NS boyfriend
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Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:
I'm going to msia for compulsory family outing :(
I am still brain storming how to celebrate christmas...
can you help give me some suggestion where girls like to go and what to eat? -
Hmm... do you have a present in mind already?
For the event wise, I think a small simple affair would be better than squeezing with the crowd and paying an exorbitant price for a meal. Maybe buy roast chicken or something like that from Cold Storage or NTUC, a bottle of wine and then a small picnic? That's what I'd like to do if I could spend xmas with him.
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Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:
Hmm... do you have a present in mind already?
For the event wise, I think a small simple affair would be better than squeezing with the crowd and paying an exorbitant price for a meal. Maybe buy roast chicken or something like that from Cold Storage or NTUC, a bottle of wine and then a small picnic? That's what I'd like to do if I could spend xmas with him.
Present.... umm... I've compiled a wishlist from her already~Good idea!
but where would you go for a picnic? -
That's the main prob... Location... Must be somewhere that got shelter, table and chairs. If its a daytime meal maybe one of the pavillions in parks? Sentosa beach the pavillion not bad. Just not very private...
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what present you getting for your bf?
think about it already? -
Yup I'm making something for him. A plushie. Not sure if can complete before Xmas anot cuz super busy but shall try to :)
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Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:
Yup I'm making something for him. A plushie. Not sure if can complete before Xmas anot cuz super busy but shall try to :)
A plushie... omg! that's sweet!! -
Haha I'm trying to but dunno whether it'll work anot. I'll be back tomorrow! He's nagging at me to sleep early haha. Good night :)
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Good night and sweet dreams!
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Originally posted by FireIce:
KARA better lah
just nice. 1 each, mon to fri
sat ur gf
sun ur long lost fwen
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Best Answer la!
Jiyoung so chio.
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Haixxx he just booked in today.
I've got another problem. Its not a recent development but has been going on for almost half a year already. It feels like he's not really as into me anymore. We had a cold war because of it a few months ago but we made up. Didn't address the root problem, just pretended it didn't happen. I keep trying not to think about it but it is really bothering me a lot. Of course I didn't mention it to him. He has enough to deal with as it is.
It's really hard to miss him so much and try to do so much for him when I don't know whether is he serious or not. Even before he enlisted, he seemed so distant. Everytime we met up then, it was always me going to find him, me making the first move, me going out of my way to do something for him.
Even though I want to see him so badly and am really really happy when I do see him, it really feels like he's just playing along to make me feel good. And its worse when all the things that remind me of him while he's in camp are things he gave me before he started to act weird. When he was thoughtful, sensitive and really caring. Now it feels so one sided.
Really really depressed cuz there's nothing I can do now. No matter how sad I am, I won't ever tell him until he ORDs. Which is like 5 years. I promised him I'll stay with him until he says he doesn't want me anymore and I'm gonna keep that promise.
Just need some advice on how to cope with this. Been losing sleep. Really tired from pretending everything is alright.
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Cold war....
AnaxandraAvenel, have you thought about the root problem and try to come up with a more viable alternative solution? -
We haven't really managed to talk about it. To us it's like every moment is precious so we don't wanna waste it over unhappy stuff. It's kind of like avoidance I guess? This thing to solve is a two ppl thing and right now, dun wanna trouble him with unnecessary stuff.
Maybe I'm just sad that he just book in and temporary breakdown bah... Miss him so much alr.
-shakes head- Must not think of the bad stuff!!! Must think of the good stuff!!!
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Keep it positive~ there is nothing that you can't solved.
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i think u are bugging him too much. i went through ns life. i rather use my extra time to sleep or rest rather than sms my gf,sometimes i jus reply 1 or 2 sms and ignore the rest. unless i got alot of admin time then i will start to sms her. if not pls fk off don come and disturb my resting time. still this gf still the gf i used to be when i serving my ns.
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oh yea y wait for him at busstop? jus go his house isn't it better?after he book out ,ask him sms u and let u noe then u can travel to his house . anyway, u go his house also do nth y not wait till next day and then visit him?u let him send u to bus stop and worry so much abt u . u are giving him stress and pressure, not make him happy by seeing u. he is tired,he need rest. last time i visit my gf once a week .
i wash my clothes in camp,i don bring my barang barang home. easy come easy go. bring my wallet and phone and book out, thats all nth else.
as u mentioned u look for him . normal wat most of the time my gf came to visit me also.
xmas gift? i don think u need it. just buy him a condom and he will noe wat to do. guys are horny,let him refresh his sperm.he will like it and is the best present u can give.
