Secrets from my sister!
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Ok she is my small sister. She is quite popular among her friends and probably her school. u know as in the well known type. We dont quite get along very well, as a matter in fact she is really mean to me. Ignore me when im trying to be nice, talk down on me even. So basically i really hate her guts. She seems very friendly and fun to hang out with when she's around with her friends but she never reacts that way towards me.
ok one day, i left my room to get a drink then she came in, she just got back from work. She was in a hurry or something because she was running and accidentally bump into me. As usual, she call me stupid blah blah and then on her way to her room. Then i saw this book on the floor. It is obviously hers because i saw it drop out of her bag or something. I picked it up and look at it, it was some kind of anime comic. I dont watch anime though but i know its an anime through observing its drawing and stuff besides its really a well known culture in japan. But its awkward to see my sister are into anime, because its not those oridinary anime. its some sort of like those pervert anime more like a lesbian type. I saw these two girls cuddling each other on the bed at the cover and as i flipped the page, its getting more and more obscene. Seriously i was all like "wtf?".
It will be a really weird if i pass her back the comic. So i just put it back on my room for awhile and wait for her to leave her room then i put it back without her noticing it. Its night time and i go out to a mama shop to buy something then when i left the house i saw my room the light got turned on. My parents were out at that time so it has to be my sister. I go back in the house and found my sister looking for something obviously is that anime comic. And i said to her why is she here? and she replied its none of my business. Well you're in my room... of course i will care, thats my response to her. She give me some cold stare and i told her about that anime comic. She was shocked and she die die trying to give excuses but finally she admitted it that comic is hers. i can tell she was dead embarrassed but i told her i wont make fun of her no matter what. But this is just the beginning, now she's like want me to play this stupid little sister anime game with her and buy her some of those lesbian anime comic... people were looking at me when they saw me bought it. If i didnt do as what she said, she will think that im just all talk and on a further note, i feel sorry for her because she's the only one that are into this thing. She told me her friends dislike this kinda thing and not to mention mom and dad. But i dont want to do all these errands for her... HELPPP
and btw am i in a wrong? because she gives me attitude lots of times. should i even help her?
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wats the name of the comic?
can buy from where? -
Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:
Ok she is my small sister. She is quite popular among her friends and probably her school. u know as in the well known type. We dont quite get along very well, as a matter in fact she is really mean to me. Ignore me when im trying to be nice, talk down on me even. So basically i really hate her guts. She seems very friendly and fun to hang out with when she's around with her friends but she never reacts that way towards me.
ok one day, i left my room to get a drink then she came in, she just got back from work. She was in a hurry or something because she was running and accidentally bump into me. As usual, she call me stupid blah blah and then on her way to her room. Then i saw this book on the floor. It is obviously hers because i saw it drop out of her bag or something. I picked it up and look at it, it was some kind of anime comic. I dont watch anime though but i know its an anime through observing its drawing and stuff besides its really a well known culture in japan. But its awkward to see my sister are into anime, because its not those oridinary anime. its some sort of like those pervert anime more like a lesbian type. I saw these two girls cuddling each other on the bed at the cover and as i flipped the page, its getting more and more obscene. Seriously i was all like "wtf?".
It will be a really weird if i pass her back the comic. So i just put it back on my room for awhile and wait for her to leave her room then i put it back without her noticing it. Its night time and i go out to a mama shop to buy something then when i left the house i saw my room the light got turned on. My parents were out at that time so it has to be my sister. I go back in the house and found my sister looking for something obviously is that anime comic. And i said to her why is she here? and she replied its none of my business. Well you're in my room... of course i will care, thats my response to her. She give me some cold stare and i told her about that anime comic. She was shocked and she die die trying to give excuses but finally she admitted it that comic is hers. i can tell she was dead embarrassed but i told her i wont make fun of her no matter what. But this is just the beginning, now she's like want me to play this stupid little sister anime game with her and buy her some of those lesbian anime comic... people were looking at me when they saw me bought it. If i didnt do as what she said, she will think that im just all talk and on a further note, i feel sorry for her because she's the only one that are into this thing. She told me her friends dislike this kinda thing and not to mention mom and dad. But i dont want to do all these errands for her... HELPPP
and btw am i in a wrong? because she gives me attitude lots of times. should i even help her?
