Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
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Long distance relationship won’t work. I have experienced it myself.
My ex-wife went to Australia to further her study just 2 months after our ROM several years ago. I sponsored her 4 year course.
Everything was fine at first. We kept in touch frequently through phone calls and MSN. I even visited her about 1 year after she went there. We were very happy.
But things started to change by her 2nd year there. We contacted each other less and less frequently. And the time we spent each time talking on the phone or on MSN became less and less. She said she was busy. After a while she didn’t call me or initiate MSN chat anymore. I was the one who continued to try calling and initiate MSN chat. Many times she did not pick up the phone or didn’t reply my MSN messages. She also got easily irritated and annoyed each time we talk on the phone if I ever able to get hold of her.
During her 3rd year there, after unable to get in touch with her for a few months, I went to Australia to look for her. I went to the apartment she stayed the last time I visited her and found out that she had moved out more than a year ago. The current tenant gave me her new address and I went there to look for her.
But to my disappointment, I found her living with another man there. She introduced that man to me and told me that they were in steady relationship. She asked me to just go home. I told her we were still officially husband and wife. But she told me she will go back one day to settle this matter. I was heart broken and left.
She came back 2 years ago to file for divorce. We are now on the 3-year official separation and waiting for divorce next year. She’s now with yet another man and few months pregnant.
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Long distance relationship won’t work. I have experienced it myself.
My ex-wife went to Australia to further her study just 2 months after our ROM several years ago. I sponsored her 4 year course.
Everything was fine at first. We kept in touch frequently through phone calls and MSN. I even visited her about 1 year after she went there. We were very happy.
But things started to change by her 2nd year there. We contacted each other less and less frequently. And the time we spent each time talking on the phone or on MSN became less and less. She said she was busy. After a while she didn’t call me or initiate MSN chat anymore. I was the one who continued to try calling and initiate MSN chat. Many times she did not pick up the phone or didn’t reply my MSN messages. She also got easily irritated and annoyed each time we talk on the phone if I ever able to get hold of her.
During her 3rd year there, after unable to get in touch with her for a few months, I went to Australia to look for her. I went to the apartment she stayed the last time I visited her and found out that she had moved out more than a year ago. The current tenant gave me her new address and I went there to look for her.
But to my disappointment, I found her living with another man there. She introduced that man to me and told me that they were in steady relationship. She asked me to just go home. I told her we were still officially husband and wife. But she told me she will go back one day to settle this matter. I was heart broken and left.
She came back 2 years ago to file for divorce. We are now on the 3-year official separation and waiting for divorce next year. She’s now with yet another man and few months pregnant.
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Originally posted by Kohmik:
Long distance relationship won’t work. I have experienced it myself.
My ex-wife went to Australia to further her study just 2 months after our ROM several years ago. I sponsored her 4 year course.
Everything was fine at first. We kept in touch frequently through phone calls and MSN. I even visited her about 1 year after she went there. We were very happy.
But things started to change by her 2nd year there. We contacted each other less and less frequently. And the time we spent each time talking on the phone or on MSN became less and less. She said she was busy. After a while she didn’t call me or initiate MSN chat anymore. I was the one who continued to try calling and initiate MSN chat. Many times she did not pick up the phone or didn’t reply my MSN messages. She also got easily irritated and annoyed each time we talk on the phone if I ever able to get hold of her.
During her 3rd year there, after unable to get in touch with her for a few months, I went to Australia to look for her. I went to the apartment she stayed the last time I visited her and found out that she had moved out more than a year ago. The current tenant gave me her new address and I went there to look for her.
But to my disappointment, I found her living with another man there. She introduced that man to me and told me that they were in steady relationship. She asked me to just go home. I told her we were still officially husband and wife. But she told me she will go back one day to settle this matter. I was heart broken and left.
She came back 2 years ago to file for divorce. We are now on the 3-year official separation and waiting for divorce next year. She’s now with yet another man and few months pregnant.
Bro, that sucks. But I will be careful to make comparisons based on your case. I mean, there might be loyal girls/guys, percentage wise, I don't know.
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maybe not all will end up breaking up, but i'm sure mostly will. Beside me, a friend of mine also the same. His gf dumped him for another guy she met while studying overseas.
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wow, that really just sucks.
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Originally posted by ~Owl~:
My gf has moved overseas for her studies not too long ago, I'm happy for her and encouraged her to do so because she's doing what she always wanted to do in life. Initially, we decided to put our relationship to rest because her journey there will take probably 6 years, plus a few more years of bond, probably 9 to 10 years. But her her mother spoke to me and said she was disappointed in me told me to hold on if I really loved her. I thought about it and decided to give it a try. So now we are in a LDR
She's now overseas for about a month plus, but I'm not happy at all. When she's in SG, no matter how tight our schedules were, we'll at least dedicate some time to give each other a call everyday to have some quality catch up. But now, even if free overseas call are available thru viber or skype... we barely even talk in a week. If it's not that she is tired, she'll say she is busy...even during the weekend. It doesn't feel like a relationship at all... Whenever I try to call her to tell her to spare some time for us because I really want to talk to her, it'll turn out to be a fight because she says I'm unreasonable.
I need some advise and pointers, am I really not understanding and unreasonable?
When she has chosen such phenomenally long period of time residing overseas, she has effectively chose to give up the relationship for her aspiration. In addition to having to express her thoughts already, in fact, the reason why this relationship has 'revived' is largely due to her mother's intervention.
Strictly speaking, it seemed more like her mum's choice.
Therefore, with all that circumstances, this relationship can be said to be constructed on foundation challenging to sustain the skyscraper ideals of LDR.
Love becomes an opportunity cost to individualistic pursuit; sometimes, we cannot always have the best of both worlds, especially when it comes to love.
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: When she has chosen such phenomenally long period of time residing overseas, she has effectively chose to give up the relationship for her aspiration. In addition to having to express her thoughts already, in fact, the reason why this relationship has 'revived' is largely due to her mother's intervention.
Strictly speaking, it seemed more like her mum's choice.
Therefore, with all that circumstances, this relationship can be said to be constructed on foundation challenging to sustain the skyscraper ideals of LDR.
Love becomes an opportunity cost to individualistic pursuit; sometimes, we cannot always have the best of both worlds, especially when it comes to love.
Cheers
Revive of Love under parent intervention is know as respected Love, once it is removed, its no more love, love must be mutually agreed, and should be non intervention. It is a relationship that test both parties tolerances, endurances and time. -
Kohmik,
she was alone in a foreign country, bored and lonely.....naturally she would look for someone to comfort her. You shouldn't blame her entirely. You were not there for her when she needs you. Did you try to forgive her and ask her to go back to you?