In love with colleague
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just hope that this is not another insurance trick.
u like her u just go fuc_ her.
if not just go find other gals
simple
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Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
just hope that this is not another insurance trick.
u like her u just go fuc_ her.
if not just go find other gals
simple
Wah u teach people how to be a fucker. So simple ah.
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She is giving you the hot and cold. Looks like she is trying to bargain high price. Probably she is having doubts or second thoughts about you. Anyway look at it the bright side, yuo are better off without her, she is too much older than you. You may not have the maturity to handle her.
Though her friends say she is single, you cannot be 100% certain. I have known ladies in their late 30s, able to date younger and wealthy guys.
If she continue to be attention seeking, then complain to your co workers about her behaviour and declare that you no longer like her. Then she would stop disturbing you. It is no secret anyway, according to your story, you have already spoken to your co workers about your attraction to her.
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well.... at age above 35+... normal players
are for the No string attached....
I am one of these players.
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Thx for your opinions. Whether she's a player a not of cos I'm not sure. But she must be a very very free player to spam my hp with SMS all day from morning till night weekdays and weekends for 2 weeks until I asked her to stop which really made her very furious. That's when all hell broke lose /cry
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Originally posted by Hseng25:
Thx for your opinions. Whether she’s a player a not of cos I’m not sure. But she must be a very very free player to spam my hp with SMS all day from morning till night weekdays and weekends for 2 weeks until I asked her to stop which really made her very furious.
That’s when all hell broke lose /cry
Ignore her until she get over lah. Or send her this website link.Ask her send her problems here, we help you to tackle her.
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Seems like she is pretty possessive too....
better run far far away from her.....
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Originally posted by gunner77:
You sit back and relax
she will come to you.
Fishing ?
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She just buay song suddenly T.S did not act despo for her anymore mah. Just wait for a new man to tackle her next year she will not bother about T.S anymore de lah. Besides, TS is really too young to handle her.
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Yes... don't burnt the Forest....
becos of a OLD tree... don't worth it....
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Haha thx a lot for everyone's opinion I really appreciate it. Yeah.. Whatever mind games or whatever doesn't really concern me anymore. But I will still talk to her again after a month or so, afterall she's my hr manager. This morning we bumped into each other again and we greeted each other but she was stammering lol. In my mind I can only think " what's her problem?"
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Age is not a problem. like me i 50 years old angel7020 22 yrs old. we met at follumm and our love blosom until so red and swollen that the AWS was set aside as company fund to employees year end.
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Originally posted by Hseng25:
Haha thx a lot for everyone’s opinion I really appreciate it. Yeah.. Whatever mind games or whatever doesn’t really concern me anymore.
But I will still talk to her again after a month or so, afterall she’s my hr manager. This morning we bumped into each other again and we greeted each other but she was stammering lol. In my mind I can only think ” what’s her problem?”
Just ignore her lah. Let the better men kao her next year . She HR manager sure will see a lot of better men de lah.
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Originally posted by Summer120706:
Just ignore her lah. Let the better men kao her next year . She HR manager sure will see a lot of better men de lah.
Actually quite true, my HR manager is pretty popular with the office guys. She gets to meet many of them all the time. And a few hit on her on and off. More to come after CNY, when the company starts to recruit new workers.Bet she will be so busy choosing one for her Valentine.
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Originally posted by white.jewel:
Actually quite true, my HR manager is pretty popular with the office guys. She gets to meet many of them all the time. And a few hit on her on and off. More to come after CNY, when the company starts to recruit new workers.Bet she will be so busy choosing one for her Valentine.
