how to tell dad I want spend own money
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Originally posted by Tmarcus:
Hello,
I am 15 this year, and I know I shouldn’t be asking much from my parents, but I want something really bad, I even saved up for one whole year, spending only $1.50 a day and going out with my friend only once a month.I have enough money to buy the thing I want, which is a new fishing reel and rod, total adds up to about $400, I currently saved $550. But how should I approach my father about this? He has been really busy lately, and I see him only in the morning, he comes home for dinner only 3 times a week, by the time he reaches home I am already in bed.
So I have pretty much not conversed with him for over 6 months..How should I 开� to him? I know you guys will say, save and put in bank bla bla bla, my bank account is not short on funds, and I want to get the feeling of spending my own money, after eating biscuits for lunch for a year..
Thanks in advace,
P.S. (Dont see me as a spoilt kid, I earn money by helping my mom clean the house every weekend, $5 an hour, xD).Dude as others said it is too much for a rod.
Then again don't tell your parents you have 550. They will take it back. Find something cheaper and buy it. Don't ask for permission.
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Okay, looks like I received negative feedback, this plan is on hold until I receive my first paycheck. I have fished for almost 4 years, thus the interest to upgrade my setup.. Its okay, save money for other stuff, emergency or bank in, we are shifting house soon, so maybe also can use for my own furniture, like study table, or TV. Can lessen Dad's financial load. Thanks for all the replies.
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You're an understanding boy
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Originally posted by gunner77:
He who stands out, has a vision.Who knows with the amount of foreign talent, in future singaporeans will return to the old ways of fishing as a livelihood.
You may be right.
Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime.
A fishing rod may be more useful than having Siri as your companion.
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Originally posted by charlize:
You may be right.
Give a man a fish, you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish, you feed him for a lifetime.
A fishing rod may be more useful than having Siri as your companion.
With a $400 reel ? I don't think so.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
With a $400 reel ? I don't think so.
A $400 reel makes you feel rich when you are holding it.
Whether you can catch any fish is another matter.
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Originally posted by charlize:
A $400 reel makes you feel rich when you are holding it.
Whether you can catch any fish is another matter.
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Originally posted by charlize:
A $400 reel makes you feel rich when you are holding it.
Whether you can catch any fish is another matter.
Does the fish tastes better when you feel rich ? I don't think so.
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Originally posted by Hitman Factory 1:
make sure produce good shit or u end up in cambodia like saSPARILLABOB ABOVE!
Make sure u produce good shit or u end up like the Traitor Hitman who failed his BMT and left to Oz, piggy back on his ang moh hairy step dad. -
Originally posted by Cassey1215:
Make sure u produce good shit or u end up like the Traitor Hitman who failed his BMT and left to Oz, piggy back on his ang moh hairy step dad.
traitor defintion is where one sells sensitive secrets of his country for a sum of $$$$$$.so far i have not done it.maybe you should ask the other 100,000 sporeans who had already left spore and are now in usa,canada,england,europe,australia and other developed countries.i didnt fail my army bmt.i passed it.maybe u should request to go to minister of defence n peek my files.
i got into oz under skilled c=visa category.u can look it up on website.cant be spoon feeding u from army stuff to even how to get a PR to doing a business.if u not meant to be in it.....dont force it in u.....being in imh would be extremely costly for folks like u who squandered all their lifesavings on 2 degrees which are not worth the money..u think im like u arrr???come from malaysia and piggy back on yer folks to get a spore citizenship.some more from the way u type n think i doubt u even attended any army bmt.not surprised they rejected u on grounds of insanity and extremely poor upbringing .
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psst.....u can have 20 degrees and all u ever will end up would be in a cargo plane fulla shit going to cambodia or some shitty 3rd world country .thats really where u shoud be in.
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:)
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heard in thailand,a prisoner there also studied full time and got a degree in prison.same as u.
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Wow! i used to clean the house in those great old day just a call from my mom. Never has $$$ sign in mindset. Purely based on loving one another amongst family and gratitude for the pain of 10 months pregnancy, upbringing and nurturing us from their unconditional love and care. Also giving pocket money to enjoy with friends and relative.
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@Whimsy : She's not my biological mother, we don't really like each other but have to respect her nonetheless..
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wow wow wow young kids... you need not be so mean right?
It doesn't matter it's biological or not..... It's the "feeling" that's most important. She got try her best to treat you like her own child?
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Originally posted by Tmarcus:
@Whimsy : She’s not my biological mother, we don’t really like each other but have to respect her nonetheless..
Oh, non biological mother, wee! that is good, you can have a mom and son kind of relationship stuff, my uncle hitman will tell you more about it. He is an expert in it. But having said that, you are more lucky than me, I got no mother since 2 or 3 years oldAnyway, when I was 12, I got interested in line skating, and the best Nike skates cost $500+, saw my friends used it, so envy of them. Broke my piggy bank and went to the bank to change those coin to notes, bloody bank do not allow me to do it, said that I am a junior, need guardian to accompany me, so I asked my maid for help, cos my granny is sure to object it. Maid changed and bought for me the skate, I give her $10 for helping me, she said not enuf for taxis, so i gave her $20, she said not enuf for lunch, so I gave her $50, shit maid, sacked her after I turned 13yo.
