How to tackle this problem?
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dun laugh lah, calling uncle is a respect ok, someone that is senior or got more experience, dun alway think uncle meaning old, our asia way of addressing, if you want western way, I call you dude or boke lor
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Originally posted by angel7030:
dun laugh lah, calling uncle is a respect ok, someone that is senior or got more experience, dun alway think uncle meaning old, our asia way of addressing, if you want western way, I call you dude or boke lor
When I was 21yo, already got kids called me uncle ! Hahaha! I guessed I looked very matured !
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she's just not that into you.
haha yes. be sad and all. but its so obvious! the girl just wants attention from you because she knows you will always be there for her, even if she wants you or not.
who doesnt want attention and love from someone? anyone?
you either just remain as friends or treat her as your 'sister', or be extremely proactive in woo-ing her till she is so touched and agrees to be in a r/s with you!
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Originally posted by 1200:
she's just not that into you.
haha yes. be sad and all. but its so obvious! the girl just wants attention from you because she knows you will always be there for her, even if she wants you or not.
who doesnt want attention and love from someone? anyone?
you either just remain as friends or treat her as your 'sister', or be extremely proactive in woo-ing her till she is so touched and agrees to be in a r/s with you!
Agreed totally !
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Girls usually �是心� sometimes you will never ever know how she feels....maybe have to ask a few times....or touched her with your sincerity ! Hahaha!
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For woman, let me tell you guys some of our secret, we actually do not like guy to chase us, those chasing us are desparate ones, if we really like a guy, the guy dun even need to chase, just a date and the r/s can start liao. Those who chased so desparately and finally manage to get her is because we gal get ditched by the guy we loved and given no choice and also need some console, then, you can at least temporary come into the role, if not, chase until die also no use.
If guys want to spend time and money on us, what can we do? chop lah
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When I was younger, I knew this beautiful girl....I wooed her with love and gifts and she still rejected me in the end...I was devastated....but I continued to wooed her with my sincerity, I finally touched her heart....she became my best fren....and I became her best fren too ! When she got married, I wept my tears of happiness for her! I understood that love cannot be forced....being her best fren is already a blessing for me !
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Thanks, I think I will continue the chase and see how it goes.
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If you insist, then I continue to run
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That brings me to another question, how should I do it? I'm a total idiot on this kind of matter.
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Just continue as you are, she's on good terms with you, keep it that way.
Please no more of the "I will never leave you" promises, or "I will love you till the stars fade out" or "I will give you anything you desire" these kinds of promises never impress any girl, other than the ones that don't believe you but make will sure you fulfil them.
Three little words will do.
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Love is like a dog chase game.. the more you chase. the further she run. Why not just chill and lookout for better choice at the same time? grass is always greener on the other side. Why let a girl hold up your love journey? If you think that is worth it. then go ahead lor. dont wait till you 30 years old liao still wooing your junior.. by then, u decided to give up and woo others. people call you uncle already..
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yeah, I know that love is such a different thing to make decision, but I think I won't regret of my decision.
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Originally posted by Demon Bane:
When I was younger, I knew this beautiful girl....I wooed her with love and gifts and she still rejected me in the end...I was devastated....but I continued to wooed her with my sincerity, I finally touched her heart....she became my best fren....and I became her best fren too ! When she got married, I wept my tears of happiness for her! I understood that love cannot be forced....being her best fren is already a blessing for me !
Knn, damn sad man.I feel so heartbroken for you bro.
Anyway, TS, Learn to be more practical. Even Love has to be practical these days.
See our bro Demon Bane's story then you know theres a damn slim chance you'll ever get the girl of your 'dreams'.
Dont place too much hope on the girls you like.
Rather, focus on the girls that like you.
Angel is darn right on this. I got girls who just know me a couple of times then ask if I want to be her bf le, dont even need to spend any effort to woo them wor.
But i rejected them =P
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Knn, damn sad man.I feel so heartbroken for you bro.
Anyway, TS, Learn to be more practical. Even Love has to be practical these days.
See our bro Demon Bane's story then you know theres a damn slim chance you'll ever get the girl of your 'dreams'.
Dont place too much hope on the girls you like.
Rather, focus on the girls that like you.
Angel is darn right on this. I got girls who just know me a couple of times then ask if I want to be her bf le, dont even need to spend any effort to woo them wor.
But i rejected them =P
Thanks for your kind words....yes I believe there's true love, but most of the time it doesn't lead to marriage....
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Originally posted by henshin:
That brings me to another question, how should I do it? I’m a total idiot on this kind of matter.
Ah! you need to pay me tuition fees on how to chase gal.From a gal perspective,
first you need to know her family, get close to her mother (but dun go court her mother hor) and father, her siblings, get to know and chat freely with her family members, once they like you, you get the upper hands, cos they will tell this gal that you are a good guy and the better choice, most gal listen to their daddy, like me.
