he is married, also a flirt
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Ts, How is it possible for one who is himself/herself unahappy to give or purport to give when oneself lacking/not having it. Human mind is cunningly rationalzing that it is seem so 'rite' when the reality is that of delusion. Understanding this may avail oneself to 'answers' that relates to one's predicament: love abides absenting fears and reason to love. When the latter is present it is not love at all but unfulfilled needs and expecations within onself rearing its head. Love is a sharing of what one is - and that is that of being eg kind, loving, patient or ...unfortunately beggary (lack of 'self'-love) tries to give what was never there and as such it most likely to end up as a mutual benefit scheme. In other words, i do this for u and u do this for me - it is simply trying to love and bound not to happen cos it awaits conditions and the list can simply go on ad finitum!
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Originally posted by M874:
I don't know, I just want him to be happy, even now I still feel the same, I mean I do feel unhappy about what he had done, and complained about that, but deeply in my heart I blame myself for all these. I think it is my fault, all my fault...I wrote him a E-mail, telling him I feel sorry for what I have done, I shouldn't let him know I love him, anyway he is married, that's my bad. I don't have to have him, I just want him feel happy, if he is happy to be with his wife, then I will feel happy for him, no need to have him or have sex with him, that is also what I kept telling him all the time. But he couldn't understand me, he thinks I'm so weird which makes me feel I'm really weird. Does he lack of love? I don't know, but the things which I can give him is not what he want.
I'm so incurable, I don't feel angry with him at all, I just feel so sad about myself, I really wish that he really liked me or loved me because of who I am even just for a minite.
All of above behaviour and thoughts are all wrong. He is the shameless bastard, not you.
This type of thinking is wrong and must be disapproved, they can't be approved.
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
Ts,
How is it possible for one who is himself/herself unahappy to give or purport to give when oneself lacking/not having it.
Human mind is cunningly rationalzing that it is seem so ‘rite’ when the reality is that of delusion.Understanding this may avail oneself to ‘answers’ that relates to one’s predicament: love abides absenting fears and reason to love.
When the latter is present it is not love at all but unfulfilled needs and expecations within onself rearing its head.Love is a sharing of what one is – and that is that of being eg kind, loving, patient or …unfortunately beggary (lack of ‘self’-love) tries to give what was never there and as such it most likely to end up as a mutual benefit scheme. In other words, i do this for u and u do this for me – it is simply trying to love and bound not to happen cos it awaits conditions and the list can simply go on ad finitum!
I don't think it is necessary to have something in return while be in love. If you love someone his/her happyness is the only thing you want, isn't it? -
Originally posted by M874:
I don't think it is necessary to have something in return while be in love. If you love someone his/her happyness is the only thing you want, isn't it?But he already married. He reduced you to became a third party slut. How?
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He's using the most powerful tactic man ever create; when can't convince, confuse.
You're in a state of confusion.He's the type of guy that will go outside that jiak (affair outside) even when he has a wife. He has a very high sex drive which the wife probably didn't satisfy him enough or their sex life has already died.
Please do not be the next victim and allow him to do this to other girls (including people you have known). Stop this immediate and tell his wife that he's eating outside. Even if you can't save yourself, you still can save other innocent girls. Every girls also have parents who love them a lot and don't want them to be hurt.
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Originally posted by Dalforce 25:
But he already married. He reduced you to became a third party slut. How?
To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!
THANK u for ur help and post.
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Originally posted by M874:
I think this is my fault cos I knew he is married in the very beginning, he never lied to me about that, though he used my feeling. but still it is me who fell in love with him. I didn't know I will have a crush on him, it's against my principle to love a married man. But he knows me so well, what he said to me are so touchingHe see that you are new bird, young and naive, praise a bit become shiok, easy to manipulate, so he targeted you.
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Originally posted by Dalforce 25:
All of above behaviour and thoughts are all wrong. He is the shameless bastard, not you.
This type of thinking is wrong and must be disapproved, they can't be approved.
he is a shameles bastard? Enlighten us , Sir.he is a man and it is his genetic duty to impregnante as many women as possible. He is the man. As for OP she is too stupid. A local for sure.
