Totally broken after gf ended 3yr+ r/s.
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this is life...
life....
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glad that you have fucked her.
now, focus on improving your life first. Forget about that bloody bitch and move on dude! -
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That is the way it is and no one is wrong. However, I would add that is that you ''lost'' yourself in this relationship and moreover what has u suffering is that your sense of self came about thru her. What u have lost was never u and what u really lost was simply what u thought u were. She was adding value to u, adding meaning to u .... now it is gone. In other words, the props are gone. Now u have to deal with the ''real'' u as it is and hence the immense pain and sense of loss! Love never hurts, it is always needs/expectations that another fulfil me. Imagine both use the word love but behind it two are having needs/expectaations - it is most likely to be that of taking as much out as possible from this relationship and both have been reduced to commodities. Mutual benefit scheme is the reality of most relationships! Love is being vulnerable and the element of uncertainty is always there - hence the quickness of wanting to make it into a relationship or owning another one. Only understanding and hopefully unlearning that transforms, otherwise, that which is unreconciled will again repeat it self.
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maybe she only treat TS like a friend, but in TS view he thinks she is in love wiht her. when she finally come to realise TS intention, then she know she has to take immediate direct and draastic actions to end this. TS, is it like that? i hope your right in the mind?
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when you have done your best, and the outcome isn't what it is supposed to be, be happy anyway, because you have done your best and you still couldn't change the outcome... then it's best to move to other things... they say something like if there's something beyond your control, then there's no point worrying about it...
i dun think you should be afraid sg not enough girls right... i can easily introduce you some very pretty girls but they are materialistic, you want? i siam them and dun contact them but if you want i can pass you their number. other guys pls dun pm me, i won't entertain.
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aiyah cannot tackle say lah write until so many.
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@DRC - I'm not selfless, I cannot imagine her with someone else. I know it's stupid. @Kaylin - Thank you for the encouragement... with your first post. @Just_do_it_lah - Thanks, I will have a look at those 2 songs. Likely lead to tears. @jojobeach - Kind of true, but the imprints are everywhere. While life was plain previously, so many things are intertwined with her. Really many many things. @alize - I cannot confirm the effect of peer influence. But based on her side of the story, it seems everyone took their stand against me. It is sad if there was a significant effect. No, I'm not going to post her number here. Yes, from 16 till now she only has that 7yr r/s and 3.5yr with me. There's bound to be comparison, overlapping areas, sadly. @soleachip - I don't really have close friends. Maybe that's why I posted here. Can't tell the future, each hour and day seems to pass so slowly. No matter what I do, the emotions just can't be suppressed. @Fcukpap - I'm losing control of my emotions. My mind just keeps coming back to this. @Fugazzi - You are right. I lost myself in the r/s. She was the one I gave all my attention and time to. Expectations, I came to realize that near the end. There were many things she expected, some which I knew but failed to achieve. But there were some which I really did not know or had a totally wrong understanding of, maybe I feel 'aggrieved' over these. @troublemaker2005 - We weren't friends, but a couple. That is certain. @DailyFreeGames.com - Maybe I did my best for some things, but there is this deep regret over some which I failed to give my best or give what was expected. Or did but too late. I thank you all for your comforting, direct words and that you took the effort to reply. I'm taking this very, very hard right now. As much as I should try to move on, my mind is a blank and the hours and days pass by ever so slowly. A mixture of profound sadness at the outcome, anger at some of the expectations which I really didnt know of, regret and frustration at my failings which could have salvaged the r/s, and helplessness as I don't know what the near future and beyond holds... Refusal to accept the reality, possessive of her even when she's gone and knowing some guy will have her, her everything. It is so, so painful. My heart physically aches each time my mind thinks of every and any thing related to her... I can't stop it...
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强迫是没有幸�的
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dun take things too seriously. you should double date, in case one r/s fails, you got the other one at least.
