should i leave her?

• melodymaker

  9 Aug 11, 18:15

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  Now.. why is it you left her here.. while you went home to meet your family ? It's kinda strange you don't have her tag along with you.

  Friends aside....Is she so insecure in this relationship.. that she does not even want any of your family to know of her existence ? Does her family knows of your existence.. have you met her family yet ?

  Have you both talked about the long term plan at all ? Is this a friends with special benefit kinda thing from the beginning ??

  Try pushing this relationship to a different level... if she's still hush hush.. something is wrong.. perhaps its time you cut your losses.

   

   

  She had her scheduled work during the week as she was saving her AL's to go to her hometown as well, those were times she wasn't into me, not like the days when we really did mean to each other.

  Since its secreted, a few of my people back home know and so does her mom, i even remind her once in a week to talk to her mom just in case she forgets to do the usual family talk. Thats just about it

  six months ago i performed in a event and she became more interested in talking to me, thats how our relationship grew. Sometimes we did share our moments of love not verbally but physically so its not that friends with benefits thing.

  Topic's of long term relationship has always been a turn off for now i guess.

  I don't want to push her too much in a way where i would cause emotional pain, I think i have to give up on her, She does not respond to me anymore in anyway and i think she feels i am dead or something.

  Like they say " If you love someone let them go if they come back to you they were always yours if they don't they never were"

  I have to pass, i don't want to sink in too much, i better work on my career for the time being.

  and as for IamAwesome good luck with your decision mate!

   

• Susanteo2011

  9 Aug 11, 19:26

  Originally posted by ImAwesome:

  nope. we didn't have sex, shes the "no sex before marriage" type. so I have to respect her decision

   

   

  then what are you waiting for............................dump the bitch !

• Fcukpap

  9 Aug 11, 19:38

  dun dump....rip her first 

• Lord dejavu

  10 Aug 11, 01:43

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  Yah.. it's ALL your fault.. OK ?

  If you arn't so insecure... she won't be able to wrap you around her little finger.

  What to do.. or what not to do... do you even know ?

  You want to control her.. she wants to control you. Like playing monopoly game... see who is the winner , or the loser... who owns and who gets owned.

  Since you believe she don't love you issit ? So what are you waiting for ? Dump her lor..

   

  I want you to take over control, take over control, take over control, plug it in and turn me on...

• ImAwesome

  10 Aug 11, 09:28

  Originally posted by Fugazzi:

  Ts,
  Why are u concerned whether she loves you or not and such a stance belies the insecurity(ies) within you.

  Of course, she is also in the same predicament as you are in. Both of you want to change each other to fit each other’s ’’agenda’’ – needs, expectaions and so on so forth. Calling it love is a misnomer. The sooner one reconciles to such an incongruity, the better one sees things as they are.

  Considering the age(s) it is ’’normal’’ but it is essential that if both of u can unlearn that no one can fulfil another. When two peopl purport to love but in reality try to change or see another as a means to one’s end(s) – it is no longer relating. it is no longer a relationship. It is a tacit agrreement to use each other n prop each other up. Of course, it is nigh impossible to sustain such a ’’relationship’‘

  If not this person, it could be another, – but belies this – mutual benefit scheme!

  
  Not really concerned about she loves me or not, just felt that I'm being used like a personal assistant more than a bf.

• ImAwesome

  10 Aug 11, 09:35

  Originally posted by Susanteo2011:

   

   

  then what are you waiting for............................dump the bitch !

  
  By looking at your nick, I assume you are a female. Didn't expect that from a lady. lol.

  Unless you are a guy behind the screen. Kidding. No offense :)

• de_middle

  10 Aug 11, 10:16

  its one way.....so u know what to do next i huppose...

• angel7030

  10 Aug 11, 14:11

  Originally posted by melodymaker:

   

  She had her scheduled work during the week as she was saving her AL's to go to her hometown as well, those were times she wasn't into me, not like the days when we really did mean to each other.

