TS can alway call or PM me, I can drive my BM or my Dad merc (if he go japan) to fetch you everyday , then we can also go oversea holidays, meet up every weekend, can also bring your child along, I call my maid to come along to take care of her. TS just paid for the trips, accomodation and foods, I do not mind the time, I just want TS wife to wake up.
So, if wife can get a guy fetching her here and there, TS also can get a chio gal like me fetching him here and there, so what if TS wife can go business trip to penang, TS can also bring me to HK or japan, I guarantee TS that within a month of doing what your wife is doing, you wife will be desparately be the first to want to talk to you and maybe she even get a PI before you do.
I alway call this reverse pychology
Your plan not very good ;) it may cause TS problem like requiring to pay 50% when caught going with you (and your maid).
Provided TS dun touch me or sleep with me, there is no way TS is going to pay the 50%, I can act as his god sister, and be witness to it, do you think his wife bf dare to stand as witness?
Originally posted by angel7030:TS can alway call or PM me, I can drive my BM or my Dad merc (if he go japan) to fetch you everyday , then we can also go oversea holidays, meet up every weekend, can also bring your child along, I call my maid to come along to take care of her. TS just paid for the trips, accomodation and foods, I do not mind the time, I just want TS wife to wake up.
So, if wife can get a guy fetching her here and there, TS also can get a chio gal like me fetching him here and there, so what if TS wife can go business trip to penang, TS can also bring me to HK or japan, I guarantee TS that within a month of doing what your wife is doing, you wife will be desparately be the first to want to talk to you and maybe she even get a PI before you do.
I alway call this reverse pychology
This kind of competition only works if the wife gives a shit to TS lah.
She already boh chap him when he talk to her already... you think she cares meh ?
TS treated her for granted.. she also take him for granted lor.
When was the last time you go to Airport ? You got see the whole family uncle auntie, grandpa grandma go send off a family member ? Go work one week only..that one is family love...
TS don't even bother to bring daughter send mommy off or welcome her at airport.. something is very wrong liao lah...
When was the last time TS date his wife out or meet her for dinner after work ? Probably never .....
alamak a woman with all the answers
"Assumption is the mother of all failures"
u must be tat mother of assumption
Originally posted by alize:My advise is whatever you do, whether you talk it out or not, hold the moral high ground so she has less claim from you in court.
If you can prove her infidelity you pay nothing, but if she can prove yours it's another matter. And you know Singapore only awards the money one way.
Heed this well. If she's the evil type, she'll try to screw you.
I was on leave the day she left for Penang. So I did offer to take cab to go to airport together with her since i don't own a car. She said, no need to waste cab fare. My daughter also can't her or welcome her back at airport coz she's in child care center.
When she left for Taiwan in Oct, it was a afternoon flight. I was at work, so couldn't send her off. Same thing when she returned, i was at work.
So it's not that don't bother to send her or welcome her back at the airport. It's either i was at work or she refused.
Everyday i walk my daughter to childcare center before i take MRT to work. My wife waits at home for her guy colleague to drive her to work.
Originally posted by Jlsky70:I was on leave the day she left for Penang. So I did offer to take cab to go to airport together with her since i don't own a car. She said, no need to waste cab fare. My daughter also can't her or welcome her back at airport coz she's in child care center.
When she left for Taiwan in Oct, it was a afternoon flight. I was at work, so couldn't send her off. Same thing when she returned, i was at work.
So it's not that don't bother to send her or welcome her back at the airport. It's either i was at work or she refused.
Everyday i walk my daughter to childcare center before i take MRT to work. My wife waits at home for her guy colleague to drive her to work.
Dude you are too naive, that's why she is cheating on you! It's not that she does not want to waste cab fare, it is because of other reason. Guys like you get run over.
Lets say you feel your cash do not tally up. Your wife is buying additional clothes, fashion accessories etc. You think she is pinching your cash.
Would you accuse her of stealing your money?
Your wife has a male colleague near by. She works overtime, and travels. She is disinterested in sex, and is dismissive towards you. You think she is having an affair. The opportunity is certainly there.
Would she? Will he?
Sometimes people fail, sometimes they don't.
Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:Dude you are too naive, that's why she is cheating on you! It's not that she does not want to waste cab fare, it is because of other reason. Guys like you get run over.
Actually i did insisted to go with her in cab, but she kept on refusing, giving all sorts of reasons not to like don't want to trouble me lar, let me rest lar, don't waste cab fare lar.... After a while, the guy just appeared and she left with him.
Only way out to clear your doubts is private eye. Spend the money to clear your doubts.
Divorce her to end your unhappiness. You have to move on.
Originally posted by Jlsky70:Actually i did insisted to go with her in cab, but she kept on refusing, giving all sorts of reasons not to like don't want to trouble me lar, let me rest lar, don't waste cab fare lar.... After a while, the guy just appeared and she left with him.
And you still need proof? Dude move on.
do it right in front of your eyes some more....
she is just waiting for you to make the first move to divorce her....
Originally posted by Jlsky70:Actually i did insisted to go with her in cab, but she kept on refusing, giving all sorts of reasons not to like don't want to trouble me lar, let me rest lar, don't waste cab fare lar.... After a while, the guy just appeared and she left with him.
Sadly, your case is one of "Too little , too late".
I have several divorced female friends who complained about the same thing.
Some times they wished their ex-husband had tried harder, before everything is set in stone. They are afterall women, and a woman's mind is fickle.
