Is this dating violence?
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I happened to get into a sexual relationship with a guy I know. He says that he likes me, and he has liked me for a while. Over time, as we spent more time together, I began to grow feelings for him. There was a time when he asked me for pictures of me in my underwear during the period that I liked him a lot. So I gave it to him (without any facial features). After that, he started asking for a video. At that point, my feelings for him were very strong, so I also gave that to him. I confessed and told him that I liked him, and started pushing for a relationship with him.
But he started asking for threesomes with my friends, and to wants me to have sex with strangers. When I refused to, he said that he would trade my pics and video to others for sex. When I said I wouldn't ask for threesomes with my friends, he said that he would just get them anyway, no matter what. Sometimes he also said that he would rape me, or my friends, or to get someone else to rape me.
During this period of time, I also discovered that I can't hold a conversation with him. Many things that he likes to talk about is sex. Each conversation that I try to start would eventually turn to sex, even though I try to hold it back. Every conversation that he starts would be with "What colour is your underwear"/ "What colour is your inside". And he slept with my friend, and treated her better than he treated me, doing things for her that he never did for me.
When I tried to end this whole thing, he will say that I can't end it with him, because he will destroy me if I do. Or destroy my friends.
I discovered that he has no intentions of committing to a relationship, even though he knew that I liked him. However, throughout this whole time, he has never once told me clearly that he doesn't want to get into a relationship. I felt that he was just stringing me along.
Is this considered dating violence? What should I do? I still don't want to hurt him or anyone else.
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YES.
Now that you know it's sexual harassment/intimidation/blackmail, can you please go and seek help from the relevant authorities?
If you're still schooling you can look for the school counsellor, a teacher or whoever. Just MAKE SURE that someone can help you. If you're a working adult, then CALL THE POLICE. Just tell them that you're being blackmailed + the truth.
Don't wait anymore.
PS: Don't warn him or anything, just inform the authorities. Don't let this be something you'll regret for life.
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Imagine if he is your hubby. now isnt that a scary thought? get someone to whack him or threaten him back.
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the guy got skills leh. too bad he resorting to use those pictures and videos to blackmail.
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erm, kindly go lodge a police report asap..
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to deal with this type of guy, really need to get someone to whack and threaten him.
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wah.....better wake up la. He's not interested in you at all......maybe more like using your body to fulfill his fantasies. It's very very obvious.......pls.
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It's just a threat.
Threaten him back : if you dare to threaten me one more time, I go to police tomorrow.
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Originally posted by Veggie Bao:
It's just a threat.
Threaten him back : if you dare to threaten me one more time, I go to police tomorrow.
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If he not scared and still go post the vids and pics up online how?
Don't underestimate ppl like him, you nv know wat they might do in revenge.
Better be safe than sorry
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But anyways there is no face in the pics, right ?
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Originally posted by Veggie Bao:
But anyways there is no face in the pics, right ?
gotch video la bao bao
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either you call Police now, or call 666
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Originally posted by Veggie Bao:
But anyways there is no face in the pics, right ?
got birthmarks mah -
"I still don't want to hurt him or anyone else."
SERIOUSLY?!?!
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You already fallen into his trip of sexual fantasy.
Sad that you gave him video and pictures. You should know that even you like someones, you should not gave such thing to a person.
Talk to your parents and report to the police.
That is the only way to save yourself.
I am afraid that guy might spread yr video or picture over the net. Then you are done.
Act now, act immediately. Dont wait.
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aiyo call ur ah bengs fans go threaten him
then ask them to take a video of him naked
then u blackmail him
but plz copy alot of it
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A grave mistake.
For those girls out there who loves his bf, PLSE DONT DO THIS. STUPID ACT. DONT SELL YOUR BODY. LOVE YOUR BODY MORE THAN YOUR BF.
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It is not a grave mistake, it just lesson nos 1
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Originally posted by angel7030:
It is not a grave mistake, it just lesson nos 1t
TS is too navie. Sending underwear photos and videos of herself is a grave mistakes.That guy is simply using her as a sex toy.
I strongly advise her to report to police. She has a strong case against her.
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This happens all the time, next will be nake picture, follow by working as a pros for her bf, and so on...end up selling illegal cigarette..very common.
So this is lesson nos 1, if she failed, she will go to lesson 2 and repeat all over again, she will only pass and graduate when she get enlighted
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If TS still belive the guy love her.
The guy will surely ask for more.
More unthinkable thing.
Maybe next time asking ts to have sex in the public area or work as a pros to guy money.
WAKE UP ts, REPORT TO POLICE since you have his phone number and address.
Bring you brother or friend (those ah beng type) to his house and talk to his parent.
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No need, call Angel's 666, can come to my place, I get all those tattoed bouncers up, my community here very co operative, we got
Aunties group to catch unfaithful husband
Big strong bouncers to tackle those young stupid boys
and my 666 gang to protect teenagers from getting bullied and mistreated
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Angel should pm ts.
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TS see such replies by you people also run liao, still dare to PM meh??
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TS, dont hid, if you did not settle this, I am afriad one day, that gu.y will call you to have more sexual favour from you. You never know what he wants from you, maybe asking you to have sex with his pet dog and film it?
Come on, report to police now. Talk to your parents immediately. Dont worry, your parent will not scold you. Save yourself now,, or else it will be too late if your video or pic is in the net.