to sex or not?
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if you say yes, then he will ask you "so can i ask you for sex again"
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Originally posted by angel7030:
if you say yes, then he will ask you "so can i ask you for sex again"
hmm maybe too. i quote his sms 'its a spur of a moment =(..."
but he was asking for it for quite alot of time. usually if its jsut for a moment u ask one time. but he persisted me before. i think he is lying. i just replied no to him...
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Originally posted by mardiana:
hes not asking for patching. he just asked if i accepted his apology? should i say yes and close this matter between me and him?
by saying "yes " to himyou will disappiont a lot of guys in here
by the way how many guys sent you a "hi" message already ???
even i manage to get 10 since the day i join, all see my profile picture and get horny
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Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
by saying "yes " to himyou will disappiont a lot of guys in here
by the way how many guys sent you a "hi" message already ???
even i manage to get 10 since the day i join, all see my profile picture and get horny
lol thats funny. but ive not gotten any of those messages. only 2 but not horny ones. if they send u horny msges then they think ur hot. but too much of those can be frustrating..! btw why isnt everyone putting their own display photo??
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Originally posted by mardiana:
hmm maybe too. i quote his sms 'its a spur of a moment =(..."
but he was asking for it for quite alot of time. usually if its jsut for a moment u ask one time. but he persisted me before. i think he is lying. i just replied no to him...
Cos to a guy, if he do not get the flesh and meat, it is killing him, kind of like after spending so much time buying so much groceries, cannot just throw into the rubbish bin. And when guy get angry and desparate, he can do alot of wonderful mistakes -
Originally posted by mardiana:
lol thats funny. but ive not gotten any of those messages. only 2 but not horny ones. if they send u horny msges then they think ur hot. but too much of those can be frustrating..! btw why isnt everyone putting their own display photo??
you should ask parn and angle7030 or angle3070how many they receive ..............
the most idiot i receive is "hi let have fun together"
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Originally posted by mardiana:
btw why isnt everyone putting their own display photo??
Cos...... I shy......
And ugly too......
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Originally posted by Hwaimeng:
you should ask parn and angle7030 or angle3070how many they receive ..............
the most idiot i receive is "hi let have fun together"
Me, i charge them one hor
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Originally posted by mardiana:
lol thats funny. but ive not gotten any of those messages. only 2 but not horny ones. if they send u horny msges then they think ur hot. but too much of those can be frustrating..! btw why isnt everyone putting their own display photo??
Ok.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Cos to a guy, if he do not get the flesh and meat, it is killing him, kind of like after spending so much time buying so much groceries, cannot just throw into the rubbish bin. And when guy get angry and desparate, he can do alot of wonderful mistakesso true.... for the guys who think girls are like fcukable products, they should just hang themselves...
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Originally posted by Nelstar:
Ok.
too handsome already..
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Originally posted by mardiana:
too handsome already..
Thank you thank you.
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Different ppl got different needs. There are more horny man and woman out there. If they cant have it , then they have to pay for it.
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Originally posted by benqepson:
Different ppl got different needs. There are more horny man and woman out there. If they cant have it , then they have to pay for it.
yeap. as long they dont embarrass themselve when searching for their 'needs'
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ts i tink u better dun reply him even if all he wants is to know whether u accept his apology anot. cos accepting his apology = give him chance for patching then later things cld get troublesome again ma. why not jus ignore?
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Originally posted by [imdestinyz]:
ts i tink u better dun reply him even if all he wants is to know whether u accept his apology anot. cos accepting his apology = give him chance for patching then later things cld get troublesome again ma. why not jus ignore?
ya im aware of it happening all over again. i just said no when he asked for forgiveness. see what he replies..
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Originally posted by mardiana:
ya im aware of it happening all over again. i just said no when he asked for forgiveness. see what he replies..
good to hear that... jus dun give him any chances at all will do =D -
Dump him. Your virginity is a precious gift that you can only give once. Is this pestering boyfriend worth something of that value? You're 21. However much you feel like you're in love, the probability of this relationship lasting is incredibly low. Have sex with him now, some other boyfriend next year, maybe two the next year . . . before you know it, you have a substantial sexual history. And if sex means so little to you by then, it wouldn't be much of a stretch to have a few one night stands just for fun.
Also, there are the risks. Getting pregnant at 21, which is possible even if you use birth control. How would you raise a baby, finish school, get a job, anything? Even if you plan on abortion or adoption, those are very difficult paths to travel. Plus there are STD's. If your boyfriend has had sex, he could have AIDS, gonorrhea, herpes, genital warts - who knows what? If you have sex with him, even with a condom, you have some chance of catching one of those disgusting, embarrassing, life-altering diseases. You could become infertile. You could solve this by making your boyfriend get tested. But most tpeople aren't willing to do that. He'll probably just tell you the girl wasn't promiscuous so it's safe.
