I want a relationship so bad =(
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I so much want to love someone and want somebody to love me too.
I always pretend to a different person in front of everybody, but deep down I am very hurt and sad.
I am 29 years old but I look like I am a 16-18 year old boy.
Everytime I see other people happy together, my heart feel very sour and sorrowful, and I just want to find one corner to hide and cry.
I always hold back tears and dont know where and who I belong to.
Where is my happiness? Nobody is willing to love me mah? {T_T}
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do u want to consider getting a bride from vietnam?
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Join SDN. What are you waiting for? Govt will be so happy to help you every step of the way. http://www.lovebyte.org.sg
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Man is thus a social loner
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only fools rush in
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I am not that old yet. I also dun look ugly.
I am afraid abt thinking abt marrying a vietnam wife. Because if i do so, people around will gossip and make fun of me & the girl.
I also cant bear to hurt the girl that marry over, because her happiness will be ruined by marrying me. I dont want the girl to suffer with me.
Also, it is not a relationship. I want some girl who truly loves me.
I am actually a member of the SDN database. But i never attend the events they promote because i know most of the people who attend are in their 30s. I only look like a 16-18 years old boy. I cannot imagine why the girls there will like a teenager-looking boy.
I dont want a scenario where I attend and people start to wonder why is a small boy doing here then everybody find their company but i am left alone in one corner. I will only get more hurt and sad. I dont want this to happen =(
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alot of the girls and guys there are under 30. you may meet someone who don't mind your looks, good right?
for example: a girl in early to mid 20s won't mind. still look compatible.
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for others to love you, you must love yourself first.
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If you think that a girl's happiness can be ruined by marrying you, then why get into a relationship in the first place ?Originally posted by xiaogougou:
I am not that old yet. I also dun look ugly.
I am afraid abt thinking abt marrying a vietnam wife. Because if i do so, people around will gossip and make fun of me & the girl.
I also cant bear to hurt the girl that marry over, because her happiness will be ruined by marrying me. I dont want the girl to suffer with me.
Also, it is not a relationship. I want some girl who truly loves me.
I am actually a member of the SDN database. But i never attend the events they promote because i know most of the people who attend are in their 30s. I only look like a 16-18 years old boy. I cannot imagine why the girls there will like a teenager-looking boy.
I dont want a scenario where I attend and people start to wonder why is a small boy doing here then everybody find their company but i am left alone in one corner. I will only get more hurt and sad. I dont want this to happen =(
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May, can you please read carefully before you make any insensitive remarks?
I am referring to marrying a foreign bride. There is no courtship in between. The foreign bride girl is not marrying out for love. It is just like a transaction.
How would you feel if you are not marrying somebody you love?
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I tell you, I am looking for a gf too.
To say nicely, I am looking for someone who love me!Now my current gf is like fk sia~ knn keep kpkb cb omgbbqwtfpwnown
As I always tell my peers, viets are homely and they make good homemaker.
SGgirls are rotten to de core and only suck $. This is globalization, and our sg batch of girls are affected by the ah thiong gals liao -
Originally posted by xiaogougou:
May, can you please read carefully before you make any insensitive remarks?
I am referring to marrying a foreign bride. There is no courtship in between. The foreign bride girl is not marrying out for love. It is just like a transaction.
How would you feel if you are not marrying somebody you love?
yr concept is already wrong.
i think you confuse yrself already. yr mind set is narrow, and you are shollow.
there basic nothing wrong with marry a viet / thai / china / cambo gal at all.
its only the chance of marry the wrong person that dont suit you
but then its same goes for singapore gal. ny friend married to a singapore gal that end up giving him wear green hat and after the DNA test, its turn out that his child is not his................... this is SINGAPORE GAL loh. she dont smoke, she dont work, she give birth. but with another person.
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Take your time, all will come naturally. One day you will meet your ms right and it will happen when you least expect it. For now enjoy life as a single person do what you want to do cos once you have someone you can only do 10% of what you are doing and you will end up doing 90% of what you actually don't want to do. God always have a plan for you !
