Which would you prefer? Being in love, being with
that wonderful someone but having the risk of losing that someone when a
third party comes along or when things got a little boring. Or being
out of love, lonely but be spared from rejections, break-ups, being
cheated etc...
For me, I realised that not being in love is the best for me but
preventing myself from falling in love again may not be possible. I feel
much more of a freedom when I do not have any special girl I love.
Whenever Im in love, I feel so anxious and worried about having to go
through another rejection and picking the pieces. Even if I do get the girl, I still have to worry about losing her to another guy.
Which is better? Being in love or out?
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To live a lovedless life is to me, a wasted life. The attachments to it are probably best left unmentioned. IMHO, it the only emotion powerful enough to make me feel alive.
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In today's world, especially our country, you must have lots $$$ then you can be in love...
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"I hold it true, whatever befall, I feel it, when I sorrow most, 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
Alfred, Lord Tennyson (English poet often regarded as the chief representative of the Victorian age in poetry)
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Never give all the heart, for love
Will hardly seem worth thinking of
To passionate women if it seem
Certain, and they never dream
That it fades out from kiss to kiss;
For everything that's lovely is
But a brief, dreamy, kind delight.
O never give the heart outright,
For they, for all smooth lips can say,
Have given their hearts up to the play.
And who could play it well enough
If deaf and dumb and blind with love?
He that made this knows all the cost,
For he gave all his heart and lost.William Yeats
love for all you can...preserve some if you could..
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Originally posted by mancha:
"I hold it true, whatever befall, I feel it, when I sorrow most, 'tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
Alfred, Lord Tennyson (English poet often regarded as the chief representative of the Victorian age in poetry)
I'm with mancha on this.
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Love is an abstract word. I think yuo are referring to puppy love. When you first start to woo the girl and go dating, you feel love on cloud nine. But when your relationship start to get serious, you both talk about decision to stay together, where to stay, what to buy, how to share the expenses, which curtain is nice....all the puppy love is evaporated...
So you cannot be in love all the time.
Relationship is about commitment to somebody and doing things together. When you are at that stage love is unconditional. No more being in love.
So just because you see somebody in a relationship or marriage, doesn't mean that they are always in love. There will always be disagreements, arguments along with the pleasure of enjoying marriage and raising kids.
So your decision to get commitment should not be on the basis of puppy love. It should be whether, you and your other half love each other very much and can get along with. If you haven't found somebody you like and who can like you too, you should continue to stay single until you find somebody.
Refuse to go into relationship should be on the basis of your belief system and perhaps you want more freedom and independence. But if your basis for being alone is because you cannot take rejection...you are a fool. Rejection is everywhere. Your friends can reject you. Your family can reject you (such as chocochips). Your boss can reject you. Your colleagues can reject you. You cannot avoid rejection. Take it like a man...sober and grow up.
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How come a Dr of language can talk about LOVE, you aint a Dr Love lah...am I attending the wrong lecture??
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Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:
In today's world, especially our country, you must have lots $$$ then you can be in love...
That is money Love, not real Love, real Love is one that got no string attached. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
How come a Dr of language can talk about LOVE, you aint a Dr Love lah...am I attending the wrong lecture??
I am expert on the issue of love oso. Unlike you, you are only expert in mamasan biz.
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Being in love of coz...
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Originally posted by Dr Language:
I am expert on the issue of love oso. Unlike you, you are only expert in mamasan biz.
Oh, Dr Love Language...hee hee -
Notice that those Love consultants and peoples who loves to talk about Love and give advices are usually single people themselves or divorcees..
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Dr Language: yes rejection happens to all of us in almost any situation. To me, no rejection is more painful than the ones that comes from the opposite sex. And think of it, how many rejections you think you can handle until you have totally given up? There's the saying, "There'll comes a time when a man has had enough". After being rejected 100 times, you think you can still smile and say, "There is someone out there for me"?
Its good to be optimistic but dont forget to be realistic as well.
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what about �� unrequited love? is that being counted as in love?
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When you are single, 9 out of 10 times you are feeling fine. It's that 1 time when you need someone to hold you and tell you everything's gonna be alright that's making you emo.
When you are married, 9 out of 10 times you are feeling fine. It's that 1 time when you farking want to be alone that your significant other keeps going on and on and on about "Why so moody? Why don't you tell me? Do you love me? Why? Why? Why?" that pisses you off.
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u can of course be a philosopher or a drunkard of love ...
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
u can of course be a philosopher or a drunkard of love ...
Why cannot be a drunken philosopher of love?
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sure can too...but this refers to someone who is often drunk and give advices
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Notice that those Love consultants and peoples who loves to talk about Love and give advices are usually single people themselves or divorcees..
What do mamasans like you know about love? All yer boyfrens only come and go like customers visiting the 24 hour 7-11 shop to pay for service. -
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:
Dr Language: yes rejection happens to all of us in almost any situation. To me, no rejection is more painful than the ones that comes from the opposite sex. And think of it, how many rejections you think you can handle until you have totally given up? There's the saying, "There'll comes a time when a man has had enough". After being rejected 100 times, you think you can still smile and say, "There is someone out there for me"?
Its good to be optimistic but dont forget to be realistic as well.
Haiz. If you have been rejected 100 times means you are doing the same old thing or mistake 100 times. Think...and do differently from the last time that resulted in your failings. Also, are you targeting the same kind of girl? Knowing so well, they are not interested in you? Chio bu are harder to impress ya know?
So if you did not succeed, don't you think you should lower your criteria a bit? Have you considered other nationalities who are less materialistic, such as vietnamese, cambodians and thais?
I once had a cambodian girlfriend for a few months while being posted there. She is more subservient and less demanding.
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Love ... can eat ah?
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Can, got Love bite, egg Love letter cracker use in Chinese new year, all can eat. You dunno meh? When our govt said they love us, becareful, these also imply they eat us.
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After talking and commenting so much, first and foremost, TS got girlfriend or not?
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theres a saying for this: when you are in, you want out, when you are out, you want in. why? cos the pasture is always greener on the other side...:)