she broke up with me and gone be with someone else
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Hmm Guys.. I nv treated Her Badly.. ?? I Know myself I treated her damn good.. i also did go for work.. i even bought her a lot of things.. and especially her birthday.. even i left $300 i spend almost $200 +..
Even her friends are all touched by me when i give her the final blow which is an SK jewellry necklace.. ALL her friends said that i am very good to her.. Best to her.. And They All Helped Me Saying my Ex.. I Just Dun Know What Is So Attractive About That Guy.. An ITE With a Gpa of 3.0 .. Face Like Gay.. Pie Kia.. Long Hair.. Zz..
Just That He started Learning Martial Arts ?? And During inside that 1 week .. my ex chiong cab down to clarke just to meet that guy for half an hour.. And I Confirmed That she know that guy 1 week only during that time cause she work at CANON for 4 days nia.. That's How She Knew Him.. Guys I seriously Dun Understand Why She Changed So Fast ?? I Am Also Her 1st love.. how can she so easily moved on ?? This Feeling Really Fucked Up Siazz.. Is Not I wanna Be EMO or sad.. i just keep thinking and missing her when i don't want to !!
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How she looks like, since u so sad and emo, maybe you come my pubs, hv a few drinks on me, i see if I can find one gal look alike to intro to you, but of course the character will be a bit out, but definitely better than the gal you mentioned.
As a gal, i can only say something about our gal action. I might be in a way betray some of my sisters here, but let be frank, most guys still do not know that they are actually stepping stones, we gals love to be adored, get attended and certainly praised, some of us, like your gal are actually waiting for the right hero to come along in their life, you are just a stepping stone, a supporting actor in our venture of love, and once we find the one we truly love, you are release from your role, we do not need you anymore. UNDERSTAND!
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so u are trying to say.. she used me as a stepping stone.. and will nv come back ?? or she will come back if she learn or regret ?? if she really use me as stepping stone.. then she will not find me anymore at all ?? our 1 yr 3 mths relationship is nothing to her at all ?? is this what u trying to say ??
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Originally posted by MilkyZ:
so u are trying to say.. she used me as a stepping stone.. and will nv come back ?? or she will come back if she learn or regret ?? if she really use me as stepping stone.. then she will not find me anymore at all ?? our 1 yr 3 mths relationship is nothing to her at all ?? is this what u trying to say ??
I know how u feel
I experience that feeling b4
u just want her & no one else
let time take away yr sorrow & start life again with a new gf
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Originally posted by MilkyZ:
so u are trying to say.. she used me as a stepping stone.. and will nv come back ?? or she will come back if she learn or regret ?? if she really use me as stepping stone.. then she will not find me anymore at all ?? our 1 yr 3 mths relationship is nothing to her at all ?? is this what u trying to say ??
dude, relationships can breakup even after several years.. your 1 yr 3 months .. is nothing ok.
You think relationship means spend money on her .. buy her gifts until you go broke ? That's a very wrong mindset dude.
Love cannot be bought.. nor can it be forced.
Women are emotional creatures.. while all the blings are a nice bonus.. you still need to satisfy her emotional needs.
I think your gf is not as materialistic as you think... she is probably high maintenance emotionally.
Since this is your first love.. just learn the lesson and move on.
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She is superficial.
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she is young.......n needs exposure to boyfrends....excitement of meeting up with handsome men is what girls need really. befor having 10 kids they wanna run around the island lookin n tasting much needed men flesh. i suggest u go collect porn or something.
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""""Hmm Guys.. I nv treated Her Badly.. ?? I Know myself I treated her damn good.. i also did go for work.. i even bought her a lot of things.. and especially her birthday.. even i left $300 i spend almost $200 +..
Even her friends are all touched by me when i give her the final blow which is an SK jewellry necklace.. ALL her friends said that i am very good to her.. Best to her.. And They All Helped Me Saying my Ex.. I Just Dun Know What Is So Attractive About That Guy.. An ITE With a Gpa of 3.0 .. Face Like Gay.. Pie Kia.. Long Hair.. Zz..