Then work your way into her, effort must be there, send her home often, especially on Monday, which is a boring and blue day, she will needs company to go home. And if you are there for her, she will cherish it. Do remember her birthday, offer to organise it with her family, once the family get close to you, and she feels you are also able to get along with her mother, father, granny, etc etc.. which ultimately end up you and her having a lots of thing to talk about her family. Remember gal like to complain this and that, be a good listener and understand her, slowly, slowly...she will fall for you.
Dun say Angel teach you hor
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princess give advice
give people good impression
win certian % of the war
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Ah! you need to pay me tuition fees on how to chase gal.From a gal perspective,
first you need to know her family, get close to her mother (but dun go court her mother hor) and father, her siblings, get to know and chat freely with her family members, once they like you, you get the upper hands, cos they will tell this gal that you are a good guy and the better choice, most gal listen to their daddy, like me.
Then work your way into her, effort must be there, send her home often, especially on Monday, which is a boring and blue day, she will needs company to go home. And if you are there for her, she will cherish it. Do remember her birthday, offer to organise it with her family, once the family get close to you, and she feels you are also able to get along with her mother, father, granny, etc etc.. which ultimately end up you and her having a lots of thing to talk about her family. Remember gal like to complain this and that, be a good listener and understand her, slowly, slowly...she will fall for you.
Dun say Angel teach you hor
Angel, not i want to say, but these things are on the premise that the guy is already her bf loh.
What is the likelihood of you knowing members of a girl's family unless she is willing to bring you home and introduce?
90% bring you back home to introduce to family member is on the premise that you are her bf already.
However, TS, sending her home, remembering little things about her are something you should do.
But dont be TOO NICE to the girl, give her some space, dont pressure her. Play it cool / hard to get sometimes.
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I had been doing so for the past 3 years, like when I go china to train, I came back with a talisman for her, for luck. That's one example. Her bro knows me, her aunt knows me but not her dad (she grown up in a single parent family), but except for her bro, I didn't talk to her aunt that many times before.
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Originally posted by henshin:
yeah, I know that love is such a different thing to make decision, but I think I won’t regret of my decision.
Since you have decided, then go for it ! All the way ! Good luck !
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Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Angel, not i want to say, but these things are on the premise that the guy is already her bf loh.
What is the likelihood of you knowing members of a girl's family unless she is willing to bring you home and introduce?
90% bring you back home to introduce to family member is on the premise that you are her bf already.
However, TS, sending her home, remembering little things about her are something you should do.
But dont be TOO NICE to the girl, give her some space, dont pressure her. Play it cool / hard to get sometimes.
Hello, if the front door cannot go thru, look for the backdoor, no harm trying, maybe he can get her heart, educated gal like us are alway filial to our parents, once a boy can get the trust of my parents, get along well, I see a light in the end of the tunnel for this guy. Most importantly is to make sure he is sincere, willing to sacrifice and give, he must have a believe that he wanted the gal to be his gf, his future wife and care for her for the rest of his life. If you have doubt with the gal you are chasing and unsure whether she can be your steady or future wife, then you better forget it, dun waste our time and your time.We gals are very sensitive creature, we can sense a guy sincerity 42 km away ya
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Hello, if the front door cannot go thru, look for the backdoor, no harm trying, maybe he can get her heart, educated gal like us are alway filial to our parents, once a boy can get the trust of my parents, get along well, I see a light in the end of the tunnel for this guy. Most importantly is to make sure he is sincere, willing to sacrifice and give, he must have a believe that he wanted the gal to be his gf, his future wife and care for her for the rest of his life. If you have doubt with the gal you are chasing and unsure whether she can be your steady or future wife, then you better forget it, dun waste our time and your time.We gals are very sensitive creature, we can sense a guy sincerity 42 km away ya
Must all relationship ended in marriage ? Can just go out for companionship?
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Marriage is more of a trust and love, companionship is more of a pass time. As single, we can hardly comprehend what is true love, be together till grey hair and old, not much couple can do that, and I really admire and envy those old uncles and aunties and even those old tourist couples who still hold hands, love each other and care for each other, this is what I call Love at it very best. These couple keep their promises, till death shalt we part
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Marriage is more of a trust and love, companionship is more of a pass time. As single, we can hardly comprehend what is true love, be together till grey hair and old, not much couple can do that, and I really admire and envy those old uncles and aunties and even those old tourist couples who still hold hands, love each other and care for each other, this is what I call Love at it very best. These couple keep their promises, till death shalt we part
Yeap....I also hope to find someone to grow old together....but so far no luck ! Hahaha!
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Right here waiting,
There are times when you are blind to the gal standing just next to you, because you do not hv the confident in yourself, can be yr age, yr look, yr image, yr career and yr other habit which in long term singlehood, have nurtured you to be inward and internalise within yourself, everything you see in term of relation is a no hope ending, that mindset have to change.