Can't forget my ex
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doesnt matter.
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Hey Sandy17, can I ask you something?
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Wrexbat, same pattern of posting as his clones . . .. . . . need I say more what this troll is up to in sgf. .. .................
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what?
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forget about ur bf, and meet me at the . . . . . .
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btw winsomeea,what r u talking abt?
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Originally posted by Sandy17sandy17:
btw winsomeea,what r u talking abt?
I noted a person here keep creating new clone accounts everyday to post nuisance to troll. Wrexbat is one of the clones.
BTW, I am glad you are moving on. Good luck. Relationship matter is complicated and not easy to handle. Take heart, I believe you will find a much better one.
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Darkness_hacker99 yes?
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How are you going to change your life for the better at this juncture in your life?
It's a personal question, it's okay if you don't feel like sharing... -
doesnt matter.
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And some reminders for you as you start your new life ...:)
(from the internet)
5 Reasons Not to Get Back with Your Ex
Whilst browsing HubPages, I've seen a lot of hubs detailing ways to get your ex back, ways to make him love you again, how to use voodoo to force someone into loving you for eternity, etc. But ironically, not too many words about the opposite advice.
Sometimes, it's not a good idea to get your ex back. When you love someone, this is a hard decision to come to. Some find it impossible and go back to the same person over and over again. But I'm here to tell you this isn't always the best decision for you. Whether you're waiting for the one you lost to change (ahem, see below for that one) or you just can't stay away, here are the top 5 reasons why you should NOT get back with your ex.
1) It didn't work out in the first place for a reason.
Think about why you broke up. Think about all the problems you had with your ex. Did his inability to keep a job drive you crazy? Was it her incessant flirting with other guys, despite her love for you, that made you end it? Or maybe you just fought constantly over everything from dinner plans to whether or not Pluto is a planet.
When you're considering rekindling that flame with your ex lover, think about what set you over the edge. What made your relationship unfixable. Is that something you really want to go back to? Time makes us forget all the bad and only remember the good--but you did break up with your ex for a reason. Consider those reasons before crawling back.
Much less sexy when you're alone...2) Living in the past prevents you from moving on.
You may find yourself wanting your ex back because you're currently in a rut. You think back to the good times and wish they were still happening--you remember moonlit dinners, trips to the Cape, and now you're only making dessert for one instead of two (and it's much less gluttonous to eat chocolate cake with others). We all get stuck in the past every now and then, and while a little nostalgia can keep us going in the really bad times, thinking about what happened long ago is no good reason to get your ex back.
Moving on is often the best medicine after a break up. Dwelling on what's already happened will never move you forward in life--imagine if we as humans were never able to learn from our mistakes. We'd be doomed to make the same stupid mistake for the rest of our lives. If we decided to pick a spouse who didn't appreciate us, we'd be constantly picking that same type of person forever. Doesn't that just suck? Use your ability to learn from your mistakes to make your next relationship better and healthier than your last, instead of repeating your last mistake.3) Sure some couples get back together and make it work, but how many examples are there?
You've seen it happen before. Your friend or cousin or best friend's bridesmaid's sister had a horrid break up, then she realized later that her ex was truly the one for her. And they got married in a huge ceremony and lived happily ever after. Good for them. But one example is not the norm--that's a huuuuge misnomer. And further, do you even know the details of why the example couple broke up in the first place? Maybe it was something silly. Or maybe they're just the exception.
Much more often, two people get back together and realize all those problems they had before haven't changed. He still doesn't respect her, and she still refuses to pay for anything. Those issues that caused your break up haven't changed. Nothing has changed. Getting back together usually only causes a rehash of why you broke up in the first place. Which then, leads to another break up.4) People don't change.
I know this is a controversial topic, but I'm willing to put it out there. PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE. Sure, maybe your ex would be on her best behavior for a few weeks if you got back together; but deep down to the core, she's still that same woman who you couldn't make it work with. I promise you, the chances of your ex changing this time around are next to nil. Now, yes people have the capabilities to change--it's not an absolute. People can change their clothes, their hairstyle, even aspects of their personality. But change has to come from inside yourself (and even if you want to change, it is DARN hard).
Your ex will not change for you. Her personality, her bad habits, the way she truly is when nobody's watching, 99.9876% of the time those are traits people won't change. You are much better off finding a partner who you don't want to change. A good relationship starts when you accept the other person for who they are, when all the walls are down, when you've seen them at their best and worst, and you love them just the way they are.5) Don't settle for somebody who couldn't keep you around in the first place.
Even if your ex was the one who initiated the break up and left you heartbroken, this main idea still applies. Either way, one of you wanted to break up and the other went along with it. There was something in your relationship that made it not work for one of you, so being with your ex wasn't exactly an ideal situation. So why should you settle for such a situation?
The bottom line is that there was a break up. Break up means something was wrong beyond the little annoyances. And all of this says that you can find someone better for you. Someone who won't want to break up with you, or who you won't want to break up with. Never settle or deny yourself future happiness. Even if you can't see it now, you will find someone else. You can find someone who treats you better than your ex did. But in order for that to happen, you have to move on and not get back together with your ex.----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Press forward! All the Best to you! :)
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Why did you even fell in love with him in the 1st place?
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doesnt matter.we can always learn from mistakes
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Originally posted by Sandy17sandy17:
He was really sweet and nice,you get what i mean.I thought it was ok for me to always initiate:)..but i gt sick of it.
why go out with someone who doesnt like you back?
You thought wrong my dear.Nobody reveals their true self in the 1st place.
You should go for the jerks, at least in the 1st place you knew they were jerks.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
You thought wrong my dear.Nobody reveals their true self in the 1st place.
You should go for the jerks, at least in the 1st place you knew they were jerks.
haha...now I know
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Originally posted by Sandy17sandy17:
He was really sweet and nice,you get what i mean.I thought it was ok for me to always initiate:)..but i gt sick of it.
why go out with someone who doesnt like you back?
it is ok to initiate lah.. but u jus initiated on the wrong guy lo... my take is that he nvr was really into u in the first place. But now that u've decided to move on... thats good! Nxt time probably get to know the guy real well... then initiate loh =D -
In my oriental conservative culture, a gal can never initiate the first, it will only lower our gal pride and status. Let the guy do the first initiation no matter how much you admired him.
Not only it save our gal's pride and status, at the end of the day, if parting take place, at least we can ask the guy to go and suck his own toes.
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angel7030 i agree with you.Some guys may even feel proud that a girl has initiated ..even go out with them when they dont really like the gal.It boosts their ego
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he dun like u ?
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Originally posted by HiAy3Captain:
he dun like u ?
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Originally posted by HiAy3Captain:
he dun like u ?
...-.-.. not that. I've heard from other gals. . -
I always believe in one thing - If you love a person, set him free. If he comes back to you, he is yours. If he does not, he is not meant for you in the very 1st place.
Letting go is not giving up . It just means you are moving on.
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For those in pain after a break-up- read this quote :
I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.
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and because of this quote.. I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was..many parting and divorce take place, because people cherish the young time, as time goes by, they only remember the young initial courting period, after that, it depreciated to nothing
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Originally posted by angel7030:
and because of this quote.. I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was..many parting and divorce take place, because people cherish the young time, as time goes by, they only remember the young initial courting period, after that, it depreciated to nothing
that sounds so depressing..
wouldn't both parties mature together? and see each other grow emotionally and accept the physical,emotional changes?