I have a confession to make.
I literally destroyed half of my life, in fact, more than that due to a porn addiction. I threw away friendships, scared away most of my lady friends, didn't have much group outing experiences, emo-ed most of the time, skipped on work duties, late for important things, and much, much more.
Porn destroyed my morals and the true concept of reality. When I finally got my first girlfriend, I thought I could move on with the power of love. But I had such an over-idealistic thought of relying on her that whenever she did not give me her time I'd drop back into porn. I couldn't confide in guyfriends because if they shared it out with those in my clique, i'm a gonner. I couldn't confide in my galfriends because they would think I'm digusting. I tried sharing it with my family, and it was bad, internal gossip and my female cousins staying away from me was the conclusion. I could not rely on anyone.
I realize today, right now, that, IF I DON'T RELY ON MYSELF TO GET OUT OF THIS SHIT HOLE, I WILL NEVER EVER GET OUT OF THIS PORN ADDICTION.
From now till June, when I move on to another step of my life, I will update this thread on my progess.
I promise myself, that each day I managed to avoid watching porn, I will reward myself with a delicious drink, like a dark mocha ice blended at Starbucks, or Black Forest @ Coffee Bean, or even a strong brew @ TCC. Yes, I'm going to turn into a caffeine addict, BUT, it's still a much better addiction than PORN, which will continually ruin my life if I CONTINUE ON THIS WAY.
I need your support. I need your encouragement. I need your motivation. Please. Help me get through this phase of life with your kind words. Thanks.
Sincerely,
Ockz
ok. good for u.
as a former psychology student, my advice is dun take it so hard on yourself, bet you are not the only one addicted, that should calm you now. There is a term call reverse addiction whereby one tried so hard and fast to get rid of his/her addiction and in reverse he/she gets more deep into the addiction. And that can be more worse.
My suggestion is take it easy, first and foremost, you need some activity to divert your habit or addiction, like former drug addicts, they play street soccers, particpant in charity movement, be a volunteer in community work and so on, it divert their former bad habit and yet bring them back to the society, making themselve from being a lousy person to a person the world needed.
what's wrong with porn?
u PCC alot until u dried out or what?
you locked yourself in your room and watched the porn u downloaded from the internet and then PCC everyday / night / time u got and didn't bother to study and go out with friends correct?
that's very normal for alot of people. those geeks.. yeah, their hobbies is to share internet fun stuff and one part is porn.
did u pay for the porn? are those all free porns? life - chat. paid website/ paid x movie website and more.. but those webby are alot and they update frequently so you can never win the progress of having all.
if u didn't go into the extends of paying for the porn then u r still good.
btw how old are u now? alot of army boys only hobbies after serving a week in the camp is to go home PCC.
Uncle, what is PCC?
play chinese chess.
Oh, watch porn and play chinese chess?? wu siao bo?
Go to a friend whom you trust.
Ask him to install a parental control software on your PC, and ask him to set the password and hold on to it without telling you.
There are a few free parental control software available, like K9 Parental Control or something like that. You can find them on download.com.
That way, even if you feel tempted to watch porn, your own computer will stop you.
then maybe he will hack it, learn a new hacking skill by hacking his own computer.
and more so, addict is addict, you close this, he go buy another set, so cheap
Originally posted by Ockz:I have a confession to make.
I literally destroyed half of my life, in fact, more than that due to a porn addiction. I threw away friendships, scared away most of my lady friends, didn't have much group outing experiences, emo-ed most of the time, skipped on work duties, late for important things, and much, much more.
Porn destroyed my morals and the true concept of reality. When I finally got my first girlfriend, I thought I could move on with the power of love. But I had such an over-idealistic thought of relying on her that whenever she did not give me her time I'd drop back into porn. I couldn't confide in guyfriends because if they shared it out with those in my clique, i'm a gonner. I couldn't confide in my galfriends because they would think I'm digusting. I tried sharing it with my family, and it was bad, internal gossip and my female cousins staying away from me was the conclusion. I could not rely on anyone.
I realize today, right now, that, IF I DON'T RELY ON MYSELF TO GET OUT OF THIS SHIT HOLE, I WILL NEVER EVER GET OUT OF THIS PORN ADDICTION.
From now till June, when I move on to another step of my life, I will update this thread on my progess.
I promise myself, that each day I managed to avoid watching porn, I will reward myself with a delicious drink, like a dark mocha ice blended at Starbucks, or Black Forest @ Coffee Bean, or even a strong brew @ TCC. Yes, I'm going to turn into a caffeine addict, BUT, it's still a much better addiction than PORN, which will continually ruin my life if I CONTINUE ON THIS WAY.
I need your support. I need your encouragement. I need your motivation. Please. Help me get through this phase of life with your kind words. Thanks.
Sincerely,
Ockz
Forum is not place for u to look for support (afterward u kena flame by that MissLittleBonker maniac). Go seek counselling or see psychiatrist, they got medicine to stop yer porn addiction.
Why so ashame? At least u normal wat? Wat guys don't get excited when see porn? Come on, gals will be happy to know u r sexually active guy. I know one guy at school not interested in gals, we show him playboy magazine, he oso not excited. Gals strip naked in front of him, he only hug them n say tat they r friends. We all graduated and neva see each other. One day, I see him walking by the alley, holding hand wif another guy. Haiz, better watching porn than turn gay gay.
Of cuz don'[t confine wif yer gal friends la. Surely don't confine wif yer family. Like I said, go seek private counselling, see a doctor.
