confuse over her sudden changes
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Hi everyone
i am confuse over a woman. This is how it goes, initially for the first 2 months, she will sent me sms or chat online with me every single day.
Till we finally met, i swear i did not gave her a bad impression during our first meet up. Note:before that we have already see each other on the photo.
But after our first meetup, i am beginning to realize that our friendship is beginning to distance away, such as she told me her exam is coming.
Fine, I am totally cool about it, and even help edit her assignment and concern over exam. Worst at one time, i was asking whether i can be of any help to her, and she says sarcastic remark on me saying can i take her exam on behalf of her?
I was totally piss off, and told her off and she apologize saying shes stressing over her exam. Ok cool.
However after her exam, i tried to initiate talks with her like the good old times, but it didnt turn out the way that i expected, and is even worst she started to not reply to me a few times.
I was thinking to myself, is she taking me for granted?
I tried clarifying with her and ended up she said when she in the mood to talk then she will talk, but naturally i do not like her answer as i told her how would i know whether she is in a good or bad mood, i am not a mind reader.
And she said im sensitive? i told her im not sensitive and why dont she put herself into my shoes and she how she feels. Crap.
Lastly i told her i aint gonna initiate talks with her anymore, until shes in a "good" mood to talk, then we talk, and all her responses throughout are Fine..and Sorry, which i dont like to hear that, cuz that is cheap word.
but i already deleted her contacts cuz i really feel is a waste of time.
Pls kindly advise, i really dont know whats going on.Thank You.
Regards
Strife -
you know what it means when it's more trouble than it's worth?
if things keep going on like this, and both of you really do get together, would it be worth the trouble?
maybe it's time to cut your losses?
maybe she's not that into you?
maybe it's not the time for both of you to get into any relationships as it would seem that both are not mature enough yet.. seriously...
good luck if the both of you are still studying... time to concentrate on that first...
what's going on.. sometimes there is no reason.. we have to accept that
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Yea i know the meaning of more trouble than it's worth
if things keep going on like this, and both of you really do get together, would it be worth the trouble?
is a one sided traffic right now, is not about worth the trouble
maybe it's time to cut your losses?
yes, i am doing so from today onwards
maybe she's not that into you?
IDK, she just text or msn me occasionally even though i no longer initiate talks with her for past 3 weeks.
maybe it's not the time for both of you to get into any relationships as it would seem that both are not mature enough yet.. seriously...
perhaps, not ready yet....
good luck if the both of you are still studying... time to concentrate on that first...
both working but shes taking part time degree
what's going on.. sometimes there is no reason.. we have to accept that
no reason? that suck lol
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I wonder you reply to a bear.
For us gal, especially in our teens, our temperment can fluctuate up and down like a cycle within second. And we can be nasty when our period arrive, where hormone change for the first few times can totally irritate us, then suddenly, we find we are going out or chatting with the wrong guy, with such uncertainties in our teen, we tends not to get involve in relationship other than some free tuition which is expensive.
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Originally posted by ISSA:
but i already deleted her contacts cuz i really feel is a waste of time.
you've already deleted her contacts, and there you are thinking about all this at 3+ in the morning. lol think the answer is pretty much staring at you in the face. forget her. AND get more sleep or something. hahaha
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still got old sms and MMS not yet delete mah, some phone got rubbish bin to keep deleted stuff until really confirm, so he can go back and call again...
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Originally posted by angel7030:
still got old sms and MMS not yet delete mah, some phone got rubbish bin to keep deleted stuff until really confirm, so he can go back and call again...
ya la but she's like hot and cold towards him now, can't expect him to keep hanging around right? not being fair to him also. lol
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watch out
there are alot of of psycho bitches in singapore
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Look just be friends ok.
I see both of you cmi as an item. Both are easily offended by casual remarks. This means a rocky relationship, if one is formed.
Remark > Offended > Resentment > Hate, cmi lah.
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hihi guys and gals
Thank you for your advise.
