Who here is always by yourself and find life meaingless?
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Like me, only child. Parents divorced. I stay with my mother only.
Salary less than 2k a month. Always changing job. Never have a gf before.
Got a selfish mother who only think about herself. Since young, its my father who support me. Mother don't want to support me. Everyday she just want to save more and more money for herself.
My salary only enough to support myself. No girls want to marry a poor guy like me.
Always at home by myself watching tv and movies, surfing net. Don't know why I am working for what.
When I think about how I may work so hard and save so much money only to give to my selfish mother in the end its really pointless. Or maybe I will give it to my father if I die before him, but I am actually not close to both of my parents so find it quite meaningless to give my money to my father too since he will share the money with my stepmum and I got no sibilings or wife to give my money to in future.
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Do not give up. Some day your luck will get better and life will have more to offer you.
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if changing job is to progress up...thats good...but constantly changing because of other factors are not gonna do u good....
everyone has a story to tell about his or her family...and do not be so affected by it....do your best for yourself and find a new life....
for men, it all begins with building up his character and then his career, nothing more and nothing less...
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TS, how old are you?
You have to take some action for something to happen mah.
You sit there rot everyday, how can your life improve?
Widen your social network and know more pple lah.
Getting a gf isnt hard lah. The only hard part is getting the girl you really want.
Since you got savings, go travelling. See the world.
I recommend you go try homestaying. Go stay with other families, learn about their culture and how they live. Thats what i've been doing at least twice a year.
You find that your life becomes very frutiful and you'll appreciate life more and generally makes you a happier and more contented person.
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TS, you should join more activities from your company rec-club.
And mix with your colleagues for outing, movies, dinner.
You will get to know more and your life will be more interesting.
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yeah I feel the same way sometimes, like there isnt anything to look forward to and I would wonder wats the purpose of my existance.
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dont so fucking emo leh
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
TS, how old are you?
You have to take some action for something to happen mah.
You sit there rot everyday, how can your life improve?
Widen your social network and know more pple lah.
Getting a gf isnt hard lah. The only hard part is getting the girl you really want.
Since you got savings, go travelling. See the world.
I recommend you go try homestaying. Go stay with other families, learn about their culture and how they live. Thats what i've been doing at least twice a year.
You find that your life becomes very frutiful and you'll appreciate life more and generally makes you a happier and more contented person.
You say until very easy.
I don't have friends who will let me stay with them to see their culture
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Originally posted by likeyou:
TS, you should join more activities from your company rec-club.
And mix with your colleagues for outing, movies, dinner.
You will get to know more and your life will be more interesting.
Judging by what you write, I think you have not started working yet so you don't know how its like in the office.Everybody is busy sabo each other. They call it office politics. No collegues will go out with you for outing, movies, dinner etc
Even if you get into a nice company with no politics, everybody have their own life. Have to study part time, spend time with husband/bf or wife/gf, take care of parents etc.
Nobody got time to go out with you
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Originally posted by IamVirgin:
yeah I feel the same way sometimes, like there isnt anything to look forward to and I would wonder wats the purpose of my existance.
Maybe we can become friends..
Btw, I am also virgin
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Originally posted by dechang:
You say until very easy.
I don't have friends who will let me stay with them to see their culture
Duhh ~~~ What are you, a caveman?If you dont have friends, you go make them !!
They dont just sprout out of no where !!
Do you expect something to fall into your lap when you are sitting there and doing ABSOLUTELY NOTHING ?
Do you even know what homestaying is? A homestay is you go stay with a family overseas and try to experience their way of life. You eat what they eat, you work what they work, you play what they play.
There are quite a plenty of homestay portals online, go look at them, google them up !! You can find plenty of hospitable families to stay with.
Or, if you dun like the idea of homestay, you can always join a tour group or go backpacking.
There are so many things you can do to spice up your life.
But all you choose is to be cooped up there in your little corner and WHINE & COMPLAIN.
You're just another N.A.T.O.
Go figure that out ~
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Originally posted by dechang:
Judging by what you write, I think you have not started working yet so you don't know how its like in the office.Everybody is busy sabo each other. They call it office politics. No collegues will go out with you for outing, movies, dinner etc
Even if you get into a nice company with no politics, everybody have their own life. Have to study part time, spend time with husband/bf or wife/gf, take care of parents etc.
Nobody got time to go out with you
Sabo is one thing (that is within the office), but there will be company activity all year round.TS should join the activities if TS have the time like Brainstorming session, leadership traning, bowling, fishing trip, etc....
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Yeah agreed. Your situation doesn't sound ideal, but it's up to you to do something about it and change it for yourself.
If support from your parents isn't there, then try and build a good relationship with friends or others. Instead of staying at home and watching the box all the time, try and go out and join some clubs/social groups to do things u like to do. This doesn't have to costs much money at all.
The others here are trying to give suggestions. No point posting, then flatly reject their ideas straight away.
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Most replies here are insensitive and really don't make any effort to understand the TS's situation.
Most people are not like TS.
So you normal people might only get sad once a year, and usually have friends already, so it's easy for you.
When you are alone, you have a certain vibe which normal people can instinctively feel.
Normal people with social lives will try to avoid such people, as if lonliness is something you can catch.
It also sounds like the TS has no previous expereince with normal decent social life, so how can he just suddenly become extraverted, head to a nightclub, and walk up to dozens of strangers and make lots of friends? You need a group behind you as well to be accepted- it's called social proof.
TS- I feel for you. You have a difficult situation.
There are some things you can do, but it will take some effort on your side to make them happen, because the biggest single problem will be to overcome your current life of doing nothing.
1. Change jobs. The effort of looking, and new environment means there is some change in your life. Money not so important here- as long as not worse.
