People who never had relationships
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At 30, you are going to the bottom of the U, which will be about 40, then at 50 opportunity will go up, 60 will be even better, 70, 80 much more better chances. Because the pool is much larger, age range is from 16 to 80 or older if you don't mind the age gap. Also you CPF savings would be quite substantial.
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our abnormal gender policy has soured and alienates relationships for all their ivory tower treatises but lacking in socio-pyschological insights...
what is this biased and stupid system that calls for a kinder and gentler social relationships at one sided expense?
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Originally posted by Dr Language:
Frens will eventually get married...if you don't settle down in time, you may find it hard to find people with the same age as you to hang out with. Most married guys are too busy wif their wives and kids. And you may also find it hard to access to social groups that are younger than you.
Yes !! My point exactly !! Thank you very much !!Which is something our dear imdestinyz failed to realize. Marriage is a necessary stage of life, because you dont do it, you simply will be left out eventually ~~
imdestiny knows ppl who lived their life all alone and are still happy. really depends on the way we see it mah.I honestly dun tink we nid to plan sth drastic even though we are still single by the age of 30.
Harlow, friend. How sure are you that these pple are genuinely happy? Are you the worm inside their tummy? They may appear outwardly happy but they could jolly well be tearing apart inside ! Many pple simply put on a front to save themselves from embarassment and retain some dignity.
Sure, you can claim to be a liberator of the new times and be happy & single over 30 years old. Hell there aint nothing wrong about that. You dont have to conform to the norms of society.
But honestly how many of us can really do that? How many can really escape from the clutches of peer and societal pressure huh?
You like to other pple then its ok, by all means. But if you lie to even yourself and fake your happiness, that is really really pitiful and pathetic.
We may have to plan for the future but there's no nid to make it sound like doomsday wad.
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Originally posted by Dr Language:
Frens will eventually get married...if you don't settle down in time, you may find it hard to find people with the same age as you to hang out with. Most married guys are too busy wif their wives and kids. And you may also find it hard to access to social groups that are younger than you.I have a few single frens....we have decided to take care of each other when we grow old together....for some other, lonely. Not me.
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Yes !! My point exactly !! Thank you very much !!Which is something our dear imdestinyz failed to realize. Marriage is a necessary stage of life, because you dont do it, you simply will be left out eventually ~~
imdestiny knows ppl who lived their life all alone and are still happy. really depends on the way we see it mah.I honestly dun tink we nid to plan sth drastic even though we are still single by the age of 30.
Harlow, friend. How sure are you that these pple are genuinely happy? Are you the worm inside their tummy? They may appear outwardly happy but they could jolly well be tearing apart inside ! Many pple simply put on a front to save themselves from embarassment and retain some dignity.
Sure, you can claim to be a liberator of the new times and be happy & single over 30 years old. Hell there aint nothing wrong about that. You dont have to conform to the norms of society.
But honestly how many of us can really do that? How many can really escape from the clutches of peer and societal pressure huh?
You like to other pple then its ok, by all means. But if you lie to even yourself and fake your happiness, that is really really pitiful and pathetic.
We may have to plan for the future but there's no nid to make it sound like doomsday wad.
well... u question-ed if i am a worm in their stomach to know whether they are really happy anot. Then are u a worm in their stomach to learn if they are tearing inside out? And i honestly dun find it anyway really pitiful and pathetic neither do i feel that i am lying to myself. I somehow just feel that you are forcefully trying to impose your own ideas into other's belief. And i do not see why being unable to get married/a relationship at 30 can be a display of any fake happiness which may lead to being patiful and pathetic? So are you trying to say that at the age of 30, r/s is all that matters? True enough that most of us would like to settle down by that age but pls do not generalise the old public. I was just merely trying to point out different ppl which have different ways and views on living their life. While many of us may not be able to escape the social pressure and norms of the current society, it ultimately depends on every individual on their own take of their current lives. Pls do not claim that anyone who does not comform to the social norms and are yet happy with their lives are merely tearing out inside and are pitiful, pathetic or are lying to themselves. There can be more to a life at 30 than just relationships. I believe when TS posted such a question, he would have wanted to hear different view points or how different ppl deal with the same issue. Which in that case i believe we shld not jus conform TS to a single viewpoint while dismissing all others. -
Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Do you expect to meet any decent pple chiong-ing ? {=_=}
For sure....i know at least 2-3 couples married, kids etc. that met via chiong-ing. Though they mainly met thru friends who dragged them there rather than frequent chiong-ers. -
Originally posted by Demon Bane:
I have a few single frens....we have decided to take care of each other when we grow old together....for some other, lonely. Not me.
