How to survive as a loner in school
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Hey all. As the title suggests, how do I survive as a loner in school?
I was a loner and an outcast in JC. As you could imagine, I was totally ostracised by my schoolmates/classmates and was greatly affected. My grades went down hill and was finally down with depression. I was then kicked out of school because of my illness.
I do not like to talk much, but I always try my best in conversation and making new friends.
I finished serving NS and am waiting for school (Poly) to start. I am afraid the same thing would happen again. Please help.
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Try to find a counsellor to share your problems. You cant keep hiding. You have to do projects in poly with ppl as well.
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if u are still afraid of being a loner....u haven't learnt the art of human nature in NS....
what have u been learning?
just focus on what u want than what others expect of u...dun let loneliness impede a useful life...
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
Hey all. As the title suggests, how do I survive as a loner in school?
I was a loner and an outcast in JC. As you could imagine, I was totally ostracised by my schoolmates/classmates and was greatly affected. My grades went down hill and was finally down with depression. I was then kicked out of school because of my illness.
I do not like to talk much, but I always try my best in conversation and making new friends.
I finished serving NS and am waiting for school (Poly) to start. I am afraid the same thing would happen again. Please help.
Wad's ur vocation in NS?clerk or storeman?
Did anything happened to u in camp.
Got ppl bully u in camp?
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I dont know what to say.....
Try to relax a bit and open up....
It all depends on you internally.....
Try to make small incremental changes.......
For instace maybe you can join 1 or 2 clubs that you like......and talk to 1 or 2 person and befriend them......
Outside from school life....try to do some sports and go out more....
Such things just depend on you mostly........but dont stress yourself.....
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@Fcukpap Yea, I know. I saw the true nature of human in NS. Most people are screwed up and selfish. That is what I think too, to just focus on what I really want. However, some people are telling that I cannot survive in school like that.
@Singapore AFOLNah. Nothing really happened, except being the sia kang warrior.
@TTFU Yea. Project. That is what I am afraid of.
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u can get by being a loner.....there r millions in the world....esp the most successful people....aren't they lonely?
its how u cope...just get your direction and passion straight
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How did you became a loner in JC?
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I don’t know how I survive through school but I manage to. Seek a counselor! It really helps.
I joined a lot of activities and try to get to know people. Slowly move out of my comfort zone.
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Which poly? :) Different poly, different culture.. and which one do you want me to share with you? please advice....
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the greatest loner is one who fights death for world's sake even though he could escape it ........how lonely could yours be?
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sometimes you just gotta make the 1st move
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blast this song on your ipod/ iphone/ iwhatever 24/7
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Treat this as a learning life stages, TS.
Now that u hv completed your ns, I am sure you should hv learnt alot from army life.
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
Hey all. As the title suggests, how do I survive as a loner in school?
I was a loner and an outcast in JC. As you could imagine, I was totally ostracised by my schoolmates/classmates and was greatly affected. My grades went down hill and was finally down with depression. I was then kicked out of school because of my illness.
I do not like to talk much, but I always try my best in conversation and making new friends.
I finished serving NS and am waiting for school (Poly) to start. I am afraid the same thing would happen again. Please help.
JC is for nerd, poly is for pub gal like me, so dun worry, enjoy your time in poly.
Angel, Ngee Ann P
Graduated 2008
Mass Communication
turn
Bartender/pub boss/waiteress/director
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thought u were from repubic polytechnic?
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ya, but i was got kicked out with too colorful hair, close relation with with male lectureres, auntie lectureres get jealous and drinking inside poly swimming club.
Lucky my uncle got influence at NP, so transfer lor..end up now doing monopoly business
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
Hey all. As the title suggests, how do I survive as a loner in school?
I was a loner and an outcast in JC. As you could imagine, I was totally ostracised by my schoolmates/classmates and was greatly affected. My grades went down hill and was finally down with depression. I was then kicked out of school because of my illness.
I do not like to talk much, but I always try my best in conversation and making new friends.
I finished serving NS and am waiting for school (Poly) to start. I am afraid the same thing would happen again. Please help.
Focus on your grades and results. Work hard, and just focus on scoring and doing well.
Once you become one of those at the very top, people will start looking for you for help.
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
Hey all. As the title suggests, how do I survive as a loner in school?
I was a loner and an outcast in JC. As you could imagine, I was totally ostracised by my schoolmates/classmates and was greatly affected. My grades went down hill and was finally down with depression. I was then kicked out of school because of my illness.
I do not like to talk much, but I always try my best in conversation and making new friends.
I finished serving NS and am waiting for school (Poly) to start. I am afraid the same thing would happen again. Please help.
Hi Benedict,You need to do another self-assessment, because you must be doing something wrong to draw friends away from you despite your tries to be friendly.