So what is your problem ? Is it the lesbian issue , the anime issue or her attitude issue ?
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WOW....just wow. As someone who watches anime myself, your situation is almost like in the anime called "oreimo''(i'm not joking).
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if you want your sister to live a normal life with of either a sexual ortientation of either: straight or bisexual, it is best that you find out more in why she's into lesbian interest..
while you can help her buy comics, but do not participate in encouraging her to play/act/in any cosplay activities at home, behind your parents back..
this way, you in-directly tell her (without saying a word) her secrets is safe with you, but you will not accept her behavior of forcing her interest, thoughts, and gay sexual ortientation onto you.
thus you can gradually talk to her, find out more on the reasons to why and how she got interested in lesbians topics, and if there is any past negative relationship experience that she may have experienced and slowly guide her thoughts back into healthy state of at least a bi-sexual if not straight in future. (this will take you few months to if not years of patient work) to talk, encourage her out of her dream world and interests.
does it answers your question?
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So, it all happened when you ran into her as she was coming home from work one day, huh? Work? Guess I could assume she isn't so young anymore and that she isn't a young teenager or even a young adult who's exploring but the fact that this is actually what she enjoys (the comic, that is) as it seems that it has been going on for quite a while now. Reading such materials isn't such a bad thing and doing so doesn't necessarily depict her sexual orientation. Anyway, what you did promise is that you won't tease her about it and not that you'll agree to be obliging to her requests (of getting the comic for her). If you feel uncomfortable buying it for her, quit it and you don't have to feel guilty about it because hey, she did manage to lay hands on that one comic book herself, didn't she? Set this record straight first, then settle the why-she's-so-cold-towards-you deal because it just ain't fun having enemies right in the comfort of your own home.
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Originally posted by the_fallen:
if you want your sister to live a normal life with of either a sexual ortientation of either: straight or bisexual, it is best that you find out more in why she's into lesbian interest..
while you can help her buy comics, but do not participate in encouraging her to play/act/in any cosplay activities at home, behind your parents back..
this way, you in-directly tell her (without saying a word) her secrets is safe with you, but you will not accept her behavior of forcing her interest, thoughts, and gay sexual ortientation onto you.
thus you can gradually talk to her, find out more on the reasons to why and how she got interested in lesbians topics, and if there is any past negative relationship experience that she may have experienced and slowly guide her thoughts back into healthy state of at least a bi-sexual if not straight in future. (this will take you few months to if not years of patient work) to talk, encourage her out of her dream world and interests.
does it answers your question?
thanks for your advice.
well she said she's into this kinda thing because honestly she dont know herself. She just love them before she even realize it. Its like a love at first sight. She told me its cute and its addictive. I've never catch her doing weird stuff before and she's normal towards her friends so i dont think she's really a lesbian.
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Originally posted by Ordinary_me:
So, it all happened when you ran into her as she was coming home from work one day, huh? Work? Guess I could assume she isn't so young anymore and that she isn't a young teenager or even a young adult who's exploring but the fact that this is actually what she enjoys (the comic, that is) as it seems that it has been going on for quite a while now. Reading such materials isn't such a bad thing and doing so doesn't necessarily depict her sexual orientation. Anyway, what you did promise is that you won't tease her about it and not that you'll agree to be obliging to her requests (of getting the comic for her). If you feel uncomfortable buying it for her, quit it and you don't have to feel guilty about it because hey, she did manage to lay hands on that one comic book herself, didn't she? Set this record straight first, then settle the why-she's-so-cold-towards-you deal because it just ain't fun having enemies right in the comfort of your own home.
but if i quit helping her, she will think me as those "all talk no action". And as much as i hate her, i really feel sorry for her because i think she is the only person around her (families and friends) that interested in this. I saw her friends before and i over heard that her friends dont like to be associate with this anime type. so yeah, i dont want her to feel lonely. u get what i mean?
yea about that she did manage get the comic by herself, i asked her that. She said she sneakily take it. She told me she always wear this cap and pull it downward to hide her face whenever she bought it. sometimes wear different clothes just to buy it and she's getting tired of it.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
So what is your problem ? Is it the lesbian issue , the anime issue or her attitude issue ?
technically the whole thing. I just want to find it that is what im doing is normal?
