he is married, also a flirt

• fibytprsu

  3 Nov 11, 22:25

  Originally posted by M874:

  It's ok to me, cut off or keep contacting, I can get more friends if I want, whatever, I dun care, and the singaporean man I mentioned cutted me off for so many times. and everytime he just come to me and ask me to talk to him again, that's crazy. anyway I can get as much friends as I want why should I be bothered by that?

  It just I feel so afraid to meet so..so...so... many new friends, dun wanna be hurt ever again.

  You need time after the nasty encounter.    No rush to know people.    Be wary of men of negative motive and desperados.

• bom-pi-pi

  3 Nov 11, 22:26

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  hi bom pi pi  you will come back in dec right?

  i hope I havent gone in  (NS)  

  haiz~~ :(

  
  nevermind, i will wait for u @ 1-Altitude
• Mr Milo

  3 Nov 11, 22:26

  Originally posted by M874:

  It's ok to me, cut off or keep contacting, I can get more friends if I want, whatever, I dun care, and the singaporean man I mentioned cutted me off for so many times. and everytime he just come to me and ask me to talk to him again, that's crazy. anyway I can get as much friends as I want why should I be bothered by that?

  It just I feel so afraid to meet so..so...so... many new friends, dun wanna be hurt ever again.

  
  Relax....there is no rush

  slowly build up the friendships........

  if me, i start off with those i am more familiar or comfortable with

• M874

  3 Nov 11, 22:29

  Originally posted by Mr Milo:

  
  Relax....there is no rush

  slowly build up the friendships........

  if me, i start off with those i am more familiar or comfortable with

  To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!

  THANK u for ur help and post.

• Fugazzi

  4 Nov 11, 01:24

  Originally posted by M874:

  
  I feel like I can't trust any of them, and I don't think I'm familiar with any of them.

  so, when I feel this way, I might just say to myself "ok, just forget all of them and be alone"

  
  If one does not trust in oneself (in one's ''love'', which actually is not love but something else misconstrued as love, hence the lingering doubt about another's) the likelihood is of fear-based ''love'' emanating from onself surfacing in situations/circumstanes as fear of being hurt, being abandoned n being suspicious and always wanting to be assured and hence the anthematization of love. TS,' love never hurts and never disappoints. It is one's expectations, one's needs, one's longing to be included when not reciprocated or fufilled turns sour which certainly is nigh impossible for anyone to fulfil for much too long. It gets worse when two are in the same predicament and yet dont know of their .... it is using these so-called friendhsip or ... to get as much from each other - for how long?
• gigabyte14

  4 Nov 11, 04:53

  he wants sex

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 08:24

  Originally posted by Fugazzi:

  
  If one does not trust in oneself (in one's ''love'', which actually is not love but something else misconstrued as love, hence the lingering doubt about another's) the likelihood is of fear-based ''love'' emanating from onself surfacing in situations/circumstanes as fear of being hurt, being abandoned n being suspicious and always wanting to be assured and hence the anthematization of love. TS,' love never hurts and never disappoints. It is one's expectations, one's needs, one's longing to be included when not reciprocated or fufilled turns sour which certainly is nigh impossible for anyone to fulfil for much too long. It gets worse when two are in the same predicament and yet dont know of their .... it is using these so-called friendhsip or ... to get as much from each other - for how long?

  To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!

  THANK u for ur help and post.

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 08:24

  Originally posted by Fugazzi:

   

  Thanks

• [imdestinyz]

  4 Nov 11, 10:34

  Originally posted by M874:

  It's ok to me, cut off or keep contacting, I can get more friends if I want, whatever, I dun care, and the singaporean man I mentioned cutted me off for so many times. and everytime he just come to me and ask me to talk to him again, that's crazy. anyway I can get as much friends as I want why should I be bothered by that?

  It just I feel so afraid to meet so..so...so... many new friends, dun wanna be hurt ever again.

  
  跌倒了�会学习走路.

  It is hard or practically impossible to remain unhurt in terms of r/s or trying to find a r/s. But when hurt then u will learn how to better protect urself ma.

  Meeting new friends and widening social circle gives u better chances of finding a right one ma. Whether ppl say that you are fishing for sg man anot... if you know you are not then there's no nid to take what they say to heart ma.

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 11:07

  Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:

  
  跌倒了�会学习走路.

  It is hard or practically impossible to remain unhurt in terms of r/s or trying to find a r/s. But when hurt then u will learn how to better protect urself ma.