Life is like a river flowing, fluid and changing, adapting to the environment and through time, shape the surroundings.
It seems you are not interested to become a good husband, lame excuses after lame excuses, any woman will eventually tire of it. So then accept your fate and resign to the fact that you are incapable of making your woman happy.
You either step up and start being that lover your wife was promised, or you let her go seek the greener pastures you deprived of her.
Originally posted by jojobeach:Sadly, your case is one of "Too little , too late".
I have several divorced female friends who complained about the same thing.
Some times they wished their ex-husband had tried harder, before everything is set in stone. They are afterall women, and a woman's mind is fickle.
Life is like a river flowing, fluid and changing, adapting to the environment and through time, shape the surroundings.
It seems you are not interested to become a good husband, lame excuses after lame excuses, any woman will eventually tire of it. So then accept your fate and resign to the fact that you are incapable of making your woman happy.
You either step up and start being that lover your wife was promised, or you let her go seek the greener pastures you deprived of her.
wah.. how you know he is not interested in becoming a good husband? TS got make lame excuses which resulted in his wife "infidelity" meh? What has turn out wrong has to be both ways... cos it takes both hands to clap wad... and it somehow became "you are incapable of making your woman happy"? man you sure have alot of grudge against man.
TS, nothing much i can advise you since alot of ppl here has said alot of things which are already very useful. Only thing i wanna say is whatever you do, please try your best to minimise dmg to ur daughter. Children are innocent.
Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:
wah.. how you know he is not interested in becoming a good husband? TS got make lame excuses which resulted in his wife "infidelity" meh? What has turn out wrong has to be both ways... cos it takes both hands to clap wad... and it somehow became "you are incapable of making your woman happy"? man you sure have alot of grudge against man.TS, nothing much i can advise you since alot of ppl here has said alot of things which are already very useful. Only thing i wanna say is whatever you do, please try your best to minimise dmg to ur daughter. Children are innocent.
So obvious you cannot see meh ? When a marriage lacks passion, it lacks life. Hence it is now dead.
Few years ago..I know of a very sweet lady who had to divorce her husband due to years of neglect.
Prior to her divorce, she once said " I was never so lonely untill I married my husband".
Back then, I didn't understand what she meant, how can a marriage be "lonely" ? Isn't it a union of two people to forge a life long companionship ? Today, I understand what a lot of spouse had to go through when one spouse no longer wants to work on their marriage.
Complacency - Neglect.
When a marriage that young lacks passion.. it's bound for one destination- Separation.
While divorce seems like a convenient choice. It will also cause a lot of problems for TS later. Divorce does end an undesirable relationship between adults. But it also means TS will need to relinguish certain rights, being only half parent of his young child.
I suggest TS should try his best effort to woo his wife back. Salvage the marriage, don't let pride let it go to ruin.
,Originally posted by Jlsky70:Actually i did insisted to go with her in cab, but she kept on refusing, giving all sorts of reasons not to like don't want to trouble me lar, let me rest lar, don't waste cab fare lar.... After a while, the guy just appeared and she left with him.
The problem here is feelings. For a person to be rebuffed by his spouse and then see her go off with another man, is to receive a strong emotional blow. It is not flattering, but it is natural to feel anger.
She would also feel the same, if you ignore her and go off with a female colleague.
Such acts are down right inconsiderate, and it is certainly disrespectful to the other.
When there is no regard for another, the relationship is dead or half dead.
Two options. revive the relationship, or terminate it.
Either option require you both to work together.
Talk.
You can try watching for signs or setting traps. Eg.
1. Remember facts when she tells you in passing. Match them with facts when she tells the same story at a later date.
2. Sometimes you can ask about these facts, one at a time, gently and subtly.
Watch her for signs that she is impatient to change the subject, is nervous or hostile, or being outright ridiculous in her explanation.
3. Most drastic thing you can do is tell her "I know all about it (even when you don't know), go ahead and do it. I don't care as long as you don't outright humiliate me or I might react in a gave and unpredictable way".
Of course, that will tip her off and she might start taking measures to protect her financial interests.
http://www.ted.com/talks/pamela_meyer_how_to_spot_a_liar.html
Originally posted by jojobeach:Sadly, your case is one of "Too little , too late".
I have several divorced female friends who complained about the same thing.
Some times they wished their ex-husband had tried harder, before everything is set in stone. They are afterall women, and a woman's mind is fickle.
Life is like a river flowing, fluid and changing, adapting to the environment and through time, shape the surroundings.
It seems you are not interested to become a good husband, lame excuses after lame excuses, any woman will eventually tire of it. So then accept your fate and resign to the fact that you are incapable of making your woman happy.
You either step up and start being that lover your wife was promised, or you let her go seek the greener pastures you deprived of her.
Believe me, i tried.
On our anniversary and her birthday this year, i booked for dinner at restaurants at MBS and Orchard respectively. On both occasions she didn't turn up, i waited for more than 1 hrs and in the end she told me she couldn't make it as she has to finish her work. By the time i went to bed around 1-2am, she was not even home yet.
On my birthday this year which fell on a saturday, we were supposed to be celebrating at home. I had collected my birthday cake that we booked the day before. She came home late and went out barely half an hour later after singing the birthday songs with our daugther. I saw her left in her colleague's car waiting downstairs. She came home around 4am that night.
I've suggested we go for family tour together a few times. Each time she told me she's busy. This year she has gone for tour without me once and gone for working trips 6 times to places like Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia, Hong Kong and Shanghai.