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i oni see ts haolian he look like small boy boy
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Perhaps I can share a little with you because I am also a boyish looking man even until now. I look possibly 10+ years younger than what I am. I know this looks is detrimental and hurts your self confidence especially with girls.
Girls do go for looks and good news is some girls like cuty looking boys. However, girls will become your gf not because of your looks but how comfortable she feels with you. Obviously, it means letting the girls have a chance to know you and that means you or the girl have to come together and feel for each other.
As a man, I would think you have to be courageous enough to approach the girls. Put away your fears. It can be embarrasing but the embarrasement really can't kill you. Trying is key and not attending any session at SDN is gonna help you either. If it feels better, go for girls who are less mature looking. This is what I did and I alrdy have a loving wife and family.
It is really about putting away your fears, do it even if u are fearful, trying, getting embarrased and trying again after getting over it. Eventually, u will find luck and your love!
cheers
Apples
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You look young, so? I have many friends, some looking like primary school children.
Before you well up yourself in self-pity for your face, you expect the women to take the lead?
Take charge, make the change and stop making your excuses for not finding the one.
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Come, come my place, you will leave with no fear and shy of gals, I personally can teach you everything about gal, from A to Z.
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has ts tried porn?
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When you rush into love b/c of feeling lonely..relationship may not work out well and you will be in a rush to get get out...sometimes..letting nature takes it course is better..
When a person is single...always wants to think about getting married..when married and can't get along..u will think of being single again..makes any mistakes of your life's decision with a woman..the women's charter will kick in and forever your problems will not end...cheerioo!
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Chocochips, theres nothing to show off when you are almost 30 years old but still look like a 16-18 year old kid. It hurts a lot on my self esteem. I'm glad Apples understands.
Hwaimeng, i know theres nothing wrong in marrying a foreign bride. I had an ex gf whos a thai. But paying $ to get a wife is wrong. The girl is being compelled to marry you because she has no choice to. She is doing this out of poverty. I feel so sorry and guilty if i am doing this. I have a soft spot and I cant bear to do anything to hurt girls.
Also I think not Singaporean girls are bad. Bashing them and saying they are lousy is not right too. Marrying a foreign wife does guarantee you have a good wife too. Whats important is that this person you're marrying genuine loves you or not.
Singaporean girls also have their good point. One main thing is that they share the family income and they do a big part to take care of the family. When you marry a foreign bride, you must be sure you can take care for her. I also want somebody who can understand my problems, share my dreams, provide me with moral support and comfort when I need it. Foreign wives are submissive yes, but I am not the kind of guy who wants a girl at my beck and call.
I can only consider this when I ran out of options. But as much as i try to deny this, I also know i am running out of time. Some day I will have to face the truth. I am so sad and angry at myself if I have to resort to this to get married.
I know there are many people who say that being single can be good too. But I am just not that kind of person. Without somebody to share my life, give me the support and comfort when I need, i duno what is my purpose, where is my direction, who am I living for, what is the hope am I clinging to. I cannot imagine living the rest of my life like this. Life is so sad and meaningless like this.
My younger sister shes already married and she has a 3 year old daughter. My niece is very adorable and I love her very much. But whenever I see her, I feel just so much sadness inside. I also want my family. I also want to have my own children. I dont understand why my sister beat me to it. I am way better looking than her, she is only ITE grad while I have a degree from SIM.
Right now the center of attention in my family revolves around my niece and I feel so left out. As the only son of the family, I feel it is such a shame, especially during chinese new year, when relatives keep bombarding me with questions that I dont even have the answers to it myself.
Chinese New Year has become the most hated festival of my life, believe it or not.
Nice guys really finish last. I am a living example.
PS: Hitman, to answer your question, No. Porn does not get me a gf and indulging in porn only make girls hate and despise you. How about I try something else such as slapping you instead?
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Aiya, Ah Xiao, today, being single is the fashion, only those outdate peoples go and get marry. If during my grandma days, if you said you are still single, people will laugh at you, today, if you said you are single, not attached, peoples said very normal lah. Me 22yo gal also single mah, my grandma said, last time for gal 22yo not married, meaning very old already, no body wants. But today, marrying at 22yo is a waste of my youth. Be cool lah, CNY, what is CNY in singapore, with so many foreigners, CNY become just a normal holidays, unlike my taiwan hometown, all celebrating and still hv the tradition and the feel of CNY.
