Siblings in equality is common in all families, but then by and large, once all had graduated, grown up and start working or get married, such inequality seem childish to them, most will come together and love each other more.
Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
1. sorry, unlike u my father dont hate me. but perhaps u rly no parents one.
2. sorry, maybe u have parents. but really sibeh hard to tell sia from ur behaviour. cuz u behaved like u got parents to bring u to the world but no parents to teach. so i dont blame u for behaving like this and for stealing people wife. but if they got try to teach u then whos fault is it? ur useless parents for failing to teach u or u are jus too fucked up to learn how to be a decent person?
3. im nt angry at u. cuz obviously u dunno anything (what do u noe anyway?) and anyhow shoot only. like what ur father did to have u.
4. how to be even more disappointing in life than u? if theres a grade to rank guys attractiveness u are prolly right at the bottom. no career no money no looks no character no qualifications
5. any fat fuck can bounce a ball and claim to be playing basketball. u are still a fat fuck. 95 kg fat fuck
sorry again, u are really a loser. have a nice day.
Don't deny lar, you lanjiao. You send me three stupid harassing messages in my inbox, you are damn blady hurt by my comments.
Why angry ah? Go dig yer own nose, loser.
I know you fuck yer own brother, with yer little dick. Need a magnifying glass to find it. Sex molester. No wonder your brother hates you.
Stop talking cock and start admitting like a man, not go and send harassing languages to people's mail box like a little girl. Admit it, lanjiao face.
Yer father hates you. He doesn't like to talk to you. Because you are an ugly Chocochip. He look at you, he sees you as an illegitimate child. Your mother brought you from somewhere else probably from Geylang.
No wonder he don't want to speak to a sibeh lanjiao face like you.
You so offended, you even want to criticise my basketball skills. I can do three pointer and run circles round your fat arse.
You are a loser, no money, waste money on gambling on sports and casino. Go fuck off lah. Don't blame forumers like me for your father's hatred for you. Your father is also a bit retard one. No father is like yours. Every father communicates with their own son. But obviously there is a reason why he doesn't because he hates you and he is retarded like you.
Originally posted by Dr Language:Don't deny lar, you lanjiao. You send me three stupid harassing messages in my inbox, you are damn blady hurt by my comments.
Why angry ah? Go dig yer own nose, loser.
I know you fuck yer own brother, with yer little dick. Need a magnifying glass to find it. Sex molester. No wonder your brother hates you.
Stop talking cock and start admitting like a man, not go and send harassing languages to people's mail box like a little girl. Admit it, lanjiao face.
Yer father hates you. He doesn't like to talk to you. Because you are an ugly Chocochip. He look at you, he sees you as an illegitimate child. Your mother brought you from somewhere else probably from Geylang.
No wonder he don't want to speak to a sibeh lanjiao face like you.
You so offended, you even want to criticise my basketball skills. I can do three pointer and run circles round your fat arse.
You are a loser, no money, waste money on gambling on sports and casino. Go fuck off lah. Don't blame forumers like me for your father's hatred for you. Your father is also a bit retard one. No father is like yours. Every father communicates with their own son. But obviously there is a reason why he doesn't because he hates you and he is retarded like you.
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Originally posted by Dr Language:Don't deny lar, you lanjiao. You send me three stupid harassing messages in my inbox, you are damn blady hurt by my comments.
Why angry ah? Go dig yer own nose, loser.
I know you fuck yer own brother, with yer little dick. Need a magnifying glass to find it. Sex molester. No wonder your brother hates you.
Stop talking cock and start admitting like a man, not go and send harassing languages to people's mail box like a little girl. Admit it, lanjiao face.
Yer father hates you. He doesn't like to talk to you. Because you are an ugly Chocochip. He look at you, he sees you as an illegitimate child. Your mother brought you from somewhere else probably from Geylang.
No wonder he don't want to speak to a sibeh lanjiao face like you.
You so offended, you even want to criticise my basketball skills. I can do three pointer and run circles round your fat arse.