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i agree with Ice, "强迫是没有幸�的".
sometimes in life, u just have to let go so that the other party can find his happiness. in relationship there is no 'first come first serve' nor anybody that is deemed to be with u.
i know its not so easy to let go, sometimes i do feel sad and cry, but life still moves on. if your life is on a halt because of her, then its not right.
she is trying to make u forget her too, since she have blocked u on social media. it probably means she doesnt want to consider giving u second chance too.
since she is doing this, why should u drag your life down because of her, right?
to the others, quit harping on the money matters. love is not a business, doesnt mean that there must be profits and returns. there is contribution in all relationships, i am sure the girl did her part too, not that i am trying to side her lah.
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You need to watch 那些年，我们一起追的女å©.
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Originally posted by Gerberad:
i agree with Ice, "强迫是没有幸�的".
sometimes in life, u just have to let go so that the other party can find his happiness. in relationship there is no 'first come first serve' nor anybody that is deemed to be with u.
i know its not so easy to let go, sometimes i do feel sad and cry, but life still moves on. if your life is on a halt because of her, then its not right.
she is trying to make u forget her too, since she have blocked u on social media. it probably means she doesnt want to consider giving u second chance too.
since she is doing this, why should u drag your life down because of her, right?
to the others, quit harping on the money matters. love is not a business, doesnt mean that there must be profits and returns. there is contribution in all relationships, i am sure the girl did her part too, not that i am trying to side her lah.
My life is on a halt, it's not right... but the void... is just so... huge...
My job has become stable, she was slowly easing into her new job. We had hopes for our future. But everything's dashed. I'm 29. I feel so tired. Felt so close to progressing to next phase of my life. Now it's no longer. I no longer have any faith and hope for another r/s. It just seems so far away, no idea if it will come, where it's going to come from. She's 27, no lack of suitors.
I feel so burdened, by the weight of deep regret, by the haunting thoughts of 'what-might-have-beens', by the fear of what lies ahead.
My life was mundane before. Being with her gave me a purpose. Now she's gone, it's mundane again, but every single second that I'm not occupied with something, my mind switches to emo and 'losing control' mode...
I'm sorry to have you all reading all my cry father cry mother stuff. I have nowhere else to release my thoughts and frustrations.
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Originally posted by risou:
My life is on a halt, it's not right... but the void... is just so... huge...
My job has become stable, she was slowly easing into her new job. We had hopes for our future. But everything's dashed. I'm 29. I feel so tired. Felt so close to progressing to next phase of my life. Now it's no longer. I no longer have any faith and hope for another r/s. It just seems so far away, no idea if it will come, where it's going to come from. She's 27, no lack of suitors.
I feel so burdened, by the weight of deep regret, by the haunting thoughts of 'what-might-have-beens', by the fear of what lies ahead.
My life was mundane before. Being with her gave me a purpose. Now she's gone, it's mundane again, but every single second that I'm not occupied with something, my mind switches to emo and 'losing control' mode...
I'm sorry to have you all reading all my cry father cry mother stuff. I have nowhere else to release my thoughts and frustrations.
Your NEGATIVITY will only attract people who are negative.
Perhaps that was what happened between you and your ex. Two negative people drawn together.Misery loves company. You feed off each other.
In time, a relationship borned of negativity is bound to implode.
Be positive, stay positive. When you do, negative people will seek you out, and the positive people will be attracted to you.
CHOOSE to be with positive people, surround yourself with them.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Your NEGATIVITY will only attract people who are negative.
Perhaps that was what happened between you and your ex. Two negative people drawn together.Misery loves company. You feed off each other.
In time, a relationship borned of negativity is bound to implode.
Be positive, stay positive. When you do, negative people will seek you out, and the positive people will be attracted to you.
CHOOSE to be with positive people, surround yourself with them.
You are RIGHT, same people attract same type of people, no wonder jojobeach attracts all the bangla who like to bang walls and drink pee... hmmm.. -
Originally posted by DailyFreeGames.com:
You are RIGHT, same people attract same type of people, no wonder jojobeach attracts all the bangla who like to bang walls and drink pee... hmmm..Yep, I am their only ray of hope in this dark inhumane island filled with people exploiting their body and souls - Singapore.