Yes she is very popular with the guys in my company too. Thing is out of so many guys why is she so eager on the texting. I bet she has lots of work to do too and she could bomb someone else hp instead. 2 weeks of bombing my hp was a little too much. The only thing I can think of is that she is touched when I made fruit juices everyday for a week when she was ill. I confessed to her 1 day and after a few days later she kept texting me. She even MMS an old picture of hers to me and ask if her previous or current hairstyle is nicer etc. Though she was busy at this year end, she even suggested to take leave together to go USS. The most surprising thing is she told me who are the guys who confessed to her in the company and why she wouldn't consider them. I also asked why does she like me. She said i'm a cute, friendly shy guy. And now she seems to be trying to seek my attention. I really want to ask her why would she want my attention when she has EVERY guys attention in the company. -
Originally posted by Hseng25:
Yes she is very popular with the guys in my company too. Thing is out of so many guys why is she so eager on the texting. I bet she has lots of work to do too and she could bomb someone else hp instead. 2 weeks of bombing my hp was a little too much. The only thing I can think of is that she is touched when I made fruit juices everyday for a week when she was ill. I confessed to her 1 day and after a few days later she kept texting me. She even MMS an old picture of hers to me and ask if her previous or current hairstyle is nicer etc. Though she was busy at this year end, she even suggested to take leave together to go USS. The most surprising thing is she told me who are the guys who confessed to her in the company and why she wouldn't consider them. I also asked why does she like me. She said i'm a cute, friendly shy guy. And now she seems to be trying to seek my attention. I really want to ask her why would she want my attention when she has EVERY guys attention in the company.Well, since she is popular than the more you should just leave her alone and ignore everything about her. She will get the hint well and when the new and better guys come in, you will be history. She just need to accept that you are gone for good.I believe you are still seeking her attention as you revealed that you notice her glancing at you and all that. It may be some form of ego boosting for you but not for long.Trust me. Her current behaviour will not be permanent.
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Originally posted by Hseng25:
There’s this girl working in the same company as I am but in different depts. She’s a single 40yr old lady working in the HR dept and I’m a 29yr old guy. One day I found out that she was sick at home, I made her freshly made juices for a week and she texted me that she was actually very moved & thanked me. (Our normal way of communication is through texting as we work in different areas of the same company)
After a few days of texting casually, I confessed to her via text. Her first response was ” Are u pulling my leg? Do u know how old am I? If you were to know my age u wouldn’t talk to me again.” I told her I didn’t care about her age and she doesn’t need to tell me how old she is. Ever since then, I would always find a chance to pop by her desk with a smile and tease her a little. Our text messaging became very frequent. We would call each other up and chat on the phone for a while at night. We told each other to take this relationship slow and easy so we can get to know each other more and etc.
For 2 weeks, she was texting me a lot. From the time we start work till night and we’ll end with a short conversation. I tried to ask her out a couple of times but she says she’s very busy especially near year end, she suggested that we could take off from work 1 day and go out. She gave me a date but can’t promise me yet till she confirms her time table. (She’s genuinely busy near year end as she’s the manager of the HR dept and she is 24 hours on standby to run errands for the boss)
I asked her out for dinner after work a couple of times but she always told me she’s going out dinner with her LADY friends. She seems to intentionally say the word “lady” louder to make sure I don’t misunderstand. Even though she’s out with her friends, she would still constantly text me and call me at night before we head to bed. I got frustrated and wonder why does she prefers to go out with her friends than me, it seems she was playing hard to get. And her constant text messaging everyday kind of made me even more frustrated. Constant texting in terms of like every 10-15mins starting from 8am all the way to the night including weekends! She would text me about everything she’s doing and asking about myself as if we are both dating already. I’ve gently reminded her that i can’t keep up with her texting at work, she said to ignore her but the text never slowed down a bit. Frustrated and running out of patience, I told her ” Stop msging me again, I don’t intend to have a cyber GF.”
She stopped texting me ever since. She was absent from work the next day. Out of concern I texted her & called her but no replies. The next day at work, I popped by her desk to ask how is she. She ignored me and looked very upset. I bought flowers to apologize to her the next day at work. She texted me ” Thx and appreciate it very much but no need for flowers and your juices. We shall remain colleagues and friends and I’m not suitable for you.” I asked her whats wrong and she kept replying the same thing. I told her i know i made a mistake by sending that text that hurt her and not to judge me just on one text. I asked her why wouldn’t she give me 2nd chance. we haven’t went out alone with each other to feel each other but her response was the same. I got angry and told her its fine by me but i won’t even consider her as a friend anymore but just co worker thats all. She replied ” Don’t be so immature. thx. “
Next day, a co worker of mine had a chat with her. She suddenly pointed at my picture in the company photo and complained why am i so fierce and never smiled. Afraid of getting our co worker’s suspicion, she quickly changed subject. Few days later, I humbled myself and apologized to her. She replied ” Its not your fault, the problem lies with me. Its just that I can’t find myself to accept someone so much younger than i am and i wish we could chat like before.” But ever since then, every time I texted her casually she would take a long time to reply or never reply at all. Confused, I called her and asked her whats wrong and we ended up in a very very very bad argument.
