Relationships.
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Dont hesitate and dont feel guilty........if you dont feel an emotional connection with that person......it is ok to separate........obviously emotional connection is very important.
Dont feel guilty about it......its still early and you guys are just dating......breakup is normal....and its good to breakup now early, rather than getting married later and then have unhappy life forever, right ?
Just say you prefer to be friends.....good friends...
Money, dont return.
It is more awkward and cruel if you return any money and gifts.
But maybe for you yourself, you can try to put aside some of his things so you dont see them, so that you can move on easier.
Well, dont worry, this is a good learning experience. Now you can understand yourself better and can understand what you seek in a relationship.
Ok good luck.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
thot she can diy?
u mean she got both organs? -
i thot here got lots of sxx shops, hello, your country is so open now a day, we dun need man anymore ya...some batteries operated, some use solar energy
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Originally posted by Julian.khor:
She is around, still going on strong. Planning somewhere to go tis valentines. Why u so interested to know? Jeolous ah?
My advice to u lah, if u wanna seduce some single guys, go n put a more attractive picture like TTFU lah.
Yuck, I attracted? Big joke, I thot u pitiful guy want some homo relationship, so I felt pity for u ma.
#1. u keep avoiding the part where i asked for screenshots. cannot produce it? means u are just talking shit lo. so u ought to stop talking through the asshole u call ur mouth.
#2. u lasted longer than i tot. i tot u'll gain experience and level up then go hunt for more to give u experience points.
#3. dunno who more pitiful, when compared to someone who believes in somethin that came out of his sai kang, has a lousy character, and feels damn good abt himself (in case u too stupid to guess who, its u.)
#4. so far u are the only one who cares about my avatar so much. u cfm interested in her liao. uh oh! ur �味 very �.
#5. 活该没人�/still single.
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order coffee and roti first...
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.....seems like you're very clear in what you want and brave enough to leave. That's true, relatonship can't survive without the emotional part. It's mentally torturous when your partner can't undestand what is coming from the inside of you.
If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be. Love is just ain't enough.....
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
#1. u keep avoiding the part where i asked for screenshots. cannot produce it? means u are just talking shit lo. so u ought to stop talking through the asshole u call ur mouth.
#2. u lasted longer than i tot. i tot u'll gain experience and level up then go hunt for more to give u experience points.
#3. dunno who more pitiful, when compared to someone who believes in somethin that came out of his sai kang, has a lousy character, and feels damn good abt himself (in case u too stupid to guess who, its u.)
#4. so far u are the only one who cares about my avatar so much. u cfm interested in her liao. uh oh! ur �味 very �.
#5. 活该没人�/still single.
We should be kind to animals.
When the rabid dog is done barking, he'll look for some other avatar/forumer to hump.
And if the moderator is feeling especially nice, he/she may just serve it some ban mian to put it out of it's misery.
Let's not quarrel with the pig brain, it doesn't understand a word anyway.
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
We should be kind to animals.
When the rabid dog is done barking, he'll look for some other avatar/forumer to hump.
And if the moderator is feeling especially nice, he/she may just serve it some ban mian to put it out of it's misery.
Let's not quarrel with the pig brain, it doesn't understand a word anyway.
hokay
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hijack thread oso nt good la hahaha.
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haiz, so fast show finish already..
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
#1. u keep avoiding the part where i asked for screenshots. cannot produce it? means u are just talking shit lo. so u ought to stop talking through the asshole u call ur mouth.
#2. u lasted longer than i tot. i tot u'll gain experience and level up then go hunt for more to give u experience points.
#3. dunno who more pitiful, when compared to someone who believes in somethin that came out of his sai kang, has a lousy character, and feels damn good abt himself (in case u too stupid to guess who, its u.)
#4. so far u are the only one who cares about my avatar so much. u cfm interested in her liao. uh oh! ur �味 very �.
#5. 活该没人�/still single.
I dunno wat u talking about? Screenshot wat? Look at ur avatar, u look like backside wif asshole wif eyes. Dun talk thru ur ass lah.I take thing slowly, I gather my option. Wat is the rush? Not like u, go n seduce other guy in the forums, so homo wan. Dun talk ass wif me lah, I don't play wif CCB ass wif u.
U chocochip hav serious self esteem problem. U like to accuse people of being chauvinistic but me just being myself n I so far got as far for valentine dinner. Me happy, so why? U jeolous meh?
I dun care a shit for ur avatar, all I care is to protect the safety of other young guys here to prevent u from seducing them for ur homo tendency. I pity ur gf, u always play 3 leg outside wif other guy. Afterward u spread genetic wards n STD to ur gf, u r a beast.
Stop talking about my ass. I know u like male ass. U give me the creep.
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
We should be kind to animals.
When the rabid dog is done barking, he'll look for some other avatar/forumer to hump.
And if the moderator is feeling especially nice, he/she may just serve it some ban mian to put it out of it's misery.
Let's not quarrel with the pig brain, it doesn't understand a word anyway.
Oh? Who u talking about? Why u refer urself as a dog wif pig brain. I know u lonely grandma wif false teeth, very jeolous of single guy like me - so wanted in public. Dun go and put urself down n call urself a rabid dog barking to be put asleep. I know u in high school used to wear heavy metal braces and get rejected a lot by guys like me. Go to IMH lah, mebbe u can find a lot of dates wif ur own kind - Bonker kind.
I contribute a lot of help to the forum ok. I help a lot of people here.
