Unfaithful husband getting liberal access to children
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My sister is going through a painful divorce now. Not only did the husband commit adultery, he was practically absent from the children's life for the last several years. During the divorce, not only was my sister working hard to take care of the children emotionally and financially.
What caused me most concern was that the court granted the husband 4 days access weekly to the kids out of the blue even though in the past he only saw them every other week. This has turned their lives upside down as now, instead of a stable weekly routine, they are now tired and morally confused.
The husband has intention to continue to work in China, remarry in China and wants to reduce the amount of money he gives in support of the children. All this while he tries to appear like a 'good father' in front of the children.
How do you deal with this ?
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if he is in china, how is he going to manage to actually 4 days per week access to the children?
and i mean physically...
so think about these things..
sometimes, decisions made and how they can be carried out are mutually exclusive
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the ex-husband relli so eng to see the kids full 4 days?
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Has he indicated that he wants to exercise the rights?
i can nvr understand why someone who didn't want much to do with others (kids in this case) suddenly change their mind after a decision in a court. Unless there were issues with the other party.
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maybe ur sis need a better lawyer
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Make sure the lawyer is not your husband's buddy.
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The lawyer must be really lousy 1 considering that singapore law favours woman in a divorce
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If her husband cheated, I am sure ur sister was not so good in bed/full time nagger.
Why did you miss out the part where the he was paying alimony to your sister?
Youalso want to make your sister's husband look bad infront of his children. Tells a lot about you as well.
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TS, you mean your sister has been paying all the expenses for the children and expenses for the household whhile her hubby did not? Can have anything to support this?
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Your sister could have overlooked this - if ONLY she had furnished (with photos and irrefutable evidence attesting to his so-called adultery) prior to the divorce in the fmaily courts - he would have never not got access. Understand this lah, all that can be disputed in courts will be cancelled out as long as one furnished incontrovertible proof of what one utters or claims. Otherwise, all these wishing and wanting is waste of energy and utter folly.
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Should relook the case again and gain more solid evidence.
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the judge is really smart. obviously he knew that the husband doesnt really want to maintain contact with children or care for them, but in giving such a sentence, he is actually forcing the husband to meet his children. well if he doesnt do so, your sister could appeal and show evidence to court that he hasnt been doing so, and then get full custody and more alimony from him. by that time, the children would be older and also know that their father dont care about them. the children could also speak up to the judge during the appeal, and your sister would win by a larger margin.
in such a situation, dont be confused. look further down the road.
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Originally posted by Gerberad:
the judge is really smart. obviously he knew that the husband doesnt really want to maintain contact with children or care for them, but in giving such a sentence, he is actually forcing the husband to meet his children. well if he doesnt do so, your sister could appeal and show evidence to court that he hasnt been doing so, and then get full custody and more alimony from him. by that time, the children would be older and also know that their father dont care about them. the children could also speak up to the judge during the appeal, and your sister would win by a larger margin.
in such a situation, dont be confused. look further down the road.
The court makes child support the responsibility of both parents, simply because both are responsible for children they bore. Regardless of fault.
Alimony is different.
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And I am sure there is another side to the story.
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sigh the children so sad...like me
very innocent
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what ever happen, the kids suffered the most, that is why I use to tell all gals out there, make sure you marry a man, not a wolf, if you cannot find a man, then stay Single.
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Thanks to all the comments and support. With regards to the maintenance, finally the courts ordered him to pay and he has started again.
Again, thanks to everyone's support. Never easy, this divorce thing.
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your feeling is more important than the well being of the children?
for the sake of the children think u should SHUT THE FUCK UP
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Yeah lor.
I made a comitment to stay single forever
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It over, so please diam diam
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Originally posted by angel7030:
what ever happen, the kids suffered the most, that is why I use to tell all gals out there, make sure you marry a man, not a wolf, if you cannot find a man, then stay Single.
This is what i say to all the guys: If you cannot find a good, girl stay single. They will have kids with you and then take all your money and screw others. -
Or, these guys will hv sex with you without any protection, but hold no responsibility for any transmission or pregnacy, then end up, you borne their babies and they heckcare about you and your baby, so end up, you can go and choose which reservoir you want to end it
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They shy to buy condom, so they buy Coca Cola.