teacher n student
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Hi people, I am kind of confused now... I could not write more into details due to some circumstances but I try to give as much as possible and I hope u guys can help me.
I will be graduating soon and I have been under the tutelage of my teacher AA for the last six months. He is a rare gem in my course of study and he is helpful and caring to his students and sometimes he could even stay beyond office hours to help us. He is well liked in school.
Because of his caring n helpful character, I just felt normal whenever he was helping me; it’s only until 3 months ago that I start to feel that he is more concern for me than the rest of the class. And later, the class starts to feel it too. Jealousy spills and they start to talk about him liking me and vice versa behind our backs.
There is even once when they wanted to take a picture of AA and me in a consultation behind our backs. I turned back and stared at them. I guessed that AA heard them too but he did not react and he just went on with the consultation as normal.
After that he became more focused and caring to me and my classmates start to gossip more about us...
I always had a great deal of respect for him and nothing else more. I did not think of him in anyway romantic as I know it would affect his career, personal relationship, reputation in society. but recently I am abit confused about my feelings and I related this issue to my closer friends and they told me that probably I am moved by his care and concern for me. Recently I teared as I thought of myself leaving school soon and I don’t get to see him in future...
They also said that he might have a crush on me but he knows that it’s impossible between us and there’s no future so he tries to compensate it by helping me more than the others...
I am not sure of his feelings but I hope it is not as what my friends told me above. But up till now, he did not act in anyway intimate or sleazy to me and everything is dealt with professionalism.
I am a legal adult and he is a few years older than me. I am mature so don’t worry about sex issues and I am not going to create any trouble for him.
I will see him a few times more so this is how much I will tell now.
Before I end off, I have a desire to go up to him on the last day of school and ask him why he treats me so well and helped me so much. Do u people think it is appropriate of me to do so? Or are there any other better options I could try to do?
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ya, should just ask on the last day of school
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juz make sure that he's not married & that's the most impt thing..
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he is not married but he have a girlfriend
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so be careful not to be a 3rd party..
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i dont want to be ... that is why i am asking if the question is appropriate to be asked.
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Take full advantage of the tutelage he is giving you.
Take your exams.
Move on. Thats all you need to do.
Years later, when you bump into him again, you should be able to tell him a success story. Thats all the reward he wants.
After you, he will have to guide another kid, so don't be selfish.
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It is appropriate.
Just ask it in a jokingly manner and not too serious - You two might end up in an awkard scenario.
And also, from what i read.... My personal opinions..
- You are having a crush on that teacher of yours hence the topic. If you have no feelings for that teacher asking a question that normal should be no problem.
- It is normal for teachers to have favourites, most teachers have certain "star pupil" in their books. Your friends probably sparked rumors and etc from jealously.
I guess the option for you now is to determine/overcome your feelings for that teacher....
Just my opinion.
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well thanks for your comments but dont know why my heart is not willing to accept it, maybe i am curious or maybe i am starting to have a crush on him.
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Originally posted by Gerberad:
well thanks for your comments but dont know why my heart is not willing to accept it, maybe i am curious or maybe i am starting to have a crush on him.
What are you having trouble accepting?
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well sometimes i think to myself, even if i really have a crush on him, probability of us having a future is almost zero, but one of my friends actually told me to try chatting up with AA, who know what will happen...
i didnt thought too far, i just dont want him to react negatively after the question and start to avoid me, i dont want to lose a good teacher.
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It's possible he likes you too but is holding back. He might not think it's right to date a student, or he might be thinking of his gf, or he may be shy.
Since both of you are adults, get to know him better and find out the reason. It will help you understand guys better.
Lastly, don't get taken for a ride. If a guy's a two timer, he could hurt you too.
Share how old you are?
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to mancha :
well thanks for your comments but dont know why my heart is not willing to accept it, maybe i am curious or maybe i am starting to have a crush on him.
sorry yach its not to u :)
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Originally posted by Gerberad:
well sometimes i think to myself, even if i really have a crush on him, probability of us having a future is almost zero, but one of my friends actually told me to try chatting up with AA, who know what will happen...
i didnt thought too far, i just dont want him to react negatively after the question and start to avoid me, i dont want to lose a good teacher.
Hmm...
I cannot predict anything but still, i think if you can ask that question in a casual manner you will get the answer you are so loooonging to find out, without any negative effects.
Its hard to ask especially since you are likely having feelings for him, i can understand when i picture myself in your shoes.
Or you can just move on like what mancha said.
Well anyways... good luck on whatever your decision is.... :)
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Originally posted by Gerberad:
to mancha :
well thanks for your comments but dont know why my heart is not willing to accept it, maybe i am curious or maybe i am starting to have a crush on him.
sorry yach its not to u :)
Ah my bad :)
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to alize :
well i thought so too.. but i am not very good at interacting with people, and i have no idea how to ask him that question, like how to make it seem casual..It's possible he likes you too but is holding back. He might not think it's right to date a student, or he might be thinking of his gf, or he may be shy.
Since both of you are adults, get to know him better and find out the reason. It will help you understand guys better.
Lastly, don't get taken for a ride. If a guy's a two timer, he could hurt you too.
Share how old you are?
yeah i wont be so stupid to accept a guy who two time..i am above 21 and he is not over 31. -
Let me explain the mechanics of the crush.
At the start, you were normal, that is because you have not been feeding your subconscious that he is treating you special.
Slowly you began to build up on that. He is treating you special, he is treating you special, he is treating you special. It goes on and on until you believe it. Others notice it. You become more receptive to this care, but he on his part just goes on normal, and because of your receptiveness, give you that bit of extra coaching. This then makes you feed your subconscious again, that it is true he likes you, and you begin to have feelings for him. You made yourself have a crush on him.
Don't ask him if he has "special" feelings on the last day, just say thank you with a present.
Keep it at teacher/student level and things will be great, for now and the future.
Don't go for him, go for your career.
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to mancha :
hey i am just curious to ask if u had similar experiences before? are u a teacher?
what are the types of present to buy for him?
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Always!
Everytime when I am on a course or lecture, I will feel that I am special to someone there, and that person would look as if she likes me.
I would approach her and talk to her, and everything is always smiley and dovey. And I would start thinking like you did. But at the end, I would just be on my way.
Its all in my mind.
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lecturers are human beings....but being a professional, he knows where the line should be drawn.
u may approach him with all those personal questions, but ultimately, his reply to you will still be professionally marked....i bet u
(it was once a banned book)
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ask what ask?
if he wants he will ask u for number/msn
now it is you who is asking what present to buy for him -
if he alrdy has a serious gf, just let him be la. In our whole life, we may admire some people here and there but once you're married or attached, then stick to your choice. If he can be unfaithful to his gf because of you, he will do it to you someday. Trust this 2 cents piece of advice.
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careful yo~ ask on the last day. make sure he doesn't do all the icky stuffs to u
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Reminds me of last time when angel7030 tutor me because i weak in some subjects, then i realize she treat me the best and so nasty to other people, slowly i think maybe she likes me... so one day i ask her, then she push me onto the bed force me down and proceed to bang me non-stop... now i am pregnant with her kid but i feel so blessed because her skills in bed makes me want to be bang by her everyday... she so strong, like a man, force me down and i try to push her away also cannot push, because she too strong... and stamina like marathon, bang me non-stop for 2 days straight, that's how i pregnant....
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xoxo him in a letter...
good test