I appreciate it, yea i have move on, is just that i post at 3am cuz i tried and almost 4got about her after 3 weeks of cold war, and she suddenly appear sms me again.
i have already deleted her mobile number and msn is just that i recognize the sms and msn that she sent to me through the way she speak.
To mancha: is not casual remarks leh, lol. i believe is characters Bu He (in chinese).
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Originally posted by killtheink:
ya la but she's like hot and cold towards him now, can't expect him to keep hanging around right? not being fair to him also. lol
but then most guy are like wood, stupid and still do not get the gee of it, end up still hanging there like a stupid lamppost -
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at least i met more gals and can get along well with some of them, and been chatting heartily ^_^.
Killtheink i agree with you, is useless to hang around base on the hot and cold situation, is unfair for me also as i cant because of her give up the entire forest, at least i move on, i am happy and have more options available also hehe.
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finally, the wood moved
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-_- cuz i have some feelings for her in the first place, and didnt even look for other gals just to know her better. if i dont have feeling for the gal i will just say next without hestitation.
not stupid or wood fyi
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ok, next please,..nos 108
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Originally posted by angel7030:
but then most guy are like wood, stupid and still do not get the gee of it, end up still hanging there like a stupid lamppost
guys are stupid when comes to relationship,thats we always gt con by china(60%) msian (30%) and sg (10%)girls.lucky i am poor and they don wanna con me
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Originally posted by 韩飞官:
guys are stupid when comes to relationship,thats we always gt con by china(60%) msian (30%) and sg (10%)girls.lucky i am poor and they don wanna con me
frankly, sg guys are also weak in fashion and sex, they hv the least sex per week i guess... -
angel7030or i rather name u as lamer7030?, is your prejudices , think you aint smart yourself stereotyping and saying other people weak and stupid and guessing without any hard facts or evidence.haiz not gonna argue with you, is a simply waste of time. :)
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relax lah, me joke only...haiz, you just arrive ar?
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well ISSA or Strife, u know. woman are a kind of heavenly made creatures that have sudden change in feeling / reactions / whatever.
so your case is. u just GOT THE SHIT.!
Strife u like a lady and u think she will like u and she didn't.. and u come to aunt agony and whine about it.
okie it's fine to whine or cry or whatever. but SHE NEED NOT GIVE U ANY FARK REASON to DUMP u / REJECT u
so go home cry your mama REJECTS!
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Originally posted by killtheink:
ya la but she's like hot and cold towards him now, can't expect him to keep hanging around right? not being fair to him also. lol
Actually she is just cold towards him now what. Where got hot and cold?
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be it you like it or not.
humans generally make their judgement based on the 1st impression on the potential of them as sexual/relationship partner.
u don't fit the bill... mostly.
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look for a better tree in the forest lah. perhaps not better, but at least one that suits you more lah.
imagine if the two of you managed to commit into a relationship, ask yourself, is she someone you could be with, for the next 10, 20 years?
can you stand her neurotism? if you can, go for it. if you can't, just abort and save yourself alot of trouble.
its very stressful on your mental health when you have to fight a cold war every few weeks, without even understanding why she started the cold war.
Its less painful to not jump into the relationship at the start, then to pull out of a soured relationship.
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Originally posted by ISSA:
angel7030or i rather name u as lamer7030?, is your prejudices , think you aint smart yourself stereotyping and saying other people weak and stupid and guessing without any hard facts or evidence.haiz not gonna argue with you, is a simply waste of time. :)
You already wasted 5 minutes posting that.
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actually I don't quite understand why is there a need to "cut losses" or decide on whether to give up or not give up the girl???
i mean... you are not yet attached, she is not yet attached... as long as that is the case, you can always go ahead to go after her ... AND at the same time, still have the rights to go after the rest of the 3 billion girls on this planet without feeling guilty that you are cheating or two-timing or anything..
so i say.. go on to test test water in your relationship with her.. but dont have to invest all your time to her alone