NS boyfriend

• AnaxandraAvenel

  3 Dec 11, 01:01

  My boyfriend just enlisted last month and I've been feeling emo cuz I miss the bugger a lot. But I'm worried that I'll annoy him by trying to do too much.

  
  

  So far, I've been waiting for him for the past book outs then go to his house together so he can wash his clothes and shower. Everytime, I'll help him out a little and if it's a Friday night, he'll send me home after he showers. 

  
  

  I heartpain when he rush to hurry wash clothes and shower so can send me home despite being so tired already. It feels like he wants to make up to me waiting at the bus stop for 2 hours for him to book out?

  
  

   Would it be better to not wait for him so he won't feel obliged to send me home and he can rest earlier?

  
  

  Another thing is, I've been sending him smses frequently while he's in camp and gave him photos and small gifts to bring in. I've also been writing letters but I'm not sure if I should give him those letters . I'm scared he will find them a nuisance since he ever say that he's not the everyday think of gf kind.

  
  

  Haixx dunno why but my biggest fear is that he will dun wan me anymore during ns. Cuz I'm too annoying.

  
  

  I dunno what he wants or needs and scared cannot make him feel better after the shit he goes through during training.

  
  

  Doesn't help that he doesn't seem to miss me much >_< how to not feel insecure??

• FireIce

  3 Dec 11, 01:03

  at his side, he oso worried tt u find a better boyboy when u go uni

• ThunderFbolt

  3 Dec 11, 01:10

  just be there whenever he wants a listening ear lor. and give him those letters, tell him to open them whenever he feels sian in camp. 

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 01:55

  This will happen to me in a few months time.

  Let me give you my 2 cents worth. Only SMS the positive time to him during admin time, at night when he have chance to rest. If you have negative things that you want to complain to him, it'd probably you keep it to yourself or flush the negative topics down the toilet drain.  

  As usual, show him support by telling him you're waiting for him when he book out and tell him that you miss him a lot. Because he's a newbie, his moral will be super low due to the amount of punishment he gets from his superior. I would suggest you not to talk about NS stuffs when he book out.  Even though you wanted to know a lot about his life inside, trust me, only ask him if he wishes to talk about it. If not, don't ask about it.

  I really like your idea of giving small gifts and photo while he's inside the camp. This gives him a lot of moral support. Good, keep it up~  What you need to do is to demonstrate to him that you're a caring girlfriend.

  Speaking from a guy's point of view, when he wants to send you home, it means he loves you.  Even though right now his financial are a little tight and can't bring you out, he doesn't want to tell you about that. My suggestion is, accept his offer to send you home. Thank him for sending you home and show him appreciation (hug kiss etc).

  Trust me, when his pay day comes (allowance deposited into his bank account), that weekend, you both will be going out for a nice dating + good meals.

   

  You mentioned that he doesn't seems to miss you much. I don't know about this but I can say that first few months of training is "TERRIBLE" and need some time for adaption to NS life. What you're seeing him now is he's placing his energy in the adaptation period of NS life. It doesn't mean he don't miss you or love you. He does miss you a lot  A few weeks later after he adapted to his new life, things will change for the better.

  Here's my golden take home advice for you. Have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him that you miss him a lot and assure him that you will be there with him for the next two years of his life. If he want to say anything, just cover his mouth and look into his eyes and give him a kiss.

   

  Best regards
  Chin Seng

   

  P.S. hope my gf is reading this post....

• Lord dejavu

  3 Dec 11, 02:01

  I dont think photos are a great idea. What if he masturbate at them? It's supposedly a chargable offence in camp.

• FireIce

  3 Dec 11, 02:07

  me fwens last time bring 周慧� and 王祖贤 pix to camp leh.........

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 02:13

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  me fwens last time bring 周慧� and 王祖贤 pix to camp leh.........

  
  umm... so I bring hyuna's picture?

• FireIce

  3 Dec 11, 02:24

  KARA better lah

  just nice. 1 each, mon to fri

   

  sat ur gf

  sun ur long lost fwen

   

   

  �天都多姿多彩

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 02:38

  I must well bring SNSD in.. still got extra two of them for the week~

• Chris88110

  3 Dec 11, 02:55

  Originally posted by Lord dejavu:

  I dont think photos are a great idea. What if he masturbate at them? It's supposedly a chargable offence in camp.

  Depends on your coy actually, my sergeant told me you all wan shoot whatever just make damn sure you clean it up.