  Since its secreted, a few of my people back home know and so does her mom, i even remind her once in a week to talk to her mom just in case she forgets to do the usual family talk. Thats just about it

  six months ago i performed in a event and she became more interested in talking to me, thats how our relationship grew. Sometimes we did share our moments of love not verbally but physically so its not that friends with benefits thing.

  Topic's of long term relationship has always been a turn off for now i guess.

  I don't want to push her too much in a way where i would cause emotional pain, I think i have to give up on her, She does not respond to me anymore in anyway and i think she feels i am dead or something.

  Like they say " If you love someone let them go if they come back to you they were always yours if they don't they never were"

  I have to pass, i don't want to sink in too much, i better work on my career for the time being.

  and as for IamAwesome good luck with your decision mate!

   

  For guy, you dun lose out much one, so, might as well be bless that you had enjoyed her physically, she should be the one losing out.

  Since you had decided to pass on, it is good, hope you walk what you posted, dun end up coming here and KPKB about Love and missing this and that again

• melodymaker

  10 Aug 11, 18:47

  Originally posted by angel7030:

  For guy, you dun lose out much one, so, might as well be bless that you had enjoyed her physically, she should be the one losing out.

  Since you had decided to pass on, it is good, hope you walk what you posted, dun end up coming here and KPKB about Love and missing this and that again

   

  "KPKB about Love and missing this and that again"

  I thought i came here with a similar situation as the TS?, what is the need for me  to KPKB? I am not missing anything here, I just having an opinion from ya'll what you have to say about my behaviour towards my girl and whether i had done what i must.

• melodymaker

  10 Aug 11, 18:53

  Originally posted by angel7030:

  For guy, you dun lose out much one, so, might as well be bless that you had enjoyed her physically, she should be the one losing out.

  Since you had decided to pass on, it is good, hope you walk what you posted, dun end up coming here and KPKB about Love and missing this and that again

  Enjoy her physically? you sound very different leh haha,

  We shared our moments that's good enough, no loss or gain ,, ugh

   

• jojobeach

  10 Aug 11, 23:29

  Originally posted by ImAwesome:

  
  Not really concerned about she loves me or not, just felt that I'm being used like a personal assistant more than a bf.

  so what if she is... using you as a personal assistant ?

  You cannot change her, neither can she change you.

  Only time can change a person.

  You can complain until the cow comes home...

   

• melodymaker

  11 Aug 11, 08:07

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  so what if she is... using you as a personal assistant ?

  You cannot change her, neither can she change you.

  Only time can change a person.

  You can complain until the cow comes home...

   

  I agree, that changing for somone for their cause is a total BS

   

  You are what you are, if need to change the way you are for someone else, thats set to ruin too

   

  Unless changing in the way that you quit bad habits then its good

• likeyou

  11 Aug 11, 09:22

  Originally posted by ImAwesome:

  quite hard to leave her. this is my longest relationship so far. the previous 1 I have lasted for afew months only. shorter than this.

  Respect her and give her more time ya.

   

• Loor

  11 Aug 11, 10:44

  Btw TS, r u The Miz?

• angel7030

  11 Aug 11, 11:11

  Mix, with what? pearl?

• de_middle

  11 Aug 11, 11:12

  Originally posted by Loor:

  Btw TS, r u The Miz?

  yah & now in complete mizery

• angel7030

  11 Aug 11, 11:17

  Misery, oh, that one by stephen King

• Lord dejavu

  11 Aug 11, 14:17

  Originally posted by Loor:

  Btw TS, r u The Miz?

  
  Winner.

• ImAwesome

  11 Aug 11, 14:33

  Originally posted by Loor:

  Btw TS, r u The Miz?

  
  The Miz? what is the miz?

• xiaogougou

  11 Aug 11, 16:07

  The Miz is ay WWE Superstar whos cocky and nothing but talk all the time.

   

  What dah hell has TS gotta do with the Miz anyway ?

   

• angel7030

  11 Aug 11, 19:03

  Oh, those show that see man and man hug each other wearing underwear in a ring..so funny

• Loor

  18 Aug 11, 12:54

  some wear underwear on head also.

  so what happenned to TS?

• angel7030

  18 Aug 11, 18:14

  TS after reading all these shit posts, give up liao