no friends in school,almost want to quit
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Originally posted by dunknowwhattodo:
I tell u what happen to one of my friend in RP.
Initially he went to RP first semester still ok.
But he hides in the toliet and evade people he knows.Because he is too ashamed to let people know his results sucks and he has little social circle in school.He eats his lunch alone.He was stressed out during the lull period in between first classes of the day from preparation till the faciliator comes in to hear him do presentation.
In classes,imagine you have to stay with them for the next 4 hours even though you cannot work with them.And feeling isolated all the time when the classes has no one to monitor.And pretend to keep busy and put on earphone since people around you are not cooperative.Seriously I find people in RP more stress out than people in uni because of social issues.
Wah, your friend really sound like my classmate. Very quiet, always put earphone on, stay one corner. But he first sem already results like gone case, keeping in mind that we haven't even started on our core modules. Dunno how he will survive for the next 2.5 years.
I also introvert since sec sch, but I learnt that in RP, I have no choice but to start talking & build up a working relationship. RP simulate working world liao, if got problem you can't run away from it, must face-&-solve it. If you don't help yourself, how you expect your classmate to help you? I also noticed more participation in class (talk more) = upz one grade. I feel really drained in RP for forcing myself to talk more during class time. But in the end, I get my fair share of A daily grades :D
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Originally posted by jaywalkra:
Wah, your friend really sound like my classmate. Very quiet, always put earphone on, stay one corner. But he first sem already results like gone case, keeping in mind that we haven't even started on our core modules. Dunno how he will survive for the next 2.5 years.
I also introvert since sec sch, but I learnt that in RP, I have no choice but to start talking & build up a working relationship. RP simulate working world liao, if got problem you can't run away from it, must face-&-solve it. If you don't help yourself, how you expect your classmate to help you? I also noticed more participation in class (talk more) = upz one grade. I feel really drained in RP for forcing myself to talk more during class time. But in the end, I get my fair share of A daily grades :D
First step is hard, but the following steps get easier...
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Yeah, having no friends sux big time. If you're the type that only wants to study, then thats the problem. GPA, plummeting can be cause by the lack of peer support. Just try to go with the flow. If you try, people will give you a chance. From there, you can select the best cliques to go hangin out with, study or pretty much do things together. For you, i'd suggest you be more open minded to the idea of socialising. JUST TRY!
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LIke it or not, this world is not only you alone, it is an intergration fibric of billion of pples joining to make it what it is today, from school to work to becoming a boss like me, you need peoples, you need subordinates, superior, right and left hand peoples to help you, learn to differentiate each group differently, friends are friends, classmates are classmates, colleagues are colleagues. For you case, as classmates, treat them as classmates, the focus is not on friends, but to do project on school work, as you move along, if the relationship improve, you go outing and share life with them, then that is friend.
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Originally posted by ISTARI:
Yeah, having no friends sux big time. If you're the type that only wants to study, then thats the problem. GPA, plummeting can be cause by the lack of peer support. Just try to go with the flow. If you try, people will give you a chance. From there, you can select the best cliques to go hangin out with, study or pretty much do things together. For you, i'd suggest you be more open minded to the idea of socialising. JUST TRY!
u are absolutely right.
I sux because i stick to ideas of study thats why my GPA drop like crazy during uni.
i have no friends in uni that wants to help me.i turn to google professors and attending tuition classes to bring up my grades.
I am trying to get more support
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Ya, try, if still cannot, can come my place and work, you finished NS already rite, I give those completed NS one higher salary.
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i also never make much friends when i was studying at the private university part -time.ended failing 2 modules and then just qutting school as i could not find and good friends for support nor do i have friends who can study and advise me.
totally different from polytechnic ,secondary sch and primary school.why is working life so different from studying life?
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Originally posted by Sakuragi86:
i also never make much friends when i was studying at the private university part -time.ended failing 2 modules and then just qutting school as i could not find and good friends for support nor do i have friends who can study and advise me.
totally different from polytechnic ,secondary sch and primary school.why is working life so different from studying life?
you study because you want to gain that knowledge.you work because you can use that knowledge to feed yourself (and family).
This is life, you need to make use of what you know, use it to create and add values to other people's life, and earn a living from it.
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To be successful, you need IQ and EQ.
Sometimes wif good EQ, can boost your IQ. How?
When you make initiative to make friends, approach them, join study groups, you may learn new point of view and new sources, new tips.
You also need to learn how to deal wif people. Don't be naive. Go get a motivational book and find those books that teach you how to communicate better and have better confidence. Books like Steven Covey's 7 best habits of successful people.
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Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:
you study because you want to gain that knowledge.you work because you can use that knowledge to feed yourself (and family).
This is life, you need to make use of what you know, use it to create and add values to other people's life, and earn a living from it.
I beg your pardon, this is not life, life cannot be so miserable as to study and work, life is more than that, he should, first of all, knows how to enjoy life, sparkle his life by either gaming or clubbing, game in term of football, badminton, pin pong, pong pin or whatever, than go clubbing and meet up with more friends, friends of different circle and trades, do the networking and yet enjoy life, from there, he can decide what to do, if got into trouble, he then can contact Helen or Jack for advices, depend on what types of problem.Very surprise to see a senior member here advicing people on work and study only
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Originally posted by Sasperillabob:
To be successful, you need IQ and EQ.
Sometimes wif good EQ, can boost your IQ. How?
When you make initiative to make friends, approach them, join study groups, you may learn new point of view and new sources, new tips.
You also need to learn how to deal wif people. Don't be naive. Go get a motivational book and find those books that teach you how to communicate better and have better confidence. Books like Steven Covey's 7 best habits of successful people.
What IQ and EQ do you need to evade a 7%Gst, a 30% rise in property market and an inflation of 5.5% currently?? Stop those EQ or IQ stuff, money is the best Q