Just That He started Learning Martial Arts ?? And During inside that 1 week .. my ex chiong cab down to clarke just to meet that guy for half an hour.. And I Confirmed That she know that guy 1 week only during that time cause she work at CANON for 4 days nia.. That's How She Knew Him.. Guys I seriously Dun Understand Why She Changed So Fast ?? I Am Also Her 1st love.. how can she so easily moved on ?? This Feeling Really Fucked Up Siazz.. Is Not I wanna Be EMO or sad.. i just keep thinking and missing her when i don't want to !!"""
Wow nice to hear that you did so much for her but I would like to ask
1) what have she done for you in 1 years +
2) How did the 2 of you start?
3) Was she unhappy with you in anyway?
4) Did her parents know about the both of you?
5) Have she given you any presents?
Bro I just want to help, but in order to do that I need some facts of your relationship.
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1) what have she done for you in 1 years +
Well She Help me some problems that i faced.. And my Appearance for me to look better.. she removed my pimples, moles, help me pluck my eyebrows and change my hairstyle.. she did treat me food when she i know i treat her a lot already.. she sometimes will fork out her own $$ for me.. she also did a double baked chocolate cake for my birthday and muffins.. yea she got surprise me .. but in the whole 1 yr 3 mths.. is about 20~30% she surprise me by some small things.. She Didn't Really Did GREAT GREAT things for me..
2) How did the 2 of you start?
We started calling each other and sms each other every single day after we know each other at a friend house.. then we got meet up sometimes.. after that decided to meet up sometimes.. then we went to work together.. and one day i send her home she slept on my shoulder while we are sitting tgt on her playground below her house.. then she kissed me lips .. and we went to east coast park for a night tgt and i pitched my tent there.. and she say she loved me... and i asked her to be my girlfriend and that's it..
3) Was she unhappy with you in anyway?
Yea .. she keeps demand more and more from me.. she wants me to be succuessful in life.. she keep wanted me to earn a lot of $$ and have a lot of $$ in my bank so that she will feel safe and secure but the problem is how ?? as i am still studying.. a girl should comfort their own guys whenever we feeling down.. like i did not reach a target that i wanted.. i will feel down.. when i was feeling down.. i need her right ?? but she didn't comfort me but instead she turned angry and no feelings.. like she just want me to get what i want.. just like poly.. i apply those 5 choices.. then i nv got success in those 5 choices.. as she keep wanted me to get into poly.. after she know it she was like angry and disappointed.. i know she want me to get into poly but did she put her shoes inside me ?? i am the victim and i am the one feeling damn low.. instead i need her most .. she was like 'emo' disappointing me.. wtf ?? she expect me to comfort her saying ' don't worry i will get into poly dun be angry ' she like ignored me ?? wt hell ?? i need her the most ?! the reason is because she lied to her parents that i am studying poly right now.. for the 1 whole year.. wt hell.. oh.. she keeps want freedom from me.. she wants to go club with her girl-friends.. and after 1 yr we tgt.. she started smoking.. i scold her and she said ' i want to have freedom !! Stop controlling me !! ' i was like.. wtf ? i just don't want u to go club and be a smoker.. i just can't control her as she is too stubborn .. damn stubborn like a fucking rock..
4) Did her parents know about the both of you?
Yes.. but only her mother knows that we had sex tgt before.. and her mum likes me a lot..
5) Have she given you any presents?
Yes she did give me presents.. Last 2 yrs of my birthday.. and she bought me shirts.. and during our 6 month anniversary she bought me singlets, boxers, shirts, and a wallet.. she did a delicious double baked chocolate cake for my birthday last yr.. and she bought me 4-5 nugeno man facial wash.. and some small things.. i forgot.. but she said that our 1st year anniversary is very important.. guess what ? i was having exam near our anniversary and i told her 1 month earlier that i can't do a big surprise for u.. so i was hinting her to do some for me.. but she didn't do it.. after her 'O' levels.. she keeps playing mahjong with her friends.. when i ask her why u didn't do anything she said she dun have time.. wtf ? she nv do forget it.. but she nv bought me anything at all.. she just want that couple ring to be bought by me and give it to her she saw the other day at a shop.. i bought for her during our 1st yr.. i really was disappointed that she nv did anything for me that day.. yea.. that's all she give i guess..
