Bf on the run
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I had a heated quarrel with my bf last week and since then, he did not reply to my sms, phone calls. He even blocked me on msn. I even found out that he has added 2 new girls on his msn.
I dont know whether he wants a silent breakup. I tried asking him over sms and email but he just refused to speak a word. People advised me to look him up at his workplace, home but i dont want to create an ugly scene.
I feel abandoned and cheated. I am in emotional distress. What should I do? I just want a closure if he really wants a breakup
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since he made it so obvious, then u shd move on.
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Paint your face white and go knock on his window in the middle of the night
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no need knock lah, just 飘 in.
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life's like that sometimes.
u won't be given a closure, but u'll need to find some other way to obtain it.
it won't come in the way you want it now
but if you try hard enough, you'll find it i'm suregive urself time! *pat and big hug*
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ok. he doesnt care how i feel, he knows im very upset but can go on his life on his own.
a guys with no guts to even settle it amicably but going into escape.
im cheated!!
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It's not easy if it has just happened, but just gotta move on.
Or think of it this way; he's not worth your thought anymore since he doesn't have the decency to man-up during the breakup.
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Originally posted by jollebean:
ok. he doesnt care how i feel, he knows im very upset but can go on his life on his own.
a guys with no guts to even settle it amicably but going into escape.
im cheated!!
Yes yes, indeed, he has no guts.
Take your time to find someone better.
Don't give a damn about weaklings like him. -
Originally posted by MooKu:
Yes yes, indeed, he has no guts.
Take your time to find someone better.
Don't give a damn about weaklings like him.
I agree~
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my last boyf also same, just left without saying a word. i cried myself mad the next few weeks and never got closure for like a year. then i decided enough was enough, why should i let him take over my life/thougts when clearly i wasnt worth his.
pick yourself up and move on, sometimes closure comes from within yourself. :) stay strong girl~!
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It's obvious you're stalking him when he doesn't want contact. You found out he added two girls on msn (live profile) but how do you know they are dates and not friends? It shows you're being unreasonable.
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Originally posted by Tempo0203:
my last boyf also same, just left without saying a word. i cried myself mad the next few weeks and never got closure for like a year. then i decided enough was enough, why should i let him take over my life/thougts when clearly i wasnt worth his.
pick yourself up and move on, sometimes closure comes from within yourself. :) stay strong girl~!
That is most unfortunate. But courtship is clearly a trial run and is not a marriage. Why did you feel so strongly bound to him?Why must you be upset for so long?
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Originally posted by alize:
That is most unfortunate. But courtship is clearly a trial run and is not a marriage. Why did you feel so strongly bound to him?Why must you be upset for so long?
It is indeed unfortunate, isnt it?
Well, sometimes we have no control over matters of the heart. Part of the reason I felt so strongly towards him is because he was my first ever - in almost everything. Does that now satisfy your curiousity? It's not like I wanted/asked to take a year to get over him and the relationship (oh trust me if i could i would have wanted it to end in like a second); maybe I just take a longer time than you (or others, i dont know) to heal emotionally.
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Just something for you to think about.
When Malaysia dump Singapore, it was because the then Tengku Abdul Rahman expected Singapore to come crawling back to join Malaysia. You know the rest of the history.
Your bf expect you to feel the way you are feeling now, and is waiting for you to grovel back to him. He need to feel satisfied with revenge after you bashed him in the heated quarrel.
Well what you want to do?
Remember you are Singaporean.
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Maybe it is a cooling off period. His anger haven't simmered.
If you really really want closure, instead of going to his workplace, you should go to his home, knock on his door. If his mom open the door and say he is not at home or he is sleeping, insist to see him or barge into his home.
Give it like 2.5 weeks, if he still doesn't answer your calls - consider it an "undeclared" breakup.
Move on...
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Originally posted by mancha:
Just something for you to think about.
When Malaysia dump Singapore, it was because the then Tengku Abdul Rahman expected Singapore to come crawling back to join Malaysia. You know the rest of the history.
Your bf expect you to feel the way you are feeling now, and is waiting for you to grovel back to him. He need to feel satisfied with revenge after you bashed him in the heated quarrel.
Well what you want to do?
Remember you are Singaporean.
It is more complicated than that..
Maybe TS has very strong feelings towards bf, don't want to let him go.
Malaysia and Singapore was a marriage of convenience...some couples marry to enjoy tax breaks, get HDB flat, etc. So no feelings lost.
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to alize,
not everyone view courtsip as a trial run...it depends how u look at it...to such ppl, theres a difference btw dating and courtship...cating is trial run but courtship is not...perhaps TS belongs to this category of ppl...
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Just forget it
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When I saw the title, I thought the bf did something illegal and ran off to another country.
Chey.
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yes, it is very agnosing to wait....and wait..and be sad...and hope that one day very soon, he will call and come back
while he is already searching for new girls..and living like nothing happened
i thought he was a reliable and responsible man who loves me very much and who wouldnt pull this act on me, but didnt know he can do such a thing!
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even my gf husband who married for 20+ yrs can run away with the mistress
so u shd feel lucky that u both not married yet
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Originally posted by jollebean:
yes, it is very agnosing to wait....and wait..and be sad...and hope that one day very soon, he will call and come back
while he is already searching for new girls..and living like nothing happened
i thought he was a reliable and responsible man who loves me very much and who wouldnt pull this act on me, but didnt know he can do such a thing!
Oh, think bf reliable hor, responsible hor, love u very much hor.
Well, congradulation, you just complete module 1 about guys.
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aww guys, lets be nice to her. :) cheer up dear, it's a lesson learnt. dont be too hard on yourself yeah ?:)
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Before my wife married me, she had a bf who broke up with her, it was her first relationship too and she could not take the emotional pain and attempted suicide because of it.
We have now been happily married (of course we have our arguments & adjustments because we are two completely different people trying to live together as one ) for 6 yrs with very adorable kids. But unfortunately the bf ( was a good friend of mine ) had divorced his wife.
If you find the right one, it will be heaven on earth, but if you find the wrong one... it is better to remain a single
Hope you find the right one for you