• TIB868X

  3 Dec 11, 03:04

  bathe and sleep with him 

• DailyFreeGames.com

  3 Dec 11, 07:10

  Originally posted by FireIce:

  me fwens last time bring 周慧� and 王祖贤 pix to camp leh.........

  
  i bring your pic in so that all my camp mates angry can throw darts at it... hmph!!! because you lock my topic and never say why!!! hmph!!!

  I will put those amulets the chinese priest put on ziang shi forehead to prevent them from hopping, i put that on your forehead.

• DailyFreeGames.com

  3 Dec 11, 07:11

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  This will happen to me in a few months time.

  Let me give you my 2 cents worth. Only SMS the positive time to him during admin time, at night when he have chance to rest. If you have negative things that you want to complain to him, it'd probably you keep it to yourself or flush the negative topics down the toilet drain.  

  As usual, show him support by telling him you're waiting for him when he book out and tell him that you miss him a lot. Because he's a newbie, his moral will be super low due to the amount of punishment he gets from his superior. I would suggest you not to talk about NS stuffs when he book out.  Even though you wanted to know a lot about his life inside, trust me, only ask him if he wishes to talk about it. If not, don't ask about it.

  I really like your idea of giving small gifts and photo while he's inside the camp. This gives him a lot of moral support. Good, keep it up~  What you need to do is to demonstrate to him that you're a caring girlfriend.

  Speaking from a guy's point of view, when he wants to send you home, it means he loves you.  Even though right now his financial are a little tight and can't bring you out, he doesn't want to tell you about that. My suggestion is, accept his offer to send you home. Thank him for sending you home and show him appreciation (hug kiss etc).

  Trust me, when his pay day comes (allowance deposited into his bank account), that weekend, you both will be going out for a nice dating + good meals.

   

  You mentioned that he doesn't seems to miss you much. I don't know about this but I can say that first few months of training is "TERRIBLE" and need some time for adaption to NS life. What you're seeing him now is he's placing his energy in the adaptation period of NS life. It doesn't mean he don't miss you or love you. He does miss you a lot  A few weeks later after he adapted to his new life, things will change for the better.

  Here's my golden take home advice for you. Have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him that you miss him a lot and assure him that you will be there with him for the next two years of his life. If he want to say anything, just cover his mouth and look into his eyes and give him a kiss.

   

  Best regards
  Chin Seng

   

  P.S. hope my gf is reading this post....

  
  Yep, very very true... should put these up for every girls to see.

• Lokey

  3 Dec 11, 07:35

  Originally posted by AnaxandraAvenel:

  My boyfriend just enlisted last month and I've been feeling emo cuz I miss the bugger a lot. But I'm worried that I'll annoy him by trying to do too much.

  
  

  So far, I've been waiting for him for the past book outs then go to his house together so he can wash his clothes and shower. Everytime, I'll help him out a little and if it's a Friday night, he'll send me home after he showers. 

  
  

  I heartpain when he rush to hurry wash clothes and shower so can send me home despite being so tired already. It feels like he wants to make up to me waiting at the bus stop for 2 hours for him to book out?

  
  

   Would it be better to not wait for him so he won't feel obliged to send me home and he can rest earlier?

  
  

  Another thing is, I've been sending him smses frequently while he's in camp and gave him photos and small gifts to bring in. I've also been writing letters but I'm not sure if I should give him those letters . I'm scared he will find them a nuisance since he ever say that he's not the everyday think of gf kind.

  
  

  Haixx dunno why but my biggest fear is that he will dun wan me anymore during ns. Cuz I'm too annoying.

  
  

  I dunno what he wants or needs and scared cannot make him feel better after the shit he goes through during training.

  
  

  Doesn't help that he doesn't seem to miss me much >_< how to not feel insecure??

  Recruits dont have much personal time. From morning to night, the whole day is training. The only time that is "free" is when he book out on friday evening, sat, sun. 

  Dont stress the guy. And let him disappear for 3 months straight. He will have block leaves after that.

• AnaxandraAvenel

  3 Dec 11, 08:38

  Firelce: dun think he is TOO worried about that haha... Worried confirm will one but not very. Cuz I'm a bit weird... Our friends keep calling him gay cuz I'm like a guy >< he got weird taste lar.

  Thunderfbolt: Will have to try since usually I'm the chatty one and he listens. But he's been telling me about funny stuff that happens. I think I will give him the letters but must screen them and take out any that seems a bit emo...

  Darkness (cs): oh noes... Jia you!! Dun worry... He say that actually not that bad in T island resort. Except that his ippt keep failin cuz of stupid standing broad jump and he got fear of heights and the road march is super tiring. Dunno if he is trying to reassure me anot but he seems to be havin fun... 