From my experience outcast students are always the quiet type. Perhaps you need to start talking more. Also, smile when you talk if you dont, it makes the mood of the conversation friendlier very effectively.
Good luck on your journey to make more friends... start right on day one when your poly semester start :)
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first you need to maintain a neat and tidy appearance. so people won't shun you.. you know people la.. always judging books by the covers.
second you can start by offering to help people.. then people will appreciate you for helping.. for those who don't appreciate you - close 2 eyes la don't get angry
third.. read some self improvement books and try to put into practice some of these into practice, one at a time..
fourth.. when you go poly pls don't be a screwed up project mate. pls put in your efforts (also you need to choose the right project mates!) and study super duper hard and smart.. its true what Forbiddensinner say.. Do remember to join the poly events.. have a life.. you speak less nvm.. just speak quality stuff.Good Luck!
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its OK to be a loner, just focus on yr study, u dun need ppl to push u about
learn to say "NO"
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Originally posted by Ice kosong:
its OK to be a loner, just focus on yr study, u dun need ppl to push u about
learn to say "NO"
Assertiveness is very important. -
fellow loner (that's what girls always tell me whereever i go), wait maybe more of a "quiet" type of guy here.
I can go through a single school day without uttering a single word,my weekends are not really spent with friends, facebook/MSN chats tend to last only a few minutes and am the class nerd since primary school. Weekends are spent at changi coastal road cycling
Well thing is, life sometimes reach a lowpoint, what i may usually feel as normal (quiet life) may start to feel extremely depressing. "i have soo little friends" etc. etc. Those phrases fill up your mind. I feel this is a phase we loners all go through. People say you don't have a life. What is a "LIFE"?? Not everyone was born a social butterfly, not everyone will die as one; one would be me.
Image and personality plays the most significant part. Are you sloppy in your grooming, tend to shun interaction with even your classmates?(you are trying so that is a good sign), have a stuck-up attitude (i can get arrogant at times), class weakling in terms of sports?(JC quite competitive physically, luckily i was quite the athelete, from skinny asian boy in primary school to six pack secondary school kid), do you "look" dull and boring?(again always called that by NEW girls(i know somehow girls always upfront with me,even the pretty ones;maybe cause act too feminine even though i'm straight) i meet). Are you grades dreadful?? (used to be in primary school; certain classmates would not talk to me since we were supposedly the second best class in school and i was always failing certain subjectsin my exams, especially chinese (always U grade :[ )
All the forumers have inputed something useful. JOIN A CLUB!!, Get good grades (you managed to get into JC , shows potential), get a hobby(breakdancing, chess, shooting, create a band with friends, even tamiya modelling, anything will do) and be serious about it.
MOST IMPORTANTLY; PERSONALITY
Be approachable, humble, cheerful (no attitude problems). People will tend to notice less the "LONER/QUIET GUY" in you. You'll make friends slowly but surely (just changed schools "international school where social life is everything" and am fitting quite well. Just to note; i was considered quite even in local schools soo its not impossible for you to make friends, (poly people are great!! my bestfriends went there, go meet all the different personalities there, it will be an eye-opener.
This Loner/Quiet Guy/Nerd/Weirdo has thus far;
Befriended the school bitch, the person who always gets bullied in school, the fat guy in school, school athelete, the most beautiful girl in school (all the guys are after her), normal looking girls, able to join the popular group (atas etc.etc.) group in school, the group that nobody wants to join, made friends with geeks/nerds, the ultimate school social butterfly (even the school stud and i get along ok). Got along well in schools where all my friend's parents are flithy rich (a few lambos and rolls here, a few lotus and ferrari there) type of people, in neighbourhood schools (taught me to talk in singlish like a true singaporean and how to swear in hokkien), in "elitist" schools (MOELC for those who know);the neighbourhood school kid who had friends from atas schools. Friends with the students who always fail at exams, the perfect "A" scoring students.
Don't get pressured, i only have a group of friends that i'm close to, of which can be counted within two digits, facebook only 79 friends.... (my parents??........)
Although people of the same group tend to click better though... .(my friends don't understand how i can even talk to the IT guy at school)
Be yourself, be humble, be neutral, BE YOURSELF. You'll get there, no worries mate!!
Enjoy Poly!! (never studied in one though i have to admit, tee-hee, although 90% of my class went there)
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Originally posted by Benedict_89:
@Fcukpap Yea, I know. I saw the true nature of human in NS. Most people are screwed up and selfish. That is what I think too, to just focus on what I really want. However, some people are telling that I cannot survive in school like that.
@Singapore AFOLNah. Nothing really happened, except being the sia kang warrior.
@TTFU Yea. Project. That is what I am afraid of.
U pes C or E?PES C and E ppl do many saikang in BMT.
Ur vocation is?
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Poly needs alot of socialising so prepare urself for it esp projects work.