Ex Now Attached.I Feel so sad.I am in a sad marriage.
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My marriage has been a sad one.Hubby and I dun talk much. Was kind of an arranged marriage.We cannot divorce. We stayed married on as we have 2 small kids. Lately, I met my ex and we had a walk & talk. He is getting married .I felt happy for him and at the same time, I could not help thinking of those times we had loved each other deeply.I feel so envious and at the same time, I kind of miss his love for me. We did not marry then as he was 3 years younger and was not well-off enough.My family wanted me to be with my hubby then.
It is so sad to be in a loveless marriage. I wish I can die.
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no one points the gun at you...but u signed it afterall and got yourself married....why not use the women charter to release yourself from the pangs and pushed it all to the men to shoulder that wrong for u?
get women charter to help you....whats the worry and whats the fuss?
happy?
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let the men die for u with the protection from women charter..and u could forever fall into the arms of your ex....
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no one points gun at you. no one should. i cannot imagine why you can;t walk away from arranged marriage. if you don;t fight for your happiness, then youhave to accept fate and forever drown in the pool of sorrow. self empathy no one can help you no one can feel sad for you. you have control over it yet you let it be and now come here cry father cry mother
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you are hong zhizhong ah?
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
no one points gun at you. no one should. i cannot imagine why you can;t walk away from arranged marriage. if you don;t fight for your happiness, then youhave to accept fate and forever drown in the pool of sorrow. self empathy no one can help you no one can feel sad for you. you have control over it yet you let it be and now come here cry father cry mother
I feel you should not answer questions from Aunt Agony column. Not only are you shallow and unsympathetic, you make remarks that hurt.Why be like this?
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If you're gonna just whine and not do anything to improve your situation then you better expect criticism.
And they are right, no one forced you to get married to someone you didn't love. You may say that you were coerced or "forced" etc etc, but the truth is, you didn't have the guts to stand up for yourself.
I pity your kids for having such a self absorbed mom. Please don't make them as miserable as you are now.
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
If you're gonna just whine and not do anything to improve your situation then you better expect criticism.
And they are right, no one forced you to get married to someone you didn't love. You may say that you were coerced or "forced" etc etc, but the truth is, you didn't have the guts to stand up for yourself.
What I need is a good comfort, not lecture. There are many marriages that started off wrongly and it becomes tough to rectify due to the existence of kids.There is nothing I can do to undo the past.With kids, you cannot just say go.Guess you will not understand.
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Originally posted by Simply Annie:
My marriage has been a sad one.Hubby and I dun talk much. Was kind of an arranged marriage.We cannot divorce. We stayed married on as we have 2 small kids. Lately, I met my ex and we had a walk & talk. He is getting married .I felt happy for him and at the same time, I could not help thinking of those times we had loved each other deeply.I feel so envious and at the same time, I kind of miss his love for me. We did not marry then as he was 3 years younger and was not well-off enough.My family wanted me to be with my hubby then.
It is so sad to be in a loveless marriage. I wish I can die.
why people bother coming here yo this forum and start all these bullshit threads ?
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are you looking for sympathy or advice? sounds like the former to me.
also think you've framed an answer in your mind and want someone here to point it out to you?
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
If you're gonna just whine and not do anything to improve your situation then you better expect criticism.
And they are right, no one forced you to get married to someone you didn't love. You may say that you were coerced or "forced" etc etc, but the truth is, you didn't have the guts to stand up for yourself.
I pity your kids for having such a self absorbed mom. Please don't make them as miserable as you are now.
I am trying. Nobody leads a perfect life. Nobody is perfect.My kids are doing well as I am going through the trials of life for them .It's just the times of feeling down. I am sure we all have times of emptiness.
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Originally posted by Simply Annie:
What I need is a good comfort, not lecture. There are many marriages that started off wrongly and it becomes tough to rectify due to the existence of kids.There is nothing I can do to undo the past.With kids, you cannot just say go.Guess you will not understand.
In that case, you can call this counselling hotline --> 1800-3535-800.
The past may be difficult to undo, but that doesn't mean that there is no chance of a better future.
Find a solution to your problems and you won't need to emo anymore.
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and give those Hotline people more to gossip ?
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Originally posted by Asromanista2001:
and give those Hotline people more to gossip ?
gossip for wat? They nth better to do ah?
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
In that case, you can call this counselling hotline --> 1800-3535-800.
The past may be difficult to undo, but that doesn't mean that there is no chance of a better future.
Find a solution to your problems and you won't need to emo anymore.
Thanks for being nice. I appreciate that.
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Originally posted by Simply Annie:
Thanks for being nice. I appreciate that.
No problem.
You'll be doing yourself and your kids a favor by getting out of this "pit of despair". As long as you're willing to try, I believe that you'll make a difference someday, somehow.
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No need be sad lah, have many good friends can help. Then u won't be feeling so alone.I know many more jialat marriages.Some the husbands bash the wives somemore and kids damn damn gone case. You are a good woman to endure as your kids are doing well.I salute u! Can cry cry here when you need.Here got some good people like Little Miss.Just ignore those shallow ones.Don't be sad ,ok?
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happiness is not there to take. u need to work to get it
stop your stupid rubbish n grow up
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Originally posted by Essential2468:
No need be sad lah, have many good friends can help. Then u won't be feeling so alone.I know many more jialat marriages.Some the husbands bash the wives somemore and kids damn damn gone case. You are a good woman to endure as your kids are doing well.I salute u! Can cry cry here when you need.Here got some good people like Little Miss.Just ignore those shallow ones.Don't be sad ,ok?
Wah very paiseh lei, lol I not nice hor.
*ashamed*
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Originally posted by FBFIce:
happiness is not there to take. u need to work to get it
stop your stupid rubbish n grow up
You should be the one to stop your rubbish remarks and start talking like an adult. Go to your kids' section or talk rubbish in the side shout box.No -life guy!Grow up!
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Originally posted by FBFIce:
happiness is not there to take. u need to work to get it
stop your stupid rubbish n grow up
Please be nice lah.Why talk until like that here? Make love, not war, hur hur hur.
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U r not alone as many marriages that even started well, can end in divorce. Is best if you hv close pple to talk to and don't bottle things up. At least your children next time will repay you for being such a great mama,something to smile about.
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Wah very paiseh lei, lol I not nice hor.
*ashamed*
Wah, just nice my good friend also in distress,thank you for the hotline number also , me going to pass her liao.
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Originally posted by Janesg72:
You should be the one to stop your rubbish remarks and start talking like an adult. Go to your kids' section or talk rubbish in the side shout box.No -life guy!Grow up!
i am older than your father u damn ass
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Originally posted by FBFIce:
i am older than your father u damn ass
Then the more , shame on you! My dad speaks far better English than you! More well-mannered,even! You sure you are that old? My goodness! Please don't shame the people of the older generation!