I realized that I am indeed alone
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Originally posted by mancha:
When you grow up and became independent, you should have build up your bond with family and friends. You do that by your actions and maintaining contact. Small acts or gestures repeatedly through the months, years would be more effective than a big favour one time only. If you live selfishly alone, don't expect a crowd when you need help.
Look around you, why some people have family or friends who quickly come around, some have no one. Honestly look at their personality.
The early signs would be when you are shifting home, how many volunteers can you muster up. When want to hold a function, how many helping hands can you get. When your PC suddenly die, do you call a friend? Do you have a friend? From these you can gauge how much you bonding you have build up with your family or friends.
Don't blame them, because you neglected yourself with them, and in time of need, there is no one.
You can't rely on them, because they can't rely on you.
Actually thread starter's situation is quite common, especially in cities like SG
it's a all for myself situation--ur doing what u can to live better
for me, i have my own life to lead, so not much bonding with my friends although i do turn up for gatherings
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U only good in making milo drink, we also do not expect much from you, buy a foreign bride and live happily everafter.
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people got a life lah like youmeh always need to jio friends? like that you have to find those friends also samam samam 1, so if you have 10 losers no lifers bond together, you won't feel so sad and hegative about your low lifers life any more
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Originally posted by angel7030:
U only good in making milo drink, we also do not expect much from you, buy a foreign bride and live happily everafter.
will u marry me? -
Kick that milo tin far far away, good for putting joss stick only
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yes, we are indeed. tats way we r an individual n unique
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you can be alone, but not lonely. you can be alone in a crowd of friends even.
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if they never help you, when they need help, I suppose you wont help them isnt it.
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Reminds me of a song.. du du du....
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with parnie around with me, i can nv feel lonely..
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Hey.. isn't that Parn's picture ? Man.. I miss Parn. Another online character crushed and destroyed under the almighty ban hammer.
OH THE HUMANITY ! Why,,, WHY!
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Home Alone, Part 3
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=epf4zWTar7M
^This song helps to overcome loneliness. Try to finish it. :)
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
people got a life lah like youmeh always need to jio friends? like that you have to find those friends also samam samam 1, so if you have 10 losers no lifers bond together, you won't feel so sad and hegative about your low lifers life any more
Once married, friends will be become lesser and lesser. Cos you will want to go home after work, talk to your wife and see your children. As for friends, no time for them already.
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Originally posted by likeyou:
Once married, friends will be become lesser and lesser. Cos you will want to go home after work, talk to your wife and see your children. As for friends, no time for them already.
I have this happen. After about 5 years though they wish they hadn't. By then it's too late^^ -
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This is unbecoming, why don't your brothers help? Even if there is bad blood but this is life and death!
Anyway, don't worry you are not alone. I think all those who think they are alone should get together and form the "WE ARE NOT ALONE" club.
Good luck!
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some people chose death because they see no meaning in life and the problems they faced....
some people, as young as 18 or 19, chose death by revolution because they cannot face the country they love locked in chains of hopelessness...
for our time, loneliness is a failure to see what we can do, but what our forebears had done..
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Facebook makes us lonely. =(
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Originally posted by BadzMaro:
Hey.. isn't that Parn's picture ? Man.. I miss Parn. Another online character crushed and destroyed under the almighty ban hammer.
OH THE HUMANITY ! Why,,, WHY!
Not bad-looking worh
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As one identifies less and less with the "me", one will be more at ease with everybody and with everything. Do you know why? Because one is no longer afraid of being hurt or not liked. One no longer desires to impress anyone. Can you imagine the relief when one does not have to impress anybody anymore? Suffering points to a misconception somewhere. Suffering occurs when one clashs with reality. When one's illusions clash with reality one's beliefs, one's conditionings clash with the truth, then one suffers. Otherwise there is no suffering There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs (aka conditionings/conceptualized models of ...) one has in one's head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to one to question them. One's vision will become clear only when one looks inwards ... One who looks outside, dreams. One who looks inside, awakens. Ps - Loneliness misconstrued as aloness is unwise! The former is alienation from onself, disconnected from one's own self (hardened self - one's preserved self has becomes one'' own prison!) and nothing will cure except being in congruence with reality and by reality I mean coming to terms with one's own lack of .... and till that is not understood or reconciled - one may be inclined to do things, have company but it is merely a facade cos one is actually (wanting) to escape one's misery, one does not have th courage to face the fear. When the fears of ... are faced, understood, reconciled - one would not feel ''better'' straight away but that knowin in intself would be a stepping stone to transform and free one!