expat feeling lonely and bored
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Originally posted by angel7030:
if Baba- go istana
didnt noe got Baba in UK
the angmo mixed with indian - chocolate?
n speaks Indish n eat curry & chips? -
Originally posted by lce:
didnt noe got Baba in UK
the angmo mixed with indian - chocolate?
n speaks Indish n eat curry & chips?
u very familiar with UK? -
If one is 'friendly', there is no problem at all. However, if one is seeking ... lots of conditions have to be fulfilled - and that is nigh impossibe more so when one is already considiering himself/herself as coming from ...
Self-consciousness is always an obstacle. It is akin to a fish looking for the sea!
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
If one is 'friendly', there is no problem at all. However, if one is seeking ... lots of conditions have to be fulfilled - and that is nigh impossibe more so when one is already considiering himself/herself as coming from ...
Self-consciousness is always an obstacle. It is akin to a fish looking for the sea!
so r u suggesting to flush him/herself down the toilet and see if they end up where they want to be?! -
Originally posted by Loor:
so r u suggesting to flush him/herself down the toilet and see if they end up where they want to be?!I am implying that as long as one does not reconcile to what is lacking within oneself (aka unrecognised/unacknowledged conditioning, expectations, needs) ,one bound to feel lonely, one is bound to be bored. The ''solution'' is to reconcile to that aspect within oneself and still have friends or whatever one does. Otherwise - whatever one does or has (is only ''good''/'workable'' to some EXTENT) - all are psychological props and sooner than one knows anxiety or anguish would the the mainstay cos one cannot guarantee that things/people outside of oneself would remain the same. This is the predicament of many and sadly many are oblivious to that aspect that dominoes one's being.
Otherwise, the same vicious circle and cycle!
PS Words in quotes cos there are no absolutes as all is relative to what is.
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I also shy type den don dare mixed ard with ppl
how to overcome my shyness ?
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Originally posted by sadpanda:
Thanks for the replies (well some of them anyway.
I already do volunteer work and have met some great singporeans who have been very welcoming. I have to say I am somewhat surprised and a bit dissapointed by the reply of angel7030. I thought this was supposed to be an Aunt Agony topic so I have come here for advice and support and find instead a particularly unhelpful and unthoughtful reply. It would be easy to go to somewhere with expats (singapore is full of them) and to an expat webiste but I am interested to get singaporean friends and become more involved in singaporean life (as Loor advises).
Coming from a multicultural country I am not hung up about race - back home I have many friends of different races- and was hoping to make some here too.
Thanks
Sadpanda x
Great to hear that you slowly adjust to the life living here in Spore.As for the staring part, it will slowly goes away and pple around you will one day acknowledge you and greet and smile at you.
Dont give up.
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Originally posted by JerryJan:
I also shy type den don dare mixed ard with ppl
how to overcome my shyness ?
Wear low cut, mini pants or skirt, highlight yr hair, doll up nice nice, you tend to walk with more confidence, and many will feel shy if you look at them. -
Originally posted by likeyou:
Great to hear that you slowly adjust to the life living here in Spore.As for the staring part, it will slowly goes away and pple around you will one day acknowledge you and greet and smile at you.
Dont give up.
I stay in UK for 3 months only, book SIA fly back liao,...for my size and height, I am like a dwarf there..most big big fat fat ones there -
Originally posted by angel7030:
Wear low cut, mini pants or skirt, highlight yr hair, doll up nice nice, you tend to walk with more confidence, and many will feel shy if you look at them.if i do that hubby will surely kill me
u don get me into trouble le
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Originally posted by JerryJan:
if i do that hubby will surely kill me
u don get me into trouble le
why, you hubby dun like beautiful women ar?? aunt, give yourself a break lah, dun hubby these and hubby that, what is hubby, just a bank and sex provider, nothing else, most bring in more agony to your life than real Love. Heckcare them, dolling one up is one individual liking, how much do these old uncles know about fashion, make and style. For them everyday, the same 3 for $10 bermudas, the same john little underwears and the same old crocodile shirt or polo, how they know about fashion and mini stuff.?? -
I think your situation is so much better than mine. At least you are with your hubby and it IS Singapore! I am in a rural town in Japan call Matsusaka and there nothing here except for a few supermarkets and rice fields.The most interesting shop here is a pet shop. I am struggling with the language, and thus I hardly spoke to anyone. I think in a whole week, I hardly spoked more than 5 sentences to anyone. Couped up in the hostel, my only companion is my Ipad2. Day in day out, I am just waiting for December to come, so that I can return home to Singapore...