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Hmm I was worried about that... Bugging him. Normally I just leave msgs like sleep well or jia you sms that dun need reply one. Maybe I should cut down?
He walks home from the bus stop so I feel that better to walk with him back. I help him with some of his laundry cuz he does it himself and I dunno, chat with him while he's washing so he don't feel sian cuz of his smelly clothes. Just that cuz of sending me home he need to rush and I feel bad. Haixx.
He washes some of his stuff in camp also. Just that use the washing machine is cleaner. And he don't have much time in camp to wash.
Ah no... The looking for him part was before the enlistment part.
Haha he is not like normal guys in that sense...
Thanks for the input tho :) need to get more opinions.
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Good morning!
Why not try to ask him if there's anything you can do for him as a gf?
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Hmm he didn't really say anything specific. I think he's being selfless bah. Like don't wanna tell me what he really wants. Ask him to tell me what he wants is like trying to squeeze water from a stone leh.
Oh noes... Maybe what I do really is bugging him and he just don't want to tell me it bother him cuz he's a nice kid :(
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Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:
Hmm he didn't really say anything specific. I think he's being selfless bah. Like don't wanna tell me what he really wants. Ask him to tell me what he wants is like trying to squeeze water from a stone leh.
Oh noes... Maybe what I do really is bugging him and he just don't want to tell me it bother him cuz he's a nice kid :(
He's a nice boy~ and you're a nice girl (trying to be even better).
Sometimes when my gf ask me things ar.. The reason why I don't want to tell her is because it doesn't change anything even after I tell her. >_<
But heart-to-heart talk is a whole different story. When my gf and I were heart to heart talking, it's more easier to speak out what's inside the heart.
How to HTHT leh? you must find the right environment, without much disturbance, and then chat with him. -
I also wanna HTHT with him but if anything cannot resolve, I dun wan him to bring it with him to camp. Probably after he POP during the block leave then try bah.
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Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:
I also wanna HTHT with him but if anything cannot resolve, I dun wan him to bring it with him to camp. Probably after he POP during the block leave then try bah.
yep~ That should be the right timing~ -
Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:
Haixxx he just booked in today.
I've got another problem. Its not a recent development but has been going on for almost half a year already. It feels like he's not really as into me anymore. We had a cold war because of it a few months ago but we made up. Didn't address the root problem, just pretended it didn't happen. I keep trying not to think about it but it is really bothering me a lot. Of course I didn't mention it to him. He has enough to deal with as it is.
It's really hard to miss him so much and try to do so much for him when I don't know whether is he serious or not. Even before he enlisted, he seemed so distant. Everytime we met up then, it was always me going to find him, me making the first move, me going out of my way to do something for him.
Even though I want to see him so badly and am really really happy when I do see him, it really feels like he's just playing along to make me feel good. And its worse when all the things that remind me of him while he's in camp are things he gave me before he started to act weird. When he was thoughtful, sensitive and really caring. Now it feels so one sided.
Really really depressed cuz there's nothing I can do now. No matter how sad I am, I won't ever tell him until he ORDs. Which is like 5 years. I promised him I'll stay with him until he says he doesn't want me anymore and I'm gonna keep that promise.
Just need some advice on how to cope with this. Been losing sleep. Really tired from pretending everything is alright.
Well, r/s is nvr fair 1 ma... at times u'll feel you are doing more... at times mayb he'll feel he's doing more.. but since u feel that there's some issue with the r/s. You shld probably find out the root cause and deal with it. While love is unfair, it takes efforts from both sides to make the whole r/s work.Good luck!
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i think being my gf during my NS time is the worst, so ultimately she left me...
Imagine, during my time , we dont mobile phone, and in camp the public phone is either always spoilt or being used. So i seldom call..
During x'mas eve can pak tor suddenly must return back to camp... On standby thorugh the CNY, and worst case, almost 3months never book out during weekend.. the most is just go home on weekday to sleep.. imagine book out on weekday at 9pm and must RTU by 7.30am...
so she suspect i have another gf outside and i bluffing her, she went to ask ard, no others NS in this way.. so ultimately she thinks i am cheating on her and left...
Vi va la SAF
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oh ya... why is he only going to ORD in 5 years time?