Doesn't mean that you shouldn't try. Who knows, perhaps somebody you like may come by your way. You should be open to relationships...if you shut out somebody who like u, u r shutting down opportunity coming ur way. -
Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Yes !! My point exactly !! Thank you very much !!Which is something our dear imdestinyz failed to realize. Marriage is a necessary stage of life, because you dont do it, you simply will be left out eventually ~~
imdestiny knows ppl who lived their life all alone and are still happy. really depends on the way we see it mah.I honestly dun tink we nid to plan sth drastic even though we are still single by the age of 30.
Harlow, friend. How sure are you that these pple are genuinely happy? Are you the worm inside their tummy? They may appear outwardly happy but they could jolly well be tearing apart inside ! Many pple simply put on a front to save themselves from embarassment and retain some dignity.
Sure, you can claim to be a liberator of the new times and be happy & single over 30 years old. Hell there aint nothing wrong about that. You dont have to conform to the norms of society.
But honestly how many of us can really do that? How many can really escape from the clutches of peer and societal pressure huh?
You like to other pple then its ok, by all means. But if you lie to even yourself and fake your happiness, that is really really pitiful and pathetic.
We may have to plan for the future but there's no nid to make it sound like doomsday wad.
Well, actually it is up to the individual. I know a few guys now in their 50s still single. Maybe its a lifestyle choice for them. But for me, I cannot stand living without a life partner. Having said that, I think every individual should try to find somebody out there. Give the opposite sex a chance if they r interested in us. -
Thats why lah bro.
Harlow, imdestinyz, friend, dude, no one ever said it is BAD that you are not married by 30 years old ok..
It is when you exceed 30 years old and beyond and still DONT get hitched which for sure will pose a problem with your future life.
I did not deny that there are pple who can live, die and rot alone til their old age. But the question is How Many? Just How Many of these pple are there? And how many within these group of pple WILLINGLY wanna be single all their lives? To how many of such pple staying single til old age is a lifestyle choice?
This is exactly the same like you go out and ask around about National Service: How many guys in our nation WILLINGLY serve NS one? I will kowtow 1000 times to you if you can find even a decent percentage of such pple.
I for one would love to see you put the food on your plate and make yourself a sacrificial lamb by staying single yourself til old age to convince pple since you are such an advocate for it.
Like what Dr. Language said, when you see the friends around you get married one by one, and yet you are left behind alone, Those within these group of pple who are trying forever with no luck, the feeling could be very sour and excruciating. Wah lao, that is a real personal tragedy loh. The notion of growing old alone is not exactly something very nice to look forward to ok. It is for 99% of most pple that it is a deep seeded feeling of lost and hopelessness.
Especially for those like what TS said NEVER had a relationship by 30. If they are keen to have one, by the time they reach 30 and even beyond, it is an alarm clock ringing ~~~ This is an indication that you DO. NOT. HAVE. MUCH. TIME. LEFT. Particularly for women, by 30 their biological clock starts ticking louder and louder, faster and faster.
NAHHH !! I know what cha gonna say again. I know some pple by the age of this like this, by the age of that like that. Come on man.. you know you know, you know so what? You know serves no purpose at all that this is exactly the way it is loh.
Dont be so hypocritical to post false hope to humour pple loh. Wake up your idea can?
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Originally posted by Dr Language:
Doesn't mean that you shouldn't try. Who knows, perhaps somebody you like may come by your way. You should be open to relationships...if you shut out somebody who like u, u r shutting down opportunity coming ur way.You're quite right on this....but I prefer single as my choice....having good frens that are single too is my choice too ! Hahaha!
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Thats why lah bro.
Harlow, imdestinyz, friend, dude, no one ever said it is BAD that you are not married by 30 years old ok..
It is when you exceed 30 years old and beyond and still DONT get hitched which for sure will pose a problem with your future life.
