what is her problem ?
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i just want my mum to leave me alone. she is my maid or what ? when i come home, she comes out of her room purposely to see me. she will keep asking me if i eat or not. if not, she will run into the kitchen and cook. when i lock myself in my room, and come out to go to toilet, she will peep at me from her room. try all means and way to talk to me when i already tell her to PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE. when the children don't talk to her, she will start getting sick and seek attention.
what the hell is her problem ?
i don't want her doing all these things for me. i don't want her to serve me. i don't want her to try so hard. she is my mum, not my maid. she is a free human, not a slave to her children and family.
i just want her to live her own life, have her own life. and not be so attached to us. stop controlling. stop influencing. let me live my own life. stop trying so hard.
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u cant help if she wants to be concerned.
she wun be happy if she cant do it to the children.she is afterall, mum.
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take a good look at yourself... hope u realise the problem is with you. if not, i feel sorry for you.
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Originally posted by tripsky:
take a good look at yourself... hope u realise the problem is with you. if not, i feel sorry for you.
hmmm why do you say this ? you know me ?
i have had enough of "taking good look at yourself" talk and feeling sorry about other people's behaviour.
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Nothing wrong with her.
Just let her do what she want to do.
You are developing a bad habit.
She ask you, your temper rises. That is the habit you formed.
Next time she ask you have you eaten, you want to eat, just reply no and say you are not hungry, and say thank you! Form a good habit.
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You need to stop shutting her out the way you're doing now...
She needs to learn that her kid is old enough... (are you?)
You two need a discussion.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
i just want my mum to leave me alone. she is my maid or what ? when i come home, she comes out of her room purposely to see me. she will keep asking me if i eat or not. if not, she will run into the kitchen and cook. when i lock myself in my room, and come out to go to toilet, she will peep at me from her room. try all means and way to talk to me when i already tell her to PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE. when the children don't talk to her, she will start getting sick and seek attention.
what the hell is her problem ?
i don't want her doing all these things for me. i don't want her to serve me. i don't want her to try so hard. she is my mum, not my maid. she is a free human, not a slave to her children and family.
i just want her to live her own life, have her own life. and not be so attached to us. stop controlling. stop influencing. let me live my own life. stop trying so hard.
What you need to do is to have a conversation with her and find out for yourself.. we dont know your family so we can only make guesses.....
Let her know you appreciate her kindness but its a little over the line.
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Mmm.. sounds familiar... haha
I have talked with a senior colleague before on this and he told me that his mum do this to them because his mum is a housewife and serve her dad when they are young and did all the housework alone. Now with her husband pass away, sons and kids all married or moved away, they feel very lonely and useless. She thinks that she can feel more useful by feeding their child, caring for them, serve them even tot they dont need it.
You can say they can get a life themselves. Yes, perhaps, if they are healthy enough or they have accompany. Sometimes it just not as easy as you think to mix around when you are old. You might have illness that prevent u from moving around normally and the life outside is much much different. She might not be ready, or even think about making new friends by the time she is now...She might be sacred especially when their loves one is leaving one by one.
The above might not apply to your case now, but think about it. It makes me pity for those housewife when i heard it. Hope u treasure your mum and bear with her sometimes. Cheers :)
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...bear with her sometimes?
...bear with her for the time she has left.
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Originally posted by mancha:
...bear with her sometimes?
...bear with her for the time she has left.
To be frank, youngster will never understand. Even me, sometime i do show some sort of annoyance. But sometimes i will re think about what I have done and cool down. Maybe it sounds weird to u, but... haha :) -
a spoil brat post
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In fact, she is living her own life happily. What you ought to understand and appreciate is to be comfortable with this manner of freedom of care & love expression.
