Hi. im sorry if this type of problem becoming cliche but im just want to let it out and need some of your advice.
4 years ago i was quite lonely. I only have my school friends which is normal but we dont really hangout, Just a hi and bye situation.
3 years ago was the best year ever. I started to get to know my friends from work and he intro me to his friends and sooner or later, we all are like big family. We all hang out here and there almost everyday. Totally best. As time pass by, few of our groups starts to fall. 4-5 of them went to NS. another few of them got into r/s and some into overseas studies. And we're left like with only 3 people. Due to the numbers, we met like once every 2 months or so and i started to get this lonely feeling again.
2 years ago was the last year i met up with those 2. As one of them going overseas and another went to NS. I was at home for like more than 4 months. It was really awkward and i feel sad inside. I went across some of my old friends blogspot and all of them have their group of friends and have their own life. I feel envy and sad.
A year ago, my school friends sent me an invite for a old time gathering. Obviously i go and i never felt so joyful and free. one of them actually ask me out to go with them for a movie and meet up with other of her friends. I accepted it. We all hang out once a week. As months go by, we didnt hang out anymore because she stop msging. So i msg her that she wants to hangout and she replied she's now busy with her project and relationship. I cant hang out with her friends anymore because it be awkward if i go there without her around.
And now... now i feel lonely again. Is this sort of thing is fated? am i really destined to be alone?
No. If you are so free, go be a volunteer. The people there are really nice and friendly. Which volunteer is not nice and friendly right?
Just remember one thing in life, friends are not forever, they come and go, you need to make new friends and open up your network, take up a healthy hobby, can be games, sports, leisure hobby like photoshooting or fly kites etc etc, you will make more friend, oh...and another thing from angie, if you do not open up, nobody can get in, so open up like me, keep smiling and happy, automatically, friends will pour in non stop, like now, full of junk mails and dating coming in until I give up.
That's life....people go in different directions, move on etc.
As mentioned, just do your own thing and you'll come across others that you'll get along with. Perhaps try taking the first step to talk to your old friends or other people instead also....if you think that's going to help.
I'm pretty sure many others have experienced the same thing as you and are doing fine now.
just go find new better friends
Or go get yourself conn by some gals so that you at least can get the experiences and not so boring, other than that...go for xbox live, sony PS, Wii, kinetic, etc etc,
I am of the opinion that one good non-fair-weathered friend is better than a group of friends.
that is right. one good friend is all you need.
the 10s of hee hee haha friends will run away
before you can say i need help. so don't have
the mentality that you need friends. If you live
your life meaninfully, friends will come.
So channel your sadness and energy into your own life. Afterall, if u dont love
yourself. Who will love you?
You need to mix around mingle around. Confidence is what you need and lack.
of cos u can break from the chain of being alone.
I can be your friend :D hahas . let's go do volunteer work. [email protected]
we are fated to change the destinies of our lives - for better or for worse
This is indication that it is time for you to go find a life partner then you don't feel lonely anymore.
Good solution to join volunteer work...
having the idea that if u find a life partner, you won't be lonely anymore is not the most healthy one and it doesn't help to find her direction in life. Many times, woman who depend and stick too close too their bf end up being dumped. Its not entirely the case but i think you still have to discover your'self' before you can move on.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:Hi. im sorry if this type of problem becoming cliche but im just want to let it out and need some of your advice.
4 years ago i was quite lonely. I only have my school friends which is normal but we dont really hangout, Just a hi and bye situation.
3 years ago was the best year ever. I started to get to know my friends from work and he intro me to his friends and sooner or later, we all are like big family. We all hang out here and there almost everyday. Totally best. As time pass by, few of our groups starts to fall. 4-5 of them went to NS. another few of them got into r/s and some into overseas studies. And we're left like with only 3 people. Due to the numbers, we met like once every 2 months or so and i started to get this lonely feeling again.
2 years ago was the last year i met up with those 2. As one of them going overseas and another went to NS. I was at home for like more than 4 months. It was really awkward and i feel sad inside. I went across some of my old friends blogspot and all of them have their group of friends and have their own life. I feel envy and sad.
A year ago, my school friends sent me an invite for a old time gathering. Obviously i go and i never felt so joyful and free. one of them actually ask me out to go with them for a movie and meet up with other of her friends. I accepted it. We all hang out once a week. As months go by, we didnt hang out anymore because she stop msging. So i msg her that she wants to hangout and she replied she's now busy with her project and relationship. I cant hang out with her friends anymore because it be awkward if i go there without her around.
And now... now i feel lonely again. Is this sort of thing is fated? am i really destined to be alone?
Originally posted by Shorter ninja:
You come into this world alone and you will leave this world alone.In between it is up to you.
no, u may come alone, but sometime never go alone, there are lots of them accompany you at time you go
Mate, finding a "partner" might not fill that void. It can make things worse. Two lonely folk coming together means more problems, not less.
Life can suck, but you are not alone in your predictament. That you'd come forward and make yourself vulnerably on this forum takes courage and I applaud you for that. It also means you would have enough courage to do volunteer work - find a local orphanage, old age home, donate bloot etc - there are folk who desperately need you, believe it or not, and for good reason too.
As for your fair weather friends, they can go fxxk themselves. You're nobody's booty call and in your volunteer work you should be able to meet sincere, selfless like minded folk - these would make better birds of feather.
Godspeed soldier.
Originally posted by Bhw33:I am of the opinion that one good non-fair-weathered friend is better than a group of friends.
no really, you will put alots of pressure on that one good friend, that can be bad if that good fren suddenly give up on you.
And occasionally, for boys, I notice if they have only one good frens, they tends to become gay...oops
Originally posted by angel7030:no, u may come alone, but sometime never go alone, there are lots of them accompany you at time you go
You come alone I come alone we cum together la
SIMI TAIJI?
As what Loor say, friends come and go. When all our friends get married and have kids, they surely don't have time to hang out with you. That is the cycle of life, if you are left out from the cycle, you have to find new friends. It is not so easy because if you are 27 and all your friends are already married, you have to go back to your old cycle and mix with people who are 24 or 25. Where are you going to find people like that? Your school friends are same age with you. Your work colleagues mostly are married. So that is why important not to miss the cycle.
Nothing wrong with finding a life partner. It is a journey worth the risk. Boyfriend can hurt but eventually will find the right one. If sit on it, no use, person will find it hard to find someone.
Originally posted by angel7030:
no really, you will put alots of pressure on that one good friend, that can be bad if that good fren suddenly give up on you.And occasionally, for boys, I notice if they have only one good frens, they tends to become gay...oops
U knew I was gay even before my friends whittled down to 1 or 2 recently. So staight men can have one good male friend for bonding, I guess.
You may not know it, but it is all fated.
You stay at home all day all week no friends, wanking, it is fated.
You go clubbing, you meed chio bu, plenty of friends, free drinks, it is fated.
You bored go to museum, look at pictures, it is fated.
You wonder what is life, it is fated.
Whatever, it is all fated.
So what ever you do, just do it. It is fated.
thanks alot u guys. haha some of u guys really uplifted me. As much as i u guys trying to advice me getting a life partner, i dont think i want to. I have to go with sarong party boy and ctrlsave. It may added my stress and im alrdy as "stress" as i am now.
Angel7030... thanks for your advice haha. that really helps. but im just wondering, do play games like xbox, ps3 really help me get friends actually?
And some of u guys wanted me to take part in volunteer work. erm how and where should i start?
sorry mancha.. i dont get it
btw im a guy and straight lol =)