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5 sentences is a start...togther with body and sign language, one can get far. It'll get better b4 u know it!
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Originally posted by WayneKwek:
I think your situation is so much better than mine. At least you are with your hubby and it IS Singapore! I am in a rural town in Japan call Matsusaka and there nothing here except for a few supermarkets and rice fields.The most interesting shop here is a pet shop. I am struggling with the language, and thus I hardly spoke to anyone. I think in a whole week, I hardly spoked more than 5 sentences to anyone. Couped up in the hostel, my only companion is my Ipad2. Day in day out, I am just waiting for December to come, so that I can return home to Singapore...
Mine is worst, in the high mountain of Mei shan in taiwan, a nunery monastary, cannot even see anyone, cannot go near men or farmers, morning must go ask for food, and those alisan tribe speaks some kind of old mingnan which I also dunno what the heck they are talking, so, I usually get laughed at by them, then at nite, no electricity, it was so cold, hv to burnt woods for hot water to bathe and make tea and maggie mee, but then life goes on, we choose to be there, what to do? nobody put a damn gun on yr head to be there ya. However, as long as you are happy with your love ones, like mine, happy to be with my master nun, heckcare who talk or dun talk?? Supermarket?? here even mama shop also dun have. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
Mine is worst, in the high mountain of Mei shan in taiwan, a nunery monastary, cannot even see anyone, cannot go near men or farmers, morning must go ask for food, and those alisan tribe speaks some kind of old mingnan which I also dunno what the heck they are talking, so, I usually get laughed at by them, then at nite, no electricity, it was so cold, hv to burnt woods for hot water to bathe and make tea and maggie mee, but then life goes on, we choose to be there, what to do? nobody put a damn gun on yr head to be there ya. However, as long as you are happy with your love ones, like mine, happy to be with my master nun, heckcare who talk or dun talk?? Supermarket?? here even mama shop also dun have.
u really spent some time in a monastery? -
I am a nun by profession
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belly hard to read u
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Originally posted by angel7030:
I am a nun by profession
nun? you repent?I thought you are the mama-san cum owner in gelyang niteclub where you have sexy pretty ladies under you?
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Then what about your pub? I thought I can drop by and make some friends as you had promised to the other uncle who won 2nd prize lottery? You have multiple personality?
You are right that no one is forcing me to come here. Its just the company's decision, I'll just have to bear with what life has thrown at me...
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Originally posted by WayneKwek:
Then what about your pub? I thought I can drop by and make some friends as you had promised to the other uncle who won 2nd prize lottery? You have multiple personality?
You are right that no one is forcing me to come here. Its just the company's decision, I'll just have to bear with what life has thrown at me...
Likely being razed by anti vice operation...hahaha...now jobless, become nun, all foc.
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I am a nun by training, because when I was young, I am very naughty, so, my Dad decided to sent me to the nunnery in taiwan, nunneries in taiwan are very discipline, they taught you about life and how to live with the nature of it, meditation and the essence of living, it is not much about buddhism religion, you dun even need to be a buddhist to be train there, many christian ang mos gals also train with me, the idealogy is to tame a person down, so during school holidays, unlike other childrens who go disneyland or holland, I hv to go back to my nunery to attend each semester. When you are ploughed back into the layman world, you see thing different, you understand why it is like this and why it is like that, my career and work is of course different lah, but the basic understanding of suffering is there for me.
Unlike singapore kids today, or even the adults, dun even know what is life, suffering and also cannot take hardship, a little problem only, complain here and there, typically speaking, no singaporean had beg for food before. Do you the skill and essence of begging?
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hahaha next time call you Nungel.
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Whatever, the name is just an illusion.
Lesson 1, begging.
In begging, we finally come to understand the lowest of life and the give of purity, we finally learn to enjoy the food given, even if it is just a few droplet of rice, it will be the best taste and food you ever get, for that, you will appreciate foods and whatever is given to you.....
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Normally beggers beg for money not food.
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That's the different, we do not beg for money, it will defeat all purpose. Actually, we can even sponsor the nunnery, why need to beg, we can also buy or harvest our own rice, vege and fruits, why need to beg?? because begging will make you at the lowest form of life, from there you can see up and understand all other life better, people use to say, let hv a top view and see a clear picture, but in nun, we see from the bottom, looking at top mostly will miss those sheltered issues/problems. People use to say, let work the ground, but are they??? he who talk but never experience it is a train parrot rather than a caring human.