this is life. there are people worse off than you are. whatever your situation, I cant tell you what to do, as it is your life. I can only give you pointers or suggestions, its up to you to heed it or otherwise.
Originally posted by Igor12:???. This is a dig, right? You people dont meet at all, right? I am new at this.
meet?? sure, we even slept and book rooms together, we are so close as a team
Originally posted by angel7030:...... you will become more extrovert than you can ever control.
Dun join SPCA, there you only meet animals, your interaction should be with human especially gals, not animals
hehe.
Joining SPCA i a start to find people with the same interest, which is a start. Becoming friends with people at work is good, but not essential...so try other places to find friends, social interest groups, sports clubs (or whatever else u r interested in).
Also like u said, first time on social media, so who knows.
Everyone has their own characteristics, so be yourself and I;m sure there are ohers that will click...just depends how hard u want to try to look 4 them.
ts, try to engage in small short talk with your colleagues just for a start.
good point.
even though they may not become the best of friends, it will be good if u r able to at least form a good working relationship with your work collegues.
so even though there is a 'you vs them' feeling, maybe try to counteract those thoughts when you are about to make a decision that involves them. i.e. if they see that u are not being hostile, then they might open up too.
one thing about relationships, whether family, friends or colleagues. you need to make an effort to communicate with them. usually relationship problems comes when one or the other party doesnt connect or even communicate properly, resulting in a lot of misunderstandings.
I reckon you are poor in communication with others. you need to make an effort in this. alot of others, including me, are poor in communication, be it explaining your point of view, concept or even listening. hearing and listening are not the same. you may hear, but you did not take down the gist of the message. you may also be selective in hearing, ie you want to hear what you wish to hear and block out other messages you do not wish to hear.
But then, becareful, most of the message given by govt people, frens, relatives, colleagues and especially bosses is meant to con you into doing something out of your will, communication is good, no doubt, but learnt to listen carefully, the gist of it can make you suffer later, you need to digest it, analyse it before you decide if the gist of the message is for real or for making use of you, Like me, boss, use to give those good message like making money, good bonuses, better paid increase, but end up, after processed the profit and loss, not much cashflow left, so, no choice, got to con the staffs, if not, how to motivate them to work harder.
Same like our govt, alot of gists in their messages before election, then after election, the gist become cheeze and start to melt down, so, dun alway trust the gist of a message ya
Originally posted by Loor:good point.
even though they may not become the best of friends, it will be good if u r able to at least form a good working relationship with your work collegues.
so even though there is a 'you vs them' feeling, maybe try to counteract those thoughts when you are about to make a decision that involves them. i.e. if they see that u are not being hostile, then they might open up too.
You need to form allies in your work to help you with your workload.
Try to get friendly with them occassionally and then slowly blend to them.
If there's anyone who wants to celebrate my bday, I'd tell them no pls. It's come to a stage where it's just another day and that I'm getting older. Do you have kids? Maybe you don't have, so you look for some sort of fulfilment outside.
Igor, Just don't give a damn about fitting in or catching up.
Just be proud of who you are. So what if you have no friends. You are alive, you are working, and is good at that. Just look forward to getting more things done well, and be proud of that.
Its not you lifestyle thats lousy, its you thinking that it is lousy, when you don't know how to appreciate yourself.
You can struggle with yourself, and in the end, you will realise, after a lot of anguish, that there is nothing wrong with you. Thats when you are old and have white hair. Remember, wisdom? Wisdom will set in, and you will realise the foolishness of youth.
Save yourself the anguish.