Even if we just think about your emotional well-being, if you have any reluctance about having sex, that's a good sign that you'll regret it. Your body wants sex. Your boyfriend wants sex. The only things that can possibly be pressuring you in the opposite direction are your own morality, common sense, and hesitation about committing that much to this relationship at this time. Whichever of those it is, your doubts are worth listening to. Far more than your lustful hormones and self-interested boyfriend. Next time he asks, tell him the answer is "no" and is going to stay "no" for the foreseeable future, and if he has a problem with that then he can find a slut to date.
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Originally posted by CheeseFriesAddict:
Dump him. Your virginity is a precious gift that you can only give once. Is this pestering boyfriend worth something of that value? You're 21. However much you feel like you're in love, the probability of this relationship lasting is incredibly low. Have sex with him now, some other boyfriend next year, maybe two the next year . . . before you know it, you have a substantial sexual history. And if sex means so little to you by then, it wouldn't be much of a stretch to have a few one night stands just for fun.
Also, there are the risks. Getting pregnant at 21, which is possible even if you use birth control. How would you raise a baby, finish school, get a job, anything? Even if you plan on abortion or adoption, those are very difficult paths to travel. Plus there are STD's. If your boyfriend has had sex, he could have AIDS, gonorrhea, herpes, genital warts - who knows what? If you have sex with him, even with a condom, you have some chance of catching one of those disgusting, embarrassing, life-altering diseases. You could become infertile. You could solve this by making your boyfriend get tested. But most tpeople aren't willing to do that. He'll probably just tell you the girl wasn't promiscuous so it's safe.
Even if we just think about your emotional well-being, if you have any reluctance about having sex, that's a good sign that you'll regret it. Your body wants sex. Your boyfriend wants sex. The only things that can possibly be pressuring you in the opposite direction are your own morality, common sense, and hesitation about committing that much to this relationship at this time. Whichever of those it is, your doubts are worth listening to. Far more than your lustful hormones and self-interested boyfriend. Next time he asks, tell him the answer is "no" and is going to stay "no" for the foreseeable future, and if he has a problem with that then he can find a slut to date.
Good luck and stand strong.ya i understand ur points. i even asked him to have his blood tested for any disease and he told me off by saying im not a trust-worthy person. its not like...'i dont want to have sex with u' issue, i just wanted a protected one and it seems so much to ask from him. now he is apologising over the whole incident. i feel like i wasted my time on him. for freaking 6 months +... now this bullsh*t. he didnt even ask for a patch-up even tho its clearly his fault! such an ego... if i still want him, i can be the most stupid person in the world. now i know where i stand liao.
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Originally posted by mardiana:
ya i understand ur points. i even asked him to have his blood tested for any disease and he told me off by saying im not a trust-worthy person. its not like...'i dont want to have sex with u' issue, i just wanted a protected one and it seems so much to ask from him. now he is apologising over the whole incident. i feel like i wasted my time on him. for freaking 6 months +... now this bullsh*t. he didnt even ask for a patch-up even tho its clearly his fault! such an ego... if i still want him, i can be the most stupid person in the world. now i know where i stand liao.
A truely bf wlll never ask for sex cum realationship.Bf will truely treasure the realationship and respect you.
Good that you make a right decision.
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Originally posted by likeyou:
A truely bf wlll never ask for sex cum realationship.Bf will truely treasure the realationship and respect you.
Good that you make a right decision.
yea sex is just a secondary thing and both partners must agree and prepare to face any consequences. and not bargain protected sex for an unprotected one.
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I believe that you also want to have sex with him coz u really really love him. Its the female hormones inside you. Maybe from this incident you are able to be smart in your future relationship. Man and woman needs each other unless he is gay or she a lesbian.
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I believe that you also want to have sex with him coz u really really love him. Its the female hormones inside you. Maybe from this incident you are able to be smart in your future relationship. Man and woman needs each other unless he is gay or she a lesbian.
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Originally posted by likeyou:
A truely bf wlll never ask for sex cum realationship.Bf will truely treasure the realationship and respect you.
Good that you make a right decision.
he is totally right TS. if that guy is true to you. He still can ask u for sex but he'll definitely respect ur wishes in that aspect and u wont be having this protected sex vs unprotected sex issue ma. That kinda akin to not respecting the r/s itself. -
Originally posted by mardiana:
ya i understand ur points. i even asked him to have his blood tested for any disease and he told me off by saying im not a trust-worthy person. its not like...'i dont want to have sex with u' issue, i just wanted a protected one and it seems so much to ask from him. now he is apologising over the whole incident. i feel like i wasted my time on him. for freaking 6 months +... now this bullsh*t. he didnt even ask for a patch-up even tho its clearly his fault! such an ego... if i still want him, i can be the most stupid person in the world. now i know where i stand liao.
Must say, good and safe choice you made regarding that relationship, despite having to contain your own raging hormones......
And if you're gonna have sex next time, apart from having blood tests and that bit of rubber, you can also consider having 'the Pill' to go along with... if you can get those. So long as it doesn't give you side effects it's pretty much recommended as yet another layer of protection... and I heard it's pretty affordable. And of course, you can always try get the guy to foot this bill... if he loves you enough.
