Was chatting with a friend the other day....i must say...i start to realize that as we grow older...we become more and more selfish...Evertyhing starts to be more like about our ownself only....i have always wonder why this is so?.....
when u young, u are like a piece of blank paper
so innocent, everything oso dunno
so u wun be thinking so much
but as u are older, u learn and know more things, experience more things, it's natural to think more.
the concept of survival is stronger thus ppl become more defensive
you think of yourself lor, that is why you become selfish.
you should be selfless instead of being selfish ie you think of others rather than yourself.
Originally posted by maxsee:Was chatting with a friend the other day....i must say...i start to realize that as we grow older...we become more and more selfish...Evertyhing starts to be more like about our ownself only....i have always wonder why this is so?.....
You are right, i did some old uncles and aunties at my outside coffee shop during our empty talk break with eggs, coffee and BBQ roti, they said, as we grow older, there isn't much time left in this world, so if you still remain unselfish and do not take care of yourself, then you got nothing left when you get older. This is a typical mentality of human nature, as when the house get smaller, people start to chomp for rooms.
they become more tactical in life and know their rights, they tends to be more self concerned then to be thoughful / team play.
no gain = don't bother
other suffered but own self no pain/loss = don't bother
do wrong will find people for blame
when people grow older their experience in work / life level up and thus they become more self aware.
you will realise that $$$ rules everything and $$$ can only be obtained through hardwork / pain /time -spend... so they look like they become more selfish, but the facts is the younger are more naive, more blur thus when they suffered something they remembered and when they are older, they got lots of shit of life and become more self aware thus look like selfish.
the old uncles told me, as they age, their knowledge and experience become wisdom, but some of them take advantage of their wisdom to con xiao mei mei like me for their own use, so that is selfish, becareful hor.
i think so....
I believe in 真愛, it's just that I haven't find it....
so now.. we just talk about value of $$$.. nothing else liao.. Selfish is common.. selfless is hard to find...
Don't you know that "When a thing is rare, it becomes precious."? As you grow older and older, your life is becoming shorter and shorter so that you cherish yourself more and more.
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Originally posted by Gloria06:Don't you know that "When a thing is rare, it becomes precious."? As you grow older and older, your life is becoming shorter and shorter so that you cherish yourself more and more.
lol older = dying soon. u dying soon still wan that thing for what LOL! might as well pass it to next generation and let them be happy. this will create a happy memory when u die. Isnt that good :)
and to ts, wan to find the nice people u looking for, can go temple see monks. some monks arent even real monks to begin with. the real monk is the only one who has no desire to obtain things but they walk around carefree.
Originally posted by oromew:lol older = dying soon. u dying soon still wan that thing for what LOL! might as well pass it to next generation and let them be happy. this will create a happy memory when u die. Isnt that good :)
and to ts, wan to find the nice people u looking for, can go temple see monks. some monks arent even real monks to begin with. the real monk is the only one who has no desire to obtain things but they walk around carefree.
I saw a real monk barefooted in the bus.He is not even angry at my disrespect to him.He is very merciful.Amituofo.
I need to stress here that selfishness and sinning are two different things.Selfishness is wrong but sinning is allowed.
Originally posted by Saved:I saw a real monk barefooted in the bus.He is not even angry at my disrespect to him.He is very merciful.Amituofo.
he just lost his slipper when get chase by our dogs
It is what the enviroment did. Maybe he is a kind soul when he was young but after being sabortage by ppl, he learnt the hard way.
A good example is me. Lent other ship 10 life jacket, when i wanted it back, they deny i lent them. Now i need to fork out 2K + for the good deed -.-
yeah. i believe when people grow up, they will know more things. most people not are that kind anyway. They are like hypocrite...
Originally posted by HotelIntergo:It is what the enviroment did. Maybe he is a kind soul when he was young but after being sabortage by ppl, he learnt the hard way.
A good example is me. Lent other ship 10 life jacket, when i wanted it back, they deny i lent them. Now i need to fork out 2K + for the good deed -.-
let met put it this way. people lack of knowlegde that is why they are getting more selfish. you have to save yourself first before saving others. don't blame yourself and don't blame others. move on. people are not perfect and start learning as we grow old.
Originally posted by playmemory:let met put it this way. people lack of knowlegde that is why they are getting more selfish. you have to save yourself first before saving others. don't blame yourself and don't blame others. move on. people are not perfect and start learning as we grow old.
let me put it the other way, people actually got so much knowledge that end up they do not know what is what, and most oldies do mind their words because we look at old peoples as our mentor, so they cannot anyhow said something that is out of date or not true, on the other hand, some oldies do know it inside their heart, but do not know how to express it out, and even if they do express it out, they may express it wrongly and thereby sent a wrong signal to the young, so end up, they are more conservatives about what they said and take responsible on what they said more than young people like me who just blar blar like no tomorrow. But in the eyes of those youngs who do not understand oldies, they label them as selfish, which is quite unfair.
Also, playful youngster like us, in the eyes of most oldies, are not worth talking to...
Originally posted by angel7030:let me put it the other way, people actually got so much knowledge that end up they do not know what is what, and most oldies do mind their words because we look at old peoples as our mentor, so they cannot anyhow said something that is out of date or not true, on the other hand, some oldies do know it inside their heart, but do not know how to express it out, and even if they do express it out, they may express it wrongly and thereby sent a wrong signal to the young, so end up, they are more conservatives about what they said and take responsible on what they said more than young people like me who just blar blar like no tomorrow. But in the eyes of those youngs who do not understand oldies, they label them as selfish, which is quite unfair.
Also, playful youngster like us, in the eyes of most oldies, are not worth talking to...
things had changed. new generation do no look upon mentor. what ever you just said is already the past. move on. the sad thing is the old generation cannot keep up the pace and was left out. in short. the old generation lack of knowledge to mingle with the new generation. so who is unfair?
yes we do, just that the oldies now a day do not behave themselves, many left their old wifeys at home and go find other young gals, gambling, drinking or simply holidays with their mistresses, so, this give us a bad impression on oldies, on one side they talk about wisdom and good stuff to us, on the other side, we see them going out with young gals, wear and color few hair like youngster, that really piss us off