May you always know peace, love, light and laughter :)
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
i just want my mum to leave me alone. she is my maid or what ? when i come home, she comes out of her room purposely to see me. she will keep asking me if i eat or not. if not, she will run into the kitchen and cook. when i lock myself in my room, and come out to go to toilet, she will peep at me from her room. try all means and way to talk to me when i already tell her to PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE. when the children don't talk to her, she will start getting sick and seek attention.
what the hell is her problem ?
i don't want her doing all these things for me. i don't want her to serve me. i don't want her to try so hard. she is my mum, not my maid. she is a free human, not a slave to her children and family.
i just want her to live her own life, have her own life. and not be so attached to us. stop controlling. stop influencing. let me live my own life. stop trying so hard.
Where is your father ?
The only problem is, she is very lonely. No love from her husband, no love from her own child.
Show her a little bit of love occasionally, so she don't have to work so hard to earn some love from you.
Every mother is afraid of losing the love of her own children.. instead of giving her reassurance through your action... you are showing your disgust .
Once a while bring her out for lunch or dinner. Give her a little update when you can.... She will ease up eventually.
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ahtiong
please go back china
we dont need more of you people here
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
i just want my mum to leave me alone. she is my maid or what ? when i come home, she comes out of her room purposely to see me. she will keep asking me if i eat or not. if not, she will run into the kitchen and cook. when i lock myself in my room, and come out to go to toilet, she will peep at me from her room. try all means and way to talk to me when i already tell her to PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE. when the children don't talk to her, she will start getting sick and seek attention.
what the hell is her problem ?
i don't want her doing all these things for me. i don't want her to serve me. i don't want her to try so hard. she is my mum, not my maid. she is a free human, not a slave to her children and family.
i just want her to live her own life, have her own life. and not be so attached to us. stop controlling. stop influencing. let me live my own life. stop trying so hard.
come on dude, your mum is showing you concern the way she thinks she can love you. You should consider yourself fortunate, so many other modern sg mothers don't give a damn.
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Originally posted by ahtiong:
i just want my mum to leave me alone. she is my maid or what ? when i come home, she comes out of her room purposely to see me. she will keep asking me if i eat or not. if not, she will run into the kitchen and cook. when i lock myself in my room, and come out to go to toilet, she will peep at me from her room. try all means and way to talk to me when i already tell her to PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE. when the children don't talk to her, she will start getting sick and seek attention.
what the hell is her problem ?
i don't want her doing all these things for me. i don't want her to serve me. i don't want her to try so hard. she is my mum, not my maid. she is a free human, not a slave to her children and family.
i just want her to live her own life, have her own life. and not be so attached to us. stop controlling. stop influencing. let me live my own life. stop trying so hard.
if 1 day she is gone.u will be regretted for not spending more time with her.
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Wait until u 23 la, then u can go buy yer own house.
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ts, treasure yr mum. Count yrself lucky that someone still love and cares for you. Pple want to hv mum loves and care also dont have. Yet you want to throw this treasure away. Dont regret if one day yr mum is not around anymore.
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You all need to understand the TS's suffering also lah... guys being guys, they don't like being nagged at or under "police" monitoring 24/7...
My advice is very simple, take a chance to talk to your mum to say that what she's doing is not something you like. Because it invades your privacy and gives you the feeling that she cannot trust you. Ask for her to be understanding because what she is doing is making your life miserable as you cherish privacy alot.
Because if you don't talk to her, and nobody else would, the problem will persist, so i think the best you talk to her directly maybe she think differently. Maybe she think that her actions is to make you feel protected and happy but in this case, your thinking may be different from what she perceived.
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tell her you're old enough and independent also lah, if you're hungry you know where to get the food... you're no longer a kid... i think your mum's impression that you forever a kid.
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She's just worry of you and concern about you.In every parent's heart, their kids will always remain as a small child... ya, just sit down and have a proper talk with your mom probably during dinner time or something :)
Cheer up a little dear!
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Everybody do want to have some freedom...back to the basic...how old is ts?
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Similar to what happened to me. Firstly, you have to move away the mindset of being control and keep your temper cool at all time, afterall she is your Mum. Secondly, you have to have a little bit of charge to show. Like taking the initiative to buy foods home to please your parent. Slowing you would understand the bond of family values.
Even better, extend that to your friends and this may make a better place on Earth.