  Actually that's why I'm a bit emo also. Cuz when I sms him or call him when he's free, I dun talk about all the stuff that's troubling me but try to make him laugh or encourage him. Before he enlist, he was my confidante and every time he will listen to me and make me feel better. But now I got no one to tell liao... Haixxx.... But I feel happy when he does get cheered up by my nonsense :)

  He's a cheerful guy and he seems to take all the tekan as good training (weird cutie><) he even thought of RT so that can train more (nearly kicked him when he said that) This one I know he is not fake one. He's too straight to fake this kinda things. He only emo when he barely passed SBJ and when he got road march.

  Haha I hope they can cheer him up in camp :)

  Super heartpain leh. He was coughing and had a bit of flu last night but still send me home. To and fro for him is like 2 hours. By the time he got home last night was alr 12+ and heavy rain. At the moment, finance is not a big issue just that he got no time... Especially since he got his other great love of his life: ygo.

  Hopefully things will change by the end of BMT bah. But he planning to sign on navy. OTL less time for me liao. But I support him lar. Did research and asked my seniors. For his objectives, it's probably a good choice.

  Thanks for the advice :) all the best for ns!!

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 08:41

  Good morning AnaxandraAvenel  Happy Saturday to you~

• AnaxandraAvenel

  3 Dec 11, 10:29

  Haha good morning and happy saturday to you too :) love Saturdays cuz I get to see him haha :)

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 10:31

  Hope you come back to this forum again next time

• AnaxandraAvenel

  3 Dec 11, 10:36

  Definitely!! The people here are really nice! Some of the other forums I've been to (not gonna name names ><) have really insensitive people.

  Lord dejavu: I'm not too worried about that. He a bit not like a guy in that aspect. Maybe cuz his house almost all females and not much privacy, he doesn't really have a habit of jacking off often. I have to remind him everytime cuz it's not good for his health to build up. 

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 10:38

  You're a caring girlfriend for sure!

• AnaxandraAvenel

  3 Dec 11, 10:44

  Haha caring is the nice word. The not so nice word would be neurotic.... Depends on the guy also bah. When he is as blur as my guy, I think it is more neurotic than nice...

• Darkness_hacker99

  3 Dec 11, 11:00

  neurotic....  I can tell that he's quite positive about his NS life, it is a good thing.

  So usually where do you guys hang out when he book out?

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  3 Dec 11, 11:40

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• BEARZAIS

  3 Dec 11, 15:02

  All of you love ur other half so much 
  
  mine abandoned me after i enlisted so filled with grief when i finished the 24km march,
  somedays during bmt i would email her,writing down mine thoughts and how much i missed her,i suppose all mine mails went into the junk folder........................
  no one turned out at the end,mine shoulder numb,mine feet sore and heavy.
  i felt so lonely ...for whom i had marched? for whom i had suffered?
  no answer,did not bother to think,went home shower,sleep.
  
  Before we broke up,she told me before...if you are an officer i would love you more,pick you out every time you book out,it was a casual remark ......but it affected me ,back then i replied what if i keng and be a clerk? 
  her response was dun throw mine face.....at least must be in a combat unit with rank or elite unit,dun be weak.......
  
  Now i am not an officer or a specialist
  i am a reece trainee
  i promised mineself to push mine limits to excel for we are the eyes and ears of our army
  upon the completion of mine course,i will don the jungle hat and finally earn the right to be called a reece and the right to eat with out queuing.
  I had a choice to stay put or to be a normal infrantry man,but i had decided that,there comes a time whereby every man needs to prove his worth,mine's here ,mine chance is here.
  
  At times where i really feel dejected,i wanted someone to share mine pain and joys ,your boyfriend would need your support even after bmt,it is in unit where the real thing starts
  
  till today i have a laminated copy of mine ex photo everytime when i really feel like giving out,i would look at it...........inside of me i thought to mineself...this is the women whom you love and treasured so dearly,and yet she feels that you are someone that is insignificant.Do you want to continue and prove that she is right?,are you weak?..
  something along that line,i am motivated both by mine ego's needs and mine pain.
  
  It is a very negative kind of motivation, and i hope that no one follows mine example....please support and love ur bf ,mine mates around me during their fieldcamp ,most of them received notes from their loved ones,in the admist of despair they laugh and cried at the same time,after that session everyone's morale went a knot higher.
  
  yea so i feel family support is impt ....
  
  Ahead Always, Reece