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Originally posted by risou:
My life is on a halt, it's not right... but the void... is just so... huge...
My job has become stable, she was slowly easing into her new job. We had hopes for our future. But everything's dashed. I'm 29. I feel so tired. Felt so close to progressing to next phase of my life. Now it's no longer. I no longer have any faith and hope for another r/s. It just seems so far away, no idea if it will come, where it's going to come from. She's 27, no lack of suitors.
I feel so burdened, by the weight of deep regret, by the haunting thoughts of 'what-might-have-beens', by the fear of what lies ahead.
My life was mundane before. Being with her gave me a purpose. Now she's gone, it's mundane again, but every single second that I'm not occupied with something, my mind switches to emo and 'losing control' mode...
I'm sorry to have you all reading all my cry father cry mother stuff. I have nowhere else to release my thoughts and frustrations.
Your life seemed to be revolving around her totally which shld not be the way. The key here is totally thats why when things fall apart it becomes a bit hard to take. i rmb u said u did wrong things too which u'll need time to make it right? wad are these things and was these things that lead to everyone else standing on her side? What we are reading here is a victimised point of view from your side and though it can be understood because of all the pain you are feeling, but if you are hoping for better relationships, it wld be good that you really know where u went wrong this time round.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Your NEGATIVITY will only attract people who are negative.
Perhaps that was what happened between you and your ex. Two negative people drawn together.Misery loves company. You feed off each other.
In time, a relationship borned of negativity is bound to implode.
Be positive, stay positive. When you do, negative people will seek you out, and the positive people will be attracted to you.
CHOOSE to be with positive people, surround yourself with them.
Our resident feminist is here to blame the guy.
Give it a rest, jojo? Rearrange a few "hims" and "hers" and you will be singing a different tune.
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Originally posted by alize:
Our resident feminist is here to blame the guy.
Give it a rest, jojo? Rearrange a few "hims" and "hers" and you will be singing a different tune.
that comment made by her is general larh... applicable to both male and female larh... dun like ppl also must be rational larh. -
aiyah take life easy lah. last time i go moller shoot got moller put me arrowplane i feel very hurt. but later i go along i learn a lot iof tihgs takes 2 hands to clap. not only in a relationship.
so whenever go moller agree to meet at a place for photoshoot, i arrange it so that my nature forest is nearby, and i bring all my macro gear. she dpon't turn up, i go into the forsest and voyeur on spiders and wildlife there.
mine mine my other photos sell better than human subjects 1, and also no need any money capital - now that's capital! well, maybe my Evelyn Tan photos can do better than all teh other moller wannabe ones.
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Originally posted by risou:
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I thank you all for your comforting, direct words and that you took the effort to reply. I’m taking this very, very hard right now. As much as I should try to move on, my mind is a blank and the hours and days pass by ever so slowly.
A mixture of profound sadness at the outcome, anger at some of the expectations which I really didnt know of, regret and frustration at my failings which could have salvaged the r/s, and helplessness as I don’t know what the near future and beyond holds…
Refusal to accept the reality, possessive of her even when she’s gone and knowing some guy will have her, her everything. It is so, so painful. My heart physically aches each time my mind thinks of every and any thing related to her… I can’t stop it…
It is better to have loved, and lost, than to never have loved at all.
At least you tried. And all that would go to waste if you want to mope from now on. Frankly, I think she want to remain single all her life.
You would still have 50 to 60 years left to live. Get moving. There is a girl out there who want to have a family, you can oblige her, and yourself. Look forward to raising your offsprings.
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yep, i usually calculate the accounts also.
so usually any girl for a start i will only invest in wet market hawker centre meals. after some time evaluation then i will spend more on her - smart right?
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probably this guy lost his verginity to that girl - lost money lost chaste
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
probably this guy lost his verginity to that girl - lost money lost chaste
How was it taking and giving chastity with angel?