i wanted to say was i actually knew i treat her very good.. all her friends likes me and say i am a good guy to her.. when her friends found out that she wants to break with me.. they don't even wanna tell me scared i am heartbroken.. all her friends told her dun DO IT.. he is a rare guy ! she said she slowly dun have feelings for me .. what can i say.. that time is i beg her which is a mistake.. and on that day i told her everything i wanted to say.. and finish it.. and goes to no contact till now.. hoping she will call me cause i did all i could.. that's why i am so hurt after she know that fucking guy from the it fair who she knows for 1 wk + and after we broke up 8 days later she is attached with that guy.. their 1 month anniversary .. she bought a BURBERRY wallet for him.. WTF ?! know each other for 1 month + .. but she is my first love.. although is hard but i still have feelings for her.. cause she changed my appearance and give me the 1st love.. i am her 1st too.. now i think is gone or nothing else..
i wrote all her .. maybe some i haven't wrote as i going to be busy.. if u wanna ask anymroe please tell me.. i will write back.. and in the mean time .. please give me more advice .. i am grateful u wanted to help me bro.. Thanks..
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Originally posted by MilkyZ:
1) what have she done for you in 1 years +
Well She Help me some problems that i faced.. And my Appearance for me to look better.. she removed my pimples, moles, help me pluck my eyebrows and change my hairstyle.. she did treat me food when she i know i treat her a lot already.. she sometimes will fork out her own $$ for me.. she also did a double baked chocolate cake for my birthday and muffins.. yea she got surprise me .. but in the whole 1 yr 3 mths.. is about 20~30% she surprise me by some small things.. She Didn't Really Did GREAT GREAT things for me..
2) How did the 2 of you start?
We started calling each other and sms each other every single day after we know each other at a friend house.. then we got meet up sometimes.. after that decided to meet up sometimes.. then we went to work together.. and one day i send her home she slept on my shoulder while we are sitting tgt on her playground below her house.. then she kissed me lips .. and we went to east coast park for a night tgt and i pitched my tent there.. and she say she loved me... and i asked her to be my girlfriend and that's it..
3) Was she unhappy with you in anyway?
Yea .. she keeps demand more and more from me.. she wants me to be succuessful in life.. she keep wanted me to earn a lot of $$ and have a lot of $$ in my bank so that she will feel safe and secure but the problem is how ?? as i am still studying.. a girl should comfort their own guys whenever we feeling down.. like i did not reach a target that i wanted.. i will feel down.. when i was feeling down.. i need her right ?? but she didn't comfort me but instead she turned angry and no feelings.. like she just want me to get what i want.. just like poly.. i apply those 5 choices.. then i nv got success in those 5 choices.. as she keep wanted me to get into poly.. after she know it she was like angry and disappointed.. i know she want me to get into poly but did she put her shoes inside me ?? i am the victim and i am the one feeling damn low.. instead i need her most .. she was like 'emo' disappointing me.. wtf ?? she expect me to comfort her saying ' don't worry i will get into poly dun be angry ' she like ignored me ?? wt hell ?? i need her the most ?! the reason is because she lied to her parents that i am studying poly right now.. for the 1 whole year.. wt hell.. oh.. she keeps want freedom from me.. she wants to go club with her girl-friends.. and after 1 yr we tgt.. she started smoking.. i scold her and she said ' i want to have freedom !! Stop controlling me !! ' i was like.. wtf ? i just don't want u to go club and be a smoker.. i just can't control her as she is too stubborn .. damn stubborn like a fucking rock..
4) Did her parents know about the both of you?
Yes.. but only her mother knows that we had sex tgt before.. and her mum likes me a lot..
5) Have she given you any presents?
Yes she did give me presents.. Last 2 yrs of my birthday.. and she bought me shirts.. and during our 6 month anniversary she bought me singlets, boxers, shirts, and a wallet.. she did a delicious double baked chocolate cake for my birthday last yr.. and she bought me 4-5 nugeno man facial wash.. and some small things.. i forgot.. but she said that our 1st year anniversary is very important.. guess what ? i was having exam near our anniversary and i told her 1 month earlier that i can't do a big surprise for u.. so i was hinting her to do some for me.. but she didn't do it.. after her 'O' levels.. she keeps playing mahjong with her friends.. when i ask her why u didn't do anything she said she dun have time.. wtf ? she nv do forget it.. but she nv bought me anything at all.. she just want that couple ring to be bought by me and give it to her she saw the other day at a shop.. i bought for her during our 1st yr.. i really was disappointed that she nv did anything for me that day.. yea.. that's all she give i guess..
