won't be interested in any romance with her at all (but i can't say the same in the future cause i really dnt know what the future holds). gotta protect myself 1st
Is this the same girl in the other few threads of yours or are you really the type who gets rejected all the time?
And I agree with FI about knowing your actual intentions first before proceeding cause you can get friendzoned, and that could work with/against your intention.
Originally posted by Toiletries:Is this the same girl in the other few threads of yours or are you really the type who gets rejected all the time?
And I agree with FI about knowing your actual intentions first before proceeding cause you can get friendzoned, and that could work with/against your intention.
same gal. i usually take veri long to have interest again in another gal.
I just want to start talking to her again. she's a nice person and i really enjoyed her company b4 all these happens.
she might be a soulmate, just that we can't be together in that sort of way.
my options are open lah, can be together or not doesn't matter. now just try try can be fren or not lor, sekali when i know her better, it's me who will say i dnt want. no one knows what the future holds right?
now what hinders me is the awkardness when we bump into each other and also feels strange talking to someone again when 2 months nvr contact liao.
PS: i'm already in friendzone liao mah, so what u mean by wat i do will put me into friendzone?
Maybe go for another girl? I tend to go for someone who loves me rather than someone I love. It's a great feeling to be loved!
Originally posted by FunGuyWorkaholic:Maybe go for another girl? I tend to go for someone who loves me rather than someone I love. It's a great feeling to be loved!
sure, i'm trying to look for another person but a bit OOT leh, i 'm talking abt being frens again. sorry, can't see the link
Originally posted by FireIce:u are finding it difficult bcos u r still carrying the burden from the rejection
yah, so tht's y my qn to ur 1st reply is that whether you are referring to "as in move on and get over her 1st?"
Originally posted by redname:sure, i'm trying to look for another person but a bit OOT leh, i 'm talking abt being frens again. sorry, can't see the link
Huh, the link is that you will find someone who can ease your agony so no more aunt agony lor. The way I see it, it's hard forcing someone to do something that they don't want to do. You can pull a bull to the riverside by force but you cannot force the bull to drink the water... And you don't feel so bad, someday you will come across someone that you like more and better!
Originally posted by FunGuyWorkaholic:
Huh, the link is that you will find someone who can ease your agony so no more aunt agony lor. The way I see it, it's hard forcing someone to do something that they don't want to do. You can pull a bull to the riverside by force but you cannot force the bull to drink the water... And you don't feel so bad, someday you will come across someone that you like more and better!
oic, i dnt think i wanna do any forcing lah.
i just make sure i'm going with the right attitude, the rest ish up to her liao.
Originally posted by redname:i had this crush who rejected me. her reason is that we aren't even close enough lor, so let's just continue to be friends 1st.
I do know this is a direct rejection but i also believe tht nobody knows abt the future and no harm just being friends 1st.
it has been nearly 2 months that i last contacted her.
we did bump into each other twice and from her reaction, it does seem that she really meant what she said that she just wanna be friends and not the typical gal's reply to ask you to get the fark off their life.
now, my question is that how can i start this frenship thing all over again? there's akwardness when we spoke (expected lah), so I'm really clueless.
was thinking I'll start to have small chat on her facebook page, just comment something lame and see how she react. then after that just PM her to ask how is she lor
When you have a crush on someone, nothing is reasonable anymore.
Originally posted by angel7030:When you have a crush on someone, nothing is reasonable anymore.
dnt mind can explain a bit?
which part are you saying are being reasonable?
Wtf is a soulmate? Come on - forget about her. You can twist and turn but in the end the intention of your heart is so obvious - you want her for yourself. Its either you go after her or you don't - no such thing as a midway strategy.
Look if you don't want to listen - go crash and burn. This is the only way for you to learn. She already say she just want to be friends with you. You are so stubborn to place all your hopes in her. I am telling you from experience - she's not interested in you. But since you don't want to listen - the only way is you go all out or you don't at all.
After you confess to her - things are never going to be the same again. How would you feel like - if a girl you are not interested in confess to you that she likes you a lot and then cannot stop pestering you and sticks to you like glue. Surely you will stay a distance while trying not to hurt her feelings or even make yourself look bad in public by rejecting her badly.