Originally posted by angel7030:Uncle, what is PCC?
Tat is why taiwanese gals too innocent. I ask u to try Singaporean guys but u don't want. After u try, then u will know all the sex vocab.
Originally posted by Julian.khor:Forum is not place for u to look for support (afterward u kena flame by that MissLittleBonker maniac). Go seek counselling or see psychiatrist, they got medicine to stop yer porn addiction.
Why so ashame? At least u normal wat? Wat guys don't get excited when see porn? Come on, gals will be happy to know u r sexually active guy. I know one guy at school not interested in gals, we show him playboy magazine, he oso not excited. Gals strip naked in front of him, he only hug them n say tat they r friends. We all graduated and neva see each other. One day, I see him walking by the alley, holding hand wif another guy. Haiz, better watching porn than turn gay gay.
Of cuz don'[t confine wif yer gal friends la. Surely don't confine wif yer family. Like I said, go seek private counselling, see a doctor.
ya, instead of watching porn, try to eat popcorn more often once you get the urge, that may help. But you may end up getting addict in eating popcorn, but at least better than porn com
Originally posted by angel7030:ya, instead of watching porn, try to eat popcorn more often once you get the urge, that may help. But you may end up getting addict in eating popcorn, but at least better than porn com
I prefer porn over taiwanese porn. Yer kind of porn not exciting wan, see no touch, touch no see. Dunno wat kind of taiwanese porn is that???? No wonder Taiwan birth rates r falling lah.
singapore also falling mah, guys prefer to watch porn, gals prefer to make up thick thick and behave so stuck up, so end up, not to mention birthrate, even marriage rate also fall like rain
Originally posted by Ockz:I have a confession to make.
I literally destroyed half of my life, in fact, more than that due to a porn addiction. I threw away friendships, scared away most of my lady friends, didn't have much group outing experiences, emo-ed most of the time, skipped on work duties, late for important things, and much, much more.
Porn destroyed my morals and the true concept of reality. When I finally got my first girlfriend, I thought I could move on with the power of love. But I had such an over-idealistic thought of relying on her that whenever she did not give me her time I'd drop back into porn. I couldn't confide in guyfriends because if they shared it out with those in my clique, i'm a gonner. I couldn't confide in my galfriends because they would think I'm digusting. I tried sharing it with my family, and it was bad, internal gossip and my female cousins staying away from me was the conclusion. I could not rely on anyone.
I realize today, right now, that, IF I DON'T RELY ON MYSELF TO GET OUT OF THIS SHIT HOLE, I WILL NEVER EVER GET OUT OF THIS PORN ADDICTION.
From now till June, when I move on to another step of my life, I will update this thread on my progess.
I promise myself, that each day I managed to avoid watching porn, I will reward myself with a delicious drink, like a dark mocha ice blended at Starbucks, or Black Forest @ Coffee Bean, or even a strong brew @ TCC. Yes, I'm going to turn into a caffeine addict, BUT, it's still a much better addiction than PORN, which will continually ruin my life if I CONTINUE ON THIS WAY.
I need your support. I need your encouragement. I need your motivation. Please. Help me get through this phase of life with your kind words. Thanks.
Sincerely,
Ockz
so any good free porn websites to recommend ?
need recommend one meh?? just open up your pop up blocker will do
Hmmm...
It's just that, I want to move on to the next phase in life. I've been stuck in this phase for too long a period of time for me to be comfortable in.
I want to spend more time on my hobbies and taking care of those around me instead of burning my time away in front of the com and wasting my health, time, friendships.
I woke up and realize, there's a much bigger world out there than watching porn and PCC-ing. After all, it's a video, it's not real, the only thing that excites you is your own brain stimulating the hormones as if its real.
Truth is, in reality, it might be harder to get an orgasm, but the rewards, the experience of getting it, the memories you actually personally have, will last with you forever, instead of a porno video.
In the short term, I experience the high-ness from porn, but in the long run, I felt nothing but emptiness.
From now on, if I am going to experience an orgasm, it'll be from real sex and all those kinky stuffs you watch on porn. It'll be an actual experience instead of your own mind stimulating your hormones while watching porn.
I rather regret the things I do than regret the things I've never done.
Okay, time for a great sip of coffee!
CAFFEINE OVER PORN! CAFFEINE OVER PORN! GO GO GO!
ya, go go go...later drink coffee, go to porn...go go go ...
trying to look up what is PCC at wiki, there said nothing except some police centre counselll../.....and so on
Originally posted by angel7030:need recommend one meh?? just open up your pop up blocker will do
quality sites hard to find mah.....................
Sigh.
I give reasonable advice on controlling your access to online porn, and all you want to do is to trade one addiction for another.
Oh well. Suit yourself.
buit people are always shifting from one addiction to another.....................
I'm a coffee person waiting for NS too~ If you have time for lunch or dinner, send me a PM. I need a lunch/kopi buddy.. I don't eat expensive food.. Kopitiam or Koufu can le...
I can't rely on my gf, I am practically single. my gf , "gf" is just a title and nothing more.
Originally posted by fudgester:Sigh.
I give reasonable advice on controlling your access to online porn, and all you want to do is to trade one addiction for another.
Oh well. Suit yourself.
sounds like Keith Richards who stopped being a junkie by becoming an alcoholic
Ts has it occured to you that drinking coffee might just keep you awake all night and being bored you turn to porn anyway?