Then my Dad asked me, who bought the skate for me, it look expensive, I told her my best classmate went to china for a family holiday, she bought for me, it cost only S$20, fake nike. And he smiled and said, smart girl, I alway know my daughter is a smart gal, buy so cheap and yet so nice and further, use people to buy for her.
So, the lesson learnt here is, not to be truthful with adults, they are calculative and alway think they are right, give them the rights they wanted, but just enjoy your own life
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Oh, non biological mother, wee! that is good, you can have a mom and son kind of relationship stuff, my uncle hitman will tell you more about it. He is an expert in it. But having said that, you are more lucky than me, I got no mother since 2 or 3 years oldAnyway, when I was 12, I got interested in line skating, and the best Nike skates cost $500+, saw my friends used it, so envy of them. Broke my piggy bank and went to the bank to change those coin to notes, bloody bank do not allow me to do it, said that I am a junior, need guardian to accompany me, so I asked my maid for help, cos my granny is sure to object it. Maid changed and bought for me the skate, I give her $10 for helping me, she said not enuf for taxis, so i gave her $20, she said not enuf for lunch, so I gave her $50, shit maid, sacked her after I turned 13yo.
Then my Dad asked me, who bought the skate for me, it look expensive, I told her my best classmate went to china for a family holiday, she bought for me, it cost only S$20, fake nike. And he smiled and said, smart girl, I alway know my daughter is a smart gal, buy so cheap and yet so nice and further, use people to buy for her.
So, the lesson learnt here is, not to be truthful with adults, they are calculative and alway think they are right, give them the rights they wanted, but just enjoy your own life
only has stepdad.but seems like im the commanding officer nowadays.u dun need mom n dad.just a evil lookin robot with horns and a whip.
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Originally posted by Hitman Factory 1:
only has stepdad.but seems like im the commanding officer nowadays.u dun need mom n dad.just a evil lookin robot with horns and a whip.
eh..Uncle..Is that mend for saddist?. i mean those whip and horns and those leather tight suit..etcetc -
Originally posted by angel7030:
eh..Uncle..Is that mend for saddist?. i mean those whip and horns and those leather tight suit..etcetc
if u find a robot in leather tight suit nice,,,,,then by all meens. -
nowadays theres high chance u fish out dead person while fishing with a $500 fishing rod.
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Originally posted by Tmarcus:
Okay, looks like I received negative feedback, this plan is on hold until I receive my first paycheck. I have fished for almost 4 years, thus the interest to upgrade my setup..
Its okay, save money for other stuff, emergency or bank in, we are shifting house soon, so maybe also can use for my own furniture, like study table, or TV. Can lessen Dad’s financial load.
Thanks for all the replies.Lol. You can upgrade your rod. but are you able to upgrade your fishing spot?
I believe that $400 rods are meant for catching bigger fish out in open seas, from a boat, where you need stronger, lighter and longer rods.
There is no point if you are only restricted to coastal waters, fishing from piers and jetties where the fish are small.
Well, as for cash management, it's very good to save money, but I think you might be too tough on yourself. spending only $1.50 and eating biscuit everyday? That's not healthy nor sustainable.
There are 2 ways of saving money.
1) Sit there and scrimp on whatever meagre pocket money your parents give you.
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2) Go earn your own money. I believe it should be school holiday for you now. Go find a holiday job. You should be able to make close to $1000 in 1 month. And it would be more justified for you to spend your hard-earned money.
and lastly, word of advice. Try not to buy any big ticket items yet. While something might seem very "worthwhile" (e.g. fishing rods) at the moment, you might regret spending the money in the future, when you could have used it for something better.
Maybe you would like to learn driving when you turn 18, go for a backpacking holiday with friends when you graduate, getting a girlfriend, buy a car/motorcycle etc Just some suggestions.
Take some time, and figure out where and what you would be 5 years down the road, and den evaluate whether its worth it to make the purchase.
If you have good reasons, go ahead and buy it. No one will fault you when you have strong valid reasons, and its your life, your money anyway. Your parents care about you, and will only scold you when they think that you are wasting your money on frivolous "toys". If you have solid reasons, I'm sure they will support you, since its your life, your money.
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At the end of the day, do what you think you like, just dun go against the laws and one consciousness, that should be ok, whatever rods, from conrod to rod steward or solid rod, go ahead, as long as you are happy with it, why not?
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@Darkness_hacker99 No.. I don't feel the "love" a mother will provide to her son, instead it's more of a close friend kind of thing. I know I shouldn't be saying this but, she is really excited to bring her 3-year old son into Singapore for good, she will ask my Dad stuff like "Where will he sleep?", "What about his studies?" and "You should buy a bigger car!". I now worry about the stress my Dad have to face man.. It's one more mouth to feed and provide for. Really tarnishes the image I have of marriage..
@deathmaster I mostly do fishing in ponds, have you seen the sizes of the fishes in there? Anyhow.. I couldn't really justify why I have to buy them in the first place! Fortunately I posted my dilemma here, otherwise I could be regretting my decision by now..
@angel7030 Thanks for the detailed replies. I will take them into further consideration to prevent any rash decisions, perhaps it's just a sudden temptation, work of the devil, haha!
Once again, a big Thank you for everyone who bothered to take time in writing such detailed solutions!
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Tmarcus
you so young and very understanding.