I think the only way for you to learn is to go all out and after her - then you will know the result.
Originally posted by redname:dnt mind can explain a bit?
which part are you saying are being reasonable?
I never say being reasonable, i said nothing is reasonable anymore for a person who had a crush on someone.
Just like if you are driving, you crush your car into a tree...reasonable???
or just like if you are eating your mango pudding, you crush it into the table...reasonable??
So, same goes to Love, if you hv a crush on Love for someone, Love is no more reasonable.
Originally posted by angel7030:
I never say being reasonable, i said nothing is reasonable anymore for a person who had a crush on someone.Just like if you are driving, you crush your car into a tree...reasonable???
or just like if you are eating your mango pudding, you crush it into the table...reasonable??
So, same goes to Love, if you hv a crush on Love for someone, Love is no more reasonable.
just get under her, like that she will not be crushed. i demostrate now ... see?
Originally posted by Fcukpap:what she ultimately wants to know is your worth….(not to mention of 5Cs)....its a realistic world….
needless to say…..and be prepared….be confident….sometimes u have to work the other way round and ask…..does she have the inner values as a long term friend? does she deserve your time and affection?
"does she have the inner values as a long term friend? does she deserve your time and affection?"
Hey thanks man, i'll remember this
For we girls, we must not show too much of our feeling, we tends to sit and watch how the guy is going to act, so, we tend to reject his first approach, then see how far can he tolerate and love us. Rejection can be the begining of Acceptance.
Originally posted by angel7030:For we girls, we must not show too much of our feeling, we tends to sit and watch how the guy is going to act, so, we tend to reject his first approach, then see how far can he tolerate and love us. Rejection can be the begining of Acceptance.
hahaha, if this is the case then i've failed badly cause for the few times i've accidentally bumped into her, i completely ignored her.
i have my reasons thou cause I'm still healing from the heart break, so i'm not exactly ready to speak to or see her yet
aft 2 months of slience, she posted something on my facebook, so I wrote something on her's too.
then she responded that she wants to meet so i can pass her something and also keep in contact.
I'm quite reluctant cause i'm not sure whether she's just c0ckteasing me or not and later lead me high and dry again.
It is alway the case when we gals do something or initial something, the guys will take it as love or wanting to be in a relationship, but this is not the case, we just want to be friend and stay in contact for networking purpose, and that is the reason we gals tend to be more cautious of our action, because guy like you tend to hallucinate alots when we make a move out of nothing.
Teasing you for what?? a million or one private house?? Meet to pass something, to be friend, to stay in contact, no big deal, I also go out with many guys to stay as friend, as drinking company, or to pass something or to give them birthday present, it does not imply Love or relationship in the making.
For a gal, if she is interested in you, Long long already give you signs of Love, not wait till now.
And even tho we may like a guy, we will not make the move, we want the guy to make a move and go after us, that is the logic of gf/bf relationship. Reason being, if we end up break up or divorce, we can be proud to say, you come for me hor, not that I wanted you.
Originally posted by angel7030:It is alway the case when we gals do something or initial something, the guys will take it as love or wanting to be in a relationship, but this is not the case, we just want to be friend and stay in contact for networking purpose, and that is the reason we gals tend to be more cautious of our action, because guy like you tend to hallucinate alots when we make a move out of nothing.
Teasing you for what?? a million or one private house?? Meet to pass something, to be friend, to stay in contact, no big deal, I also go out with many guys to stay as friend, as drinking company, or to pass something or to give them birthday present, it does not imply Love or relationship in the making.
For a gal, if she is interested in you, Long long already give you signs of Love, not wait till now.
And even tho we may like a guy, we will not make the move, we want the guy to make a move and go after us, that is the logic of gf/bf relationship. Reason being, if we end up break up or divorce, we can be proud to say, you come for me hor, not that I wanted you.
if it's just be friends then it's ok, i just dnt wanna be that spare tire or be tht source of attention for her and be used by her again.