i wanted to say was i actually knew i treat her very good.. all her friends likes me and say i am a good guy to her.. when her friends found out that she wants to break with me.. they don't even wanna tell me scared i am heartbroken.. all her friends told her dun DO IT.. he is a rare guy ! she said she slowly dun have feelings for me .. what can i say.. that time is i beg her which is a mistake.. and on that day i told her everything i wanted to say.. and finish it.. and goes to no contact till now.. hoping she will call me cause i did all i could.. that's why i am so hurt after she know that fucking guy from the it fair who she knows for 1 wk + and after we broke up 8 days later she is attached with that guy.. their 1 month anniversary .. she bought a BURBERRY wallet for him.. WTF ?! know each other for 1 month + .. but she is my first love.. although is hard but i still have feelings for her.. cause she changed my appearance and give me the 1st love.. i am her 1st too.. now i think is gone or nothing else..
i wrote all her .. maybe some i haven't wrote as i going to be busy.. if u wanna ask anymroe please tell me.. i will write back.. and in the mean time .. please give me more advice .. i am grateful u wanted to help me bro.. Thanks..
She is trying to bring out the BEST in you. Yet you treat her as an emotional dumping ground.
In a relationship.. it's not about the BMWs you buy her..nor the Gucci/Chanel/LV stuff..... it's the frequent little bitty things she/he do for you that counts. Letting you know that she thinks about you every so often.
I know your mother probably told you to marry someone who loves you for who you are... warts and all... but that's just mother talk.
The reality is ...No woman wants to be with a LOSER.. that's why your gf keeps pushing you to excel. At her maturity level.. she probably don't even know how to do it properly.. or maybe that's how her own parents push her to excel in life. That's why you thinks she is being mean or superficial.
Instead of pulling up your socks.. you gave her lame excuses after lame excuses for your failure.... no wonder she gave up on you.
She had hope..she saw your potential.. but you pissed it all away.
That IT guy is probably more accomplished than you..so quit the self pitying .....it's time you do some self reflection... and chart your path carefully.
First love.. 10th love.. it doesn't matter... if she can't see a future with you after a period of time.. it's time for her to let go.
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To TS
Thanks for the time for your replies, I must say that you really love this gal very much and she loves you too in the first part of the relationship.
Reason I think on why she wants to break up,
1) She double baked chocolate cake and muffins for your birthday and you feel that is not a big deal for you. It is not easy to bake a cake it takes time and effort. Try this, since mother's day is coming try making you for your mum then you will understand her feelings
2) She wants you to be successful that’s why she wants you to go to poly. Even in her heart she knows that you could not make it, she lies to her parents for you for a year to make you look good. Ever wonder why she did that? She could have just told her parents and make them look down on you.
3) "she keeps want freedom from me.. she wants to go club with her girl-friends.. and after 1 yr we tgt.. she started smoking.. i scold her and she said ' i want to have freedom !! Stop controlling me !! ' i was like.. wtf ? i just don't want u to go club and be a smoker.. i just can't control her as she is too stubborn .. damn stubborn like a fucking rock."
Nobody likes to be stop from doing things that she or he likes. By scolding her only pushes you away from her.
4) "but she said that our 1st year anniversary is very important.. guess what ? i was having exam near our anniversary and i told her 1 month earlier that i can't do a big surprise for u.."
I too learnt this the hard way, when a girl says "our 1st year anniversary is very important.." she means that she wants to spent some time with you. No matter how short the time is, she will love you even more for remembering it. Just by asking her to plan for things for you makes her feel that you do not care for her. I finally learnt this after got dump by 3 ex.
My advice for you
She has left you, I understand it is tough; rejection is something which no one wants to face but is a fact that sadly you have to accept. Questions on why she left and what have I done to deserve this will always be there but it is time to move on. You have done your best bro but is not enough for her. She wants more and it is also unfair for you to always try to reach her expectations. To understand what the mistakes that you make in this relationship will help you make a better bf in the future.