Single forever..yeah!
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Aiya, Ah Xiao, today, being single is the fashion, only those outdate peoples go and get marry. If during my grandma days, if you said you are still single, people will laugh at you, today, if you said you are single, not attached, peoples said very normal lah. Me 22yo gal also single mah, my grandma said, last time for gal 22yo not married, meaning very old already, no body wants. But today, marrying at 22yo is a waste of my youth. Be cool lah, CNY, what is CNY in singapore, with so many foreigners, CNY become just a normal holidays, unlike my taiwan hometown, all celebrating and still hv the tradition and the feel of CNY.
Single forever..yeah!
Wah, you still got some 25 years to party. After that can find some 23 year old guy.
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Originally posted by alize:
Wah, you still got some 25 years to party. After that can find some 23 year old guy.
No need to find, after I chopped enuf, these 23yo mommy boys will come to me in auto mode -
Originally posted by xiaogougou:
Chocochips, theres nothing to show off when you are almost 30 years old but still look like a 16-18 year old kid. It hurts a lot on my self esteem. I'm glad Apples understands.
Hwaimeng, i know theres nothing wrong in marrying a foreign bride. I had an ex gf whos a thai. But paying $ to get a wife is wrong. The girl is being compelled to marry you because she has no choice to. She is doing this out of poverty. I feel so sorry and guilty if i am doing this. I have a soft spot and I cant bear to do anything to hurt girls.
Also I think not Singaporean girls are bad. Bashing them and saying they are lousy is not right too. Marrying a foreign wife does guarantee you have a good wife too. Whats important is that this person you're marrying genuine loves you or not.
Singaporean girls also have their good point. One main thing is that they share the family income and they do a big part to take care of the family. When you marry a foreign bride, you must be sure you can take care for her. I also want somebody who can understand my problems, share my dreams, provide me with moral support and comfort when I need it. Foreign wives are submissive yes, but I am not the kind of guy who wants a girl at my beck and call.
I can only consider this when I ran out of options. But as much as i try to deny this, I also know i am running out of time. Some day I will have to face the truth. I am so sad and angry at myself if I have to resort to this to get married.
I know there are many people who say that being single can be good too. But I am just not that kind of person. Without somebody to share my life, give me the support and comfort when I need, i duno what is my purpose, where is my direction, who am I living for, what is the hope am I clinging to. I cannot imagine living the rest of my life like this. Life is so sad and meaningless like this.
My younger sister shes already married and she has a 3 year old daughter. My niece is very adorable and I love her very much. But whenever I see her, I feel just so much sadness inside. I also want my family. I also want to have my own children. I dont understand why my sister beat me to it. I am way better looking than her, she is only ITE grad while I have a degree from SIM.
Right now the center of attention in my family revolves around my niece and I feel so left out. As the only son of the family, I feel it is such a shame, especially during chinese new year, when relatives keep bombarding me with questions that I dont even have the answers to it myself.
Chinese New Year has become the most hated festival of my life, believe it or not.
Nice guys really finish last. I am a living example.
PS: Hitman, to answer your question, No. Porn does not get me a gf and indulging in porn only make girls hate and despise you. How about I try something else such as slapping you instead?
Are you sure you are not wallowing in self pity? I have a friend 32 this year and looks like a primary school kid and he's only 1.62m.
He married and his kids look like his younger siblings.
His wife looks more like his elder sister but he is happily married.
You seemed like you are blaming it on your looks and very reserved.
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Nelstar, I am also short. 1.62m also. Thats why I say I look like a small boy.
The difference is: your friend is happily married, I'm not.
I'm not blaming my looks, but why wont I be sad over it?
Girls that are young, although I look similar to their age, but I'm not. They wont like me cos i am too old for them. Girls of my age will look at me as a small boy.
Why wont I be despondent over it?
Angel, 22 year old is still so young, why are you comparing it with me 29 yr old, going to 30? Your point makes no point loh.
My eyes almost roll to the back of my head loh.