Since then, I avoided her and stopped all contact for 3 weeks. Then one day we accidentally bumped into her other at the hallway, she smiled back at me and asked me not to be hostile. At first I thought she wanted revenge but i emailed her that night to apologize and she accepted it. We would still smile at each other at work and greet each other. Feeling regretful and desperate to rekindle the relationship before, I apologized to her through text like 2-3 times on different days.A few days later, I texted her asking how is she, she would coldly reply me. Feeling desperate again, I thanked her for forgiving me and saying sorry, she replied ” Stop msging me this kind of msg, my bf is getting pissed off.” (I knew she was lying cos she was out with a grp of colleagues at that time.)
After a couple of days at work, we bumped with each other at the hallway again. She gave me a nasty look. I told myself to forget about her and move on so I ignored her since then. But at work whenever she saw me she would do silly things like calling out very loudly to a friend of mine, interrupting our conversation. I had to pass by her work space today and she slammed her mouse loudly and signed. When ever she passes the hallway, i caught her several times turning her head to my working area. ( She knows its only me and one guy working at that area.) I would find her staring at me when I’m in the office. She would flirt with the guy colleagues at work. A co worker whom I told him about both of us said she’s obviously seeking my attention. I have no idea what does she exactly want. A few close co workers who are friends with her said that she’s already 40 and feeling lonely and that she’s extremely short tempered.
Sorry for my bad english and so much details but I hope you can get a clear picture of what i am going through now. The desperate and negative feelings i had is gone and I’m my old happy self but the things she is doing is annoying me. It seems the more i ignore her the more she wants to grab my attention. Yes i still have feelings for her as she is really a nice lady but her immature actions are actually lame. I have moved on from her but if there is a chance i really want to try to rekindle the relationship we had before and progress further. I know I made many mistakes like being short temperd and showing her my desperateness by apologizing to her 3-4x before. At the moment I’m still ignoring her but i still do greet her whenever we bump in each other at work.
I really don’t understand why is she doing this. Is she out for revenge now? Or did she regret of letting me go and trying to see what’s my response? Or is it both? I’m really confused.
Actually I am just wondering what's your issue; although you have stated clearly that you want to move on, but you still have feelings for her. I am just thinking if you are wondering if (1) you would like something to happen, but you don't know how to proceed from here or (2) you just want to avoid having this an awkward position with her?What is your intention? Is your desire outcome still a relationship?
Or you are already moving?
Cheers
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now still school holiday .
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That's how players work..
they cast nets and give u the impression that they like u.. it's exciting to them and sorry but u're just a pawn in the game.. she probably does that to the other guys too..
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Ts, she may not be perfect but u uttered that u were in love and now u sing a different tune altogether lah. Only u are privy to your thoughts n feelings. So much for love!
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Originally posted by Yunhaier: Actually I am just wondering what's your issue;
although you have stated clearly that you want to move on, but you
still have feelings for her. I am just thinking if you are
wondering if (1) you would like something to happen, but you don't
know how to proceed from here or (2) you just want to avoid having
this an awkward position with her?
What is your intention? Is your desire outcome still a relationship?
Or you are already moving?
Cheers
Im in the process of moving on.. Before I deleted her contact last night.. I texted her how I really felt and wished her all the best to her and her bf. She replied thx. I know I shouldn't have texted her but I just wanna have my final say. This morning she greeted me with a cheerful smile so I guess no more hard feelings between us. I guess u guys are right, she might be a player. A very pro experience player with lots of free time. It hurts... This is my first time I ever met such a lady. I guess I've boosted her ego already. -
She may not be the last player you are going to meet. Lots of ladies are players especially when they think they are hot commodities in the market. Cannot belief that you flirted with your HR manager, of all people. HR manager have access to yuor personal details, salary, address, resume. She knows how much you earn so she can judge if your pocket is big enough to satisfy her needs.
Yes she is testing the Market and you sure boosted her market value among would be pursuers.
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but acheri i prefer cats and spiders. cats you know very cute, male female all the same so chute. spideers i like them becasue after i take their photos magnified so big i see them so naked so hairy, so many cute eyes and so adorable - the more and more i liek them.
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Ah seng, for men, at 40s, is a true blown dragon, for women, is at 18yo, is a nice pick rose, by 40s, just a weed with a few petal to spare will be great. Couple with our cycle, menopause will be on the horizon soon. I know some guys like mature ones, most probably you are one of them, or otherwise, you are unable to attract the young ones, so end up with older ones, those that had gone by the wind and lights.
Leave those 40s ++ women to those uncles lah, you should be chasing girls like me in our early 20s. No wonder I am puzzle as to where the young sg guys gone to...
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