Your elder sister cares about you, don't take her for granted.
Singaporeans should stick together and unite as one or else PAP and foreigners will gang up to destroy Singapore.
i know she cares but she should see the bigger picture why i did this. and she shouldnt threaten to tell my mum. im turnin 30 soon and she treat me like a child.
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:i know she cares but she should see the bigger picture why i did this. and she shouldnt threaten to tell my mum. im turnin 30 soon and she treat me like a child.
I understand. This should be your private affair.
At least you didn't patronise whores.
i dont think patronising whores is bad either. thats why they are always needed. without them, many girls will be raped. better visit them legally than raping girls. its the oldest profession in the world. and i dont think they will ever extinct as long there are still humans on this planet.
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:i dont think patronising whores is bad either. thats why they are always needed. without them, many girls will be raped. better visit them legally than raping girls. its the oldest profession in the world. and i dont think they will ever extinct as long there are still humans on this planet.
You are very liberal minded.
there's absolutely nothing wrong with you have sex...just be aware that recent studies have shown oral sex leads to cancer of the mouth...imagine the unhygenic substances you are licking....other than that, enjoy....
Maybe the sister is jealous that she is still a virgin?
u sound more rikes 13.
I think you should move out, if she doesn't. then you don't have to hear her nonsense anymore.
You say you have no gal fren, so how did u manage to get consensual sex? Sex wif galfren is safe because u know her better and where she has been, therefore reducing probability of catching STDs. You can catch Hepatitis D and E via saliva which could lead to prolong liver disease and damage. Hepatitis is very commonly transmitted thru oral sex. My cousin contracted Hepatitis while sharing food with a co worker who has contracted the disease. Yes risk is everywhere but by having consensual sex thru one night stands, you are raising the risk. Find a galfren, have a mono partner relationship then you can start to enjoy consensual sex.
Consensual sex with prostitutes (I am not saying you are having) may produce moral dilemnas. It may not affect you right now but in future your view of women and family could be affected because of the moral consequences that you may choose to do. It can produce effects on your subconscious actions.
However, if u met somebody from the night club and go for one night stand, tat is a different case because u don't know where that somebody has been. Even condoms don't fully protect you 100%. There could be microscopic holes or defects in the condom.
Having said this, leaving your condoms around to be spot on by your sister, isn't exactly a very good thing. Its like leaving your diary wide open. If you see your sister leaving her dildo or birth control pill around, won't you complain as well?
TS, u are old enough to make decision, so why are you worried with such a threat? If that is my sister, perhaps I will show her my collection of porn and ask her to fly kite and get a life. My thumb of rule is always this: Have fun, but be responsible to yourself and to your partner, if there is any.
It's up to individual mindset and tradition.
If you are a person with no tradition or respect for yourself, then of course you won't bother to treat virginity as an issue.
Tell your sister that if you don't sow your wild oats you will end up with postate cancer at an early age.
Tell her the bible says masturbation is an unforgiveable sin and fornication is a lesser, forgiveable sin.
The problem is not premaritial sex, the problem is what your sisiter says.
Invite a girl into you room and lock the door. Let her flip outside.
Your elder sister cares about you thatswhy she is .......
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:i dont think patronising whores is bad either. thats why they are always needed. without them, many girls will be raped. better visit them legally than raping girls. its the oldest profession in the world. and i dont think they will ever extinct as long there are still humans on this planet.
I thot u guys can DIY, cheaper, better and faster,...save lots of cost too and worst if you end up with bad services.
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:My elder sister is really treating me like a child. I been engaging in casual sex for the past 3 years and of course condoms is a must for me. I hardly had any intercourse but more to oral ones. She saw a condom in my room which I had left it there by mistake. She asked me why did I buy it and what do I do with it? I was stunned that I cant find a good excuse but to tell her that Im just buying for fun.
And she threatens to tell my mum. I was so pissed that she would treat her 30 year old younger brother like a small child. And she preached about how sinful it is to engage in such activities. Im a grown up adult and I can do whatever I want as long as its not at the expense of others. And I should be free to choose what kind of life I want. And I wont blame anybody if I ever got any serious STDs or HIV.