My suggestion is to tell her that you are sorry for the things that you have done, thank her sincerely for all she had done for you and wish she would have a better life with someone that she really loves.
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I See.. That's All my Mistakes.. She saw my potential and have hopes for me but i pissed all away.. that's why she interested in another guy.. So guys.. Is There any chance that i can make her attract back to me ?? To Show her that i have really changed.. ?? And Being A Real man.. whatever i said i will do it.. I Know she is good to me too.. afterall i still have feelings for her.. I just don't want to let go a girl i loved and treated me well.. Is there anyway i can attract her ?? Right now I do not have any contacts with her till now.. its been 1 month 1 week.. No contact all the way.. Or should i really let go ?? But i just find it so hard to do it.. i wanted her back in me.. i still miss her though.. i now understand those mistakes.. thanks DRC and jojo.. i hope for advices that i could attract her back happily ?? just wanted her to see in me that i am different from last time.. and i could be successful, give her the feeling of secure.. and be a better bf.. my love her was too deep true.. is hard to let her go .. thanks drc and jojo.. wished to get her back (attract back in me).. Thanks..
To DRC
Erm.. U Said u been dumped by 3 ex.. did they call u back or they totally didn't call u back ?? if they called u back .. How long was it they take to call u back ?? or u did something so they called u back ?? Thanks for ur info..
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Is She Worth it for me to want her back or attract her back ?? Until Now.. Do U Think She Still Missed Me ?? cause she haven't call me yet.. so i not sure.. And is She Counted as a Good Girl or good women ?? Sorry.. I can;t help myself asking cause i really wanted her back after all.. loving her as always..
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Originally posted by MilkyZ:
s She Worth it for me to want her back or attract her back ?? Until Now.. Do U Think She Still Missed Me ?? cause she haven't call me yet.. so i not sure.. And is She Counted as a Good Girl or good women ?? Sorry.. I can;t help myself asking cause i really wanted her back after all.. loving her as always..
Is she worth it ? You should answer this yourself.
One man's wine is another man's venom.
What's there for her to miss about you ?
A man's true worth is in his actions.. NOT his words.
What have you done so far.. to prove worthy ? Noble thoughts are worthless unless you make em happen.
Do yourself a favor.. your success should be the result of your own ambitions.. not the want of another.
Let the women judge your success.. and you be the one to choose.
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HI sorry to hear about that. The best thing you can do is to live well and to do well and move on.
Same thing happened to me in university. I thought she was the one I would settle down with. Did everything to be a good bf - studied with her, spent time with her, tried to solve all her problems etc.
But like many girls, she was the type that was always looking to upgrade. So along came a guy in her hall of residence who drove a car (not his, but his dad's) and he would chaffeur her around everywhere. After a few days, she broke up with me and I found out that she hooked up immediately with that guy. A trade up.
I was devastated - I felt really low. If I cannot even make an average girl like her happy I can forget about girls in general. But I just picked myself up and went on with life. Nothing is more unappealing than a whiner who's feeling sorry for himelf.
Fast forward - I am now happily married to a great girl (prettier, nicer than the old one) and have a happy life. The old girlfriend? The last I heard she broke up with that guy (maybe his dad sold the car), and she tried to contact me on facebook. Basically I ignored her - why should I even waste time on someone who's always looking to trade up and upgrade? I am not a car!
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Originally posted by angel7030:
How she looks like, since u so sad and emo, maybe you come my pubs, hv a few drinks on me, i see if I can find one gal look alike to intro to you, but of course the character will be a bit out, but definitely better than the gal you mentioned.
As a gal, i can only say something about our gal action. I might be in a way betray some of my sisters here, but let be frank, most guys still do not know that they are actually stepping stones, we gals love to be adored, get attended and certainly praised, some of us, like your gal are actually waiting for the right hero to come along in their life, you are just a stepping stone, a supporting actor in our venture of love, and once we find the one we truly love, you are release from your role, we do not need you anymore. UNDERSTAND!
Very true - thank for being so honest. I think many girls are like what you described - always looking to upgrade their material circumstances or the people they are with. Let's face it many people settle down with the best person they can get at that point in time.But not all girls are like that, not girls always looking for that marginal trade up. Because if they were I would not have been able to got married cos when I started dating my current wife I really had nothing - no money, no car, no house etc... we clicked and got married and I worked hard and now we have a decent life together - private property, car, going to Europe for holiday etc.