  Meeting new friends and widening social circle gives u better chances of finding a right one ma. Whether ppl say that you are fishing for sg man anot... if you know you are not then there's no nid to take what they say to heart ma.

  有些心烦MA

• [imdestinyz]

  4 Nov 11, 12:21

  ��性情�达，心烦之事原本就�必剪�断，�还乱。

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 13:16

  Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:

  ��性情�达，心烦之事原本就�必剪�断，�还乱。

  
  看���都是性情�达之人

• [imdestinyz]

  4 Nov 11, 13:25

  �达与�，全在�人。我也�是登堂而未曾入室。

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 13:44

  Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:

  �达与�，全在�人。我也�是登堂而未曾入室。

  
  好文绉绉啊。。。还是说英文得好

• [imdestinyz]

  4 Nov 11, 14:07

  ur chinese supposed to be better than mine ma.... damn... my chinese probably too lousy for u to understand T_T

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 14:17

  Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:

  ur chinese supposed to be better than mine ma.... damn... my chinese probably too lousy for u to understand T_T

  
  No lousy at all, but sounds like ancient. Or written by someone who is more than 60.

  Every Singaporean can speak excellent Chinese lah~

• [imdestinyz]

  4 Nov 11, 14:25

  not really...my chinese really aint that good. man u make me sound old... and how come u know all the lah, leh lor frm sg? u sure u frm china?

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 14:34

  Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:

  not really...my chinese really aint that good. man u make me sound old... and how come u know all the lah, leh lor frm sg? u sure u frm china?

  To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!

  THANK u for ur help and post.

• Fugazzi

  4 Nov 11, 16:36

  Originally posted by M874:

  Thanks

  
  Ts, Whether the other is lying or being honest is of no consequence. That is for the other to deal or not deal with.. as long as you live your ''truth'' it makes a difference to one's living. As to what it is (truth) no one can give u answers nor are there rite answers. All is relative to what is. It is when one knows, understands and yet willing to risk and love - one is free. Many here are suggestive of the so-called mythical ''rite'' person. There is no such person cos all of us evolve or regress. It is a subjective expereince and one would come away wiser if one is being ''rite'' ( not to be confused with righteousness!) and the need to search for miss or mr ... ceases. Mature love shares, immature love begs for ... whichever it is one way or another all of us go thru that phase but what matters is to unlearn and if a ''mistake'' was made not to repeat it.
• M874

  4 Nov 11, 16:46

  Originally posted by Fugazzi:

  
  Ts, Whether the other is lying or being honest is of no consequence. That is for the other to deal or not deal with.. as long as you live your ''truth'' it makes a difference to one's living. As to what it is (truth) no one can give u answers nor are there rite answers. All is relative to what is. It is when one knows, understands and yet willing to risk and love - one is free. Many here are suggestive of the so-called mythical ''rite'' person. There is no such person cos all of us evolve or regress. It is a subjective expereince and one would come away wiser if one is being ''rite'' ( not to be confused with righteousness!) and the need to search for miss or mr ... ceases. Mature love shares, immature love begs for ... whichever it is one way or another all of us go thru that phase but what matters is to unlearn and if a ''mistake'' was made not to repeat it.

  Well, still gotta learn, maybe I'm just not as wise as u do.

• Darkness_hacker99

  4 Nov 11, 16:47

  Share with you something I wrote nearly 4 years ago.

  Can be found at: http://sgforums.com/forums/1189/topics/305533

   

  爱： 暗�
  
  我有一�好�曾�说过：
  
  “ 爱，是当你看到他时，你会çª�然觉得兴奋。
  
  爱，是当你看到自己喜欢的人高兴时你就会高兴，当他�高兴时你就会和他一样�高兴。
  
  你会猜想为什么他ä¸�高兴呢，也希望自己能去关心他。”
  
  
  我想... 爱一个人就是这ç§�感觉å�§ã€‚æš—æ�‹å…¶å®žä¹Ÿæ˜¯ä¸€ç§�爱；这是一ç§� ‘å�•æ–¹é�¢’ 的爱。没人知é�“，没人会问，没人会董，å�ªæœ‰ä½ è‡ªå·±å¿ƒé‡Œæ™“得。以当局者的心情æ�¥è¯´ï¼Œè¿™æ˜¯ä¸€ä»½æœ€ç—›è‹¦çš„爱。æ¯�天默默地盼望ç�€é‚£ä¸€å¤©çš„到æ�¥ï¼Œå¸Œæœ›å¥¹èƒ½æ„Ÿå�—到你对她的那份爱。
  