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Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:
thanks for your advice.
well she said she's into this kinda thing because honestly she dont know herself. She just love them before she even realize it. Its like a love at first sight. She told me its cute and its addictive. I've never catch her doing weird stuff before and she's normal towards her friends so i dont think she's really a lesbian.
just keep in close yet friend conversation with your sister..
while she may be mentally healthy now..that does not rule out that your sister might walk or choose towards that wrong direction..
especially when she's growing up and hormones developing..she will than gradually take sides to her sexual oritentation..until it happens, keep her in check..
once in a while, take part in her activities of perhaps playing/acting like her desires etc..so in future she will be comfortable telling you her real desires and feel safe with you knowing her secrets at home..instead of going over to friends place where you can't supervise nor say anything..(just pre-empt you on what could happen in future if you don't prepare and work towards a healthy discussion)
with communicate with her on how she feels, think and if she has any desires to try it out in future..slowly as she grows up day by day..
plus encourage her to hang out with guys maybe when she grows older to a suitable age..so that even if in future, with some lesbian/bi-sexual friends around her as close buddies, you have already help her by showing her the correct path.. (early immunity & prevention against negative influence from potential friends)
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Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:
Ok she is my small sister. She is quite popular among her friends and probably her school. u know as in the well known type. We dont quite get along very well, as a matter in fact she is really mean to me. Ignore me when im trying to be nice, talk down on me even. So basically i really hate her guts. She seems very friendly and fun to hang out with when she's around with her friends but she never reacts that way towards me.
ok one day, i left my room to get a drink then she came in, she just got back from work. She was in a hurry or something because she was running and accidentally bump into me. As usual, she call me stupid blah blah and then on her way to her room. Then i saw this book on the floor. It is obviously hers because i saw it drop out of her bag or something. I picked it up and look at it, it was some kind of anime comic. I dont watch anime though but i know its an anime through observing its drawing and stuff besides its really a well known culture in japan. But its awkward to see my sister are into anime, because its not those oridinary anime. its some sort of like those pervert anime more like a lesbian type. I saw these two girls cuddling each other on the bed at the cover and as i flipped the page, its getting more and more obscene. Seriously i was all like "wtf?".
It will be a really weird if i pass her back the comic. So i just put it back on my room for awhile and wait for her to leave her room then i put it back without her noticing it. Its night time and i go out to a mama shop to buy something then when i left the house i saw my room the light got turned on. My parents were out at that time so it has to be my sister. I go back in the house and found my sister looking for something obviously is that anime comic. And i said to her why is she here? and she replied its none of my business. Well you're in my room... of course i will care, thats my response to her. She give me some cold stare and i told her about that anime comic. She was shocked and she die die trying to give excuses but finally she admitted it that comic is hers. i can tell she was dead embarrassed but i told her i wont make fun of her no matter what. But this is just the beginning, now she's like want me to play this stupid little sister anime game with her and buy her some of those lesbian anime comic... people were looking at me when they saw me bought it. If i didnt do as what she said, she will think that im just all talk and on a further note, i feel sorry for her because she's the only one that are into this thing. She told me her friends dislike this kinda thing and not to mention mom and dad. But i dont want to do all these errands for her... HELPPP
and btw am i in a wrong? because she gives me attitude lots of times. should i even help her?
Give her one tight slap. Show her your power.
Don't run errands for her.
About lesbian comic, it is not your problem, she is old enuf to make decisions of her own. Doesn't mean, she buy an anime comic on lesbians means she herself is a lesbian.