I did not deny that there are pple who can live, die and rot alone til their old age. But the question is How Many? Just How Many of these pple are there? And how many within these group of pple WILLINGLY wanna be single all their lives? To how many of such pple staying single til old age is a lifestyle choice?
This is exactly the same like you go out and ask around about National Service: How many guys in our nation WILLINGLY serve NS one? I will kowtow 1000 times to you if you can find even a decent percentage of such pple.
I for one would love to see you put the food on your plate and make yourself a sacrificial lamb by staying single yourself til old age to convince pple since you are such an advocate for it.
Like what Dr. Language said, when you see the friends around you get married one by one, and yet you are left behind alone, Those within these group of pple who are trying forever with no luck, the feeling could be very sour and excruciating. Wah lao, that is a real personal tragedy loh. The notion of growing old alone is not exactly something very nice to look forward to ok. It is for 99% of most pple that it is a deep seeded feeling of lost and hopelessness.
Especially for those like what TS said NEVER had a relationship by 30. If they are keen to have one, by the time they reach 30 and even beyond, it is an alarm clock ringing ~~~ This is an indication that you DO. NOT. HAVE. MUCH. TIME. LEFT. Particularly for women, by 30 their biological clock starts ticking louder and louder, faster and faster.
NAHHH !! I know what cha gonna say again. I know some pple by the age of this like this, by the age of that like that. Come on man.. you know you know, you know so what? You know serves no purpose at all that this is exactly the way it is loh.
Dont be so hypocritical to post false hope to humour pple loh. Wake up your idea can?
LOL firstly i am not posting false hope to humour ppl. Like i have mentioned many times which i seriously tink you fail to capture is that i am offering TS different views and different way ppl lived their lives despite being in the same situation. Pls have a open mind to accept more views and opinion which may vary slight or even to a large extent from yours. By asking me to wake up my idea can i request the same of you too? to wake up ur idea and open ur eyes to more opinion rather than harping on the same fact. You keep dismissing my opinions by saying "you know you know, you know so what? You know serves no purpose at all that this is exactly the way it is loh" and so what i know serves no purpose and only what you know and only what is preceived as correct by you serves a purpose? Please do not accuse others of being hyprocritical when others have different opinion from you. And as wad dr language have said, "actually it is up to the individual. I know a few guys now in their 50s still single. Maybe its a lifestyle choice for them". It is dependent on the individual and what i have been offering are alternative opinions based on what i have seen. Please read and see things with a more open mind rather than to dismiss other's opinion because of a very differing view point from yours. -
Oh, that Siao cuckoo ar?? dun bother about him lah, he is alway like this one lah, always he is right and the rest are wrong, typical siao mind, but if you understand him, you tends to forgive him.
Anyway, being single is good when you are young, but as you grow older, you certainly need a companion to walk with you in your golden age, otherwise, you may end up having mental problem, most single for too long tends to harbour pyshological problem, so, i strong encourage those older uncles or aunties to find their partner now, be less choosy and picky, I am sure you can find one, if still cannot, can look for me, I can intro some....but at a cost
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Oh, that Siao cuckoo ar?? dun bother about him lah, he is alway like this one lah, always he is right and the rest are wrong, typical siao mind, but if you understand him, you tends to forgive him.
Anyway, being single is good when you are young, but as you grow older, you certainly need a companion to walk with you in your golden age, otherwise, you may end up having mental problem, most single for too long tends to harbour pyshological problem, so, i strong encourage those older uncles or aunties to find their partner now, be less choosy and picky, I am sure you can find one, if still cannot, can look for me, I can intro some....but at a cost
Wow, uncle longinchjohn soliciting business for his naked pub in Joo Chiat. Uuuu wee!
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
You're quite right on this....but I prefer single as my choice....having good frens that are single too is my choice too ! Hahaha!
Sure ah...don't look back...when u made your decision...u got to stick to it. No regrets.
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Thats why lah bro.
Harlow, imdestinyz, friend, dude, no one ever said it is BAD that you are not married by 30 years old ok..
It is when you exceed 30 years old and beyond and still DONT get hitched which for sure will pose a problem with your future life.
I did not deny that there are pple who can live, die and rot alone til their old age. But the question is How Many? Just How Many of these pple are there? And how many within these group of pple WILLINGLY wanna be single all their lives? To how many of such pple staying single til old age is a lifestyle choice?