  默默地支�与鼓励她，在需�人�她的烦�时，你都会在她身边�。当看到自己最心爱的人失�时，你的心就和她一样的痛。这时，深为好朋�的你，会去�断地安慰她。当她高兴时你自然就会和她一样高兴，苦瓜�了也觉得�蜜糖一样甜。
  
  å°±åƒ�我常说的 “爱一个人好难，å�¯æ˜¯æœ€ç—›è‹¦çš„是没让她知é�“你喜欢她”。这份 ‘ä¸�敢表白的爱’ 将会是暗æ�‹è€…心里的一个伤å�£æ°¸è¿œä¸�会æ�¢å¤�，直到心有å�¦çˆ±ã€‚å¾�人都å�Žæ‚”当出为什么没表白，看æ�¥æˆ‘也是其中一个。
  
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  你心里时时刻刻都会想�她。�尔会问她今天心情如何，�饱了�，等等。你生命就�是多了一篇文章，而这就是 《爱的写说》。里�记载了你和她的故事，你对她的感想，爱与承诺。
  
  我深信在æ¯�一个人的爱心深处都会有这一本写说。在时间的带动下，这本书å�ªä¼šä¸€å¤©æ¯”一天厚。在你生命的这段难忘日å­�里，你似乎找到了你失去的自己。‘她’ 就是你的生命，而 ‘她’ 也是你活在这世上的ç�†ç”±ã€‚
  
  你会留�她的喜怒哀�。脑海里�尔会散过你们以��常在一起的日�。从第一次你们想�，到第一次在一起看电影，你都会记得清清楚楚。
  
  爱一个人其实需�很大的勇气。�有勇气去�你最深爱的人表白，也�有�大的勇气去�对表白�的结果。也许问题是出在暗�者生上�，害怕被拒�的滋味所以��敢表白。�或许是跟本�懂得到底什么是爱； �懂得则么和自己喜欢的人沟通。
  
  è¿™ç§� ‘想爱’，å�ˆ ‘ä¸�敢爱’， å�ˆ ‘ä¸�懂爱’的心情ä¸�是所有的人能体会和了解的。
  
  对于鼓起勇气表白而被拒爱的人�说，我认为他们�到的伤是无法用三言两语�形容的。心痛得有如万剑刺心，一直�断地在�血。走在细雨中，眼泪就�破碎的心血，直�脸颊。心里的难过，似乎�能用泪水�说明心是那么地脆弱。
  
  暗�的越久，痛得就会越深。
  
  å’³~ 我å®�å�¯ä¿�æŒ�现有的å�‹æƒ…，也ä¸�想为了一点 ‘误会’ 而丧失å�šæœ‹å�‹çš„机会。如果å�šä¸�了情人，以å�Žå½“两人è§�é�¢æ—¶éƒ½ä¼šæœ‰é‚£ä¹ˆä¸€ç‚¹å°´å°¬ã€‚而建立多年的å�‹æƒ…，在那一刻的表白，会化为乌有。朋å�‹ä¹‹é—´çš„å�‹æƒ…å†�也ä¸�会比以å‰�深。
  
  该走的路，是�忘记她�？

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 16:51

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  Share with you something I wrote nearly 4 years ago.

  Can be found at: http://sgforums.com/forums/1189/topics/305533

   

  爱：暗�
  
  我有一�好�曾�说过：
  
  “ 爱，是当你看到他时，你会çª�然觉得兴奋。
  
  爱，是当你看到自己喜欢的人高兴时你就会高兴，当他�高兴时你就会和他一样�高兴。
  
  你会猜想为什么他ä¸�高兴呢，也希望自己能去关心他。”
  
  
  我想... 爱一个人就是这ç§�感觉å�§ã€‚æš—æ�‹å…¶å®žä¹Ÿæ˜¯ä¸€ç§�爱；这是一ç§� ‘å�•æ–¹é�¢’ 的爱。没人知é�“，没人会问，没人会董，å�ªæœ‰ä½ è‡ªå·±å¿ƒé‡Œæ™“得。以当局者的心情æ�¥è¯´ï¼Œè¿™æ˜¯ä¸€ä»½æœ€ç—›è‹¦çš„爱。æ¯�天默默地盼望ç�€é‚£ä¸€å¤©çš„到æ�¥ï¼Œå¸Œæœ›å¥¹èƒ½æ„Ÿå�—到你对她的那份爱。
  