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I was going to write some well-meaning advice.
Then I read Dr. L's reply.
Maybe it's because it's too late at night and I'm too tired.
But that was hilarious. And more than a little true too.
CJ
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Actually if I am you.....I would feel unsettled and uncomfortable....because.....
Umm....
See....
Your sister likes to read those lesbian anime comics because "it is cute and addicting"
But what if she expands on this area of interest and become involved deeper ?
Do you understand what I am saying.
If this continues........this is the door.....the opening door, the first step......
After some time maybe she is desensitized and she need more hardcore materials or stimulants.
After that there is a possibility she might take it even further.
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Originally posted by the_fallen:
just keep in close yet friend conversation with your sister..
while she may be mentally healthy now..that does not rule out that your sister might walk or choose towards that wrong direction..
especially when she's growing up and hormones developing..she will than gradually take sides to her sexual oritentation..until it happens, keep her in check..
once in a while, take part in her activities of perhaps playing/acting like her desires etc..so in future she will be comfortable telling you her real desires and feel safe with you knowing her secrets at home..instead of going over to friends place where you can't supervise nor say anything..(just pre-empt you on what could happen in future if you don't prepare and work towards a healthy discussion)
with communicate with her on how she feels, think and if she has any desires to try it out in future..slowly as she grows up day by day..
plus encourage her to hang out with guys maybe when she grows older to a suitable age..so that even if in future, with some lesbian/bi-sexual friends around her as close buddies, you have already help her by showing her the correct path.. (early immunity & prevention against negative influence from potential friends)
hey thanks for the help. I did try to make in a close conversation between us. Doesnt really work out well though because she's still mean to me. she said that she dont like to hang out with guys because she explained that how they stand so close to her and often touching her (im not talking abt molesing, just touch at the shoulder, etc). It brings out a negative image of guys u know.. so she said its best if she stay out of it.
but i need her to tell me more details about her. She wants me to bring her to a cosplay event next time but of course, its risky for her but she still want to go. i have no choice on that
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Originally posted by Veggie Bao:
Actually if I am you.....I would feel unsettled and uncomfortable....because.....
Umm....
See....
Your sister likes to read those lesbian anime comics because "it is cute and addicting"
But what if she expands on this area of interest and become involved deeper ?
Do you understand what I am saying.
If this continues........this is the door.....the opening door, the first step......
After some time maybe she is desensitized and she need more hardcore materials or stimulants.
After that there is a possibility she might take it even further.
i understand what u mean. And trust me, i am very concern about this but she said that she wont turn into that. im not sure i want to believe her. She's an anime lover but she dont like be branded as an "otaku". She just into those kind of thing.
btw what do u mean by hardcore materials?
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Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:
hey thanks for the help. I did try to make in a close conversation between us. Doesnt really work out well though because she's still mean to me. she said that she dont like to hang out with guys because she explained that how they stand so close to her and often touching her (im not talking abt molesing, just touch at the shoulder, etc). It brings out a negative image of guys u know.. so she said its best if she stay out of it.
but i need her to tell me more details about her. She wants me to bring her to a cosplay event next time but of course, its risky for her but she still want to go. i have no choice on that
it seems that either you are introducing the wrong guys else the guys are just depserates and horny wolves..else its your sister who doesn't even know how to select the correct friends without any ill intentions..
cosplay event will be boring to you..and most likely there will pictures and sometimes reporters doing news reports..so ya..if you don't want to get caught in the picture..don't go..
if she refuse to tell you, or being mean/ruled to you..just stop buying her comics..than she will learn her place and position to depend on you to help her buy comics that she still isn't of age to buy.
bring across the topic of respect..if she doesn't show you her due respect as her senior/elder..than you should not spoil her or aid her in anyway possible.
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http://www.todayonline.com/Singapore/EDC110510-0000045/Woman-sentenced-for-sex-acts-on-underaged-girl
Above is the link to the article regarding lesbian activities. Which I was refering and pre-empting you about that could happen in the future.
