you might be overly sensitive to your brother's comment on you. some people do not mean to harm others but they may sound bad towards people. so dont get too worked up.sometimes thats just the way they talk?
maybe you can show more care to him, ask about his life etc,. . i suppose you and your brother lacks communication with each other.
I can totally empathise with you ! Everytime i got back my mathematics results ( my worst subject ) , and got a pass , i would tell my parents and feel really good about it . And then here comes my sister , saying "Pass only what . Its not like you got full marks or anything ." Seriously , sometimes i feel like whacking her . Then , i would get back my chinese paper and got a distinction , i would get back at her , becos her chinese results sucks a lot . She'll just say " Aiyah you studied so hard only get distinction uh ? I never study also can get distinction lor ." or even worst , "Soo what ? You're still in N(A) what . Get to JC then say ." She really gets on my nerves most of the time ! Cant really stand her . But I'll try and REN (tolerate) ! I just brush it off and walk away . Now whatever negative things she says just fall on my deaf ears =DD .
Originally posted by NeiveL: I can totally empathise with you ! Everytime i got back my mathematics results ( my worst subject ) , and got a pass , i would tell my parents and feel really good about it . And then here comes my sister , saying "Pass only what . Its not like you got full marks or anything ." Seriously , sometimes i feel like whacking her . Then , i would get back my chinese paper and got a distinction , i would get back at her , becos her chinese results sucks a lot . She'll just say " Aiyah you studied so hard only get distinction uh ? I never study also can get distinction lor ." or even worst , "Soo what ? You're still in N(A) what . Get to JC then say ." She really gets on my nerves most of the time ! Cant really stand her . But I'll try and REN (tolerate) ! I just brush it off and walk away . Now whatever negative things she says just fall on my deaf ears =DD .
i dont understand how come ur sister want to suan you.
i hardly been suan so cant really empathise but maybe just maybe, they didnt meant to hurt you so you shouldnt really get so worked up.
i dont understand how come ur sister want to suan you.
i hardly been suan so cant really empathise but maybe just maybe, they didnt meant to hurt you so you shouldnt really get so worked up.
Although i dun think that she wants to hurt me , but even my parents cant take it and even asked me to ignore her . My brother wont do this kind of things to me , at least he did praise me when i get something done while she just dun bother about anything .
My older brother use to criticise me, saying that I am spoilt and no use, so i used to complaint to my grandma, but never in a public forum, cos after all, he aint heavy, he is my brother. And then my granny told me to take the critics with open heart, look at it, if it is true, improve on it and show it to him. I did that, and now I am quite successful, hardworking and no more a spoil kid, somehow, I just like to thanks my brother for all his suans and critics, think of it, he actually wanted me to improve thru anger therapy.
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