is he interested in me?
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No, most men are rather pragmatic.They won't waste time on... unsuitable targets. He's doing such acts is letting you know that you are ok. Well within the limit of ... fondness.
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dun think too much into it....ask yourself if he is your type...if he is not, return an appreciative gesture with a hint that u r not interested in him....
gals are good at hinting....remember it takes initiative to shower gentleness on a lady, likewise, the lady should know how to help him back by not wasting his time
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Ts, Give up your ''somebodiness'' and you will have guys to relate to , but the nice part is that even if there is no one around, you would still feel ok. Catch the drift?
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He is doing those nice gestures for a reason. What the reasons are will depend on his character.
You only need to say thank you, and nothing else. Don't think too much into it.
If he is a naturally caring guy, he will spread his caring around to others. You would be just one of them.
If he just targets you, then he is after you.
From here, we can't tell what is the reason.
But I would advise caution, and don't let this get you into a swoon.
Just recently caught this segment of the bo liau Taiwanese drama: The mafia boss, who is facing the death sentence, his wife fell in love a younger man, laments that it is a woman's fate to fell in love with bad men.
It need not be. You need to be astute with regards to relationships. Be sure of the man you are with.
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Theres a saying that you do not shit at where you eat.
Most pple would avoid wooing their colleagues gua .. ?
Plus you never mentioned how is he to you in the workplace? Does he treat you any differently between work and play?
I bet you have other female colleagues, so how does he relate to the other ladies? From all these you can gauge whether he is interested in you mah.
A guy can do tonnes of gentlemanly things for their lady friends and they are either appreciative of it or they just take it for granted.
You sound to me like you're very much deprived of and craving for love. So when some guy give you some care and attention you get tempted easily.
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TS..the man show positive attitude towards you. Meaning he like your company and you together. Keep it up. Find ways to date him alone eg..dinner or show.
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Originally posted by Twinklebel:
How should i start my topic ?
Ok.. i am a late 20s lady who has been in and out of relationship, and somehow stop seeing any man for the past few years. Recently in my workplace there is a colleague who join us half a year ago, and we hit it off quite well sharing the same hobbies (blading).
We would meet up on every weekend together with other colleagues.
I am a newbie in blading thus during the learning period he was very attentive towards me meaning from holding my hand / arms. And there are time whereby he would actually carry and bring my slippers, water bottle to me.At times when my laces are loose he would bend down and tie my laces etc..
I am very much appreciating his caring towards me. On the other hands i am guess his thought and action is he interested in me or is he just plain caring type of person or seeing me as a younger sister ?I had been in and out of relationship thus i had more of less lost confidence in myself.
I am lost. is there any guys there who can help me to analsye his gesture ? Am i thinking too much ? Do guys gentlemenly do all these for all gals.
Wha, auntie, u late 20s liao, still waiting for durian to drop ar?? Ching Chai lah, people already bent down infront of you, what you expect more, but I feel this guy is abit lame to bend down infront of gal to tigh shoe laces, could be a hiding something behind tho. Guys are like this one lah, during the chasing period, promise you heavens and roses, do what also can, even can buy sanitary pad for you, after managed to get you and you fall for it already, it could be a total different picture, that time you may find yourself carrying a baby while he enjoys his life elsewhere. So, becareful of wolves hor, since you had failed in few relationship, should be able to tell between a wolf and a shephard -
Originally posted by likeyou:
TS..the man show positive attitude towards you. Meaning he like your company and you together. Keep it up. Find ways to date him alone eg..dinner or show.
yep - ask him out in a casual way and take things from there. -
if u like, go along...if not interested, just stop it...in a polite way od coz..
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Never, the pride and ego of female must withold, no matter how much you like a guy, let them make the first move, they are suppose to be gentleman
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Never, the pride and ego of female must withold, no matter how much you like a guy, let them make the first move, they are suppose to be gentleman
all the things TS mentioned the guy has done doesn't count? Not official asking, but still could be suggestive gestures already.maybe can suggest other ways to indicate interest back?
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if the guy is interested, he would had dated TS long ago, I believe he is only treating Ts like a sister, a sister that had been hurt and feeling bad.
Whenever a female lost a relationship, she is at her weakness point in life, and very easily get cheated by wolves and coyotes preying on her.
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aiya...maybe the lengzai is shy mah.
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lengzai is only in the eyes of the female beholden, and fyi, lengzai dun need to bent down one lah.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Wha, auntie, u late 20s liao, still waiting for durian to drop ar?? Ching Chai lah, people already bent down infront of you, what you expect more, but I feel this guy is abit lame to bend down infront of gal to tigh shoe laces, could be a hiding something behind tho. Guys are like this one lah, during the chasing period, promise you heavens and roses, do what also can, even can buy sanitary pad for you, after managed to get you and you fall for it already, it could be a total different picture, that time you may find yourself carrying a baby while he enjoys his life elsewhere. So, becareful of wolves hor, since you had failed in few relationship, should be able to tell between a wolf and a shephardNot everyone man are like that....
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he is the typical nice guy
helpful and caring to every opp sexdun have to think too much unless he makes some serious moves
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Never, the pride and ego of female must withold, no matter how much you like a guy, let them make the first move, they are suppose to be gentleman
rather its a matter of who is more desperate....
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Maybe he want to see your underwear?
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please check if he is married.
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Originally posted by de_middle:
rather its a matter of who is more desperate....
desperate housewife maybe lah -
froim the looks of it - real desperate one this 1
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since there is fondness in him...u should break the ice a little by seeing a possibility of r/s as he has so far been nice and decent...
the reason why there r so many singles are as above....too much delay and thinking...
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Originally posted by Twinklebel:
This is what is inside my mind, i am afraid he is seeing me as a younger sister.
But during the outing their is a even younger girl beside me, but i didn't see him attending to her as far as i have notice from this few outing. And he doesn't know much about my past failed relationship as i did not disclose. I don't want to disclose too much to someone whom i am not that close to as of now.Kinda agree a female who lost a relationship will be at her weakness point in life and the more i need 3rd party to analyse this issue for me. To prevent myself from misunderstood his intention.
Well, you are old enough to think for yourself and since you had a few relationships before, you should be experienced enough to know what constitutes a hint and what does not.
What is the need of disclosing your past relationships anyway? Unless he is wooing you already and you are willing to tell him, there is no requirement or obligation of you to tell him.
Treating one girl nicer than another doesnt necessarily relate to age nor does it really mean any romantic. I can treat one classmate, one female friend or colleague better than another merely because i feel i am more at ease, and comfortable with her, thats all. You could be thinking too much.
How well do you know this guy anyway? Is he even attached? I guess these are some things you have to make sure of before you even think of anything else.
Besides, you are a girl, you should know to drop hints to a guy. Like ask him out for a date or a meal. This is already 2011. Its nothing wrong with a girl making the first move these days. Dont sit there and wait for things to happen. Things wont just drop from the sky if you dont do anything.