This is exactly the same like you go out and ask around about National Service: How many guys in our nation WILLINGLY serve NS one? I will kowtow 1000 times to you if you can find even a decent percentage of such pple.
I for one would love to see you put the food on your plate and make yourself a sacrificial lamb by staying single yourself til old age to convince pple since you are such an advocate for it.
Like what Dr. Language said, when you see the friends around you get married one by one, and yet you are left behind alone, Those within these group of pple who are trying forever with no luck, the feeling could be very sour and excruciating. Wah lao, that is a real personal tragedy loh. The notion of growing old alone is not exactly something very nice to look forward to ok. It is for 99% of most pple that it is a deep seeded feeling of lost and hopelessness.
Especially for those like what TS said NEVER had a relationship by 30. If they are keen to have one, by the time they reach 30 and even beyond, it is an alarm clock ringing ~~~ This is an indication that you DO. NOT. HAVE. MUCH. TIME. LEFT. Particularly for women, by 30 their biological clock starts ticking louder and louder, faster and faster.
NAHHH !! I know what cha gonna say again. I know some pple by the age of this like this, by the age of that like that. Come on man.. you know you know, you know so what? You know serves no purpose at all that this is exactly the way it is loh.
Dont be so hypocritical to post false hope to humour pple loh. Wake up your idea can?
I dunno la. I got many 20s friends and 30s friends. But I got friends who are 30s got problem with making babies. Both the husband and wife go to fertility clinic, doctor say it is the guy's fault because his sperm count low. Then I got another friend, the doctor say it is the woman's fault. SO it could be either guy or girl. That is why I say, if we marry late, we got to be open to adoption or maybe just get married but no kids.
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Aiya, I am trying to match make, and i am not my brother lah, if you cannot find one of your age, i try to get one guy, mostly are managerial position, or men, a ladies of good grace.
The problem in singapore is not that people cannot find partner, it because they alway go the wrong way, and as time goes on, give up altogether, of course some are divorcees, it is ok to divorce, cos marriage can be a mistake just like engaging the wrong contractors, so I try to match them, of course, after I matched them and they are successful, they need to give me ang pao on their wedding day hor.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Oh, that Siao cuckoo ar?? dun bother about him lah, he is alway like this one lah, always he is right and the rest are wrong, typical siao mind, but if you understand him, you tends to forgive him.
Anyway, being single is good when you are young, but as you grow older, you certainly need a companion to walk with you in your golden age, otherwise, you may end up having mental problem, most single for too long tends to harbour pyshological problem, so, i strong encourage those older uncles or aunties to find their partner now, be less choosy and picky, I am sure you can find one, if still cannot, can look for me, I can intro some....but at a cost
Hey angel, what is your problem? You not happy with me come tell me straight in the face lah, dont go posting behind pple. Hum is it ? You better mind what you call others and dont put words into my mouth har. How well do you know me to make a judgement about who i am? Your comments dont exactly showcase you as a very righteous, decent person you know? I never ever claim i am more right than others. But as least compared to you, i offer more sensible remarks, thank you very much. -
hey cool down people... dont forget we are here to �谊切磋 :)
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Aiya, I am trying to match make, and i am not my brother lah, if you cannot find one of your age, i try to get one guy, mostly are managerial position, or men, a ladies of good grace.
The problem in singapore is not that people cannot find partner, it because they alway go the wrong way, and as time goes on, give up altogether, of course some are divorcees, it is ok to divorce, cos marriage can be a mistake just like engaging the wrong contractors, so I try to match them, of course, after I matched them and they are successful, they need to give me ang pao on their wedding day hor.
uncle longinchjohn is very enterprising, now doing matchmaking business.
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like brother, like sister mah
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Chill chill... everyone take a chillax pill... I don't think angel7030 here meant any harm.
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Yalor, I am a gal, but a playful one, in fact, I am a very humorous gal, and i really mean no harm, I just want people to be happy, laugh, smile and enjoy your day, cos afterall, life aint long, enjoy while it last ya.
shhh...joke aside, i am the next princess to take over the queen of this forum ya, that old hag is not going last very long
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I still cannot believe that a person aged 30 had no GF before ?!? Too busy with career?? Yes, past 30 will be difficult to get hitched....
Try group dating lah....very popular in Japan... -
My relative 35 still no gf before.