You are a loser, no money, waste money on gambling on sports and casino. Go fuck off lah. Don't blame forumers like me for your father's hatred for you. Your father is also a bit retard one. No father is like yours. Every father communicates with their own son. But obviously there is a reason why he doesn't because he hates you and he is retarded like you.
fuck you.
admit what lanjiao when its all bullshit from u? dont think i am you ok. u sexually attacked ur siblings and stray animals then u think its me. u lost money at dunno where u think its me again. u dunno where u come from and u think its me. im not ur ugly reflection ok u cb. why dont u admit u are actually talking abt you and ur guilty past?
and why dont u admit that u are randomly shooting me just like how u show off ur "skills" in bball?
fatfuck still wan to haolian can run. walk faster =/= run.
and fuck u again.
dont u dare bring my family into this, ur parents no teach u how to be decent doesnt mean u can do this.
as a person u are downright ugly. not jus physically and ur heart is fucking ugly too.
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Originally posted by limeapplestick:my dad seems to favour my younger siblings over me.he talks to them nicely, plays with them, talks to them. i'm not jealous, but i feel hurt.
the last time i told him about a problem i encountered in sch, he brushed the topic aside, and told me firmly to go shower because i was smelly and that i should be more hygenic, etc.
*ouch*
although i'm doing relatively better for my studies as compared to my siblings, i feel very left out and not appreciated and recently, i lost my motivation to study. and i found that i felt better when i was doing things for my cca, because i was being recognised, and the friends i have there are really appreciative and i feel a sense of accomplishment when events go well. however, this led to another problem because my dad has a issue with me coming back late, and recently, he told me "i don't care what you do in school, so long as you deliver the As" refering to my A levels which are coming, end of this year. it feels so demoralising, to hear that all my dad wants from me, are my "As".
please help.
A parent's love is not all encompassing. They will judge and they will evaluate you based on your behavior and the way you interact with them.
You need to do some introspection.
Be more objective about your father's expectations for you.
He is paying for you to go school.. of cors he expects you to Ace it and make his hard earned money well spent.
You cite the difference in treatment between you and your siblings. May I ask.. what makes you more interesting or more engaging as a person ?
Maybe your siblings are able to make your father laugh, while you only do and say things to piss him off ?
You may think it is hurtful for your father to tell you go wash up because you stink. You take it so personally it affects the affection you had for your father. But in fact, you are stinky, you are unhygienic.
Have you tried having a talk with him when you are not stinky and unhygienic ? Or did you let that episode fester ?
Let me remind you that.. while you feel accepted in your CCA. Those "accomplishments" will not follow you after you leave school.
CCA build character, they teach you social skills beyond the classrooms.. Just because you do well in CCA , does not guarantee later success in your adult life.
However, your As in study results will affect your future academic success, which may in turn help you in your career. CCA.. not so much. So you need to weigh in the activities and what you choose to forgo.
While you desire your father's validation, he is not the one living your life.
There's no cure for stupidity. if you can make smart choices, life will be more fulfiling than sulking for the lack of affection from your father. Your dad can only "validate" your success, but you are the one who truly benefit from your efforts.
Originally posted by jojobeach:A parent's love is not all encompassing. They will judge and they will evaluate you based on your behavior and the way you interact with them.
You need to do some introspection.
Be more objective about your father's expectations for you.
He is paying for you to go school.. of cors he expects you to Ace it and make his hard earned money well spent.
You cite the difference in treatment between you and your siblings. May I ask.. what makes you more interesting or more engaging as a person ?
Maybe your siblings are able to make your father laugh, while you only do and say things to piss him off ?
You may think it is hurtful for your father to tell you go wash up because you stink. You take it so personally it affects the affection you had for your father. But in fact, you are stinky, you are unhygienic.
Have you tried having a talk with him when you are not stinky and unhygienic ? Or did you let that episode fester ?
Let me remind you that.. while you feel accepted in your CCA. Those "accomplishments" will not follow you after you leave school.
CCA build character, they teach you social skills beyond the classrooms.. Just because you do well in CCA , does not guarantee later success in your adult life.