And in a funny way, if I had settled down with my first girlfriend I don't think I would be dong as well today. I would not have had that shock, and I would not have figured out that women (most) are ultimately materialistic and I needed to be succesful in my career.
I think one reason why my wife was willing to go out with a no-money, no-car fella like me in the past is because she herself came from a well-to-do family, so she already has all the nice trinklets and she was looking beyond the materialistic aspect of things and maybe she saw some subtance in me.
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wah.. ppl wrote a lot here.. no time to read :(
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Originally posted by Keen on u2000:
Very true - thank for being so honest. I think many girls are like what you described - always looking to upgrade their material circumstances or the people they are with. Let's face it many people settle down with the best person they can get at that point in time.But not all girls are like that, not girls always looking for that marginal trade up. Because if they were I would not have been able to got married cos when I started dating my current wife I really had nothing - no money, no car, no house etc... we clicked and got married and I worked hard and now we have a decent life together - private property, car, going to Europe for holiday etc.
And in a funny way, if I had settled down with my first girlfriend I don't think I would be dong as well today. I would not have had that shock, and I would not have figured out that women (most) are ultimately materialistic and I needed to be succesful in my career.
I think one reason why my wife was willing to go out with a no-money, no-car fella like me in the past is because she herself came from a well-to-do family, so she already has all the nice trinklets and she was looking beyond the materialistic aspect of things and maybe she saw some subtance in me.
You lucky dude, ride on the richness of other, clever lor.
You must understand what and how we gal communicate among ourselves, just like guys, they can talk all abt gals, from sex to relationship to looks etc etc...we also talk such things about men, if one of our sister are those innocent type, we will influence and teach her how to deal with men, but is it all up to her. There are bimbos and there are also goondos, sometime you see gals cheat guys, sometimes you see guys cheated gals, the fact of life in relationship.
Careless if you hv money, house or go to the moon, most importantly is, Are you truly happy?
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Originally posted by MilkyZ:
Is She Worth it for me to want her back or attract her back ?? Until Now.. Do U Think She Still Missed Me ?? cause she haven't call me yet.. so i not sure.. And is She Counted as a Good Girl or good women ?? Sorry.. I can;t help myself asking cause i really wanted her back after all.. loving her as always..
From a gal advice here, no call, no sms, no msn or face book replies and all other communication means She dun give you a damn. To her, better you stay far far away. -
Originally posted by angel7030:
You lucky dude, ride on the richness of other, clever lor.
You must understand what and how we gal communicate among ourselves, just like guys, they can talk all abt gals, from sex to relationship to looks etc etc...we also talk such things about men, if one of our sister are those innocent type, we will influence and teach her how to deal with men, but is it all up to her. There are bimbos and there are also goondos, sometime you see gals cheat guys, sometimes you see guys cheated gals, the fact of life in relationship.
Careless if you hv money, house or go to the moon, most importantly is, Are you truly happy?
Well, rich is too strong a word lah.. anyway I never took money from the wife and my heart is free. And yes I am truly happy.I think generally Singaporean guys are very naive about Singaporean girls' motivations and take the relationship too seriously and when they get dumped by the girl because of an "upgrade" they get devastated. Singaporean guys need to wake up and play the game a little
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Originally posted by Keen on u2000:
Well, rich is too strong a word lah.. anyway I never took money from the wife and my heart is free. And yes I am truly happy.I think generally Singaporean guys are very naive about Singaporean girls' motivations and take the relationship too seriously and when they get dumped by the girl because of an "upgrade" they get devastated. Singaporean guys need to wake up and play the game a little
Singapore guys got too much male egos and prides to hold on to, they have not reach the maturity of Love even at the age of 35yo, most think very narrowly and when they cannot get the sg gals they wanted, they would turn bad, blame all sg gals for being materialistic, bad, and unfaithful to them. Most never look at gal like me, the higher income group gal, to me, we are like tigeress and commanding, they feel belittled and unable to take the burden of going out with a gal richer or more capable then them, so end up, me being single and they go for foreign cheap gal who can be their night partner and maid at the same time, but these foreign gal also cheated them most of the time.So far, in my experiences, Sg guy can be the worst in term of romance, they are not sweet and also not steady, they just want to get thing done fast and quick, perhap the fast pace of the society had breeded such guys.
