when i think of her it really make me sad.
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i got a gf for 1yr 6month already. she broke up with me last month ago.
*the reason for breakup is that i don't have insecurity and she don't see any future with me unless i change.
*i have been giving alots of chances and yet i fail to do so. i'm trying to change and she can see that i am changing but she's say is not enought.
*i'm wondering for days and nights is it because of my saving$ for my study that make her think that she's dragging me with her.
*for days and night i keep on thinking under her shoulder, if we really married she will be the one telling me what to do and i don't have my own decision and not a man in household.
i know she love me and me too. but the way she wants to break it is really hurt for her as well as me. we both cry for that day breakup. when i cry i am sure she will cry too. is my first love and really painfull.
is it first love always a lesson and it will not turn out to be a blissfull future?
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Originally posted by DaVe LiN pArK:
i got a gf for 1yr 6month already. she broke up with me last month ago.
*the reason for breakup is that i don't have insecurity and she don't see any future with me unless i change.
*i have been giving alots of chances and yet i fail to do so. i'm trying to change and she can see that i am changing but she's say is not enought.
*i'm wondering for days and nights is it because of my saving$ for my study that make her think that she's dragging me with her.
*for days and night i keep on thinking under her shoulder, if we really married she will be the one telling me what to do and i don't have my own decision and not a man in household.
i know she love me and me too. but the way she wants to break it is really hurt for her as well as me. we both cry for that day breakup. when i cry i am sure she will cry too. is my first love and really painfull.
is it first love always a lesson and it will not turn out to be a blissfull future?
is the girl in your profile your girlfriend ? If not.. I see why your gf wants to break up with you.
You are not mature enough for a committed relationship. I think she wants something more than just puppy love.
First love.. second love.. 10th love... every failure is a lesson you can learn.. how many times you have to go through a broken relationship depends on what you learned out of the previous failed relationship.
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The gal in TS profile pic is very HOT mann ~~~ TS, if that was really yr gf, consider yourself a damn lucky man ler.
My gf is miles away from that loh. {T_T}
The most only boob size can fight nia ~
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Girl look for some 1 to take care of them, to pamper them, to bed them at nite
not looking for babies so that they will tired themself out at nite only.................
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It can be a tough choice...
Although I'm never a fan of someone who is willing to give up something more important to me like 'love' over money, i can understand that it is different for everyone. So if that's what your ex has choosen to do and has no intentions of compromise, then I guess it's up to you.
If you r willing to go out of your way or change to satisfy the issues that she has raised because you are willing to do for the sake of staying/getting back 2gether, then that's up to you.....it could work out well at the end. If you don't, you might regret it later on....maybe.
On the other hand, she could be overly materialistic and your better sense of judgement is currently clouded by 'love' atm, so if you stay apart and give it time, you might realise later on that you made a wise decision to let her go.
First or tenth love....like the others said, you'll prob learn from them each. The first would always be a memorable experience though....
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Forcing yourself to be someone you are not will only cause the relationship to break down. It is just soon or later.
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Don't try to fit her criteria of a spouse. You will never make it, and even if you could you can never maintain it. And even if you can maintain it, she will always find some fault. Its a hopeless cause.
Know who you are first. Then from there decide who you want to take care of for the rest of your life.
The key word is discipline. How disciplined are you? How do you conduct yourself and your things?
If you are not disciplined yourself, others will discipline you.
By discipline you will be steady person, and people won't control you.
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I disagree abit.
I think compromising a little (by both) can be beneficial in such situations. Don't have to bow down to her every command, that way, yes it'll be a dead end. By compromising a little now to keep things going or to maintain the relationship, it may work out well later on.....which may be important now especially if u 'love' each other very much now. If these sort of challenges seem to continue again and again, then you might want to re-assess the situation and think how much more u r willing to compromise, if at all.
If you simply just want 2 stick to your guns from the start and don't want to compromise, then that's fine.....be prepared to loose her then. I hope u can then find Mr/Mrs Perfect.
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Originally posted by DaVe LiN pArK:
i got a gf for 1yr 6month already. she broke up with me last month ago.
*the reason for breakup is that i don't have insecurity and she don't see any future with me unless i change.
*i have been giving alots of chances and yet i fail to do so. i'm trying to change and she can see that i am changing but she's say is not enought.
*i'm wondering for days and nights is it because of my saving$ for my study that make her think that she's dragging me with her.
*for days and night i keep on thinking under her shoulder, if we really married she will be the one telling me what to do and i don't have my own decision and not a man in household.
i know she love me and me too. but the way she wants to break it is really hurt for her as well as me. we both cry for that day breakup. when i cry i am sure she will cry too. is my first love and really painfull.
is it first love always a lesson and it will not turn out to be a blissfull future?
Don't confuse her cry with wanting you to come back. She cry because she feels sorry for hurting you not because she still loves you. It is a straight hands down decision, she doesn't want you because she views that you are not capable of providing her needs. At least she is honest with that.
She want security, that is her choice. You must move on, do not feel sorry for yourself nor feel that you are not secure enough. THat is her choice, her criteria.
First love is painful but many many years you look back, you most likely laugh over it. Serious. There are a lot more worse things than a relationship breakup such as divorce. Good thing that you both can break up amicably instead of a marriage breakup. Learn to soak it up and move on. There are other fishes out there, it is not the end of the world.
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everything has a first...but never be the last to know or leave...
be on top of things...your indecisiveness is the key problem...there is no shame either she leaves or u leave her...
most important is how u manage out of it and get alive...