However, your As in study results will affect your future academic success, which may in turn help you in your career. CCA.. not so much. So you need to weigh in the activities and what you choose to forgo.
While you desire your father's validation, he is not the one living your life.
There's no cure for stupidity. if you can make smart choices, life will be more fulfiling than sulking for the lack of affection from your father. Your dad can only "validate" your success, but you are the one who truly benefit from your efforts.
Getting As is not going to mean you can make it in your future, it all about moderation, as long as you are discipline, focus, work abit hard and smart, you can make it in life even without Aces, as for parenting, parents do not know or unable to differentiate if they had inequalities in treating their childrens, to them, they assume that all are their children and all are equality treated. But from the children perspectives, they can see, feel and judge the unequal treatment, feel betrayed and jealous.
This is common among all families with more than 2 kids, be it rich or poor, parents are your parent, not your boss, you do not need to curry flavour them for something.
Some old minded parents dote sons more than daughters, but end up son giving them more problems, and daughter is alway there to help them. Daughter like me and most in the world have a heart for parents, they are more close to them, for sons, most will leave the families and some even married off and get controlled by their wifeys.
Just like my case, my brother seem like married off, that is why i must be wary of my sis in laws, she is up to grab our asset, luckily my Dad realised now that I am more filial piety than his son, but then, I also need to be skrew inorder to wills under my name.
Originally posted by limeapplestick:haha.omg. i'm a girl la -.-
why you all think eldest = guy.
anw, thanks a lot! feel much better after reading all your replies.
Dont be too sensitive towards yr father.
He has good intention to you by pushing you to get good grades for your A level. And you will be appreciated if you really get a good grade and able to go U.
So, study hard and prove to your father your capability.
Every fathers will always love their children. Most of them will not show but love silently inside their heart.
Parenting - like all other tasks - gets better with practice :)
I'm an elder daughter too, and I think the way my parents 'handle' my younger brother is much better than the way they handled me!
For what its worth - its really tough to manage teenage daughters. We tend to be more sensitive and unpredictable.
However, having said all that - I can only say don't give up. Parents love us in ways different from how we want to be loved - it does not mean that they don't care for us, just that they don't show their care in a way we appreciate.
Now, 35 years down the road - my father suddenly asked me the other day - How his parenting methods had affected me. He told me, now it is OKAY to tell him how I feel. Then I realise.. seriously - most parents have no idea where they went right or wrong - they just try their best, and hope for the best!
Ya, sometime Tua Pek Kong kong also play a part
Originally posted by ChoCoChips:fuck you.
admit what lanjiao when its all bullshit from u? dont think i am you ok. u sexually attacked ur siblings and stray animals then u think its me. u lost money at dunno where u think its me again. u dunno where u come from and u think its me. im not ur ugly reflection ok u cb. why dont u admit u are actually talking abt you and ur guilty past?
and why dont u admit that u are randomly shooting me just like how u show off ur "skills" in bball?
fatfuck still wan to haolian can run. walk faster =/= run.
and fuck u again.
dont u dare bring my family into this, ur parents no teach u how to be decent doesnt mean u can do this.
as a person u are downright ugly. not jus physically and ur heart is fucking ugly too.
Go fuck yerself lah, cross dresser. You never seen me before, how you know I am fat. For all we know maybe your are even fatter. You can't even play sports. In NS, your superior kick your ass everyday because you are useless. Your sargent ask you to dig a ditch, you take 2 days while a normal solider take 4 hours. Judging from your rudeness, no wonder your father don't want to talk to a loser no galfren, poor jerk like you because you are so foul mouth. You cibaikia.
Your parents are useless fuck. Most likely your father don't give your mom pleasure enough, no wonder he always give bad mood face in front of you because you are an ugly failure son. Ugly and illegitimate son. Your father look at you, he want to vomit. Vomit ! Because you are so ugly, he don't want to admit you're his son. You talk like a pondan, your father is too embarass to talk to you. He want to slap you and throw you off the flat. Everyday he have to waste his money to cloth a useless son like you. Mind as well send you to IMH.
