rejected by dreamgal. how to move on?
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Hi,
i'm really going through a very screwed up time of my life.
I was rejected by this gal which i thought was the gal of my dreams.
normally, i could jus move on but i really dnt know why this time i really can't let go.
I've tried all ways to forget abt her. I've cut contact with her, kept myself busy etc... but she jus keeps coming back to my mind no matter how hard i try.
it's affecting my social life which i just stay home and stone and emo. even when i'm out, i'm not the same person again.
it's been 3 weeks since she rejected me. she tld me she's scared of me cause i showed my feelings too soon and she's at a lost also on how to react towards me.
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grab some porn
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First time?
Why put all your eggs in one basket. If basket fall, all the eggs crack.
Not telling you to go out and find more girls. What am saying is you should never place all hope in this girl. Even if you are in a relationship. Relationships got confirmation period. If you cross the confirmation period you are safe.
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Originally posted by speakoutfor:
First time?
Why put all your eggs in one basket. If basket fall, all the eggs crack.
Not telling you to go out and find more girls. What am saying is you should never place all hope in this girl. Even if you are in a relationship. Relationships got confirmation period. If you cross the confirmation period you are safe.
first time to get rejected? no
first time kenna jialat jialat? yes
u are right on one point, tht is i really place all my heart into it this time.
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It's gonna be alright
come, i sayang you...
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Maybe you still have a chance.......
Especially if you can meet her again for a pretext of some other things.
But you know what to do now, she doesnt like you to be so forward.
Just pretend to do some things naturally and slowly befriend her and gain her trust.
Anyways I dont know how applicable my sugestion is to you......maybe for your case you really need to move on if shes really set now in avoiding you, I dont know.......
Whatever it is....cheers..! Tomorrow is a better day..!
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Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
It's gonna be alright
come, i sayang you...
i'm feeling better already.
gave it a thought on last sat. was also inspired by my fren's love life story
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Originally posted by Veggie Bao:
Maybe you still have a chance.......
Especially if you can meet her again for a pretext of some other things.
But you know what to do now, she doesnt like you to be so forward.
Just pretend to do some things naturally and slowly befriend her and gain her trust.
Anyways I dont know how applicable my sugestion is to you......maybe for your case you really need to move on if shes really set now in avoiding you, I dont know.......
Whatever it is....cheers..! Tomorrow is a better day..!
i really dnt wanna go too much.
last i found out she actully tld someone that i cldn't face the rejection.
I was very pissed off/disappointed when i knew that.
I feel so wronged and now it's like pple are taking sides cause she's a gal and makes me look so despo.
I'm gng to totally ignore her now and if she cares, she'll contact me instead, if not then i'll forget abt having this fren
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HOW were you rejected?
Did she say "I don't like you" or simply "I'm not free"?
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Originally posted by alize:
HOW were you rejected?
Did she say "I don't like you" or simply "I'm not free"?
actually i'm veri confused abt this part. i'm not sure whether she really meant what she said.
1stly when i ask her for the 1st time, she said "can we be friends 1st and get to know each other better?"
so i took her literally and just be frens with her lor. aft tht i tried to ask her out a few times as a fren, not even a date but she said no every time, so i just asked her what's wrg and she said "i only treat you as a fren who i can talk to and have common interest and i hope it stays that way"
from there i just left her alone, nvr contact her.
aft sometime, a common fren mention to me that she said "it's not possible and i mean it but I'm ok as friends"
I was pretty unhappy when i heard that cause all this while i've did face the rejection and took her as a fren, it's she think too much and think i'm still wooing her which i'm not
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What's done is done. Whatever reasons made her reject you the first time (eg you may not have asked her in the smoothest way) are not important.
I think you are right to not contact her for a while. You can contact her in future and invite her to something interesting or with some of your friends. Include her in your normal life.
If she treats you as a friend or is willing to go further in future, she will hang out with you more often.
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Originally posted by alize:
What's done is done. Whatever reasons made her reject you the first time (eg you may not have asked her in the smoothest way) are not important.
I think you are right to not contact her for a while. You can contact her in future and invite her to something interesting or with some of your friends. Include her in your normal life.
If she treats you as a friend or is willing to go further in future, she will hang out with you more often.
but i just dnt like it when i'm being wronged and her action of telling some pple really makes me wonder whether her intention was to have pple to take side with her.
in anyway, i'll wait for her to contact me an if ever there' a chance for us to talk abt this, i'll ask her about it. if not then i'll just treat it as i never knew this person
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You can always contact her. But when you get a chance to talk, don't talk about any relationship. As long as there is friendship there is chance.
Your past "friendship" was more like waiting-for-date. Even if you don't apply pressure, girls sense the pressure and stay away.
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Originally posted by alize:
You can always contact her. But when you get a chance to talk, don't talk about any relationship. As long as there is friendship there is chance.