  默默地支�与鼓励她，在需�人�她的烦�时，你都会在她身边�。当看到自己最心爱的人失�时，你的心就和她一样的痛。这时，深为好朋�的你，会去�断地安慰她。当她高兴时你自然就会和她一样高兴，苦瓜�了也觉得�蜜糖一样甜。
  
  å°±åƒ�我常说的 “爱一个人好难，å�¯æ˜¯æœ€ç—›è‹¦çš„是没让她知é�“你喜欢她”。这份 ‘ä¸�敢表白的爱’ 将会是暗æ�‹è€…心里的一个伤å�£æ°¸è¿œä¸�会æ�¢å¤�，直到心有å�¦çˆ±ã€‚å¾�人都å�Žæ‚”当出为什么没表白，看æ�¥æˆ‘也是其中一个。
  
  很多人在他们的一生中中会�试过暗�一个特别的人，而那�感觉真的很难形容；有时甜甜�酸酸�苦苦。当你看到自己喜欢的人时，你会觉得心跳加速，脸红，有时也会有缺氧。你脸上的笑容就�是从心里�出�的。哈哈�打了肾上腺素（Adrenaline）就是那�感觉�。
  
  你心里时时刻刻都会想�她。�尔会问她今天心情如何，�饱了�，等等。你生命就�是多了一篇文章，而这就是 《爱的写说》。里�记载了你和她的故事，你对她的感想，爱与承诺。
  
  我深信在æ¯�一个人的爱心深处都会有这一本写说。在时间的带动下，这本书å�ªä¼šä¸€å¤©æ¯”一天厚。在你生命的这段难忘日å­�里，你似乎找到了你失去的自己。‘她’ 就是你的生命，而 ‘她’ 也是你活在这世上的ç�†ç”±ã€‚
  
  你会留�她的喜怒哀�。脑海里�尔会散过你们以��常在一起的日�。从第一次你们想�，到第一次在一起看电影，你都会记得清清楚楚。
  
  爱一个人其实需�很大的勇气。�有勇气去�你最深爱的人表白，也�有�大的勇气去�对表白�的结果。也许问题是出在暗�者生上�，害怕被拒�的滋味所以��敢表白。�或许是跟本�懂得到底什么是爱；�懂得则么和自己喜欢的人沟通。
  
  è¿™ç§� ‘想爱’，å�ˆ ‘ä¸�敢爱’， å�ˆ ‘ä¸�懂爱’的心情ä¸�是所有的人能体会和了解的。
  
  对于鼓起勇气表白而被拒爱的人�说，我认为他们�到的伤是无法用三言两语�形容的。心痛得有如万剑刺心，一直�断地在�血。走在细雨中，眼泪就�破碎的心血，直�脸颊。心里的难过，似乎�能用泪水�说明心是那么地脆弱。
  
  暗�的越久，痛得就会越深。
  
  å’³~ 我å®�å�¯ä¿�æŒ�现有的å�‹æƒ…，也ä¸�想为了一点 ‘误会’ 而丧失å�šæœ‹å�‹çš„机会。如果å�šä¸�了情人，以å�Žå½“两人è§�é�¢æ—¶éƒ½ä¼šæœ‰é‚£ä¹ˆä¸€ç‚¹å°´å°¬ã€‚而建立多年的å�‹æƒ…，在那一刻的表白，会化为乌有。朋å�‹ä¹‹é—´çš„å�‹æƒ…å†�也ä¸�会比以å‰�深。
  
  该走的路，是�忘记她�？

  
  Thanks for sharing, Does Singaporean also know Chinese character?

  I though u only speak Chinese, but do not right or read Chinese.

• Darkness_hacker99

  4 Nov 11, 16:55

  4 years ago, I was more capable in writing chinese. Now.... I can only write my name + a few simple chinese words. Thanks to google translator, I am able to write in chinese language more often.

  Singaporean are bilingual; meaning they learn English as their first language and Mother's Tongue as their second.

• Darkness_hacker99

  4 Nov 11, 16:59

  I suddenly feel a sense of achievement by you coming back to sgForums after your 30th post.  so happy now!

• M874

  4 Nov 11, 16:59

  Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:

  4 years ago, I was more capable in writing chinese. Now.... I can only write my name + a few simple chinese words. Thanks to google translator, I am able to write in chinese language more often.

  Singaporean are bilingual; meaning they learn English as their first language and Mother's Tongue as their second.

  
  I think Singaporean are not bilingual but multilingual, most of them can speak more than 2 languages, is that right?