You don't even have galfren, want to talk about me. Your face so ugly, you want to talk about me. Your heart is so ugly, you burn off your family savings. No wonder your brother hates you because he cannot get a better education. You are a failure. No wonder no gal want you lah, because you are fucking ugly, you clean your face in littlemissbonker faeces everyday.
Originally posted by Dr Language:
Go fuck yerself lah, cross dresser. You never seen me before, how you know I am fat. For all we know maybe your are even fatter. You can't even play sports. In NS, your superior kick your ass everyday because you are useless. Your sargent ask you to dig a ditch, you take 2 days while a normal solider take 4 hours. Judging from your rudeness, no wonder your father don't want to talk to a loser no galfren, poor jerk like you because you are so foul mouth. You cibaikia.Your parents are useless fuck. Most likely your father don't give your mom pleasure enough, no wonder he always give bad mood face in front of you because you are an ugly failure son. Ugly and illegitimate son. Your father look at you, he want to vomit. Vomit ! Because you are so ugly, he don't want to admit you're his son. You talk like a pondan, your father is too embarass to talk to you. He want to slap you and throw you off the flat. Everyday he have to waste his money to cloth a useless son like you. Mind as well send you to IMH.
You don't even have galfren, want to talk about me. Your face so ugly, you want to talk about me. Your heart is so ugly, you burn off your family savings. No wonder your brother hates you because he cannot get a better education. You are a failure. No wonder no gal want you lah, because you are fucking ugly, you clean your face in littlemissbonker faeces everyday.
now is u angry sia. haha anyway first off, fuck u.
ur truth come from where? and u got see me before meh? talk about foul mouth and talk about never see me before. u no foul mouth? u think u really speak the truth? eh eh eh retard khor before u think of insults to throw people please consider if ur words applies to u too.
oh and u are cfm fat lo. if u look at some of your past threads. and no, fat is not sexy u fat fuck.
seriously u dont use the mirror do u? oso understandable la. u are so ugly anyway. but its ok. from now on i volunteer to be ur reflections. ur downright ugly reflections. ill reflect ur physical ugliness and the ugliness on ur inside. whatever u say about me from now will be same as u talking to urself. u wan be a cb mouth, fine. u say i cross dresser? thats ok. it means u are the cross dresser. u say my family XXX? thats cool. u'll be talking bad about ur parents anyway. dont need to thank me for this service, its only right that i help the less privileged.
also im tired of seeing u hijacking peoples threads in AA whenever i post (i oso paiseh la, to join u in hijacking). but u are such a stalker, u prolly want to "warn people abt how bad i am la" and stuff, but actually u are prolly interested in me. hey hey i dun do fat gays. but anyway my point is im not going to let u take away my rights to post in any thread i want. if u still have a bit of decency u can start a new thread and scold me for all u want.
lastly, sorry hor i cannot play with u liao, im graduating soon so i gotta carry out whatever plans i have in life. no, im not sharing it with u.
have a good day asshole. remember ah, im your reflections now. be careful of what u say to urself.
ps: if u can talk less about peoples family u will prolly look better in front of girls. and u'll prolly be a better person. remember ah, when u point one of ur fat finger at others, ur three fat fingers are pointing back at u. lastly, u come from malaysia right? hahaha
Hi limeapplestick,
As you can see, many of us here do not have a good relation with our dad, or parents. I am also one. I never really understand why he did what he did to me, and I was also very much affected.
However, when I became a dad myself, I suddenly forget all the bad things he had done, and appreciate him for bringing me up. Perhaps this is life.
Now I am telling my children, that my love for them may not be reciprocated, understood, nor appreciated, but that does not means I don't love them. Perhaps we are just having different expectation.
My pal, if I can suggest, try not to compare with your sibling, but run your own race. Do well in your study, and be useful to the society. One day, you will understand that family relation is complicate, yet important.
(BTW, all those sibling that have more attention from my dad, they don't enjoy life as much as I do, perhaps because I don't have anything to begin with, and I treasure all that I have. But they were given whatever they want.).