2. Working visa- I think you are under 30, yes? Then you have a great opportunity. Most Western countries like Canada, Australia, UK, allow you to travel and work. You will meet many friendly ppl in same situation, make friends. And you will get away from parents and SG and see how small SG is.
3. Don't rely on SGforums for friends to help you. Most people dont have your expereince, so won't understand/empathsise, and you'll get replies that wont help you.
4. One of the above repliers was right about one thing- getting a girlfriend is not hard- but getting one you want is- which usually means getting a slim pretty girl, right? If you can- try to lower your expectations about her physical aspects. I dont mean you have to go all Lydia Lum, but sorry, Denise Keller and Fiona Xie are out of yuor (our!) league.
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Originally posted by dechang:
Maybe we can become friends..
Btw, I am also virgin
thats cool, how old are u?
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Different stages of life.
When you settle down, you will have no time for your friends.
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Originally posted by IamVirgin:
thats cool, how old are u?
virgin are hot, mine is hot, cool are for those non virgin. -
Originally posted by dechang:
Judging by what you write, I think you have not started working yet so you don't know how its like in the office.Everybody is busy sabo each other. They call it office politics. No collegues will go out with you for outing, movies, dinner etc
Even if you get into a nice company with no politics, everybody have their own life. Have to study part time, spend time with husband/bf or wife/gf, take care of parents etc.
Nobody got time to go out with you
provided ur some chiobu
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Originally posted by OneWithTheForce:
Most replies here are insensitive and really don't make any effort to understand the TS's situation.
Most people are not like TS.
So you normal people might only get sad once a year, and usually have friends already, so it's easy for you.
When you are alone, you have a certain vibe which normal people can instinctively feel.
Normal people with social lives will try to avoid such people, as if lonliness is something you can catch.
It also sounds like the TS has no previous expereince with normal decent social life, so how can he just suddenly become extraverted, head to a nightclub, and walk up to dozens of strangers and make lots of friends? You need a group behind you as well to be accepted- it's called social proof.
TS- I feel for you. You have a difficult situation.
There are some things you can do, but it will take some effort on your side to make them happen, because the biggest single problem will be to overcome your current life of doing nothing.
1. Change jobs. The effort of looking, and new environment means there is some change in your life. Money not so important here- as long as not worse.
2. Working visa- I think you are under 30, yes? Then you have a great opportunity. Most Western countries like Canada, Australia, UK, allow you to travel and work. You will meet many friendly ppl in same situation, make friends. And you will get away from parents and SG and see how small SG is.
3. Don't rely on SGforums for friends to help you. Most people dont have your expereince, so won't understand/empathsise, and you'll get replies that wont help you.
4. One of the above repliers was right about one thing- getting a girlfriend is not hard- but getting one you want is- which usually means getting a slim pretty girl, right? If you can- try to lower your expectations about her physical aspects. I dont mean you have to go all Lydia Lum, but sorry, Denise Keller and Fiona Xie are out of yuor (our!) league.
only person who said nightclub is u.
working visa overseas with expenses is cheap option...?!
It's not easy being in the situation.....so then what?
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Originally posted by OneWithTheForce:
Most replies here are insensitive and really don't make any effort to understand the TS's situation.
Most people are not like TS.
So you normal people might only get sad once a year, and usually have friends already, so it's easy for you.
When you are alone, you have a certain vibe which normal people can instinctively feel.
Normal people with social lives will try to avoid such people, as if lonliness is something you can catch.
It also sounds like the TS has no previous expereince with normal decent social life, so how can he just suddenly become extraverted, head to a nightclub, and walk up to dozens of strangers and make lots of friends? You need a group behind you as well to be accepted- it's called social proof.
TS- I feel for you. You have a difficult situation.
There are some things you can do, but it will take some effort on your side to make them happen, because the biggest single problem will be to overcome your current life of doing nothing.
1. Change jobs. The effort of looking, and new environment means there is some change in your life. Money not so important here- as long as not worse.
2. Working visa- I think you are under 30, yes? Then you have a great opportunity. Most Western countries like Canada, Australia, UK, allow you to travel and work. You will meet many friendly ppl in same situation, make friends. And you will get away from parents and SG and see how small SG is.
3. Don't rely on SGforums for friends to help you. Most people dont have your expereince, so won't understand/empathsise, and you'll get replies that wont help you.
4. One of the above repliers was right about one thing- getting a girlfriend is not hard- but getting one you want is- which usually means getting a slim pretty girl, right? If you can- try to lower your expectations about her physical aspects. I dont mean you have to go all Lydia Lum, but sorry, Denise Keller and Fiona Xie are out of yuor (our!) league.
1. I change job because my boss say my performance not up to standards, nothing to be happy about.2. Yup I am under 30 but doing very normal jobs like admin, customer service etc not those specialised jobs like nursing etc that will be easy to go overseas to work..
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You should start planning and run away
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Find life meaningless might indicate depression. Better find someone to talk to like a counsuellor.
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Originally posted by dechang:
1. I change job because my boss say my performance not up to standards, nothing to be happy about.2. Yup I am under 30 but doing very normal jobs like admin, customer service etc not those specialised jobs like nursing etc that will be easy to go overseas to work..
eh, u can retire from sgf now.
after u said these, interested parties all run away. u telling people u are incompetent and not a skilled worker.
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Your mother got lots of saving, then wait for the time to come, once she is gone, all money is yours, in the meantime, can buy some insurances for her.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Your mother got lots of saving, then wait for the time to come, once she is gone, all money is yours, in the meantime, can buy some insurances for her.
Nope. she joint account with her sister so her sister takes all the money once she is gone, you idiot