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Originally posted by MilkyZ:
Hi Guys.. I Need Help Here.. My Girlfriend And I Broke Up.. She Wants to broke up with me.. saying she wanted to be single, she said she dont have much feelings for me.. we been tgt for 1 yr 3 months, broke up on the day after her birthday.. i was so sad and depressed.. cause during those days, she known a guy for 4 days, and she is interested in that guy. broke up with me after knowing that guy for about a week.. after we break up for 8 days. she is tgt with that guy.. until its been 1 month since we broke up. i read all post and i inititated no contact till now. hoping she will miss me and contact me.. but she didnt contact or txt me at all.. like she nv even miss me ?? i still got check her fb sometimes.. i can't help it.. the feelings still there.. is not easy to get over with.. both of them , their facebook profile keep having those loving messages and stuffs.. and now she put into a relationship with that guy.. she said she wanted TO B E SINGLE !? is she lying to me ?! That time we talk which is our last talk where the break up comes.. she said if i love her i should let her go ! cause she wanted to be single so i let her go cause i still love her.. but now i still think of her and want her back.. she is my 1st love and i still have feelings for her.. guys . what should i do to make her miss me and regret it ??And i just saw her facebook uploaded the both of them, their pictures.. the kissing and hugging parts.. fucking fucked up.. the guy is even worse looking than me.. i really had nothing to say.. any guys can advices or help out ??
Sometimes, I wondered if the reasons given are important to process the break up or the break up itself is a reason suffices to decide that probably this person is not really the one to begin with. You have two prominent issues; (1) you are grieving over the lost of your 1 year odd relationship, (2) you are angry over the fact that she ended up with someone else almost instantly after breaking up with you.
To grief over a lost relationship is natural; the epiphany is almost as if a part of you died along with your divine soul and it can be witnessed in your daily functioning activities (e.g. mourning for the lost, no one to meet up over the weekends, nobody to hold hands, etc). Most people detest major changes because relationship often seek to maintain its homeostasis - simply refers to its 'natural balance' where status quo prevail over possible new changes, in which some level of uncomfortable adjustment has to be made and be accommodated.
Your anger seemed justified; with facebook pictures depicting her new relationship in intimate poses; certainly it can be hard for anyone to accept it in a point-blank fashion. The additional frustration also adds weight as you relate how nicely you treated her, despite making personal sacrifices. The attempt was futile in saving the relationship though, but honestly, a part of me wonders how much of the relationship is actually salvageable in the first place.
When someone is diagnosed with final stage pancreatic cancer (most fatal type of cancer); chances are, death is inevitable. The knowledge of being diagnosed as pancreatic cancer (category type) in its final stage (time frame) makes load of difference as compared to another who is only told that he is clinically suffering from cancer. If you know that you have no chance of be cured, you will probably try to improve the quality of your life because that is probably the only way you could end on a higher note given the same outcome.What I am trying to say is that for your case: ‘death’ has already occurred. Understandably, the reason of death means little to our emotional mind because it is as painful as it could get for anyone to lose someone they love. It is indeed a struggle to move along. However the question remains for you: what level of note would you want to end for yourself?
If you know that the breakup is due to the absence of love; is this something that you perceive you could do ‘something’ about it to get it back?
Could you force love out of someone who doesn’t have it anymore?
Even if you could – will it turn out to be the same?
Cheers
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You'll get over it.. Trust me when I say I know exactly how you feel.
It only thing that hurts is thinking that she's the right one for you, but she probably isn't.
I got ditched too, shortly after I was enlisted to army., My ex-girlfriend left me for another guy whom i sort of know..
I know who the guys was.. cuz I know the guy. But I pretend not knowing anything
felt heartbroken for 2 years.. but it only made me stronger.
I trained very hard this 2 years.. because I wanted to prove to her that her decision was wrong.
now, she recently dumped by that boyfriend of hers. She feel upset and she confided to me..
=P
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So u r the rubbish truck hor...talk like u very good liddat