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Thanks =) i finally understand this more then i think.
she's is a nice girl and understand things well.i have faith that she's still love me but i'm sure that she wants hight demand and yet someone to love her and thats why she letting me go. not begin selfish to reach her criteria. even love will be so complicated and i always think last time that love is just a simple love. found someone that you love and just go ahead and love.
come to think of it i have to change my mindset. character won't change. it is the person thoughts change. if a person is begin force to change and it is not yourself anymore. it is the person that wanted you to be inside the dream. every person got their own good and bad point that's why the life is much more intresting and challenging.
From now onwards i will change for my family and my friends that when i was last time too hot temper and easily agitated. i have to endure this and give a warning sign before fire up. i will forcus on study and career once i get enought savings.
For me and for all and always give someone a chance.
1st chance is a lesson to learn
2nd chance is a test for what you have learn from a lesson
3rd chance is a exam you must pass no matter what, if fail, there's not such word as failure and it is who you wan to be after all and what you're going to do next path to keep going and going no matter how hard, how pressure, how stress, how tough, how people look at you, how people laught at you and always proud of yourself and confident.thanks really really very gratefull =)
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But my thinking is that, you still dun understand what you are thinking? after all these aunties and uncles advices, I am still disappointed in your thinking? It is either these uncles and aunties talk cork sing song or you simply cannot never get enlightened?
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
The gal in TS profile pic is very HOT mann ~~~ TS, if that was really yr gf, consider yourself a damn lucky man ler.
My gf is miles away from that loh. {T_T}
The most only boob size can fight nia ~
oh, yr gf lives so far away from you?? where nia, thailand or vietnam?? oh, I never heard that boobs can fight??
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Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
Girl look for some 1 to take care of them, to pamper them, to bed them at nite
not looking for babies so that they will tired themself out at nite only.................
and also most important, to give us money, house, maids, cards and cars, after that, whether the guy love us or not, not our problem liao. -
Originally posted by xiaogougou:
The gal in TS profile pic is very HOT mann ~~~ TS, if that was really yr gf, consider yourself a damn lucky man ler.
My gf is miles away from that loh. {T_T}
The most only boob size can fight nia ~
just go geylang and buy a pair of fake boobs if i remember correctlyits only $188 ranching from cup A ,B, C, D , E, F
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I recently passby my fren's sex shop, prices had gone down, i see only $120 to $150, import from China are cheaper than from Europe, but china one more hard. As for A to F, you can buy those interchangeable type, the body only cost $80, A to F cost $30 each.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
and also most important, to give us money, house, maids, cards and cars, after that, whether the guy love us or not, not our problem liao.this is call security
bo bian
in case next time u become old hag
husband pay for her gucci lv prada and other expense
after that u let her fcuk or he fcuk other gals u lan lan also
with money u find your own lj he find his own cb
this is modern gender eqaulity
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Originally posted by angel7030:
I recently passby my fren's sex shop, prices had gone down, i see only $120 to $150, import from China are cheaper than from Europe, but china one more hard. As for A to F, you can buy those interchangeable type, the body only cost $80, A to F cost $30 each.
dont buy from china 1 lah....... later he suck the plastic nei nei tio toxic how...??? he mouth later became virgin mouth how......??pay for more$$$ but buy japan better, just in case.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
But my thinking is that, you still dun understand what you are thinking? after all these aunties and uncles advices, I am still disappointed in your thinking? It is either these uncles and aunties talk cork sing song or you simply cannot never get enlightened?
if i'm wrong please correct me.
what i'm thinking now is, i have to forget her and go for my study. if we have fate and feelings, we can be back again. i did ask for patch back after that breakup. we are now friend. am i right?
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go and get porn from internet!!!!cheaper,better and faster!!!!
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Originally posted by DaVe LiN pArK:
if i'm wrong please correct me.
what i'm thinking now is, i have to forget her and go for my study. if we have fate and feelings, we can be back again. i did ask for patch back after that breakup. we are now friend. am i right?
Old flames are hard to rekindle. Look on the bright side, congratufuckinglations! Out with the old welcoming the new. Men need new flesh like women need new shoes XD -
Originally posted by Aneslayer:
Old flames are hard to rekindle. Look on the bright side, congratufuckinglations! Out with the old welcoming the new. Men need new flesh like women need new shoes XD
Flesh and shoe is alot of different hor, so dun just go around and said such thing, it shows that you cannot differentiate a living and a non living thing?? -
Originally posted by DaVe LiN pArK:
if i'm wrong please correct me.
what i'm thinking now is, i have to forget her and go for my study. if we have fate and feelings, we can be back again. i did ask for patch back after that breakup. we are now friend. am i right?
Love is not a happy thing to mess with, within, as someone said, it comes with hate, sorrow and problem, if you fall in Love, you hv to undertake this whole package, just like a tour package which include this lunch and that places, Love is the same, within the love package it include hate, sorrow, suspicious, angry, sad, wanting, sex, quarrel, scars and even fighting, unless you are willing to take all these, then you can embrace Love fully.Otherwise, go home, drink milk and go inside your room and study!!
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please forgive angie, i can fix her condition coz weekend coming.
aside to angie, pls pm me for details.
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It's alright son, You'll get over it as time passes by, whether you like it or not. Maybe you just ain't the right type for her, so forget the idea that she's the one for you. Take it as an experience, so that you will do better the next time round.