Just get to talk to her openly about relationships etc..start off with general topics, and have her complete trust before going onto sensitve topics.
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ur sis u also want ah?
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ur sis like lesbian
then like lor
not even ur taiji
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yalor, where on earth got guy keep talking about his smaller sister personal life in public, must be a bogus thread again. Why dun talk about your aunts and nieces.
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Originally posted by the_fallen:
it seems that either you are introducing the wrong guys else the guys are just depserates and horny wolves..else its your sister who doesn't even know how to select the correct friends without any ill intentions..
cosplay event will be boring to you..and most likely there will pictures and sometimes reporters doing news reports..so ya..if you don't want to get caught in the picture..don't go..
if she refuse to tell you, or being mean/ruled to you..just stop buying her comics..than she will learn her place and position to depend on you to help her buy comics that she still isn't of age to buy.
bring across the topic of respect..if she doesn't show you her due respect as her senior/elder..than you should not spoil her or aid her in anyway possible.
oh ok. your 3rd paragraph really works. Now she's stop being mean already. Well not really stop, she still have the rude side inside of her but its improving.
well actually i didnt intro her to my guy friends because of age gap. Those guy friends are from either her schoolmate, workers etc.
I try start of as a normal conversation. If she trust me, then i ask her. thanks for the tip
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Originally posted by angel7030:
yalor, where on earth got guy keep talking about his smaller sister personal life in public, must be a bogus thread again. Why dun talk about your aunts and nieces.
u and cheeko96pek are seriously incredibly stupid. But lucky for u, ur not as stupid as cheeko96pek who blurted out crap before reading it.
u... the reason i said u are dumb (really dumb) because this is internet. U got see my face before? and i dont even post here often. we're all behind screen. We all can't recognize who is who unless u all go for outing thats why i think its safe for me to expose my problem here. ur assuming im trolling? what kind of dumb no life person would troll with a wall of text and actually reply? unlike u, i have a life. i dont go around making idiotic comments to make people mad everyday.
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lols TS, tink u shld jus ignore them and return back to your topic which is to help your sister or to solve your issue. Actually, have you tried to persuade her for a counselling session? Attitude problem and sudden interest in lesbians are not right and i guess you know about that which is why you are here. Point is to bring it up as a session but not to get her to go for it yet. Definitely she's gonna say no but probably slowly introduce it to her? Other than that you wanna wanna read up a little about psycho and try for a cognitive behavioural therapy? I am no pro here but just hoping that it helps you out.
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Originally posted by let_me_zip_u:
u and cheeko96pek are seriously incredibly stupid. But lucky for u, ur not as stupid as cheeko96pek who blurted out crap before reading it.
u... the reason i said u are dumb (really dumb) because this is internet. U got see my face before? and i dont even post here often. we're all behind screen. We all can't recognize who is who unless u all go for outing thats why i think its safe for me to expose my problem here. ur assuming im trolling? what kind of dumb no life person would troll with a wall of text and actually reply? unlike u, i have a life. i dont go around making idiotic comments to make people mad everyday.
You more dumb, as a gal, i feel the need to protect your sister from you, dun u feel ashame to talk behind her to the public, tho this is a faceless forum, but in term of integrity, I think you let your family down...go discuss all these with you family, they can help you internal instead of coming here and bla bla blacksheep behind your sister. If i got such brother, kick him to singapore river. -
Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:
lols TS, tink u shld jus ignore them and return back to your topic which is to help your sister or to solve your issue.
Actually, have you tried to persuade her for a counselling session? Attitude problem and sudden interest in lesbians are not right and i guess you know about that which is why you are here. Point is to bring it up as a session but not to get her to go for it yet. Definitely she’s gonna say no but probably slowly introduce it to her? Other than that you wanna wanna read up a little about psycho and try for a cognitive behavioural therapy? I am no pro here but just hoping that it helps you out.
erm ok. i try to bring her to a councelling session. try to talk her into it, hopefully she listens. step by step. but i doubt she goes along haha, but i try