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taking notes
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Originally posted by angel7030:
taking notes
Yes take note. Make sure u ban looney Gum, bonker n Chocochip from ur bar. Afterward they chase away yer customers. -
Originally posted by Julian.khor:
I dunno wat u talking about? Screenshot wat? Look at ur avatar, u look like backside wif asshole wif eyes. Dun talk thru ur ass lah.I take thing slowly, I gather my option. Wat is the rush? Not like u, go n seduce other guy in the forums, so homo wan. Dun talk ass wif me lah, I don't play wif CCB ass wif u.
U chocochip hav serious self esteem problem. U like to accuse people of being chauvinistic but me just being myself n I so far got as far for valentine dinner. Me happy, so why? U jeolous meh?
I dun care a shit for ur avatar, all I care is to protect the safety of other young guys here to prevent u from seducing them for ur homo tendency. I pity ur gf, u always play 3 leg outside wif other guy. Afterward u spread genetic wards n STD to ur gf, u r a beast.
Stop talking about my ass. I know u like male ass. U give me the creep.
u say i pm pple/u stuffs la, seduce u/pple la etc. wheres ur proof? so old liao still dunno mus produce evidence ah? or u think juz cuz u are julian"没人�" khor u can say wadever u want?
but never mind liao la. i dun wan to care about u liao. u only noe how to say the same stuffs over and over again. cannot blame u oso la. afterall those are ur interests and u cannot talk about other stuffs. dunno whos the one 满脑å�都是男人啊，å�Œæ€§æ�‹å•Šï¼Œå±�è‚¡çš„.
u can keep saying me if u wan. end up éš¾å ªçš„æ˜¯ä½ . i hope whoever tt poor lady is sees wad u post sia. then hohoho, 好人å�¡+1! doubt u dare to show her anyway.
everyone already knows u were attracted to my avatar. obviously the person in my avatar is not good looking, so who would be attracted? u tell me lo. end up u r the one whos attracted. mebbe deep down u is like that kind one. or hell, mebbe u look like my avatar ah!
again, please produce proof that i play 3 leg or whatever. just becuz u do it, doesnt mean i am the same. no proof, then u shld diam diam n not shame urself liao. the same goes with lmb. u dunno her at all so pls dun talk shit.
lastly, u contribute to the forum? hahaha.
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Originally posted by PurpleGiraffe:
I'm not sure whether I should even be serious with this forum. I shall just try my luck here and see what I can get.
I've broke up with my ex of 5 years. It's been 10 months. And feelings of guilt never really left me. Sometimes when I come across stuffs that he gave me, memories of us will start to come by and I'll start to tear.. Sometimes I really wonder the reason behind why I'm tearing. Was it because I'm starting to miss this person or was I feeling guilty? That after all these years of him treating me so well, I just have to leave him.
He was actually a very nice person to me. He paid attention to my needs. He took really good care of me. He bought presents for me, things that I couldn't really afford since I was then a student. He wasn't some rich kid either. His pay was meager, probably sufficient for his living expenses. Savings were just barely much. But he just wanted the best for me, he would get me gifts cause he knew that the gift would make me happy, no matter how much it costs. These only showed he's not a person who just showers you with presents, but also with whatever he can afford, he'll give the best to you. That's how nice he is. He treats his parents and friends well too. He's a filial son. His nature of work requires him to work long hours with little pay. Whichever job he chooses, he just wished that he could fork out the time to spend time with me after work.
But I still felt something's lacking between us.. Something called chemistry and the kind of emotional communication and engagement through verbal words. What's lacking between us is like we tend to attend to our physical needs but our emotional side of it seemed to have been neglected. Some of my emotional problems where how much I wished I could pour it to him, somehow weren't really well-received. I've tried to pour the kind of what I term as my emotional communication to him, but the responses I get from him could only be this much. I just wanted him to understand me more, understand how I'm feeling inside more. Why did it seem to be so hard? Maybe people might say that some people are just not good at words. I totally agree with it. But I really think communication between a couple is really important to sustain the relationship for the rest of our journey. This is something that was really lacking in that relationship and I really felt very terrible carrying on, with thoughts that I really wouldn't want to be someone who doesn't really understand me in my heart. My emotional needs. I did try telling him the kind of emotional needs that I wanted.. But 5 years.. I just still didn't seem to get it from the relationship that I decided to end it. I really want to start my pursuit of my so called happyness.
Can someone tell me if I was wrong? I mean there's no turning back. I just want to clear what I'm really feeling inside.
Some of the money that I used to owe him, should I return it back to him? Or should I just let go and forget about it? Money to him is pointless already..? I don't know.
It seemed that you have come a long way before you call it quit. To execute such a decision wouldn't be easy for anyone in your shoes and it must have been a struggle internally. You said he attended to your needs - but somehow I sense slight discrepancy in your post: perhaps in reality, what he has fulfilled are merely 'less qualitative' needs that may be important, but not essentially critical. It seemed to me that you have a deeper need that remained unsettled and he doesn't appear to understand how to go about addressing it.
Since you have already moved along, here are some questions for you to ponder over:
i) What exactly constitute your emotional needs? Would you be able to describe what exactly are you looking for, instead of lumping everything under the category of 'emotional needs'?
ii) You pinpointed the singular cause of the failed attempt to understand your emotional needs to the lack of mutually communication. What exactly caused this lack of communication? Was the relationship like that when you first started out?
iii) What is the symbolic representation in the act of returning him money? What does the act mean to you?
Cheers
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after peeling the onion to the core....
it's all abouch money....dum dum da dum dum dum....
money gets in the way....