Your past "friendship" was more like waiting-for-date. Even if you don't apply pressure, girls sense the pressure and stay away.
there was actually 1 time tht we saw each other in this place after the 2nd time she said wanna be frens only.
during tht short period of time, i just talk to her normally but cld see she not comfortable at all.
i seriously dnt wanna contact her, not because i'm pissed off but i dnt wanna her to go "oh, he still can't face the rejection". i want her to know that she's comfortable b4 we talk again.
i dnt get this part:
Your past "friendship" was more like waiting-for-date. Even if you don't apply pressure, girls sense the pressure and stay away.
can explain?
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she having period lah so feel non comfortable for everyting mah
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she has no liking for u, and u have to face it...bonding occurs like chemistry or laws of magnetism...she will give hints or come closer within your space...
yours act more like a repellant...forget it.....a forced relationship can never sustain ....
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I have a cat, as a pet.
The more I try to pat the cat, the more the cat keep away from me. Run away from me even, when I aproach the cat.
I decided to ignore the cat, the cat come to me rubbing her fur against my leg.
Go figure out yourself.
Tarek, lepas, tarek, lepas lah
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Originally posted by mancha:
I have a cat, as a pet.
The more I try to pat the cat, the more the cat keep away from me. Run away from me even, when I aproach the cat.
I decided to ignore the cat, the cat come to me rubbing her fur against my leg.
Go figure out yourself.
Tarek, lepas, tarek, lepas lah
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Playing hard to get and really no interest in you is one thing. I think in this case, it's the latter.
So to help you move on, focus on the vengeance about badmouthing you and forget about the "If she come back/if we talk" cause, damn, you're clingy that way. Destroy that glimmer of hope and move on. -
Originally posted by redname:
Hi,
i'm really going through a very screwed up time of my life.
I was rejected by this gal which i thought was the gal of my dreams.
normally, i could jus move on but i really dnt know why this time i really can't let go.
I've tried all ways to forget abt her. I've cut contact with her, kept myself busy etc... but she jus keeps coming back to my mind no matter how hard i try.
it's affecting my social life which i just stay home and stone and emo. even when i'm out, i'm not the same person again.
it's been 3 weeks since she rejected me. she tld me she's scared of me cause i showed my feelings too soon and she's at a lost also on how to react towards me.
you want me to tell her report police for you stalking her? she do that i am sure you will wake up your idea already -
Originally posted by redname:
there was actually 1 time tht we saw each other in this place after the 2nd time she said wanna be frens only.
during tht short period of time, i just talk to her normally but cld see she not comfortable at all.
i seriously dnt wanna contact her, not because i'm pissed off but i dnt wanna her to go "oh, he still can't face the rejection". i want her to know that she's comfortable b4 we talk again.
i dnt get this part:
Your past "friendship" was more like waiting-for-date. Even if you don't apply pressure, girls sense the pressure and stay away.
can explain?
That means
Even if you don't ask her again to be your gf, she still feels pressure. When hanging out with you, she will be thinking about how to treat you, how to make sure not to give you the wrong impression, how not to hurt your feelings, trying to see if you are interested or not.
Sometimes guys give the wrong signals, sometimes girls pick up the wrong signs.
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
she has no liking for u, and u have to face it...bonding occurs like chemistry or laws of magnetism...she will give hints or come closer within your space...
yours act more like a repellant...forget it.....a forced relationship can never sustain ....
huh?
u got read the rest of my posting or not?
I've faced it long ago, just that she think i didn't and go tell pple i cldn't face it.
anyway, i forgot abt it liao, not giving a fark abt it
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Originally posted by Toiletries:
Playing hard to get and really no interest in you is one thing. I think in this case, it's the latter.
So to help you move on, focus on the vengeance about badmouthing you and forget about the "If she come back/if we talk" cause, damn, you're clingy that way. Destroy that glimmer of hope and move on.??? so i shldn't even be talking to her even if she talks to me?
tht's rude rite?i dnt think i can focus on the vengenace cause tht will make mewant to contact her to give her a piece of my mind which i really dnt wanna happen cause i really wanna totally leave her alone for the better of me
anyway, i didn't thot she's playing hard to get, she tld me no and i accepted it, tht's all wat
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
you want me to tell her report police for you stalking her? she do that i am sure you will wake up your idea alreadywell if you can contact her, then go ahead.
anyway, she knows i'm not stalking her cause i know where she works and stays and i seriously nvr even thot of appearing in those places any more
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Originally posted by alize:
That means
Even if you don't ask her again to be your gf, she still feels pressure. When hanging out with you, she will be thinking about how to treat you, how to make sure not to give you the wrong impression, how not to hurt your feelings, trying to see if you are interested or not.
Sometimes guys give the wrong signals, sometimes girls pick up the wrong signs.
well, to me, the best way to totally get away from this is to really have no interest in her anymore.
to do that, I have to 1stly move on and secondly show it through my actions