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Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
He's using the most powerful tactic man ever create; when can't convince, confuse.
You're in a state of confusion.He's the type of guy that will go outside that jiak (affair outside) even when he has a wife. He has a very high sex drive which the wife probably didn't satisfy him enough or their sex life has already died.
Please do not be the next victim and allow him to do this to other girls (including people you have known). Stop this immediate and tell his wife that he's eating outside. Even if you can't save yourself, you still can save other innocent girls. Every girls also have parents who love them a lot and don't want them to be hurt.
To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!
THANK u for ur help and post.
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Originally posted by Bio-Hawk:
he is a shameles bastard? Enlighten us , Sir.I think I was wrong. He is an angel. We must all follow his example. Those married already please go out hunt down young girls and have affairs with them like Jack Neo.
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Ts, One could be in love with the feeling of love n being loved. That in intself is not necessarily loving the other.It is the appreciation that one receives and ti an opiate and creates dependency. The giver is the pusher and the one who receives becomes an addict! One has to be self-honest abd that is not easy n nigh impossible cos, falling in love - is the collapse of what one is as opposed to what one thinks one is. I would never say it is wrong to fall in love, but i would add that it essentail that one never makes decisions or act out one's emotions impulsively cos the tendency is to succumb ti one's felings. Love never destroys relationships/marriages or ... but something else pretending love. Most likely needs/expectations is the mainstay n in the long run pain/misery/fear/anxiety awashes(dominates) the psychological landscape and it is constant conflict. One who respects himself/herself would not want that for oneself nor want it for another especially more so when one purports to love. Only being self-honest and understanding these conditionings and lack of ... may free oneself and enhance another's ....
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Originally posted by Dalforce 25:
He see that you are new bird, young and naive, praise a bit become shiok, easy to manipulate, so he targeted you.
To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!
THANK u for ur help and post.
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Originally posted by M874:
That is not the strategy he used, he asked about my childhood, my family, my hobby, and he knews where is my weakest point, he can even imitate my writing style.He is a seasoned player. So how's your childhood like? I curious about life in China.
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Originally posted by Dalforce 25:
He is a seasoned player. So how's your childhood like? I curious about life in China.
To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!
THANK u for ur help and post.
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
Ts,
One could be in love with the feeling of love n being loved. That in intself is not necessarily loving the other.It is the appreciation that one receives and ti an opiate and creates dependency. The giver is the pusher and the one who receives becomes an addict!One has to be self-honest abd that is not easy n nigh impossible cos, falling in love – is the collapse of what one is as opposed to what one thinks one is.
I would never say it is wrong to fall in love, but i would add that it essentail that one never makes decisions or act out one’s emotions impulsively cos the tendency is to succumb ti one’s felings.
Love never destroys relationships/marriages or … but something else pretending love. Most likely needs/expectations is the mainstay n in the long run pain/misery/fear/anxiety awashes(dominates) the psychological landscape and it is constant conflict.One who respects himself/herself would not want that for oneself nor want it for another especially more so when one purports to love.
Only being self-honest and understanding these conditionings and lack of … may free oneself and enhance another’s ….
Maybe you are right, I have to learn more from all of you, thank you very much for your help -
Originally posted by Dalforce 25:
He is a seasoned player. So how's your childhood like? I curious about life in China.
To protect my privacy I hv to delete it, sorry!
THANK u for ur help and post.
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what are you doing in singapore?
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He talks like he's the only guy in the world.
With such an attitude, you can expect the sex will be bad.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
what are you doing in singapore?
I'm not in Singapore, I think u didn't read the previous posts. -
Originally posted by M874: I'm not in Singapore, I think u didn't read the previous posts. That man is in China now, and he is a singaporean.
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nothing's wrong being single. -
Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99: nothing's wrong being single.
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Originally posted by M874:
Yup~but being single for too long....that's not cool look forward in life! -
Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99: look forward in life!
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Originally posted by M874:
Yup~but being single for too long....that's not cool
You will start feeling "old"~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~