Hi people out there. I think I'm in trouble. Though it took me 39 years to realize it. It seems I got a problem keeping friends. Just realize I have never celebrate my birthday with anybody except with my wife. Seriously doubt my co-workers know or want to know my birthday. I alway felt I can't fit in. Neither with the pub-going, smoking guys, or with the studious guys in my poly days. So in the end, I'm always alone. Now in working life, I also don't know how to fit in with them. Things got worse since I got promoted. Just realize how bad it is just now when I saw video they post going out with older guys who join the company later then me. So it must be something wrong with me, right?I think I need to see a shrink or something. Going to join SPCA as a volunteer as it is something I always enjoy, cause the dogs and cats there are always happy to see you. I seriously don't know whats wrong with me. Needs some help here. Actually I don't know am I posting in the right place or not.
just be yourself and do the things you enjoy. you can heck care the views of others. You need to understand, you are only accountable to yourself only and no one else. you doesnt owe anyone a living or explanation on your behaviours.
I have heard this humorous joke, share with you. when you begin to turn 40 or 50, you heck care what other people think or say of you. when you begin to reach 60, you realised that nobody seem to care or say about you anyway.
what u need to do is relax and dun worry. you worry too much, period. you are suffering mentally and emotionally, for nothing. you can choose to be happy or sad, or miserable or feel good. the choice is yours to take.
you mean we dun have problems of our own and is problem free at the moment? even the rich as their own problems and headache.
Look at the bright side. Somebody dont even have a wife and ridden with illness....
While you still have wife beside you..
well, will thinking about it improve your present situation? ya you are sick physically, but you are not sick mentally are you? as for your job, you still have a choice ie start looking for other jobs and dun leave without one. apply until you finally found one if your boss does not appreciate you at work.
I heard that when K Sri Dhammananda( a monk in Malaysia in his 80s), who passed away a few years back, was told by his oncologist that he had cancer, he started laughing about it. his doctor was taken aback by his attitude, as most of his cancer patients, when told that they had cancer, either broke down, worried sick or depressed.
Hi people out there. I think I'm in trouble. Though it took me 39 years to realize it. It seems I got a problem keeping friends. Just realize I have never celebrate my birthday with anybody except with my wife. Seriously doubt my co-workers know or want to know my birthday. I alway felt I can't fit in. Neither with the pub-going, smoking guys, or with the studious guys in my poly days. So in the end, I'm always alone. Now in working life, I also don't know how to fit in with them. Things got worse since I got promoted. Just realize how bad it is just now when I saw video they post going out with older guys who join the company later then me. So it must be something wrong with me, right?I think I need to see a shrink or something. Going to join SPCA as a volunteer as it is something I always enjoy, cause the dogs and cats there are always happy to see you. I seriously don't know whats wrong with me. Needs some help here. Actually I don't know am I posting in the right place or not.
If I am you, I be happy for what I have and not to bother jelousy other ppl can mix around. its a personality problem that you can't just turn the leaf overnight. Either you are in it or you are not. Some ppl are born to be chatterbox but thinking yourself being a not is a sickening thing, just be who you are and mix with the right group of ppl you be at ease then forcing your butt around.
Perhaps I dunno both sides of the story, but I know relationships are more than 2 sided.
Don't try to conform to the norm since you are not. Nothing from the rest has satisfy you why worry about it now?
If you feel somewhat deprived or missing out, I suggest you do something to mend the relationship.
"If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him."
By Sheldon Kopp.
There is no "cure".
Just accept yourself as your are.
Be happy as your are.
Do not strive to be what you are not.
there is nothing wrong with you, actually - except that you are not really skillful in the art of relating to people at work and socially....take up social interaction classes and activities....
it has something to do with how you were brought up in an enclosed environment...a lot of people do not know how to open up themselves and relate socially except only with family and a selected few people in their lives...surely, your dog/ cat/ goldfish has nothing to do with whats wrong....
if your wife can marry u, that is a blessing point that she appreciates your personality and character,...all u need is to open up yourself to more people...be more interested in people and their surrounding ....
dun just dwell on social medias...meet real people...
Dnt think of it too much. Some people like to be alone.
Dun worry Igor, you can come joo chiat and visit me, once you visited me, all your social and introvert behavor will be solved, in fact, you will become more extrovert than you can ever control.
Dun join SPCA, there you only meet animals, your interaction should be with human especially gals, not animals