Is she trying to play hard to get? Increase competition?
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There is this girl, who is my classmate at school. I grew to like her. During recess I take opportunity to try to chit chat with her. Recently there is this other guy, who always go around and mix with the girls. He give this girl, I like, a lot of attention; he is very helpful, like to help the girls carry book. One day, I ask her if she would be interested to discuss homework with me, she said yes. But then, we never follow through, because she never brought it up and me, just to shy to continue. But this guy, when we were in the class, he said he is going back home and wanted to escort her back home. To my surprise, she said "yes". I was there and heard everything.
What should I do? Should I also pursue her? But I don't want to make a scene. I don't want to fight this guy for her hand. Is she trying to make us both compete for her? If this is true, I just don't feel good about it because I don't feel it is genuine. I want to be with someone, I like and she like me too. Not somebody who look at relationship like a "sports".
So what should I do?
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The world do not play according to your rules.
"Faint heart never won fair ladies."
What about her side, she wants strong genes for her children, and provide for her essentials, ever consider that.
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you think just because you like her, so she belongs to you ???
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1) You are jealous,
2) She is not your gf yet
3) You need to push yourself more
4) ask her out for movies
5) get to know more of her friends
6) try to get into the good looks of her friends.
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U want or not?
Want then go and get, otherwise someone will take.
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u and him, who more hamsum?
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hamsum or humsap?!
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Lol. Take initiative. You want the girl to woo you ar
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gals like 3 things - handsome, sweet talk, rich guys
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Target acquired. Draw out your strategies. Execute.
Just don't start bad mouthing the competition....
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Originally posted by Disman:
gals like 3 things - handsome, sweet talk, rich guys
if u have these 3 factors - sure winunless the gals sick one
she want to make u mad about her
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As a gal, i also like to play with a hard.
Normal lah
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Originally posted by angel7030:
As a gal, i also like to play with a hard.
Normal lah
this me/i agreedplay hard to get
or else no price
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But she like me to go after her...in public. Why in public?
Like that day, she say very loud in class who want to follow her one to one to shopping complex in weekend, the guy was so fast, as if he knew oledi, he say he will accompany her. I wanted to say but the guy say oledi....so i shy la. Afterward everybody in the class know I want to go after her.
I want to do it shush shush. Behind everybody. Can I ask her out secretly?
But she always want to publicise and everybody to know.
My heart feels this is not genuine. Is relationship or courtship...a form of sports? The best man wins? So sad...I always thought love is true and respect.
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Originally posted by Wearetheworld:
But she like me to go after her...in public. Why in public?
Like that day, she say very loud in class who want to follow her one to one to shopping complex in weekend, the guy was so fast, as if he knew oledi, he say he will accompany her. I wanted to say but the guy say oledi....so i shy la. Afterward everybody in the class know I want to go after her.
I want to do it shush shush. Behind everybody. Can I ask her out secretly?
But she always want to publicise and everybody to know.
My heart feels this is not genuine. Is relationship or courtship...a form of sports? The best man wins? So sad...I always thought love is true and respect.
when u are successful in lifeall the gals will just throw themselves to u
not to worry
just part and puzzle of life
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If you are still having "recess", I think it's better for you to concentrate on your studies.
You may consider a relationship when you start having "free periods" or "days without lectures".
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Originally posted by Disman:
when u are successful in lifeall the gals will just throw themselves to u
not to worry
just part and puzzle of life
when u r successful , we gals will throw ourselve at your successfulness, not you.when u go bankrupt, we gals will throw you far far away. However, if there is a gal who still want to be with you, you dun mind going bankrupt
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those type of girls that disman described are so much like angel7030 type.
ts is stil having recess, i dont think at this point of life either he or the girl will think in materialistic way.
the girl is trying to act like the big sister/most popular girl in school.
by being a wimp and want things to happen in shush shush quiet no one knows way, she will never ever consider u.
in my opinion, this type of girls are more interested in those guys that are as popular as her, and also loud or joker types that will get people's attention in school to make her feel like she is on top of the world.
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future sluttish slut/bitchy bitchs
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There always a certain amount of vanity in every women. Its a weakness to exploit.
攻其�守，守其�攻
gin chiu lo du, ban chiu beh hu
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it is call no heart no tears
only give me to enjoy life
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Originally posted by angel7030:
when u r successful , we gals will throw ourselve at your successfulness, not you.when u go bankrupt, we gals will throw you far far away. However, if there is a gal who still want to be with you, you dun mind going bankrupt
got pink ic rich or poor girls also want to be with you. power of the sg citizenshipe -
Originally posted by Wearetheworld:
There is this girl, who is my classmate at school. I grew to like her. During recess I take opportunity to try to chit chat with her. Recently there is this other guy, who always go around and mix with the girls. He give this girl, I like, a lot of attention; he is very helpful, like to help the girls carry book. One day, I ask her if she would be interested to discuss homework with me, she said yes. But then, we never follow through, because she never brought it up and me, just to shy to continue. But this guy, when we were in the class, he said he is going back home and wanted to escort her back home. To my surprise, she said "yes". I was there and heard everything.
What should I do? Should I also pursue her? But I don't want to make a scene. I don't want to fight this guy for her hand. Is she trying to make us both compete for her? If this is true, I just don't feel good about it because I don't feel it is genuine. I want to be with someone, I like and she like me too. Not somebody who look at relationship like a "sports".
So what should I do?
Then you should ask her for her opinion.
Make things clear once and for all so you do not need to make any more wild guesses.
She agreed to discuss hw alone with you, but on the other hand agreed to be escorted by another guy home. Too confusing to predict anything, just ask her.
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Originally posted by Wearetheworld:
There is this girl, who is my classmate at school. I grew to like her. During recess I take opportunity to try to chit chat with her. Recently there is this other guy, who always go around and mix with the girls. He give this girl, I like, a lot of attention; he is very helpful, like to help the girls carry book. One day, I ask her if she would be interested to discuss homework with me, she said yes. But then, we never follow through, because she never brought it up and me, just to shy to continue. But this guy, when we were in the class, he said he is going back home and wanted to escort her back home. To my surprise, she said "yes". I was there and heard everything.
What should I do? Should I also pursue her? But I don't want to make a scene. I don't want to fight this guy for her hand. Is she trying to make us both compete for her? If this is true, I just don't feel good about it because I don't feel it is genuine. I want to be with someone, I like and she like me too. Not somebody who look at relationship like a "sports".
So what should I do?
"Nice" girls no need "create" competition.
"Nice" girls will have several suitors everywhere she goes.
"Nice" girls no need ask men to do things, men will pro-actively try to impress them.
Nice girls get to "pick" from the crop.
You are hoping to have a nice girl throw you a pity bone.
Guys like you.. only get left-overs.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
"Nice" girls no need "create" competition.
"Nice" girls will have several suitors everywhere she goes.
"Nice" girls no need ask men to do things, men will pro-actively try to impress them.
Nice girls get to "pick" from the crop.
You are hoping to have a nice girl throw you a pity bone.
Guys like you.. only get left-overs.
I do not agree wif your opinion. There are good girls and not very good girls. I have met girls who want me to chase after them, until so little progress, but I have also met girls who like me so much that we just match so perfectly - I don't have to work so hard, just one phone call, and we both become bf/gf.
Question is: do you want to chase an exhibitionist? or do you want to chase someone who likes you?
The first is a waste of time because she is not interested in you. She just want to draw you in to chase after her to increase her market value.
The second is priceless. Because she will swoon all over you, and all you have to do is to make a phone call. The rest...you leave it to fate. Most of my girlfriends fall in this category...I only go after those who are interested in me.