She will never be able to see the bigger picture that I did cuz it I had no choice as Im single, never had a gf, no girls wants me and I have my needs. I mean who wants to die a virgin anyway. And all the sex I had was consensual where no one gets hurt after that. Isnt that better than I go around raping a woman? And speaking of religion, if God is really that great, Im sure he would understand me doing such things. I did it not because I want to but I have no other alternatives.I have no disrespect to anyone who still wants to wait till marriage to have sex or wait due to religion obligations. its all individual choices. i dont encourage people to do what im doing now either. i used to have such mindset that I wanna wait and do it with my wife. But after several life experiences showing me that my chances of getting married are slim, I have decided not to wait anymore. I lost my virginity during my late 20s. that is considered late in today's culture. sex is something everyone of should enjoy. its not wrong engaging in pre marital sex so long we do it safely and no one gets hurt in the process. and yes, there are risks. anything we do in our lives has its risks, even getting married is a risk too.
Guess your elder sister is jealous, she might be very lonely and wanted some enjoyment, can ask her to come to my places, I also got some nice looking dudes here,,...all well protected
Angel: yes can DIY but nothing beats the real thing...sometimes i do have to DIY. I know I have to stop this one day, but its not easy.
Dr. Language: its very disrespectfrul to the girl if I being with her just to get sex. might as well get a sex buddy whom I can have mutual agreement. I will only go into a relationship if my feelings & the girl's is mutual. sex will be later part. if i ever gt a gf, i will respect her and she has to be my best friend. dont forget, being in relationship hurts a lot too. and like i mentioned, all girls in the past have rejected me and now that im turning 30 soon, you think I still got the energy and strenght to take another rejection? its too painful to have my heart broke and pickin up the pieces again & again & again & again & again. I seriously had enough of rejection. I end up taking more than what I could endure.
TIB1167D: its not that i dont treasure virginity. its just that sometimes its not worth the wait to some people with different situations in life. sometimes, you got to break the rules to survive. and like i mentioned before, no one gets hurt by my activity and im the one actually at risk. ask yourself, will you want to die a virgin if you dont get married? if you believe that dying a virgin will give you a plus points to earn a place in heaven, then by all means its your own choice and beliefs.
Originally posted by Undiscoveredsoul98:Angel: yes can DIY but nothing beats the real thing...sometimes i do have to DIY. I know I have to stop this one day, but its not easy.
Dr. Language: its very disrespectfrul to the girl if I being with her just to get sex. might as well get a sex buddy whom I can have mutual agreement. I will only go into a relationship if my feelings & the girl's is mutual. sex will be later part. if i ever gt a gf, i will respect her and she has to be my best friend. dont forget, being in relationship hurts a lot too. and like i mentioned, all girls in the past have rejected me and now that im turning 30 soon, you think I still got the energy and strenght to take another rejection? its too painful to have my heart broke and pickin up the pieces again & again & again & again & again. I seriously had enough of rejection. I end up taking more than what I could endure.
U oledi say u have no galfren. Now, confirm u do not belief in sex buddy. So where r u getting yer one night stands? If you are visiting prostitutes, it is not a healthy sign. First, physically you r subjecting yerself to STD and Hepatitus disease which can be transmitted thru oral sex. Second, by going to prostitutes, your opinion of women will be degraded.
Without rejection u cannot learn. Try and try again until u succeed. Instead of going after gals, try making more frens n going out to more social gathering to meet the opposite sex. Make frens wif gals first. 30 is still young. I know people in their 40s still not married. Must be more thick skin le.
Hi...
It is true you are not a child anymore....
But..
You also have to understand.....your elder sister...is your elder sister......
She is not your friend or someone like that.....
So......because she is a family member....her position and her relations to you....is within the inner ring of family relations.....
She is just thinking about your well-being....
Due to that, she may be shocked and uncomfortable when she found out the condom...
Well.....to understand her feelings, maybe you can imagine a similar scenario in reverse....
What if you find a dildo and birthcontrol pill or abortion pill in your sister's room.
How would you feel ?
Would you feel completely normal, "she is an adult already not a child, I shouldnt interfere, never mind"
Maybe to understand it further, imagine if she is your "younger" sister.
I say that because older siblings have stronger inclination to protect the younger siblings.
Well.......
It is an uncomfortable situation for you also.....what I suggest you do is......to keep quiet and to be passive about it.....no need to justify anything and no need to talk about it......
I think you need to protect the siblings relations / family relations and keep it intact......
Sexual matters is taboo and uncomfortable and personal......and its hard to cross over or bring it into the family relations matrix......
So my recommendation :
Keep quiet and let it slide.
Next time be careful and be more discreet.
sex buddy is the best solution for me so i can stick to one. but even as sex buddy, i must make the girl like me in some way, as a companion though not the committed love feelings. i cant even make girls like my as close friend so how am I gonna turn anyone of them into my sex buddy?